Does long or short hair suit me better (with pics for limited time!)

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I currently have a kind of layeredy bob. I feel a bit frumpy (could be to do with still carrying too much baby weight) and have never been truly happy with any hair style

So I have put some pics on my profile of my hair in roughly chronological order. I would love to just wash and go which I can do with a longer style, so I'm wondering if I should go long again (also it's fashionable innit?) However, does the long hair drag down my narrow/petite face? And am I better with or without a fringe? Hair is thick and naturally a bit wavy

please bear in mind that I will look better in the older (long hair) photos as these were taken up to 10 years ago ie: pre DC!

If anyone wants to guess my age while we're at it (from the last pic) go for it, as I also have a slight reservation about longer hair now I'm a bit older.

Do your worst. I can take it.

landofsoapandglory Wed 03-Jul-13 10:18:43

You look lovely with both. I think I prefer the short hair, but totally understand why you prefer the long, so in your shoes would go for long. I do the same, like short hair but have it longer so I can shove it in a pony tail or clip when I am having a bad hair day!

<not helpful at all->

fourqueens Wed 03-Jul-13 10:29:45

What about a shorter bob without the fringe? You can tuck behind ears for ease and swish/move parting for a change?
Cate Blanchett

Thanks landofsoapandglory that is helpful as I did wonder if it was just me being lazy so glad I'm not the only one!

fourqueens I have tried a shorter style like that once but it just didn't work on me. Only one non-digital pic of it so can't upload but the front bit 'cow licked'. Also I think you have to be really pretty & confident to get away with that sort of length

libertine73 Wed 03-Jul-13 10:46:08

I like it long. and would guess you're 39?

Kikithecat Wed 03-Jul-13 10:59:35

I think you look best in the owl picture and the baby picture. One long and one short so maybe it's just the luck of getting a good photo!

daisygatsby Wed 03-Jul-13 11:00:31

I think long

fourqueens Wed 03-Jul-13 11:03:20

In that case I think long. Both suit you, but at least long can be tied up and made to look neat and tidy with no effort. And no fringe.
I'm guessing 38?

I think shorter hair suits you better with a side fringe but the bob is slightly mumsy. I think stick to the shorter length but with something a bit more modern.

Maybe more of a graduated shape. You could wear it straight day to day and it would be long enough to tie the sides back or wear a hair band or for occasions you could work with your wave to creat something like this

LaRegina Wed 03-Jul-13 11:19:57

I think longer would suit you perfectly if it was more styled - ie I would suggest that you grow it longer and have some choppy layers cut in - and also have a fringe - like this or if you want a more defined fringe - this

IMO bobs can look a bit 'mumsy'. Long layers gives you a longer style without it pulling down your features smile

SanityClause Wed 03-Jul-13 11:23:04

I think either length is fine, but prefer it without the little fringe.

You're very pretty, BTW.

Gunznroses Wed 03-Jul-13 11:23:54

I think the longer hair is better, you also look younger in it, and more fun, but i suppose if you want to look "mature" and "serious" then the short bob.

I think long, personally.

Makes you look younger!

As to age; 36?

FoxMulder Wed 03-Jul-13 11:27:47

Long does make you look younger

Whiteshade/LaRegina, yes that's it. I feel mumsy. Last cut I went from a graduated bob to more choppy like you say Whitershade and I let it do it's own wavy thing with some scrunching but no-one commented on it! I saw about 4 friends on the school run and not one person mentioned it so I took it that it didn't look good!

Kiki yes so much depends on the photo thats why I tried to upload lots

I seem to be getting more votes for long, and yes I think long but styled well would definitely be better than long but hanging.

Just to point out I was a lot younger in the long hair photos. I don't want to look mature/serious though, eek.... looks like this bob's got to go.

cornflakegirl Wed 03-Jul-13 11:32:22

I like the style in the third photo, but I think you'd look fab with a sleek short style - something like in the fourth photo, but with all the length removed. (If that makes any sense at all - it's just that the photo looks a little bit like you with short hair, and then long hair photoshopped in (I think because the hair hanging down is slightly lighter).) I agree about the bob being slightly mumsy. And also that you're very pretty!

chickenliversfortea Wed 03-Jul-13 11:32:52

Yes longer makes you look younger!

LeMousquetaireAnonyme Wed 03-Jul-13 11:36:09

short suits you.
(you look younger in long because you were younger)

MadAboutHotChoc Wed 03-Jul-13 11:36:39

The best one with long styled hair in the black top and the short styled bob with baby one is a close second. Not much help sorry.

