Jeans and over 50 women

(143 Posts)
Startail Wed 26-Jun-13 12:04:49

I'm 45, I live in jeans, long sleeved t shirt and hoodie, in winter when not dressed up.

I can't conceive of suddenly stopping doing on my 50th birthday.

What do the older ones of you or your younger mums wear?

I realise I only see older women (to know their approx age) at church and WI where they are dressed up.

My mum is much older and has never worn jeans, DMIl was ten years older still and only wore trousers when riding.

What do 50-60 yearolds wear on an ordinary Saturday?

shallweshop Wed 26-Jun-13 12:16:21

I am 49 and don't think anything of wearing my jeans still. most of my similar aged friends also wear them. My mum never wore jeans either but I think that was fairly common for that generation.

Startail Wed 26-Jun-13 12:19:31

It does give my teen DD a problem when we both have animal hoodies on and skinny jeans, tucked into long boots as our winter uniform. grin

GrimmaTheNome Wed 26-Jun-13 12:20:16

>What do 50-60 yearolds wear on an ordinary Saturday?
I'm 52. On an ordinary Saturday? Either jeans, walking trousers, or a wetsuit. Maybe a skirt or shorts in summer.

Why on earth would you stop wearing your normal clothes at 50? confused

missmartha Wed 26-Jun-13 12:20:47

My neighbour is 64.

She wears jeans, t shirts, hoodies, anything really and she looks fabulous.

fancyanamechange Wed 26-Jun-13 12:20:55

You don't wake up on your 50th birthday and think "I'm an old hag - must get rid of my jeans".

thebluebirdofhappiness Wed 26-Jun-13 12:26:59

My mum still wears jeans at 70 and looks great in them! But they're always smart jeans, she's very tall and slim and she is very well groomed (think 'ladies who lunch'). I on the other hand look like a sack in mine and am not remotely groomed so try not to wear them much...

polyhymnia Wed 26-Jun-13 12:47:10

I'm in the age group you mention and on Sats usually wear skinny jeans (good quality ones) and stripy top with ballerinas or loafers.

Can't imagine I'll ever stop wearing jeans. Why would I?

Often wear similar on Sunday - the women don't 'dress up' at the church I sometimes go to .

QueenCadbury Wed 26-Jun-13 12:53:21

My mum is 60 and doesn't wear jeans but she never has. For some reason she hates them. But she wears cords and chino type trousers.

Startail Wed 26-Jun-13 12:55:18

I'm very glad to hear this. I think I know too many 'respectable' older ladies with professional DHs or retired teachers themselves, who have had to look smart for the last 40 years and aren't going to change.

Somethingyesterday Wed 26-Jun-13 13:03:02

Startail Do you truly only see older women in church or WI?!

Not on the street, in cars, in shops, offices, restaurants, trains ....?

Where on earth do you live?

missmartha Wed 26-Jun-13 13:08:39

My neighbour (mentioned up thread), is a lawyer. She still works despite her remarkable 64 years (yawn) and is married to a local GP.

You can't get more respectable than that.

It's about feeling easy in your own skin at the end of the day.

She is very open minded, has friends of all ages from all walks of life and isn't still for a moment.

She was wearing a rather lovely and eye catching pair of loafers that she informs me came from The White Pepper.

Turns out this is a site for street cred type clothing for teens mainly.

They look truly fab on her.

MalenkyRusskyDrakonchik Wed 26-Jun-13 13:14:13

My mum never used to wear jeans - she started just after her 60th birthday and I think she looks better in them TBH (she used to go for very uncomfortable-looking trousers that were never the right length for her).

GrimmaTheNome Wed 26-Jun-13 13:16:21

>Do you truly only see older women in church or WI?!
maybe she sees plenty of 'older' women elsewhere but doesn't realise that they are >50!

Floggingmolly Wed 26-Jun-13 13:20:56

Mary Berry must be close to eighty and she's still wearing jeans (and they look better on her than they do on me sad)

Somethingyesterday Wed 26-Jun-13 13:23:04

Grimma wink
Something should be done. Perhaps 'older ladies' should be encouraged to wear some sort of label - to render themselves more readily identifiable....

Startail Wed 26-Jun-13 13:34:07

I live in rural middle of nowhereness. Yes I see older women walking round our local town/city, but it doesn't register how old they are, what they are wearing as it might if I sat on trains or buses.

WI, church etc I have time to ponder.

Somethingyesterday Wed 26-Jun-13 13:48:49

Startail Ok, I'll stop teasing as I now see where you're coming from.

I used to have a much younger friend, from a very rural corner of Europe, who was genuinely astonished to discover that, in urban England, women over 35 actually bought new clothes. In Selfridges and Harvey Nichols! And wore make up!

Trust me on this: the doormen at your favourite stores will not know the date of your 50th birthday. You will still be allowed to wear whatever you like.

missbopeep Wed 26-Jun-13 13:50:35

Have never heard of anyone any age 'giving up jeans'.

