I hate hate hate bras

(43 Posts)
jimjamspam Mon 02-Sep-13 14:23:12

I am large of nork - size 10 and a 32F. I have been measured by everyone it seems - Bravissimo, Rigby & Peller - I always end up spending £££ on beautiful bras which make me look fabulous (ish) but have me wanting to tear everyone's head off by the end of the day - I ALWAYS end up with red weals under my arms where the wire digs in. The material always itches and has me scratching my boobs in the car park. I long to get home from work just so I can get my bra off. The relief is immense.

I have recently started wearing crop top type bras, can't remember what they're called but my God they feel good. Not much support (a little) but they feel lovely.

But but but, my boobs aren't as pert as they once were and i'm fully aware I look slimmer and better in a decent bra. Is there a middle way wise ones? A bra which doesn't make me foul tempered from 11am onwards? No itchy lace and horrid digging in underwires??

SorrelForbes Mon 02-Sep-13 14:46:54

What are your measurements and what bras have you been wearing recently?

given where you have been measured this shouldn't be the problem but generally those sound like fitting issues. even in a wired bra it just shouldn't be painful.

It could be that the size is right but they've never found the bra which has a good shape in terms of matching your breasts, if that makes sense.

Could you possibly have a look at the fitting guide on the bra guru blog-you'll need to Google sorry I'm on phone. Give us your measurements and also have an objective look at your boobs and try to work out what shape they are. bratabase has some good descriptions but it's things like wide root i
or narrow, close or wide set, top or bottom heavy, high or low on torso etc.

I know that sounds like loads of info but the more we know the better we can help.

NoComet Mon 02-Sep-13 14:50:13

I haven't got a bra on, I hate them too!

I'm relatively small of boob, but a bit saggy at 45, but I'm not going anywhere today and bras are hot, horrible, annoying objects.

jimjamspam Mon 02-Sep-13 14:51:29

I am 31.5 inches around the ribs and 39 inches around the breasts, I think they are bottom heavy

I always found the panache bras the most comfortable, I have those, freya, charnos. I find balconettes particularly uncomfy

TIA!!

hating balconettes and Freya makes me suspect that your boobs are quite narrow-ie don't go round under your arms too much?

The panache bras you have-which ones and where/how do they hurt? stab your armpits by any chance?

jimjamspam Mon 02-Sep-13 15:01:01

ooh exactly! my boobs don't go under my arms (didn't know any did??!) - and the panache ones I like are smooth material (ie not itchy) - I like the material but they stab me under the armpits. Are you psychic??

inneedofrain Mon 02-Sep-13 15:02:57

OK, I know your pain!

In my case it was a few combined factors.

Poor fitting bras = now remidied YIPPIE
The skin on my side got so irritated that I used to have a permentate red mark and sore spot like things. Used copious amounts of talc at every chance and that sorted that out. SO befor bed, after shower when dry, befor putting bra or changing bra
I go for deepest band bras whilst not pariticularly sexy oh they are so much better, so I look for the deepest band I can find never less than 3 eye hooks on the back.
I also found the problem much much worse if I was hot, which is a pain as I live in a hot country! but things like wearing no breathable shirts etc made it much worse.
I would look at the fit of your bras though, you may need change the fit slightly.

hth

bananananacoconuts Mon 02-Sep-13 15:03:44

I am not an expert but i am of gifted chest and like you get on well with panache. A few things i have discovered on my tit hoisting journey is that i also get on with fantasie, and i find a broad strap (over the shoulder)helps to carry the weight of boobage so creates uplift and also takes pressure off the underwired area

inneedofrain Mon 02-Sep-13 15:04:17

I see Statistcally got there first on the bra shape!

its a recurring problem with traditional panache as the wires are fiendishly long. have you ever tried and cleo by panache-judging on description I doubt you would suit the padded or moulded ones so not juna or maddie which are wider but the unpadded like marcie Melissa etc might work. they're sometimes described as balconette but they aren't in the traditional sense. cleo is a panache sub brand but the wires are shorter. also have you tried the panache jasmine or idina at all?

inneedofrain Mon 02-Sep-13 15:10:50

Have you tried the Serene Bra by Fantasie it may still go a little wide for you, but might be worth trying. Its a very simple bra but deep on the band.

goodasitgets Mon 02-Sep-13 15:14:18

Panache Elsa has lower wires
I love panache (hate Freya) and get on well with bravissimo own brand (laurel is comfy and so is cherry fling and both low wires)

sparechange Mon 02-Sep-13 15:28:19

Porcelain by Panache
THE most comfortable bra by such a huge margin
I even sleep in it sometimes, and converted many ample-boobed friends over to them

jimjamspam Tue 03-Sep-13 12:53:44

thanks for all the tips (tits??)- I am going to try again and will also try moulded cups, I have always found them off putting but will give the porcelain a go, it does look comfy

How do you wash your bras? I machine wash mine on a delicate setting but am wondering if that might be affecting the underwiring

SorrelForbes Tue 03-Sep-13 13:26:22

I machine wash mine in a net laundry bag.

Elliptic5 Tue 03-Sep-13 13:44:08

I'm a 30GG and have similar problems with wires, I would definitely give the Cleo bras a try, they have worked for me.

SorrelForbes Tue 03-Sep-13 13:47:46

Me too Elliptic5 and I love my Cleos. <waves at newly found bra twin>

inneedofrain Tue 03-Sep-13 20:33:59

I wash mine on a standard washing setting with other whites in Lakeland bra bags these great things bras come out spotless and in perfect shape

LadyBigtoes Tue 03-Sep-13 22:26:24

You need these

I live in them now. So comfortable you can't even feel it, but not too soft and floppy - they have no wires, but have a padded insert that gives the lift and shape. Super-stretchy and contain everything.