MotherofDragons82 Wed 03-Jul-13 11:37:52

I think it looks better long. Although you look lovely with short hair too (you're very pretty!!) I think the long hair makes you look younger, and less mumsy.

Although you admit you were a lot younger in the long hair photos, you don't say how much - I'm guessing you're early 20s in the top couple of pix, and 34 in the baby pic??

Also, the beauty of long hair is that you can just tie it up so it's out of the way. Much less faffing around in a morning if you're short of time.

TeamJesse Wed 03-Jul-13 11:39:03

I think the first one is very nice, where your hair is a bit wavy. And I think long suits you - just don't go too long. I think shoulder length, or slightly above, and choppy/wavy.

cocolepew Wed 03-Jul-13 11:39:38

I like it long but I'd have a sweepy fringe not grown in and trucked behind your ears.

hellymelly Wed 03-Jul-13 11:44:16

Very pretty hair whatever you do with it. The colour is lovely and it has good texture. I like it long, as I think you suit it loose and would also suit things like french pleats. But I also think properly short would suit you, a pixie crop would work really well.

Jux Wed 03-Jul-13 11:44:56

I think you'd look great with a short cut. Well shaped, which uses your hair's natural way of growing. I have a cowlick too (and double crown) and if you had a style which took advantage of the cowlick, I think you'd look very glam.

GaryBuseysTeeth Wed 03-Jul-13 11:45:50

Longer hair suits you better.

You look 'mumsy' with the bob.

I'd say the bottom picture of you & DC with both of you looking at the camera is the worst for your hair, the length & 'limpness' of it adds nothing.

The pic of you wearing glasses is the one I think your hair looks best in, natural wave/tousled, it looks healthy & the slightly darker shade (although that could just be the lighting?) is more flattering to your skin tone.

piratecat Wed 03-Jul-13 11:48:11

longer softer suits you more. the shorter bob is a bit harsh and ages you imo.

i think you are 36

tethersend Wed 03-Jul-13 11:48:18

Agree with coco- something like pic number three would suit you. Definitely long.

lowercase Wed 03-Jul-13 11:49:11

Longer better.

Chigley1 Wed 03-Jul-13 11:52:37

Both look lovely but I think another vote for longer.

I have a similar dilemma...not helped that my mother keeps querying whether perhaps I think I'm too old for long hair. I'm 40 but very small and told I look younger <deludes self>
I look back at pics of me with short hair and think 'mumsy'!

MoetEtPantsOn Wed 03-Jul-13 11:56:34

I like 2004. In between!

cocolepew Wed 03-Jul-13 11:58:46

Yes to pic number 3,, exactlyt what I had in mind.

I'm 45 this year and grew my hair from a pixie cut last year, I'm planning on growing it to my shoulders. I think out makes me look younger I can hide behind my fringe

Yama Wed 03-Jul-13 12:09:10

2005 hair is best.

Photo 3.

GraduallyGoingInsane Wed 03-Jul-13 12:10:21

I love 2009's bob, its very chic. You suit both long and short, but I slightly prefer short. Will it go back in a ponytail at that length? Even a short ponytail? I understand the need to get it back from time to time, I never go shorter than ponytail length, even if its a stubby one!

You look lovely though - very pretty and at a guess, 36?

Yama Wed 03-Jul-13 12:11:08

Don't like guessing ages but I have photo 3 hair and I'm 37.

I tried it shorter for a while and with fringe but I really hated it.

Go Photo 3 hair!

squoosh Wed 03-Jul-13 12:21:44

The 2004 length and colour is by far the most flattering, your most recent hairstyle does say 'Mum' to me and I don't think the fringe is doing much for you.

My hair is similar in that it's very straight and fine, a length that hits the shoulders always look best.

You are a lovely looking woman though and your son is a rosy cheeked cutie.

phinz Wed 03-Jul-13 12:28:08

Another vote for long. I'm growing out a bob at the moment and it is at a really awkward sticking out in every direction stage.

toffeefee Wed 03-Jul-13 12:29:43

I think that I like the shorter styles most because you actually have a 'style' if that makes sense. If you want more length, could you have some long layers or a side fringe cut in so that it is a definite style and not just hanging down? As your hair is nice and thick you could have a fab longer style that frames you face like the shorter cuts do, but with the added benefit of being able to put it up or curl/straighten it. I would kill for hair like yours! grin

Longer is better, maybe add a little wave as others have suggested? I think it suits your face shape much better.

buttercrumble Wed 03-Jul-13 12:43:53

You look amazing but short and trendy would look fab, you could really carry it off smile

Wow, thank you for all the replies while I have been attending to work stuff. I am so grateful for the honest comments. And god lord thank you to those who said I am pretty, maybe I was OKish back in the day but I don't feel it now!