You need to get out more OP smile

All my over 50 friends wear jeans and so do some of my over 80 friends!

It's more about what your bum looks like in them but that should be the case at 20, 50 or 80!

missbopeep Wed 26-Jun-13 13:54:21

I'm always struck by how ageist some peeps are here.

Eg The comment 'she is still working at 64'

FGS! I have a good friend of that age who still has 1) a 21 yr old son living at home while he does his masters degree, and 2) she herself is doing a p/t masters this year to launch another career despite already having a PhD!

I do think- and am not being rude- that some younger people have a very limited view or experience of what older people do.

TondelayoSchwarzkopf Wed 26-Jun-13 13:54:23

My DM lives in jeans and (usually) a heavy metal t-shirt hmm - she is 67.
MiL is the same age and also wears jeans day to day - though she's a little more 'lady who lunches'

Did you see that picture of Helen Mirren in her jeans a few weeks ago? I was envy

Startail Wed 26-Jun-13 13:54:59

I don't mind being teased, this is a terribly white MC insular area. MN opens my eyes to all sorts of things.

pot39 Wed 26-Jun-13 13:55:24

I'm 51. Wear jeans when they are clean(ish) and I still have my target size 10 jeans which I am actually quite hopeful of fitting into soon.
You don't change when you are 50. Can't quite believe I'm an adult yet.
I do threaten to run up and down the road naked when ds's refuse to do the dishwasher.
Age IS a state of mind not of dress

missbopeep Wed 26-Jun-13 13:58:17

But Startail, it's the white MC as you call them who tend to be more trendy and stay young - youthful longer!

MyBoysAreFab Wed 26-Jun-13 14:00:37

I am 50 in a couple of months and I have finally started wearing skinny jeans! I have found Next "relaxed skinny" which are really flattering on me with pumps or my converse and a stripey top or a wee cardigan.

Whilst I try to dress to flatter and hide my fat bits, frankly after years of fashion disasters (curse you "the 80's") I do not give a hoot what anyone thinks of what I wear.

higgle Wed 26-Jun-13 14:02:53

I have just recruited someone on a career change to my team aged 64 and she is drop dead gorgeous ( and wears very tight skinny jeans on her days off)

MyBoysAreFab Wed 26-Jun-13 14:03:20

Totally agree with you pot39 about being an adult. I keep waiting to feel like a grown up but it never seems to happen. I spend my whole working life waiting for someone to realise that I am a fraud with I have a sense of humour as immature as it ever was.

TondelayoSchwarzkopf Wed 26-Jun-13 14:03:20

that some younger people have a very limited view or experience of what older people do.

Well quite. I had to quit the 'middle-aged frump' thread because they were all about 33!!! I am 39 and may consider becoming middle-aged in 30 or 40 years, depending on the benefit package.

happyreindeer Wed 26-Jun-13 14:12:21

I was 50 2 weeks ago and it feels so strange to say that age as I just do not feel it. I wear skinny jeans. converse breton tops etc. Although recently have been wearing sketchers go walk a lot as I am in fitness mode.

Namechanger012345 Wed 26-Jun-13 14:13:05

My mum is 60+ and wears jeans - never crossed my mind that there could be anything odd about that! Wear what you want, it's fine.

Somethingyesterday Wed 26-Jun-13 14:14:06

Can I trade you a stereotype? Living in rural middle of nowhereness I'm guessing you spend lots of time in the open air, and get plenty of exercise? So you probably look better in your jeans than almost anyone.

I think the consensus round here (in front of my mirror...) is that, where possible, you might want to consider improving the quality of your wardrobe, rather than its essential nature. Take a birthday trip to a cool city and search out better jeans - and other stuff. Also, this will mean you're not wearing the same clothes as your daughter.

This is my first foray into S and B. When I'm lurking it's always light and breezy. I've been here half an hour and turned it into a lecture....

missmartha Wed 26-Jun-13 14:19:58

missbopeep

When I said she was still working at 64 I was being ironic.

I can't get over how agist some people are either. It would never occur to me that someone should retire because of the date they were born any more than suggesting they should give up wearing jeans at 50.

Totally beyond me that.

UtterflyButterfly Wed 26-Jun-13 14:24:34

I'm late fifties and currently wearing dark straight legged jeans and a breton top. Why not? If I didn't wear jeans 90% of the time I'm at home I don't know what I WOULD wear!

motherinferior Wed 26-Jun-13 14:26:15

I too turned 50 a couple of weeks ago grin. Today I am wearing a pair of Levi Curve jeans, a top printed with parrots on it (White Stuff sale a couple of years ago) and a cotton cardie originally from Jigsaw via the charity shop.

BIWI Wed 26-Jun-13 14:46:06

"But Startail, it's the white MC as you call them who tend to be more trendy and stay young - youthful longer!"

