Dress for the palace!

(58 Posts)
MollyRoses Sat 12-Oct-13 16:15:32

Yes! I am going to Buckingham Palace - tad excited, will be on my best behaviour BUT I need a dress so please could I have some help smile

I'm about a size 10 5'3'', don't like having arms or legs on show so would either have to wear a cardi or have long-sleeves. Also, don't like clingy or red. So aside from those demands I'm open to trying things (places which have free post returns wuld be good as I'd probably need ot buy lots and try on then return)

I'm just goign to go to the shops and try on some things but thanks for any links for when I get back

MollyRoses Sat 12-Oct-13 19:12:58

Anyone? Am I just too fussy?!

I quite like this www.topshop.com/en/tsuk/product/clothing-427/dresses-442/limited-edition-ruche-maxi-dress-2142996?bi=1&ps=200 but it's a bit over my budget - I'd prefer to spent less than 150

scaevola Sat 12-Oct-13 19:17:41

What's the event?

The dress you linked is lovely, but might be a bit too debutante?

Ruprekt Sat 12-Oct-13 19:21:33

Try Phase 8.

The white dress is wrong for the Palace I think.

Phase 8 has long sleeved dresses too.

And you might need head gear and fab shoes too. smilesmilesmile

OhOneOhTwoOhThree Sat 12-Oct-13 19:22:50

Will you need a hat/gloves as well?

MollyRoses Sat 12-Oct-13 19:31:59

The event is for an awards ceremony type thing - I don't think I'd need hats and gloves and I think I'm a bit young for wearing them (I'm early 20s).

Shoes on the other hand - can't wait until I have a dress beacuse I acutally like trying on shoes but hate dress shopping

MollyRoses Sat 12-Oct-13 20:45:36

How about this? www.topshop.com/en/tsuk/product/clothing-427/dresses-442/open-back-jumpsuit-by-love-2326257?bi=201&ps=200 Would it work if accessorised up? Any tips on accessories?

sugarandspite Sat 12-Oct-13 20:55:30

I think I would tend towards something a little more formal - the men will be in suits and a lot of the women in matching dress and coat.

Something like a shift dress with a matching jacket would look nice (not black, have a look in next) or Karen Millen is often good for smart ish dresses.

Think I'd try to avoid a cardigan as they tend to look less smart and go for a nice jacket / blazer instead.

sugarandspite Sat 12-Oct-13 21:07:19

Oh and the pretty dress company is good for pretty smart dresses too (as long as you avoid the TOWIE style ones!)

MollyRoses Sat 12-Oct-13 21:45:32

Thanks I'll have a look at them

I would never wear a shift dress (legs on show are a no no for me). That's the problem when I went shopping today, lots of shift dresses - not much else

LifeIsBetterInFlipFlops Sat 12-Oct-13 21:49:16

I think you should wear a hat regardless of age.

MortifiedAdams Sat 12-Oct-13 21:53:17
MortifiedAdams Sat 12-Oct-13 21:53:40

oh sorry, that was a shift.

blondieminx Sat 12-Oct-13 21:54:18

If Reiss is the high street store favoured by Duchess Kate, would that be worth a look?

MortifiedAdams Sat 12-Oct-13 21:56:22
MortifiedAdams Sat 12-Oct-13 21:56:56
sugarandspite Sat 12-Oct-13 21:57:21

Smart trouser suit? Something light coloured so it doesn't look too worky, pretty bright top underneath and matching shoes?

If its an evening awards dinner, I personally probably wouldn't wear a hat but might go for some kind of nice hair thingy like a big rose slide so it looks a bit 'done'

MollyRoses Sat 12-Oct-13 22:06:28
MortifiedAdams Sat 12-Oct-13 22:12:09

1 or 5

LifeIsBetterInFlipFlops Sat 12-Oct-13 22:26:43

Looking at the dresses, I'm assuming it's an evening do - so I clearly need to retract my previous comment regarding a hat!

kiwik Sat 12-Oct-13 22:34:22

Is it evening? I wouldn't wear long during the day at all. If day a hat will be required. Have you not been sent a dress code with your invitation?

GirlWithTheDirtyShirt Sat 12-Oct-13 22:40:00

I'd also say no to a cardi if its day or night. Jacket I think. Or coat, depending on season.