The age guesses are pretty spot on, I'm 38 (but want to look younger dammit. I feel like I've really aged since DC2)

Consensus is long but wavy/styled so I'll go with that. I'll grow out the fringe too. I thought it shortened my long face but perhaps not.

I like the pic no 3 that was linked but not sure I could achieve that naturally/with minimal effort! Would something like this work?

NightScentedStock Wed 03-Jul-13 13:38:35

Longer, definitely.

Everything that GaryBuseysteeth said

NightScentedStock Wed 03-Jul-13 13:40:10

Yes, that looks lovely

snoworneahva Wed 03-Jul-13 13:45:30

I'd go for shorter no fringe!

chicaguapa Wed 03-Jul-13 13:45:50

Your hair in 2004/2005 looks the nicest IMO. Agree that the shorter hair looks mumsy.

Where do you live? I can recommend a fab hairdresser in Manchester that would decide for you.

MadAboutHotChoc Wed 03-Jul-13 14:58:35

With a long face, you need to add volume at the sides - I think a styled wavy hairstyle would suit you (as in pic 3).

Mollydoggerson Wed 03-Jul-13 15:00:38

I prefer the long.

Both nice but long more youthful!

MustTidyUpMustTidyUp Wed 03-Jul-13 15:02:40

I like it long. What you linked to is lovely. I'm 38 and you look much younger than me

I'm in East Mids Chicaguapa but thanks for the thought!

Am cringing now that I've been walking around looking so mumsy for so long

squoosh Wed 03-Jul-13 15:45:02


You don't look that mumsy, you just look a little mumsy.

LemonBreeland Wed 03-Jul-13 15:46:01

I like both on you, but would go with long hair if I was you.

I currently have long hair, I have always grown it long enough to be tied back when my children were little, as I have no time to do it. I've decided now to keep it long for a while as in a few years I feel I will be too old for long hair.

I love my hair short, but it is a lot of work. I do think I suit it long too.

i think you look younger and prettier with long hair, though stop tucking it behind your ears!

<ido that too>

Your DS is adorable and you're pretty!

Think you really suit long hair.
From the 2013 picture I'd say early to mid thirties?

also maybe in another 10 years or so you might not be able to get away with long hair, not everyone can as they get older, so why not have it long while you can

hugoagogo Wed 03-Jul-13 16:51:40

It looks nicer longer, you look a bit like Naiomi whatsit from citv.

Thanks for keeping 'em coming!

whiteandyellowiris I figured tucking behind ears would make my narrow face look a bit wider. I thought I might be too old now to get away with long hair but it seems I am wrong and have gone short too early!

So kind quirrelquarrel! Am 38

florencearbuthnot Wed 03-Jul-13 18:12:42

I think you look fab with longer hair,(love the owl by the way).Have recently been hesitating myself after having my hair long and had a chop but feel a bit frumpy if im honest so,I may be biased.I dont think there is an age when you should not have long hair as long as it looks good.

Thanks florence. I'll probably be posting again in a few years to see if I can still get away with long hair in my 40's! I'm finding this a bit of a funny age for hair and clothes tbh but I'm not sure how much of that is to do with having virtually no time to myself to shop/primp etc and being tired

Have taken the photos down now

busyboysmum Wed 03-Jul-13 22:23:43

Chic I'd love the details of a good hairdresser in Manchester, am in a similar dilemma and have had a long bob forever. Am quite worried now with all the mumsy comments but need some advice about what would suit my face shape.

busyboysmum Wed 03-Jul-13 22:26:00

Clare I couldn't comment on your pics as you'd already taken them down, meanie!

BOF Wed 03-Jul-13 22:27:34

Put them back up! At least for tonight, please.

Pics back on for tonight

BOF Wed 03-Jul-13 23:36:18

I like the bob, especially with the ends curled under, like 2009.

Elquota Wed 03-Jul-13 23:43:50

I think it would really suit you a couple of inches shorter, with some layers to bring out the natural wave.

celestialbows Thu 04-Jul-13 08:10:51

Long. Definitely. The bob makes you look like a naice mum but the long makes you look like a real woman.

miffybun73 Thu 04-Jul-13 08:17:15

Definitely longer, it looks really lovely. I agree with celestialbows last comment.

I'm 40 in a couple of weeks and never want to cut my hair short smile

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