Please please come here and remind me all the sensible reasons why I don't want to colour my hair blonde

(55 Posts)
HoneyDragon Mon 09-Sep-13 20:55:20

I've got the urge. It always ends up looking shit doesn't it? The urge is still,here though.

I need intervention to save me from myself.

cardamomginger Mon 09-Sep-13 21:15:15

Regrowth. Regrowth. Regrowth.

Danger of brassy yellow undertones.

Danger of wishy washy ashy undertones.

Knackers the condition.

Clothes/make-up that look good on you now might not look good on the blonde you.

That do for starters? grin

ellesabe Mon 09-Sep-13 21:17:01


cardamomginger Mon 09-Sep-13 21:17:02

And you'd be the same colour as your puppy (who is GORGEOUS!!!!). And that would just be daft.

JohnSnowsTie Mon 09-Sep-13 21:17:58

High maintenance.

DownyEmerald Mon 09-Sep-13 21:22:26

Planning your life around which weekend you need to do your roots.

Or was that just me?

banterbus Mon 09-Sep-13 21:25:55

Don't do it! I did it and the colour looked awful. It's been an expensive mistake!

Yonihadtoask Mon 09-Sep-13 21:27:21


Oh, and it'd make you look just like all the other mums/ grin

Au naturel is good.

HometownUnicorn Mon 09-Sep-13 21:29:55

don't do it
I went in for some "subtle highlights" a couple of months ago
I ended up with a full head of yellow hair
It's awful
Teh regrowth makes me look like a badger

I am saving up for some sort of corrective colour (at a different salon)

HoneyDragon Mon 09-Sep-13 21:36:00

This is good grin

See I'd forgotten about having to sort out the brassiness.

And I don't want to look like the dog.

I need to do something though, the world and his wife has dip dyed hair now, I'm bored of looking like a teenager of it now sad

cardamomginger Mon 09-Sep-13 22:25:30


How long until the dip-dye bits grow out? I take it a shorter haircut is not what you had in mind?

MacaYoniandCheese Mon 09-Sep-13 22:33:27

Expensive and can trigger irrational feelings of panic when the roots start to come in. I had blond highlights (in a salon) from the time I was 16 until I was 30. I once added up the sum that I'd spent on my hair over the years and it almost made me vomit. I let it grow out a few years ago (with the help of a temporary, very short haircut) and now I'm back to au naturel and I actually quite like it. It does all sorts of cool things in the sun and I eventually want to go grey naturally so I'm sticking with it. Plus, it coordinates with the DCs wink.

HoneyDragon Mon 09-Sep-13 22:46:07

Oh dear lord.

You SEE what happens when I get bored. I have been looking at Autum/Winter haircuts and decided that aysemetric fringes are cool.

And I had scissors...

Oh fuck.

RaisingArizona Mon 09-Sep-13 23:06:39

That sounds like it might not have ended all that well.
Going blonde would dry your hair out.

Rules Mon 09-Sep-13 23:09:08

I love being blond, it's an attitude more than just a colour!smile

Ruprekt Mon 09-Sep-13 23:09:35

Well the blonde might distract from whatever you have done to the fringe!


Do not do it.

What Have you done to your fringe?

Rules Mon 09-Sep-13 23:11:20

I love being blond, it's an attitude more than just a colour!smile

grin I knew this was you, Honeydragon!

I went to my hairdresser's and tried to tell her that DS4(3) had cut my fringe - she just looked at me and said 'Children sometimes cut their own hair or somebody else's hair, but not without them NOTICING' blush.
I'd had the urge to do something about my too-long fringe the night before. With nailscissors...

So, now I cannot look at any of our holiday shots with me in them.

elQuintoConyo Mon 09-Sep-13 23:13:17

You'd have to completely overhaul you make up!

<gagging for details about the fringe>

HoneyDragon Mon 09-Sep-13 23:15:10

Cut it short and asymmetric it didn't look as if it would be hard. If I can cut my fringe straight wonky should be a breeze.