WTAF does this mean?

I'm 53, and live in jeans. Denim (blue or black), skinnies. Wouldn't cross my mind to wear anything else.

Guerrillacrochet Wed 26-Jun-13 15:01:47

My grandmother still wears jeans and she is 87. She also dyes her hair auburn. My grandfather wore his jeans until his death last year at 85. I think I win on the oldest denim fans so far, hoping someone has a nonagenerian in coloured skinnies to trump me.

NeoMaxiZoomDweebie Wed 26-Jun-13 15:05:32

My very attractive Aunt is 55 and wears jeans all the time....she has a blonde bob and often wears heels with her jeans...she looks amazing.

Ragwort Wed 26-Jun-13 15:09:21

I also agree that an lot of mumsnetters do appear incredibly ageist.

I am mid 50s, happily wear jeans (actually not so happily now that I could lose some weight grin) - but you know what I mean.

Greydog Wed 26-Jun-13 15:11:34

I'm 60 this year (Arrgghh! How did that happen!) I wear jeans all the time. I am wearing them now. In the very early mornings I wear combats to dog walk (all those pockets, so handy) and if I'm gardening old joggers. And I agree with MyBoys - I don't really care what people think. was it Bette Midler who said "if they can't take a joke Fuck 'em"? Well that's how I feel!

NeoMaxiZoomDweebie Wed 26-Jun-13 15:13:17

Rag they'll eat their words when they suddenly realise they're 40! It comes to us all! [gleeful]

Scrazy Wed 26-Jun-13 15:14:40

I wear skinny jeans, usually with heeled boots, wedged sandals or high heels for a night out. I'm 50+ and my bum looks good in them.

I still go out nightclubbing on occasions and have no shortage of young men chatting and flirting with me. Just for the record, so won't stop wearing jeans anytime soon. grin

LimburgseVlaai Wed 26-Jun-13 15:16:11

I remember a thread about not being allowed long hair after 40.

Surely it's not about age? Size on the other hand... I wouldn't want to dictate to other people what they can and can't wear, but seeing an arse in leggings or tight skirt that looks like a pillowcase stuffed with cottage cheese does make me shudder a bit. But hey ho, if that's what feels comfortable, sod it.

milk Wed 26-Jun-13 15:22:06

Different style/colour jeans suit different body shapes therefore you can wear jeans at any age grin

Startail Wed 26-Jun-13 15:25:43

[Grin] I could get out and walk miles, but I'm far too lazy.

This is 'ladies who lunch country' rather nice bright, interesting and educated women when you get to know them, but a bit intimidatingly smart when you don't.

Startail Wed 26-Jun-13 15:29:59

I think there are a fair few final salary scheme pensions and long since payed for houses, so they have more money than those of us mortgages and dependent DCs.

Startail Wed 26-Jun-13 15:31:27

They have beautiful houses too.

BIWI Wed 26-Jun-13 15:40:17

I was walking behind a girl yesterday, on the tube. She didn't look much older than mid-20s. She was wearing tight, cream leggings, with a (very visible) pink thong underneath. Her leggings were so tight, you could see all the cellulite dimpling on each arse cheek as she walked. I was hypnotised by it. Couldn't stop staring at her arse!

missbopeep Wed 26-Jun-13 15:42:54

Maybe- just maybe- the ageist comments are around because there are (possibly) more people over 50 who don't really take care of their weight, appearance and clothes, than there are younger people?

I don't know. I'm just always really surprised by younger posters who talk about 'my mum/aunt/gran even wears that'- then I find their mum is in fact younger than me! So I guess some MN are just very young......

Keztrel Wed 26-Jun-13 15:50:02

My mum's 60 and last Saturday she was wearing black straight leg jeans with black ankle boots and a drapey, burgundy All Saints jumper - she looked fantastic and I'm going to steal her jumper as soon as I can.

DramaAlpaca Wed 26-Jun-13 15:50:04

I'm 49, live in jeans & have no intention of giving them up.

squoosh Wed 26-Jun-13 16:20:52

My Mum is 71 and wears jeans, in fact she only bought her first pair a couple of years ago. So for her it's not clinging onto her 'youth' but trying a new look that she's seen her peers wearing. She wears them in quite a smart way, definitely no hoodies! But she looks great.

Jeans and hoody 'tilIdie.

My mum's never worn a pair of jeans in her life. It's a generational thing, surely?

zzzexhaustedzzz Wed 26-Jun-13 16:37:05

If they are flattering that's surely ok. I'm under 40 and won't wear mine at the moment since I put 2 stone on! However if I lose that and they look good again I will wear them!

MisguidedAngel Wed 26-Jun-13 16:52:24

I was 69 last week and I wear jeans all the time. I just have different sorts - gardening/shopping/afternoon out/dress up, with equivalent tops - and now they're so fashionable, different colours too, though I prefer blue denim. I only deviate from this if it's hot - which it isn't very often where we live.

