If you could go back in time and...................

(105 Posts)
BerryBlast Mon 17-Jun-13 16:01:49

give the 14 year old you one piece of beauty advice what would it be ?

Mine would be - always use a moisturiser with a SPF.

Told this little gem to my DD at the weekend and I thought there's got to be some other ones I'm missing and thought "I know who to ask".... over to you now S and B Ladies smile

Don't pluck your eyebrows to tadpoles

Move heaven and earth to find a bra that fits you.

MickeyMouseHasGrownUpACow Mon 17-Jun-13 16:38:29

You're not freakishly ugly as you imagine! Actually you look pretty good.
Enjoy it!

Naebother Mon 17-Jun-13 16:39:36

Perms. Just say no.

Sun In does not give you blonde highlights - it turns it a strange shade of orange similar to that of an Orangutan - and no sitting in the sun some more does not remedy the Orangutany orangeness.

Transculent powder is not see through and will still make you look like a ghost especially with your skin tone.

There are more shades of lipstick out there apart from Rimmel's Black Cherry and Heather Shimmer.

If you wait a few years you will one day be able to buy foundation that exactly matches your skintone - instead of that unearthly light pink glow you have.

Wash in /Wash out colour DOES NOT LAST MORE THAN ONE WASH let alone 7

Don't worry about your acne or scarring it fades with time - then you will get freckles.

It is not a good look to shave your eyebrows despite what Just17 magazine say, neither is it a good look to wear a darker lipliner ( by about 10 shades) from your Lippy

Ooops got a bit excited there - you said "one" If I had to choose it would be the lipstick thing - I dont even really suit lipstick more lipgloss etc

If we assume the bra thing is more style than beauty, then the one piece of beauty advice I intend to pass on to DD is 'don't shave anything you're not prepared to spend the rest of your life shaving'.

KikeriFreedomCastle Mon 17-Jun-13 16:55:15

Not to cut my hair. It's taken years to grow back, obviously I wouldn't want it below waist as it was, but still.

I'd also be able to tell self about using nail oil, and how to do best home pedicure (after years of salon pedicures), and which blusher shade best to use.

Also not to lighten my hair and keep it my more natural mid/light blonde I've reverted back to.

KikeriFreedomCastle Mon 17-Jun-13 16:55:47

I too couldn't stick to just one piece of advice!

shopafrolic Mon 17-Jun-13 16:55:50

Your hands will age you more than your face - look after them.

Halfling Mon 17-Jun-13 17:03:18

Like yourself a little more.

You don't realise it now, but in a few years, you will look back at your pictures and marvel at how fresh faced and lovely you were.

AmberSocks Mon 17-Jun-13 17:03:27

dont shave your eyebrows!

Its ok to be white!

Stop with the hair gel!

Get a decent bra!

AmberSocks Mon 17-Jun-13 17:04:11

Oh and OP i disagree witht he wearing spf all the time,it blocks vit d and the chemicals in spf cause cancer themselves,but thats a whole other thread!

WandaDoff Mon 17-Jun-13 17:05:54

You are not fat.

shopafrolic Mon 17-Jun-13 17:07:35

Can I give myself another piece of advice?
Don't over pluck your eyebrows.

WandaDoff Mon 17-Jun-13 17:08:53

Sorry fat fingers blush

Stop hiding away behind your hair & baggy clothes. Oh & moisturise, & give up smoking.

cardamomginger Mon 17-Jun-13 17:11:14

Enjoy your figure.

Learn to blow dry and style your hair (never did and have always been crap at it - GHDs are the only thing I can do).

Get into good skincare routine early.

If you're going to insist on being a goth, at least have some fun at the same time, and really think twice about dying your hair black and purple.

TallulahBetty Mon 17-Jun-13 17:17:14

Don't be too trigger-happy with those tweezers. One day you WILL want thick eyebrows!!

MrsPennyapple Mon 17-Jun-13 17:19:05

Do NOT brush your (very curly) hair.

Badvoc Mon 17-Jun-13 17:20:01

No perms.
No Shaving of legs.
Decent bra.
Use a good soap to wash your face.
Ditto food shampoo.

MrsDeVere Mon 17-Jun-13 17:21:56

Don't keep waiting for your parent to do their job, go to the dentist yourself.