I'm sure I can buy a hat brazen it out

Sorry, got distracted by 'asymmetrical fringe' grin

Re blonde:
high maintanance
everybody will assume you are a 'ditzy blonde'
people will start making 'blonde' jokes in your presence
it'll be difficult/expensive/risky to go back to a darker colour
I just cannot see you as a blonde confused
You'll confuse HullyPup if you look like her

HoneyDragon Mon 09-Sep-13 23:16:20

Did she fix it Pacific?

cardamomginger Mon 09-Sep-13 23:18:26

What have you done Honeydragon...???

HoneyDragon Mon 09-Sep-13 23:19:15

I was a blonde for many years. I think I may getting wistful for my youth.

Ok. So when I've worked out what the fuck to do about my fringe, other than a micro fringe. I need to decide whether to ditch the dip dye. I saw an alarming amount on it on the X-Factor on small girls with camel toe leggings and it scared me.

HoneyDragon Mon 09-Sep-13 23:20:22

I fucked up my hair CardamomGinger grin

But as long as I look like I meant it I'll be fine.

scripsi Mon 09-Sep-13 23:22:46

Go on, go blonde!!!

HoneyDragon Mon 09-Sep-13 23:27:36

Nope. I'd forgotten the brassiness, and. Ducking about with ash tones to counter it and then ending up with hair that should belong to a gently fried Barbie.

Need to do something though.

Scarletohello Mon 09-Sep-13 23:27:40

I have a slightly different perspective on this. When I was younger I was brunette and really wanted to be blonde. Mainly cos my boyfriends kept leaving me for blonde girls... However many years later, because I am now v grey I have to be blonde as it makes the regrowth much less noticeable. And it was v weird at first. Felt like a betrayal of my brunette roots. But now I bloody love it!!

It is expensive, makes my hair dry and doesn't match down below but it's worth every penny and I think has healed some hurt from my teenage years. ( now men just leave me cos I'm crap ha ha)

Don't know how old you are but just rejoice in your natural beauty while you have it..!

HoneyDragon Mon 09-Sep-13 23:30:22

I'm 34, and your post is lovely, smile, so I could wait till I'm grey to go blonde again <<cheers up>>

My fringe has certainly got a new perspective hmm

Please show us a picture of the fringe!

flipchart Tue 10-Sep-13 07:41:40

Ok! There's nothing wrong with being / going blond.
For one I bloody love it.

Mines not brassy, I have high and low lights.
It doesn't always look shit ( thanks for that OP)
Not all puppies are blonde!
If you have a good balance of high and low lights re growth and roots aren't so bad
For me, when I tried to go darker it made me feel dull and looked a lot older.
Once I went back to being lighter I felt happier and looked like me again.

HoneyDragon Tue 10-Sep-13 07:47:26

Oi, I said ends up looking shit, referring to the maintenance.

It's too early in the morning to take offense when there wasn't any AIBU is that way -->

ithaka Tue 10-Sep-13 07:51:54

When I tried blonde my DH said I looked like I was going to go on a package holiday to Spain (yes, he is a dreadful snob, but I saw instantly what he meant).

You will probably need to go lighter as you age, due to the grey issue, so I would dodge the Shagaluf look while you still can.

noisytoys Tue 10-Sep-13 07:58:26

I have been natural for a few years (after shaving my hair for charity because it got into such a state I couldn't even brush it).

Natural is better because I can run my fingers through it and it is swishy and has loads of different shades and is naturally blonde(ish) smile

flipchart Tue 10-Sep-13 08:00:28

I didn't take offence OP but I'm sticking up for all us blondies!

I wouldn't be anything else by choice.

HoneyDragon Tue 10-Sep-13 08:24:29

I prefer highlights and low lights, but it's a pita to do yourself on long hair.

Eliza22 Tue 10-Sep-13 09:03:31

I'm mouse....with blonde high/low lights. Whenever I try returning to the "real me" I start to feel dingy. But, I don't colour it myself because I can't. I concentrate on shine and condition and don't have hair like straw! I am sleek and shiny and have spent my adult life "blonde".