MollyRoses Sat 12-Oct-13 22:44:58

It's not evening - it is in the day! I just don't know what to wear that would cover me up. I really hate showing my legs/arms. Am happy to wear a blazer with coat on top which I'd take off I guess when I got in there.

Ok, can't work out the dress code -it's this event www.royal.gov.uk/LatestNewsandDiary/Mediaguidelines/Investitures.aspx

29chapel Sat 12-Oct-13 22:53:22

Does the invite state 'day dress'?(i've done a couple of events there with this as the dress code) I don't particularly like dresses either so wore nice navy tuxedo trousers with a navy silk blouse on one occasion and a black skinny trousered suit on the other, with stilettos. Hat's won't be worn btw.
HTH

BoffinMum Sat 12-Oct-13 23:02:09

IME best off in a little suit from somewhere like Phase 8 or a little boutique, plus hat from specialist shop.

kiwik Sat 12-Oct-13 23:03:41

If it's an investiture I wouldn't wear a maxi dress. Trousers would be acceptable though.
When I attended one I wore a hat, as did the other ladies in our party, but other groups didn't. It is a very formal occasion though, so definitely err on the smart side.

OldRoan Sat 12-Oct-13 23:19:00

Would you wear thick tights/leggings with a long-ish skirt?

Are you receiving the award, or accompanying someone? <nosy>

CatelynStark Sat 12-Oct-13 23:27:16

I'm going too in a few weeks!

The info we got through the post is that women should definitely wear a hat or fascinator.

I'm wearing a shift dress with a tailored jacket and a big fuck off hat grin

sugarandspite Sun 13-Oct-13 09:06:34

Molly, forgive me for going off topic slightly but if the no legs on show is due to how you feel rather than a religious or cultural requirement, please do have a think again about this.

You're only 20 and a lovely size 10 - limiting yourself to having your legs and arms covered is such a sad choice. It so limits your choice of clothes and could be terribly bad for your self-esteem.

I'm sorry if I'm out of line, but it makes me so sad seeing young lovely women being unkind to themselves and not enjoying their youth and beauty.

BoffinMum Sun 13-Oct-13 09:16:47

We are talking here about things like matching shoes and bag, investment purchase in excellent quality tights with built in pants, plus a couple of spare pairs, nude, black or navy plainish mid heels, and generally a very subtle but polished standard of grooming. Double check hems and buttons before putting on, and restitch if necessary. Hems of silk dresses and skirts ought to have curtain weighting sewn into them so they don't blow up unexpectedly. Carry tights, sewing kit, packets of wet wipes, comb, tampons and paracetemol in handbag. If you don't need them, other panicking women in the cloakroom probably will.

meditrina Sun 13-Oct-13 09:21:11

Investitures are rather weddingy. 90%+ of female invitees will have hat/substantial fascinator and the rest will probably have clips or other random bits or an elaborate up-do.

Most will be in a "good suit" - or at least an outfit with a jacket.

National dress is fine.

BoffinMum Sun 13-Oct-13 09:24:08

Oh yes, about crumpling. Wool crepe is best for avoiding rumples, whereas cotton is worst. If you do go for a lightweight fabric, if it's patterned it will show the creases less than plain will. Rumple it with your hands in the shop to see how it creases.

Lined skirts and trousers hang much better than unlined. If you buy an unlined skirt, consider wearing a silk petticoat, and if you have a light top, a silk camisole can be a good investment as well.

Waswondering Sun 13-Oct-13 09:31:08

Is it an investiture? Dress aside, there are official photographers when you come out. If you have anyone waiting on the other side of the gates, ask if they would be allowed to join you for the photos, which are outside but you can't see them from the main palace gate. We didn't know till after that you could do this, so my dh is missing from our official photo of mum's investiture. Perhaps have them take their passport for ID ...

Have a wonderful day. A trip to the palace is so exciting.

MollyRoses Sun 13-Oct-13 12:10:49

Thanks for all the advice so far.

It is an investiture and I've googled pictures/dress code and it to be honest it looks like nothing I'd ever wear! It's not me getting it - I'm just going along.