BerryBlast Mon 17-Jun-13 17:26:36

Good one about the eyebrows ! I wish I'd have known that at 14 (in the late 70's) I would now not have sparse wispy bits of hair above my eyes, masquerading as eyebrows blush

Don't perm your hair (and esecially don't let your mother give you a home perm)

Vonnegut Mon 17-Jun-13 17:32:04

Look after your teeth and visit a dentist regularly (oh, how I wish this had been drummed into me more by my parents...)

- V

Buy a few more clothes and enjoy them more - including dresses smile

shopafrolic Mon 17-Jun-13 17:38:58

Get your colours done - you'll save yourself ££££ on clothing mistakes

MarshaBrady Mon 17-Jun-13 17:39:21

Don't put layers in your hair.

Lavenderhoney Mon 17-Jun-13 17:43:35

Do not allow your mother to dictate your hair. Endless perms because " its easy to manage" are not a good look.

ladymontdore Mon 17-Jun-13 17:48:11

You look good! Be braver about what you wear, have fun with it! Try not to be 16/17 during the era of 'grunge'.

Brodicea Mon 17-Jun-13 17:52:36

You're not freakishly hairy so bare those arms!

DorisShutt Mon 17-Jun-13 18:04:12

Embrace your curly hair. You look a right numpty doing what you're doing with your hair to avoid it!

Don't wait until the last moment to sort out your eczema, dermatitis and milia spots. The sooner, the better.

Don't let anyone except a hairdresser cut your hair.
Don't cut it short without thinning it and having a pair of straighteners.
Don't brush it and gel it so it's plastered to your scalp.
Don't scratch. You will give yourself scars.
Wearing the same hoodie, day in, day out for 2 years even in summer-it's not a good look.
Wear a dress.
Do more exercise other than just walking.
Don't over pluck eyebrows, they will not grow back properly!

Don't let people's negative comments get you down about how you look.

GinOnTwoWheels Mon 17-Jun-13 19:10:51

YY to the SPF moisturiser every day. Although I should have put it on my hands as well as they are at least 15 years older than my face.

Howeve, one downside to using SPF facecream is that you end up having lots of very boring conversations when you turn 40 about 'not looking it' and you have to stop yourself thinking 'well you look a lot older than me, so you must be in your late 40s', only to find out that said person is about 32 blush.

Not aimed at the 14 YO me, but certainly for today's teenagers:

Go for quality not quantity with clothes - one or two nice quality items are better than a pile of tat from Primark.

Think a hundred times twice before having tattoos anywhere visible. I dread to think what all the teenagers/early 20s are going to do with all the hand and calf tattoos when they decide they want to work in a bank or other staid institution. Or is this not a problem anymore - I see enough of them on young shop assistants to think they must be mainstream and not looked down upon by conventional employers?

SoYo Mon 17-Jun-13 19:30:25

smellylittleorange I suspect we must be about the same age as I agree with all of those....especially Heather Shimmer, it was all any of us ever wore in my home town, so much so that it was rare for Boots to have any in stock!!!

SoYo Mon 17-Jun-13 19:34:52

Listen to your Mum about shaving vs waxing and a proper skin are regime, she really does know what she's talking about. Don't be too sad about your small boobs and freakishly long and skinny legs, you'll be glad of both in a few years when both stay looking young!

Lambzig Mon 17-Jun-13 19:36:59

Treat the skin on your neck and décolletage the same way you treat the skin on your face.

Sunscreen, sunscreen, sunscreen.

TSSDNCOP Mon 17-Jun-13 19:47:15

Moisturise: face, neck, chest, hands and legs

Pay as much for a haircut as you can possibly afford.

Drink lots of water.

Go to the dentist.

Learn to like exercise. By the time you have to do it your bingo wings are already a whisker away.

Smile. It takes years off you.

Repeatedlydoingthetwist Mon 17-Jun-13 19:51:17

DO NOT start using GHD's, especially with no heat protection. You will completely ruin your hair, and will end up having to have it cut shorter and shorter until it ends up looking ludicrous. Embrace the curls!!!

NomDeOrdinateur Mon 17-Jun-13 20:10:02

All your face needs is coconut oil (cleanser and night moisturiser), warm water and a muslin cloth.