If you're doing it yourself, keep it simple. And.... Oh yeah, that's it.....*put the scissors down!*

cardamomginger Tue 10-Sep-13 09:18:39

I'm still worried about what exactly happened with the scissors last night!

HoneyDragon Tue 10-Sep-13 10:42:21

Well I saw pictures like




And thought

Now THAT would be cool.

Then I got the scissors.

Ds likes it. And no one's actively pointed at me in the street and laughed yet

HoneyDragon Tue 10-Sep-13 16:54:47

I've had a look at trends for next year, and it appears that a nice textured look could be the way to go so am considering a spot of balayage, to counter the dip dye and make it look less odd when up.

What do we think of that?

cardamomginger Tue 10-Sep-13 22:15:58

Ah. That fringe looks like a high risk thing to try to pull off. <gulps>

Balayage. Nice! Um... please have a very careful think before deciding to do it yourself???

Textured is good IMO - balayage sounds like some Russion soup confused

I wrote a long and v considered post re your hair/fringe conundrum and then MN would not let me post shock[shakes fist in the general direction of MNTowers].

So, in summary, re fringe: brazen it out. Wear it like you ment it. With mad make-up.
Yes, my hairdresser sorted my fringe, but it was ultra-short. Which is NOT a good look when you have a round face, frizzy hair and no hairstraighters on holiday with lots of time in a pool/lake.
I have never had blond hair, only stripey highlighted hair. DH seemed to like it, I am not so sure. Henna all the way now grin until I get bored of the mess or decide to give in to the Grey. That's it - you want henna grin

DeathByTray Tue 10-Sep-13 22:22:56

I have no idea what Balayage hair is.

I couldn't have a short fringe - too many frown lines that need covering.

How is balayage different from ombre confused?
All looks v complicated...

HoneyDragon Tue 10-Sep-13 23:01:11

I've done it before. So no panic needed grin

Ombré is basically dip dying but done we so the colours blend. Which is how my hair is now.

Balayage is where you paint the colour on its more subtle than highlights making a more sun kissed affair.

HoneyDragon Tue 10-Sep-13 23:02:12

Well, you can panic a little. I could still fuck it up

HoneyDragon Tue 10-Sep-13 23:07:34

I've put the stupid fringe on my profile. I am sans make up bar left over mascara stains sorry.

That should cheer you all up grin

cardamomginger Tue 10-Sep-13 23:09:31

You know what? I really like it!!! grin.

Shaddup!! That totally looks like you ment it!

Don't go messing with it, silly

HoneyDragon Tue 10-Sep-13 23:17:39

Are you sure? I did point cut it properly but I keep getting a terrible scare when I walk past a mirror.

People might think I just cut my fringe pissed!

Butwilliseeyouagain Wed 11-Sep-13 03:25:38

I LOVE being blonde. Love it love it love it. When I have dark hair I look like a cloudy day. Tired, dull and OLD.

racmun Wed 11-Sep-13 04:14:39

I love being blonde, My natural colour is mousey and I hate it.

I tried going slightly darker and just felt like my hair looked dull all the time..

Go for highlights and low lights and you get a good mix. I have bleach and tint on mine have it cut regularly and it's in good condition.
To deal with brasiness buy a product for that - I used the redken one every other week and no problems here.

I have my roots done every 6 weeks but it's my one extravagance and makes me feel good.

cardamomginger Wed 11-Sep-13 08:23:15

Yup - looks totally like it was meant to be! Am very impressed!

But don't go blonde!! Especially not going into winter.

ErrolTheDragon Wed 11-Sep-13 08:39:38

Leave it alone, Honey. It looks fine at the moment - the fringe will soon grow enough to get it straightened out or recut asymmetrically professionally (but it really doesn't look bad at all!). Your ombre isn't too extreme - it actually looks quite like the effect my DD has acquired totally naturally. From the look of your hair all you need to get fabulous natural blonde highlights is to spend every weekend and your summer holiday doing watersports, much better than pissing around with dyes.grin

Bayalage sounds like silage or haylage made from whole bales....

HoneyDragon Wed 11-Sep-13 09:49:25

Errol grin

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