MoominMammasHandbag Wed 26-Jun-13 17:29:55

My Mum is 76 and wears jeans; to be honest she's a lot more fashionable than me all round.

bigTillyMint Wed 26-Jun-13 17:33:32

I am nearly 50 and I wear these

motherinferior Wed 26-Jun-13 17:37:00

BTM...aren't those a bit, well, racy for you?

My Mum is 63 this year and wears skinny jeans and knee high boots outside the house and slobs around in Pineapple yoga pants at home. She's a size 8 with 36" inside leg and looks ridiculously good envy (flabby size 18)

bigTillyMint Wed 26-Jun-13 17:39:54

grin

BIWI Wed 26-Jun-13 17:42:13

Loving that elastic look, BTM!
grin

usualsuspect Wed 26-Jun-13 17:44:37

I'm 54 and haven't swapped my jeans for slacks yet.

GrimmaTheNome Wed 26-Jun-13 17:47:32

BTM - that's the sort of trew my 90+ MIL used to wear grin

Redlocks30 Wed 26-Jun-13 17:50:33

My mum is 70 and still wears jeans. Bootcuts or skinny jeans with sandals or boots. She is slim and petite with an excellent sense of style which probably helps!

katydid02 Wed 26-Jun-13 18:01:52

I won't stop wearing jeans, why would I? Gone are the days when you got to 50 and started wearing shapeless polyester flowery dresses

storytopper Wed 26-Jun-13 18:16:41

I am 58, I have always worn jeans and probably always will. I wear a style that suits my height, weight and shape. They are just trousers that happen to have a few studs and pockets.

I wear black jeans to work (shhh, don't tell!)

WoTmania Wed 26-Jun-13 18:37:15

my grandmother is nearly 80 and she wears jeans...

Murraylover Wed 26-Jun-13 18:59:22

My MIL is nearly 70 & loves jeans with a cardie. Granny-style. It's a sight you do see often. A bit like 40yo in discos - love or hate seeing them

complexnumber Wed 26-Jun-13 19:11:51

I'm 52 and wear shorts most days as we live in a hot climate. It's not pretty, but I'm not that worried.

I don't think either of my parents has ever worn a pair of jeans. You just didn't do that in the sixties if you were a "grown up".

flippinada Wed 26-Jun-13 19:54:56

I am in my late 30s and I live in jeans as well. So does my Mum..I won't tell you her age, she won't thank me. However I can confirm that she's definitely older than 50 grin.

soggyryvita Wed 26-Jun-13 20:10:16

I'm 53. I wear skinny jeans, sweatshirts, pumps/boots etc. All my friends (inc those who are older than me), still wear jeans too. I wouldn't wear distressed/ones with holes in etc because I think that's not 'me' anymore. But like the others have said, I think jeans are ok on all ages.

happyreindeer Wed 26-Jun-13 20:10:45

No. Quite right. Shapeless polyester dresses are for 14 to18 year olds nowadays.

I'm 56 and have been wearing jeans since I was a teenager. So why should I stop now? Don't forget we are the generation who were hippies in our teens, punks in our twenties, wore pencil skirts, platform shoes and fishnets in our late twenties etc., etc. I have had aubergine, auburn, blonde, pink and black hair - although not all at the same time. I wore bright blue nail varnish in the 1970s.

At the moment, I am trying to cheer myself up by wearing gorgeous colours. At this age my Mum was in definite "old" mode, but I am not giving in yet!

pussycatwillum Wed 26-Jun-13 21:10:38

I never wear jeans because I think that I am too fat, rather than too old.

Dawndonna Wed 26-Jun-13 21:11:07

I'm 54. I wear jeans, usually from Fatface, sometimes M&S Jeggings.

flippinada Wed 26-Jun-13 21:16:18

I bought a pair of Levis recently. Eye wateringly expensive (well to me anyway) but absolutely amazing fit.

Aetae Wed 26-Jun-13 21:16:31

My mum is 67 and she wears jeans. They don't look that good tbh (high waisted light wash tapered leg, not great) but she's comfortable...

PosyNarker Wed 26-Jun-13 21:38:37

My parents & PIL are in their early sixties. They all wear jeans but in different styles.

DM wears jeans, with sensible but trendy flats & lots of per una flouncy top, cardie, beads etc. on top. She's a retired teacher and she and all her friends still cling to the per una uniform grin

I couldn't be arsed with the per una flouncy stuff myself but fashions aside it's been the sort of thing she's gravitated towards since her late 30s. Not sure why she'd suddenly change - nothing wrong with a well fitting pair of jeans.

IME the point at which decent jeans, good fit etc becomes really important is well in advance of 50. You can look fab at 50 or like a sack of spuds at 18 in jeans.

Startail Wed 26-Jun-13 21:54:06

Good so I'm not alone in deciding to grow old disgracefully and keep my jeans.