Use Avene for day moisturiser, sun cream etc - you'll waste a fortune trying to find cheaper products which your skin will tolerate.

Wear your retainer.

Don't touch your face.

Get a fringe.

sickofsocalledexperts Mon 17-Jun-13 20:14:11

Don't bother with diets, you are the perfect size. Forget about calories till you are 40. Exercise is good though

BabCNesbitt Mon 17-Jun-13 20:20:04

You look much better than you think you do. And that little bulge below your belly button is internal organs, not fat!

And ffs, DON'T take up smoking!

Sprite21 Mon 17-Jun-13 20:21:15

Go on the pill not because you're sexually active but because it will clear up your skin miraculously in a way that no amount of gels, creams or soaps ever could.
Wish I hadn't waited until I was 19 to discover this.

STAY OUT OF THE SUN ........... Or use a really high factor sunscreen. I used to bake myself and now my face is very wrinkly as a result. Not to mention the dangers of skin cancer

sickofsocalledexperts Mon 17-Jun-13 20:24:48

Oh God yes, don't have that first fag. Or, if you do, don't have the 2nd and 3rd, even though they make you feel sick, because you think you look cool or grown-up. By that 3rd one, you are a slave to nicotine and endlessly trying to give up - until one day someone you love dies of lung cancer, and you realise the cigs weren't your friends after all, and finally give up.

DTisMYdoctor Mon 17-Jun-13 20:32:53

Look after your body - exercise, eat well, don't smoke. don't wait until your in your late 30's for it to dawn on you that everyone else cottoned onto these things a long time ago

Oh, and you can't fight your genes. Love what you do have, don't waste time wishing for longer legs, straighter hips etc.

JazzDalek Mon 17-Jun-13 20:40:58

Swallow your silly teenage vanity and accept those NHS braces

Your legs are fine, don't hide them under baggy trousers for years

Don't smoke, you DON'T look cool and French eyeroll

Don't buy those brutal metal-plate hair straighteners ffs


DeathByTray Mon 17-Jun-13 20:42:24

Less is more

sickofsocalledexperts Mon 17-Jun-13 20:45:35

I can remember vividly at 14 thinking any weight over 9 stone was obese! Then at 30 I thought going over 10 stone was the end. Then at 40, I thought anything over 11 stone would be the limit. Ha ha ha says my 50 year old self - enjoy 9 stone and eat chocolate bars!

YoniTime Mon 17-Jun-13 20:54:57

- Plan you wardrobe and think about what would go with what instead of buying whatever looks cool.

- EAT. Proper nutrition is super important. It's important for both mind and body.

Don't waste your energy feeling jealous of pretty girls. Just take some time to figure out how to apply makeup and style your hair properly, rather than waiting until your 20s and still floundering with foundation. Don't be afraid to experiment either - making mistakes with your makeup when you're young will not turn you into a tramp. Nor will it turn you into one of those silly girls who wears makeup to field hockey practice. You can still be you.

Learn to run. Besides keeping you fit, it will actually make your sports/hayfever-induced asthma better, and with time, you'll use your inhalers less. It will be easier if you start this now, because you will never be this light or this energetic again. And being able to run for 40 minutes without feeling exhausted would have made you a much better field hockey player - it would have boosted your confidence in a way that your academics and music, which came easily to you, could not have.

greyvix Mon 17-Jun-13 22:02:09

Perming your hair as a teenager is an error, but everyone makes mistakes. To do it again at 24 is stupidity.
Celebrate your youthful skin- you look much better than you think.
And really, 9 stone is NOT fat.

HesterShaw Mon 17-Jun-13 22:02:16

Make the most of your fresh dewy lovely skin and don't try and hide your freckles.


Showtime Mon 17-Jun-13 23:12:36

It's worth saving up to have a good haircut at least twice a year, whatever length.
Take care of your feet - it's not worth the pain of badly-fitting shoes or badly-cut toenails.
Extend moisturiser down neck, not face only.
Wash hands and use handcream after using nail-polish remover, it's worse for nails than any polish.

greencolorpack Mon 17-Jun-13 23:18:31

I could say don't wear stupid stripey jumpers, but I would give that advice to myself today and I still wouldn't listen.

memphis83 Mon 17-Jun-13 23:20:45

Listen to your mum whem she told you to moisturise everyday, she is 27 years older me and my forehead resembles a ball sack and she is almost wrinkle free.