29chapel your outfits sound lovely where did you get your black skinny trouser suit from?

OldRoan yes I'm ok to wear those 140 denier tights with a dress but it would have to be a last resort, I would do it because I had to rather than I wanted to iyswim.

CatelynStark I'm probably going to the same one as you! Your hat sounds good - how big is big?! Doesn't have a stuffed bird perched on it or anything does it?

sugarandspite I completely appreciate I have a problem, I don't want to show anything for personal not religous/cultural reasons. I've put on 10kg recently and am REALLY not happy about myself. The whole not liking myself is bigger than an outfit for this event but I just need to get through this then I can go back to my nice big winter jumpers smile

BoffinMum Thanks for the advice - I'd literally never think of taking anything with me apart from my phone and tissues. One of my hotel sewing kits will now finally have some use!

Waswondering Thanks, I don't think we'll have anyone waiting to take photos as my close family is all going. What did you wear when you went to your mum's investiture?

And for anyone that's been, what was the day like?!

MollyRoses Sun 13-Oct-13 12:13:43

Ok, I can't find the exact thing on the website but how about this
www.topshop.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/ProductDisplay?searchTerm=wrap&storeId=12556&productId=10928671&urlRequestType=Base&categoryId=&langId=-1&productIdentifier=product&catalogId=33057 in a dusky pink with smart trousers (the pink version is actually a jump suit but it's super short so could pass as a top)

kaumana Sun 13-Oct-13 12:25:28

I've attended an investiture there. There are formal photos taken after the event in the courtyard.

Most women wore shift dresses and matching coats etc. Some wore hats though I didn't.

There is a lot of sitting and clapping for an extended amout of time. I loved that the band played High
Society while we were waiting for the service to start.

As we came down to London for the event we did not have a car so our taxi dropped us off at the gates. Walking in high heels over the gravel was challenging to say the least esp when tourists were busy taking pics of us! Others had cars which they had registered prior yo attending

29chapel Sun 13-Oct-13 12:30:06

Hi mollyroses. My navy tuxedo trousers were by Paul and Joe (found in TK's clearance :-) the trouser suit was by The Kooples. You could dress up a tailored suit with a statement necklace and or fascinator?

Whilst I appreciate it's necessary to be super smart, I also wanted to look like myself and not frumpy, I love fashion.... The shoes were Zara black suede- very comfortable for lots of standing and photos.

Good luck! ps I like Covetique- its a great online 2nd hand designer shop, worth a look.

OldRoan Sun 13-Oct-13 12:44:05

What about trousers like these Hobbs ones? With a smart blouse/top and a nice jacket?

This pill box hat is lovely, and quite autumnal.

MollyRoses Sun 13-Oct-13 12:54:14

Wow I like those trousers! They are a bit more out there than I'd normally wear but definitely on my to try list.

Thanks 29chapel - I've just had a look at Covetique and there looks like some good stuff (I didn't realise how much Juicy courture velour tracksuits cost too!)

CatelynStark Sun 13-Oct-13 15:21:39

Molly, it's one -I have to wear my hair in a bun at the nape of my neck so that I can keep it on grin

December 6th??

CatelynStark Sun 13-Oct-13 15:22:18

*this one

Fecking iPad!!

hermioneweasley Sun 13-Oct-13 16:23:05

You won't look out of place in a suit (whether trouser, skirt or dress) or a smart dress.

Try Coast, Hobbs, Jaeger, LK Bennett, Reiss and ASOS

As a size 10 you do not need to hide your legs, but anything much above the knee or any cleavage woukd be a no-no for me.

Waswondering Sun 13-Oct-13 16:33:39

It was the best day, op.

Mum was taken away when we arrived and we got to drift into the ballroom, pinching ourselves that we were there. Hers was in
July and dad had a lunch for 30 afterwards so I wore a Laura Ashley prom dress in black and white, with a fitted black bolero over. I was complimented on it by a member of palace staff, and she asked me where I got it as she thought it would be perfect for her brothers wedding.

My sil wore a monsoon dress. My mum (MBE wink) wore a head to toe Jacques Vert outfit, which was very her.

Lots of shift dresses. Arms were generally covered. Nice hats, or if not, very "finished" hair.yes to the others who likened it to a wedding.