I'm a short 16 so I look like a sack of spuds in loose jeans and a carrot in my favourite skinny ones and I don't care.

Just so long as I'm not suitably dressed for lunch in Waitrose café I'll be happy.

soimpressed Wed 26-Jun-13 22:10:34

My mum wears jeans all the time for every day wear. She's 82 grin

ggirl Wed 26-Jun-13 22:24:50

startail- ditch the hoodie..hideous on anyone

Clawdy Wed 26-Jun-13 22:31:29

Remember the Neil Diamond song "Forever in Blue Jeans"....that's my mantra! smile

prettybird Wed 26-Jun-13 22:34:05

Never occurred to me that I should stop wearing jeans just 'cos I turned 50 confused Am now 52 - but still don't see why I should stop hmm

Have recently got back in to a pair of Size 12 bootleg jeans having lost over 2 stone. They're wearing out so I need to buy a new pair. Thinking of getting some skinnies , especially if I can continue my weight loss.

Vibbe Wed 26-Jun-13 22:39:44

My mum is 62, and she wears jeans. She wears some that fits her figure and that aren't too young - and she combines it with tops that make her look very elegant and not too young. Same with shoes - she goes for classic shoes or boots in good quality. You'll only see her in trainers or sportswear, when she's out for a run.

I think her favourite pair of jeans are dark blue with straight legs. I think she has black ones too.

DM Link so ageism ahoy - but Lauren Hutton looks great

Lavenderhoney Thu 27-Jun-13 06:16:13

My dm stopped wearing trousers at 50 as she said older women looked awful in trouserssmile she never owned a pair of jeans and always wore cords or trews, with loafers or sandals ( not sparkly!) she is in her 70's and has always been a slim size 8-10.

She is very old fashioned though with strange outdated ideas, such as long hair should be cut short after 40 and flowers in the hair is for teenagers, ditto any type of fashion handbag, trainers should only be worn at the gym or for sport, and lastly why don't I wear little heels to please my dh ( even though he is a work and I have small dc so impractical anyway)

If there were more like her, there would be no fashion industry, everyone would have bought everything they needed by the time they were 21, and could pop to m&s for essentialssmile

MadBannersAndCopPorn Thu 27-Jun-13 07:38:29

Jeans are fine at any age, as long as you get the right fit and are comfy. Some people have it drummed into them that jeans cannot look smart and are on the same level with trackies. MY mum wears jeans and looks smart and well groomed.

Things that do bother me for older people i.e not a teenager, are IMVHO...Bunches (I have seen these on much older women- not a good look). Leggings with top that does not cover bum/ camel toe and full tracksuits (unless you are a p.e teacher or gym bunny.)

MadBannersAndCopPorn Thu 27-Jun-13 07:39:45

Sorry for caps on 'my', tablet typing is awful!

Oh Jings what a start to the day.... I'm over fifty, wear jeans but Asda specials today not 'quality', I wear my hair in (low) bunches frequently, and everyone's referring to me as an 'older woman'...

BIWI Thu 27-Jun-13 08:45:58

Don't worry, GleamingHeels - there are plenty of us on Mumsnet. One day, I hope, all the casual ageism that exists here will stop.

I know BIWI, I know... I just haven't yet got my head round being old enough to find ageism directed at me!

Anyway, back on topic, there's nothing wrong with Asda Skinnies for those of us without 'quality' budgets, aged or otherwise

missmartha Thu 27-Jun-13 08:58:01

I often see threads that start "I'm 25, am I too old for Converse" etc. To be honest I choke on my Horlicks.

It's difficult for some people to understand that the way you are inside (and out), doesn't change once you pass significant birthdays.

I have a friend who was 50 last year and goes on rather a lot about being old, even though I am older than her and anyway she looks great.

One of the problems she has is that she has three daughters in their 20s with whom she tries to keep up and lets face it, she can't.

She's a beautiful 50 year old, but she'll just get more and more unhappy if she strives to look like her daughter's sister, which she does for some reason.
She looks groovy in jeans too.

prettybird Thu 27-Jun-13 09:13:49

Maybe the very anonymity of "gathering points" like Munsnet will help some of the youngsters people to understand that we are all people and not defined by our age.

But I have my doubts - ironically because it is only with age that you come to realise that! grin

MyBoysAreFab Thu 27-Jun-13 09:15:46

I do think you go through a stage of wondering if you are too old to wear certain things, like short skirts - ironically at an age when you are not too old to wear them - then you get beyond that and realise that you can in fact wear anything you like.

My dear dad started wearing jeans in his 60's. He wore braces - under his shirt - to keep them up. He looked like Jim Royle only worse. My mum won't wear jeans, thinks they look daft on older women - so she wears tapered always a tiny bit too short trousers instead hmm

50ShadesOfMaybe Thu 27-Jun-13 09:20:28

It seems there's an "Am I too old for jeans/skinny jeans/long hair/short skirts/denim skirts/denim jackets/converse/shorts/dark lipstick/hoodies/etc/etc" thread every week on S&B.