Have a fixed brace and don't listen to all the girls at schools pisstaking, 15 years later I regret it so much.

Aniseeda Mon 17-Jun-13 23:26:35

Stop eating spam fritters, chips and beans every day in the school canteen grin

libertychick Mon 17-Jun-13 23:56:53

Eat well and do some exercise

MildlyMiserable Tue 18-Jun-13 00:05:20

Don't smoke
Go to the dentist regularly
Learn to take compliments rather than rebuff them - it's good for the soul!

Stop dressing like a boy - your body is beautiful and it's only a couple of years before dd cones along and wrecks your supple non stretch marked flesh. Also, wash more please - you stink, your hair is greasy not 'shiny' and i don't want to wait until i'm 16 to realise these things please, sweetheart, you're bullied for a reason x

AudrinaAdare Tue 18-Jun-13 00:10:43

God yes, FFS don't start smoking.
And don't shy away from photographs. You will never look better than this!

MiauMau Tue 18-Jun-13 04:52:58

Do not squeeze your spots and blackheads, they will come back to haunt you.

Bexicles Tue 18-Jun-13 07:14:20

Stop starving yourself, you are too thin.
One day you will have beautiful skin, stop stressing over a couple of spots.

Eliza22 Tue 18-Jun-13 08:15:16

Take moisturiser/SPF down to the neck and décolleté.

wink You're welcome.

Kiwiinkits Tue 18-Jun-13 09:40:48

That hair dye looks terrible (never trust a small-town hairdresser).

And, you are GORGEOUS! Enjoy it while it lasts!

vladthedisorganised Tue 18-Jun-13 11:02:39

One size does not fit all. Repeat, one size does not fit all.
You are not fat.
You're likely to find the makeup you're after in Camden smile

LadyBigtoes Tue 18-Jun-13 11:04:21

Get a short fringe/mohican/asymmetric bob if you want one, don't be so scared.

Stop worrying now about the fact that girly shoes never fit you - they never will, never mind, it affects precisely nothing.

Don't pick your spots (and send a message to your 43-year-old self telling HER not to pick her spots! confused)

LadyBigtoes Tue 18-Jun-13 11:05:20

Oh and you can get special make-up for covering up acne. Yes, genius isn't it! If I don't tell you this now you won't realise it until you're 20!

stickygingerbread Tue 18-Jun-13 11:10:30

don't make a habit of wrinkling your brow, squinting, grimacing or any type of face scrunching. those are the places that wrinkle first. smiling and laughing is of course worth it.

healthy diet including healthy fats makes a huge difference.

HaveAGoodDay Tue 18-Jun-13 11:22:59

Never get a tattoo on your arm.

If I could have a second it would be never get your hair cut short or colour it as much.

lurkingfromhome Tue 18-Jun-13 11:42:47

Do NOT pick your spots, young lady. You will be left with scarring that will make you deeply regret it.

And don't get sunburnt either, you fool.

AirMax1 Tue 18-Jun-13 12:02:25

Step away from the hair straighteners. Limit how often you use a hair dryer.

Don't pluck your eyebrows. Threading is the way forward.

Use an SPF everyday.

Immac (Veet, whatever we're calling it these days) burns.

AirMax1 Tue 18-Jun-13 12:04:15

Oh, and most importantly: 'feminine hygiene products' were created by the devil. Avoid. Unless you want to suffer years of chemical cystitis.

ShotgunNotDoingThePans Tue 18-Jun-13 12:17:45

Ignore your cowbag sister when she pokes your thighs and tells you they're fat - you're 5'7'' and 81/2 stones ffs!

But do learn to run and exercise regularly, and keep it up no matter what stage of life you're at - you don't know it yet but you have scoliosis which will cause you years of pain after having children.
Being fit and strong and having good posture might avoid a lot of that.

And you won't be struggling to start a running regime aged 50 when it might be too late!

LaQueen Tue 18-Jun-13 12:28:38

Never, ever, ever put your face in the sun...ever.

My Mum gave me this invaluable advice when I was only 15, and I have always followed it. Back in the day, my girlfriends were cooking themselves, and happily burned their faces bright red to get a good tan...but I always wore sun-block on my face, and wore a hat when on holiday...and even day2day in the UK my foundation has always been factor 15.