I know it says nursing bra but they come with a little kit to (very quickly and easily) convert them into a normal bra - no sewing or anything, you just snip a bit off and reclip it.

SorrelForbes Tue 03-Sep-13 22:28:53

Hmmm, I they'd be ok if you're small of bork but I can't imagine how uncomfortable my 30GGs would be grin

treaclesoda Tue 03-Sep-13 22:34:32

I'm another who can't wear most Panache bras - the stabbing under the arms is the stuff of nightmares.

Strangely though I did used to have a Panache Porcelain and it was ok. I also loved that, unlike other moulded cup bras I've tried, for some reason the design meant that it didn't look absolutely massive when I wasn't wearing it. <shallow>

LadyBigtoes Tue 03-Sep-13 22:36:16

But the XL should fit the OP, who is an F.

treaclesoda Tue 03-Sep-13 22:38:18

Sorrel my generous norked friend tried one of those soft type bras, not for daytime wear (there wasn't a hope of that!) but with the idea of wearing it in bed for comfort. To her horror, even in the largest size, it didn't stretch enough to actually cover her boobs. She could either pull it down, meaning they popped out the top, or else it crept up, and they fell out of the bottom. She was quite upset by the whole experience actually, after reading all the guff that said that the range of sizes available would fit anyone. Didn't do much for her, already poor, feelings about her boobs.

SorrelForbes Tue 03-Sep-13 22:39:25

OP is a 32F which is only two cup sizes smaller. I guess they would contain everything quite briefly but I can't imagine the support/liftnisnas good as a decent bra. Each to their own of course.

SorrelForbes Tue 03-Sep-13 22:40:57

The only panache I own is an Idina which is really comfortable. It's seems a lot narrower in shape than other panache bras, much more like a Cleo.

SorrelForbes Tue 03-Sep-13 22:42:08

In theory I'd quite like a cropped top thing to wear around the house but I just can't face running up and down the stairs without a bra grin.

LadyBigtoes Tue 03-Sep-13 22:42:15

But the OP is looking for a middle ground between a proper bra and a crop top. That's it! It may be worth a try anyway.

SorrelForbes Tue 03-Sep-13 22:42:39

Absolutely.

Fairylea Tue 03-Sep-13 22:44:32

I have major comfort problems with wires. I am a 30gg. In my teenager days I bombed around wearing a sloggi crop top.... if I did that now after two dc I think I'd take someone's eye out.

I still have the "oh my fucking god get this bra off me" end of day feeling now... but I do find the bravissimo Alana bra very good. I can't say comfortable because frankly I truly believe all bras that do anything are torture. But yes Alana bra is very okay. And panache tango plunge because the wires don't seem to come up as high as the balcony version.

I am another fan of the porcelain bra too.

LadyBigtoes Tue 03-Sep-13 22:46:53

Also, although I'm a C and wear a medium Bravado bra, when I was pg I was cup size EE, and the large fitted me fine. So I'm thinking XL would be fine for an F.

piratecat Tue 03-Sep-13 22:50:58

Fantasie bras are better than Freya imo.

Particularly the Helena bra. Try ebay, i get mine there.

SundaySimmons Tue 03-Sep-13 22:53:24

I hate wearing a bra. When I was young I often didnt wear one or wore stretchy crop top style ones from Charnos back in the 1980s. I was a 32 A back then!

Now I am now a 34c cup and still could get away with to wearing one except my nipples are more prominent or perhaps when I was young it didn't bother me but no way now I am old can I have sticking out nips! Ha ha

As soon as I am home I take my bra off.

In hot weather I spray anti perspirant under my boobs and I often use talcum powder to dust down before wearing a bra and find that makes wearing a bra a bit nicer.

SorrelForbes Tue 03-Sep-13 22:55:39

Yes but a F on a 28 band is considerably smaller than an F on a 36 band. OP is a 32F, so not huge really, but someone who was a 36F is going to struggle in one of these.

OP, have you tried masquerade or fauve or even the CK showgirl range?

SorrelForbes Tue 03-Sep-13 22:56:30

Sunday, are you sure you're a 34C?

SorrelForbes Tue 03-Sep-13 22:57:44

Fairylea - have you tried the Cleo Juna?

Fairylea Tue 03-Sep-13 23:03:37

Thanks, I'm adding the Cleo juna to my list!

NanooCov Tue 03-Sep-13 23:16:34

Lacy bras make my nipples itch. Hate them with a passion. Particularly hate Bravissimo - have never had any success with their bras. And they do them in such weird colours! M&S do a decent moulded cup one in their DD+ range which might be worth a bash - the moulding is not too bulky so my 36E boobage isn't really bulked up any further.

SorrelForbes Wed 04-Sep-13 07:17:58

I struggle with some Bravissimo bras as they're too shallow for my rather narrow, deep set boobs.

Moulded bras can be good but thy don't suit everyone and people with bread that are heavier on the bottom will often experience gaping at the top of the cup.

jimjamspam Wed 04-Sep-13 08:42:19

my bread often comes out of the bread maker heavier at the bottom but that's a whole other thread....

SorrelForbes Wed 04-Sep-13 10:23:09

grin

theresmoretolife Wed 04-Sep-13 11:03:45

What about the non wired deco? Not tried it myself as they don't go to my size, but it looks good in theory here

jimjamspam Wed 04-Sep-13 11:22:28

thanks - might try some of their soft cup bras - like the sound of them. I had a triumph doreen i wore while pregnant which I loved - DH not so keen

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