Can we just say No to all these? It's what you like, are comfortable in, flatters you, and so on.

I'm over 40 and enjoy my clothes and wear what I like - and hope to do so for many more years!

Cloudkitten Thu 27-Jun-13 09:26:54

Jeans can be fine on anyone provided the style chosen suits the wearer's figure.

I look awful in jeans of any kind so I won't be bothering unless I lose 2 stone but having said that my mum is probably 4 stone overweight but looks good in jeans (she is a petite apple shape so carries lots of weigh on top but has quite neat legs and bum). She is in her 60s and wears very dark blue ones with a bit of stretch, and then layers tops that cover her middle. Looks good. I am a big pear shape so all jeans just emphasise my tree trunk thighs and big bottom.

galletti Thu 27-Jun-13 10:42:38

I turned 50 in April and am a big fan of Zara skinny jeans - latest purchase - white ones!

BIWI Thu 27-Jun-13 10:50:35

50Shades - I get tired of going on to those threads and repeating the same old mantra!

I find it bloody depressing that young women are so keen to dismiss older women.

amazingmumof6 Thu 27-Jun-13 10:53:19

my mum is 62. she wears jeans. she is not fashion conscious whatsoever, cheap stuff from charity shops.
she looks fine.

I can not imagine not wearing jeans ( I'm 38).
if I make it to 80 or 90 and can put them on I'll wear them.might need stretchy ones by thengrin

Mil's over 70, never worn jeans, wears tracksuits for gardening but skirts only otherwise.

LifeHuh Thu 27-Jun-13 10:55:37

What a relief - I thought this thread would be full of people telling me I am too old to wear jeans.Ironically at the point when I had decided maybe I should dress a bit more "grown up" I looked older - and not in a good way! (probably due to poor taste in clothes and the desire to spend the money on something else rather than clothes!)

There was a thread a while back where the OP was critical of her Mum for attending playgroup in jeans - surely by her age,which I think was late forties,she should have moved on - maybe to some smart linen trousers and a little cardie? grin
I have probably misrepresented a bit as it was a while ago but I remember opening the thread expecting this to be about an 80yearold (still perfectly entitled to wear jeans of course!) and being gobsmacked when it was referring to someone a few years younger than me...

Startail Thu 27-Jun-13 12:02:36

Yes, my aim was definitely to get support for wearing jeans, hoddies, long boots, short boots and trainers.

I have no wish at all to turn into a lady who lunches in nicely cut trousers and blazer or cardigan with embellishments.

amazingmumof6 Thu 27-Jun-13 12:56:23

startail how I wish I could be a lady who lunches in perfectly beautiful clothes (once a week would do!) instead of maternity jeans from Ebay ( not even pg anymoreblush ) and boring t-shirts with snailtrail snot and slobber all over! grin

Startail Thu 27-Jun-13 14:11:03

grin I've never been discussion of the day under my normal name.

Once under a temporary nc, being serious, but never as my flippant self.

Startail Thu 27-Jun-13 14:14:57

amazing, one day.
I know a wonderful mum if 5, who is now an elegant, lady who lunches with a beautiful house.

But she assures me she wasn't when she had her DCs at home and a buisness to run.

SuckAtRelationships Thu 27-Jun-13 15:55:05

Lets be honest, these days, all generations are wearing similar clothes. I don't think it matters any more.

amazingmumof6 Thu 27-Jun-13 16:02:56

startail - one day it is. you and me.
but only if we wear matching out fits, white headband scarves and gold loop earrings. grin

I'm 51 and not only do I wear skinny jeans, I also go clubbing wearing satin shorts, crop tops, mini skirts etc etc. And honestly I look fabsmile And I intend to dress like a 20 year old for as long as it makes me feel good.

SuckAtRelationships Thu 27-Jun-13 16:59:09

TCN - most women do not look like you do at 51 though!! I'm 23 and don't look like that!

Thank you SAR blush. It's funny but when I was in my 20s I always imagined that in my 50s I'd be dressed elegantly and pottering around in the garden - certainly not wearing hotpants and out clubbing till 4am regularly! How wrong was I. Now I'm thinking that perhaps in my 70s I'll be dressed elegantly and pottering around in the garden ... Time will tell I guesssmile

QueenMaeve Thu 27-Jun-13 17:59:51

Have a look at this for a near 70 year old rocking jeans. Now I realise that Lauren Hutton is not your average oap, but I really think jeans and a white shirt are a universal look good outfit.

flippinada Thu 27-Jun-13 19:45:02

50YearsofMaybe I wish there was a like button for your post!

I'm in my late 30s and have just begun to enjoy fashion/clothes etc (although I still loathe clothes shopping). Age is but a number.