The result is that at nearly 43 I don't have a single wrinkle/line yet...and often get mistaken for someone still in their mid 30s smile

lizzypuffs Tue 18-Jun-13 12:35:19

Perms. Just say no.

LaQueen Tue 18-Jun-13 12:35:48

Oh, and for goodness sake sort your eyebrows out. Don't wait until you're nearly 28 to have neatly groomed eyebrows. Your eyebrows are quick thick, and they need professional shaping - there, look see what a difference? They open up your eyes and frame your face smile

And...FFS...stop wearing heavy jeans, DM boots and big, sloppy jumpers...you're 5ft 7, weigh 9 stone and have a body to die for ...stop deliberately hiding it, just to prove that you're not a bimbo, and show you want to be taken seriously as a literature student.

persimmon Tue 18-Jun-13 13:37:38

Don't wash your face morning and night - it just aggravates the oil glands and gives you worse zits.

LaGuardia Tue 18-Jun-13 14:17:55

You are so pretty so smile more.

OliviaMMumsnet (MNHQ) Tue 18-Jun-13 14:19:43

Don't shave your legs
I am sure I wouldn't have to do it now - hairs on my thighs are uber blonde and not long

Cocodale Tue 18-Jun-13 14:22:53

Deal with facial hair as soon as possible, wish Id had the means to do that earlier.

curryeater Tue 18-Jun-13 14:24:31

Don't diet. It never ends. 8.5 stone is fine.

Jelly15 Tue 18-Jun-13 14:26:06

Stay, or get to and stay in a healthy weight range and never yo yo diet, your skin won't snap back when you are 40 and lose weight, also learn to love excercise.

YoniTime Tue 18-Jun-13 14:29:48

With the don't shave your legs message, do you mean "go natural" or remove the hair in some other way?

Lonelynessie Tue 18-Jun-13 14:31:50

Do not cut a fringe in, just back away from the scissors shock

BerryBlast Tue 18-Jun-13 14:41:57

LaQueen we had a windbreak that was silver on the one side and I would sunbathe with that facing me, so to reflect the sun on to my face, which was coated in oil (baby oil blush ). If you've seen the film "Something About Mary" you'll know what I mean.

I wish I had learnt to sleep on my back and not on my side - with one side of my face "squished" into the pillow. This has resulted in one side of my face, especially around the eye, being a lot more creased that the other side !

OliviaMMumsnet (MNHQ) Tue 18-Jun-13 15:04:23

I may have gone natural?
I dunno
But the hairs that are there now are nothing like the ones before.

YoniTime Tue 18-Jun-13 15:12:01

I thought the darkening hair was an age thing!

NoGoatsToe Tue 18-Jun-13 15:47:11

Never start shaving your legs - if you start waxing/epilating the hair will get finer and you won't feel like an ape anymore. Stop worrying about your hairy arms ... Nobody notices.
Ignore your brother ... You do not have a fat arse so you don't need to wear long jumpers all the time.
Don't try to save money by getting your hair permed at the same place your Nan goes. And don't cut your long hair off just to piss your mum off.
Oh... And please go to university instead of getting married at 18!

My 14 year old self would be disgusted at the boring conformist I have become. I was planning to be a goth forever.

dontyouwantmebaby Tue 18-Jun-13 16:00:53

My beauty advice would be to: wear what you like and feel comfortable with and don't stress about what other people think. Be yourself and don't feel you have to conform.

(however if you want to conform, that's fine too) smile

I'd also say remember you are young enough to get away with anything, ANYTHING! outrageous colours/glitters/metallics that (on me anyway) doesn't quite look right when you get to forty something. wink

AKiss same here!

Get your bra properly fitted, girl, instead of just jigging around in the changing room.

However, your plucked out eyebrows will return (and a better shape), and well done for persisting with the GP to sort out your acne. By 25 you'll have given up daily foundation.

ShotgunNotDoingThePans Tue 18-Jun-13 17:21:36

Bra size - don't assume that your boobs getting bigger = a bigger band size. Don't be shy and get measured! You are a 30g not a 36c.

And don't wear your aunty's hand-me-down bras.

MiauMau Tue 18-Jun-13 18:28:42

Stop worrying about what other people think of you, being different is good and they are as insecure as you.