I think a nicely tailored trouser suit with heels could be your friend.

I didn't wear anything in my hair, due to a self inflicted tantrum of getting my zip up alone before the taxi came. I had helped mum dress then everyone went off to mill around and dh was taking photos, so there was just me, and the hair thing was abandoned. grin Sil wore a beautiful fascinatior.

The investiture was beautiful. It lasted around an hour, and a jolly band played throughout. Rod Stewart, members of the English cricket team, and James Dyson, of Hoover fame, were all honoured too, so celebrity spotting was fun! We had a lunch party afterwards. Alongside my own wedding, it's the best day I've had.

They offer you a DVD afterwards which is worth buying, as somehow they get it so that your person is highly featured. That was lovely.

Hope yours is wonderful too. Enjoy.

Waswondering Sun 13-Oct-13 17:54:51

(Not this July, a couple of years back now!)

CatelynStark Sun 13-Oct-13 18:00:42

Waswondering - that sounds fantastic! I'm really excited now. We're having a lunch do too which will be very welcome after dieting for two months to get into my dress!

Congratulations to your mum smile

Waswondering Sun 13-Oct-13 20:02:02

Enjoy your day. May I ask what the investiture is for? My mum. Got it for services to charity and nursing. Some of the military honours were very humbling.

Forgot to say, mum was mobbed by tourists afterwards who wanted photos with her and her medal!

If you are looking for a Christmas gift, you can get an MBE stud thing, like a tiny pin broach, if they wanted that on a lapel. It's very discrete.

Have fun!

Waswondering Sun 13-Oct-13 20:05:01

Just beware the hand cream in the ladies (very naice) ....the pump action thing was enthusiastic resulting in a very narrow miss of hand cream on outfit.

Obviously the ladies was our first port of call!wink

MollyRoses Sun 13-Oct-13 20:32:41

Thanks for all the tips and thanks Waswondering for what happened when you went - it sounds absolutely lovely! Congrats to your mum smile

It's for a knighthood and i'll see if I can get something for them for christmas. (He got given two plastic swords when it was announced so we've had the tacky stuff)

Will be sure to test out the hand cream too! Posh toilets are always fascinating

Waswondering Sun 13-Oct-13 20:35:25

Oh wow, Molly, that's awesome. Have a brilliant day! Congratulations. Enjoy.

CatelynStark Sun 13-Oct-13 20:47:55

A knighthood? Wow! That's fab!

My mum's getting an OBE for services to education in developing countries (totally outs self!)

Thanks for the tip re the hand cream - that's totally the kind of thing I do on a regular basis <sigh>

MollyRoses Sun 13-Oct-13 21:08:29

I've just looked up your mum - her work is amazing and so needed, I always so insignificant when I hear abotu the work of people getting honours!

CatelynStark Sun 13-Oct-13 21:59:53

Thank you smile

I know - me too! blush

Waswondering Sun 13-Oct-13 22:01:48

Hope you both have a fabulous celebration, and congratulations too on the OBE.

thanks

thenightsky Sun 13-Oct-13 22:02:53

OP... I had to do The Palace when 8 months pg!

I found hiring stuff gave me the best value for money. It cost me about £80 for a dress, hat and gloves.

BoffinMum Mon 14-Oct-13 10:04:43

One of the perks is being able to use the British Empire Chapel in St Paul's Cathedral for christenings, weddings and so on. We had a child of ours christened there (outs self a bit as well) and it was amazing!

I think you get a big bling medal and a little modest pin on one in the same box, if I remember correctly.

MollyRoses Mon 14-Oct-13 20:22:51

thenightsky What did you end up wearing/hiring?

BoffinMum you don't if you get a knighthood! Only an OBE or MBE can't remember which one or if it's both

BoffinMum Mon 14-Oct-13 21:04:38

That's a bit crap! Do they let you use upstairs instead, i.e. the main cathedral!

thenightsky Mon 14-Oct-13 23:07:17

Molly I had a blue and white silk drop waisted dress with a big bow on one hip (very trendy at the time - 1991). White court shoes, white hat with ribbon trim and white gloves. I recall I ended up not wearing the gloves as it was a blisteringly hot day.

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