I don't follow trends and never have but like picking pieces which I think look stylish...and I look a lot better than I did in my 20s

Don't think I'll ever rock the hotpants looks like catneuterer as I have an arse you could park a tea set on. Still like skinny jeans tho smile

mttum Thu 27-Jun-13 20:46:58

I'm 56, wear jeans but draw the line at trainers and those weird looking three-quarter length trousers grin

itried Thu 27-Jun-13 20:58:59

Am 60 and sitting here in my skinnies.

lavenderhoney your comment about 'hair should be cut short after 40' reminded me. My Grandma always used to say that I should make the most of having long hair as you can't have long hair past 25!

TondelayoSchwarzkopf Thu 27-Jun-13 21:12:17

I was once told on here by a 20 something that I shouldn't be wearing a mini-skirt at 37 hmm

I like this Diana Athill quote:
"However old one is, one still feels inside like the person one used to be. It’s a foolish mistake to try too hard to look like that person, but it would be a bit sad to look very much like something else.”

squoosh Thu 27-Jun-13 21:14:56

I love Diana Athill, she lived her life the way she wanted. Good woman to take advice from.

dontyouwantmebaby Thu 27-Jun-13 22:07:09

my mum has always worn jeans more than I do, she's in her sixties. I think they really suit her and age doesn't come into it. It never occurred to me that anyone would consider not wearing them once they reach a certain age.

wear what you like, whatever you feel comfortable in! there's no rules.

dontyouwantmebaby Thu 27-Jun-13 22:09:09

50shadesofmaybe - hear hear! great post, concur entirely with what you're saying.

amazingmumof6 Thu 27-Jun-13 23:09:50

you can't have long hair past 25!

yet here I'm 38 with long hair.

not intending to cut it short ever again - had a crew cut when I was 21, dyed it steel blue (which was actually black with a hint of blue).

it looked great, but my hair grows really fast, had to touch up roots every 3 weeks!

Startail Thu 27-Jun-13 23:18:53

My hair grows just past my shoulders and splits, so it's men just past my shoulders since I was 16 (and have up on a stupid short 80's style it wouldn't do) and I intend it staying just past my shoulders until I'm 100

Startail Thu 27-Jun-13 23:20:35

May be when I'm a hundred I'll learn to proof.

amazingmum. Yes well I've still got very, very long hair. To be fair though my Grandma was born in about 1905, so that may well have been the convention when she was young, she just hadn't moved with the times.

hmc Fri 28-Jun-13 00:48:40

Jeans should be age irrelevant

But I am getting a sense of what the OP means as another 45 year old... I prefer a grungy, scruffy informal look and it does concern me that as I get older I see fewer and fewer potential peers who feel similarly. My jeans are teemed with scruffy chunky boots most commonly. There seems to be a 'pressure' to get smarter and more groomed as you age (perhaps to compensate for being unforgivably wrinkly?) I'd rather not adopt the skinny jeans with ballet pumps / gold sandals look tbh

I am 49, have long hair and wear jeans all the time when I am not at work. Why not? Whose business is it?

orangeandemons Fri 28-Jun-13 09:10:43

There was a thread on here,mthenother week, where someone talked about frumpy women over 50 wearing polyester calf length skirts and plimsolls.... I have never ever worn anything like that in my life, so it nice to discover that none of us conform to their stereotype.

YoniBottsBumgina Fri 28-Jun-13 09:41:44

My mum is 54 this year and often wears jeans, she doesn't wear hoodies as I would think of them, but does wear zip-up thick knit cardigans quite often, This sort of thing

Never worn a calf length skirt (not good on short people!).

The answer to the actual question in the OP is: this (nearly) 50 year old on an ordinary Saturday (let's say in summer) wears:

Jeans (NYDJ)
Top if staying in: T-shirt or long-sleeve T-shirt (M&S)
Top if going out: blouse (White Stuff or East)
Shoes: black Merrell slip ons

If cool: add long cardigan (various vintagey type ones from eBay) or bright pink raincoat

50ShadesOfMaybe Fri 28-Jun-13 10:17:30

I want to go clubbing with catneuterer and some of the other youthful women here - you all sound amazing! (I'll get my disco pants out!)

bushbabyblues Fri 28-Jun-13 10:58:07

I live in an area with a lot of first and second generation immigrants.

I always wonder why you see the daughters looking like film stars 24/7 and the mothers (many of them surely only fifty or so) looking like the Granny in the Kumars. Often obese, really unflattering hair and clothes, just really letting themselves go.

Is it culturally wrong to want to look good as you get older in some cultures? (Yes, I know this is a generalisation, I know there must be glam Asian/Eastern European/ mums and grans, but not many where I live, which is why I ask the question).

bushbabyblues Fri 28-Jun-13 11:01:05

You notice the same thing in Italy/ Spain/ Greece too.

I hope this isn't going to descend into a bunfight, I'm just intrigued about the cultural implications.