Fillyjonk75 Tue 18-Jun-13 20:27:15

I think the main message would be to tell my teenage self I was not fat but just to get a decent sports bra and trainers and start running earlier than 21 and how to do it. Also to chill the fuck out. Boys do like you.

Actually my mum said most of these things, my dad tried to take me running so it would probably have made not one jot of difference!

My mum took me to a pamper evening at 13 and from then on I was pretty hot on the old cleanse, tone and moisturise.

Jux Tue 18-Jun-13 20:42:42

To my 14 yo self - actually you're pretty bloody lovely as you are so believe in yourself (and you're not fat either).

That'll do.

I wouldn't have believed me though grin

Amazinggg Tue 18-Jun-13 20:56:00

You are gorgeous, really genuinely so. You don't attract male attention because of your brain, you fool, they don't give a shite about that. So look after yourself and don't sleep with the first prick who compliments you.

And please be gentle to your skin, keep it clean, wash and moisturise twice a day and go to a doctor for harsh drugs to get rid of the acne. It will revolutionise how you see yourself.

And just... Dunno. Believe you're worth it, or summat.

@ smellylittleorange <<There are more shades of lipstick out there apart from Rimmel's Black Cherry and Heather Shimmer.>> Ha ha! that really takes me back - I can picture both of those in fact I think I may still have the Heather Shimmer somewhere

Did you have the Boots 17 green and mauve eyeshadows too?

WinkyWinkola Tue 18-Jun-13 22:23:08

Sun block always on the face, throat and backs of hands. Then fake tan. Factor 30 for the rest.

Try to forget what you look like. Mascara and lip gloss is really enough for youth.

Keep everything simple. Keep some things to the imagination. There is no rush.

Then enjoy yourself and forget how you look.

KarlaPilkington Wed 19-Jun-13 03:20:58

Please can I do more than one:

1) The only way to have nice, shiny, healthy hair is to leave it alone. Don't use heat tongs, dryers or irons. Use lots of oil on your hair.

2) Look after your teeth and it's OK to have cosmetic dentistry if it's subtle. I think a nice smile is worth a million pounds spent on makeup.

3) Look after your skin. Stay out of the sun, use eye cream and SPF. Don't sun bathe. It's ruins your skin.

4) Only pluck your eyebrows in the middle and a bit under the outer edge to tidy up. Liza Eldridge is right about not plucking. Thin, non existent eyebrows are the quickest way to look 10 years older once you hit 40.

5) Don't waste loads of money on fashion and makeup. Instead spend that money on improving what's under all that. Go to the gym, have facials and look after your health.

6) Don't reinvent yourself, be grateful for what you have and be the best version of yourself, not what you think is in fashion or how everyone else looks. One of the saddest things I have ever seen is a friend of mine reinvent herself. At 16 she was a stunning, natural beauty. She looked like a young Rita Hayworth. She didn't like having browny red hair so dyed it platinum, went on a sun bed for the next 20 years and wears loads of makeup.

MiauMau Wed 19-Jun-13 04:51:14

I wish that I could go back in time and hug my 14 year old self and tell her (me?) that everything was going to be alright

Scarletohello Wed 19-Jun-13 16:50:05

Get your colours done ( black doesn't suit you and it doesn't make you look slim either )

Accept that you have wavy frizzy hair, huge boobs and find ways to work with them

Oh, and as a former brunette ( now blonde due to having grey hair), its true, blondes DO have more fun...!

Scarletohello Wed 19-Jun-13 16:53:38

Oh and one more... Don't worry that you don't go brown, stay out of the sun and when u r 47, you'll look ten years younger than all those bronzed sun worshippers!!

ProfessorDent Thu 20-Jun-13 16:03:49

Use antibiotics like Minocin to get rid of acne rather than faffing about with different creams and health tips forever. Just go to the doctor and get him prescribe it. Don't just wait for acne to fade away in time...

Yes, sunlight helps with zits but do make sure you use a water-based suncream if you want to avoid lobster looks.

Pick clothes that match your colouring, in my case sort of stone coloured, khaki stuff, not blues or reds.

MyDaydream Thu 20-Jun-13 16:11:41

Don't die your hair black and watch out, grandma becomes a bit of a feeder when she retires.

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