LadyLapsang Fri 28-Jun-13 11:06:25

I'm in my early 50s and am more likely to wear jeans (out of work) than three decades ago. I do find it's worth finding good quality ones that fit and flatter - MiH or Hudson suit me. Don't think I would wear a hoody out although I have borrowed a lovely light grey merino one from my DS at home - well I did buy it for him!

prettybird Fri 28-Jun-13 11:20:55

I'm 52 and am currently growing my hair smile - now just below my shoulders. Only problem with getting older is that it seems to take longer to grow sad so I may end up cutting it again

Still have really thick (but fine) hair with only the odd grey hair which you'd be hard pushed to spot.

missbopeep Fri 28-Jun-13 12:02:38

I am the youngest ( hey!) in my small close- and all the other women wear jeans on a Saturday and most days of the week. They are mid 60s, I am 50s but told I look younger smile
In fact I don't know anyone of any age who doesn't wear jeans some of the time. I have an elderly friend aged around 85 and her 'uniform' was dark wash straight leg jeans, a nice merino or cashmere jumper, pearls and flat black chelsea boots. And she is very slim and terribly middle class!

IME the women who look fuddy duddy at 50 most probably looked the same at 20 and 30. Women who enjoy clothes and have a youthful approach ( which is not the same as mutton) make the best of themselves right up to the day they die. Other women just can't be bothered and never have been.

Mandy2003 Fri 28-Jun-13 12:21:57

My friend is 84 and regularly turns up where we volunteer together in jeans, as above. She will not ever wear anything beige, or courtelle knitted!

50shadesofmaybe you're welcome to come clubbing any time - so get out those disco pants (perhaps I should clarify that these are salsa clubs - not drum and bass or anything - so there is a wider age range. Still they're proper nightclubs that don't close till 3.30am and with lots of snogging in dark cornerssmile )

missbobeep I think you're right that a lot of the women who look frumpy in their 50s also looked frumpy in their 20s. I remember a girl at school who dressed middle aged at 17.

polyhymnia Fri 28-Jun-13 13:26:00

Don't agree with bushbabys generalisation about Italy. - I wonder how well she knows the place. I go to Milan and Rome quite a lot and certainly see no shortage of stylish and groomed women over 50!

NUFC69 Fri 28-Jun-13 14:05:29

I am mid 60s and was just discussing with my DH whether or not I should buy some jeans now I have lost over three and a half stone. The concensus was I would probably be ok when I am a size 14 (16 atm) - so it's been lovely to read all these positive comments about older women in jeans. I am also a member of Gransnet and I think you will find, if you asked this question there, that most of the GMs do, in fact, wear jeans.

mellicauli Fri 28-Jun-13 16:55:19

Round here I don't tend to see young people (ie under 25) wearing jeans but everyone else does.

Kaekae Fri 28-Jun-13 17:32:52

Too old? Not at all. My mother is 53 and wears really trendy jeans and looks great. Helps that she still has a good figure.

orangeandemons Fri 28-Jun-13 17:49:01

I'm a teacher. All my 6th form wear jeans.....

marriedinwhiteagain Sat 29-Jun-13 08:38:13

I'm 53 and today I will wear slate blue linen trousers, a slate grey and white long t-shirt and a White Stuff cardigan. Could easily wear my jeans but want to dirty out the linen trousers. 53 is not old. My mum is 78 btw and the last time I saw her she had on black leather trousers and patent platform peep toe shoes with a cream new romantic silk blouse. Aspires to get trendier the older I get.

Clayhanger Sat 29-Jun-13 09:28:15

49 and still wear jeans a lot but have started wearing them with good shirts and little nipped-in jackets - can even get away with that at work as well as weekends. Shoes/brogues rather than comfy Converse now as they automatically make me feel smarter.

Jeans cuts change a lot though - I can still get into the bootcuts of a decade ago and am saving them for when they're back in fashion ahem. Classic skinnies are best now- I can't carry off the boyfriend look!

VenusSurprising Sun 30-Jun-13 16:03:25

Clay hanger, that's it, a little jacket which nips you in, and smartness it up.
I wear jeans and a jacket to work, with heeled boots, and can mix it up with a shirt or top, and scarves.
I work pt so it's suitable for the other things I do as well.

I think the thing about not looking scruffy as you get older is ecomonic: I find that older people can be written off as they may not have the spending power they had when working.

Becoming economically invisible isn't something working women will tolerate now. But in the past it was quite commonplace, I think?

The women who have never had financial independence seem to fall prey to it, and maybe that's why they seem to let themselves go - whatever that means! (Some might say it's wearing purple)

Maybe that's where the older generations get these (silly) rules from?

Feeling jealous of your daughters is very foolish: of course they are younger, and ergo, in our culture, more attractive.
It's time to find a sense of self worth not determined by 'attractiveness to men'.
Not an easy pill to swallow though if you've always seen and valued yourself as a sexpot.

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