can you tell by looking at a face what's wrong with it and what needs done to make it look better again?

(68 Posts)
Booyhoo Fri 17-May-13 20:05:46

sorry for shit title. i just couldn't think how to phrase it any better.

what i'm asking is if i posted a photo of myself 5 years ago and one now would you be able to tell me what has gone wrong and how i get back (if possible) to how it looked before? i know i haven't been looking after my skin or health at all in the last 4ish years but i dont have a clue how to get back to the way i used to look. i sent a photo of myself to my friend this morning (showing her my lawnmower haircut) and i was really gutted with how much i've changed.

so if i posted photos could anyone advise based on just looking?

Helpyourself Fri 17-May-13 20:11:14

I'll get this in before you post pictures- if you drink it's very ageing. Smoking too, but that tends to create wrinkles rather than change your face shape iyswim. .

Mamafratelli Fri 17-May-13 20:15:46

I'm sure we could tell you what is different and suggest remedies. Also I'm sure it's not as bad as you think smile

MrsLettuce Fri 17-May-13 20:19:14

I'm sure we could help, yes smile

snowmummy Fri 17-May-13 20:19:52

Can't see any photos. Post them and let us have a look.

Booyhoo Fri 17-May-13 20:20:15

i hardly drink at all now. maybe a few west coast coolers every few months, whereas back then i was binge drinking every weekend blush. i also haven't smoked in the last 4 years- before that was a weekend smoker.

ok im going to be brave and upload the photos. hopefully wont take long.

Help you mean drink at all ?

OP I can't see your face but your puppy is sooooo gorgeous!

RonaldMcDonald Fri 17-May-13 20:31:59

you have a nice face

hair might be a bit dark though...i think that as we get older our skin tone changes and our hair could do with being in someway correspondingly lighter
not blonde etc but maybe not quite so all black?
I think it's aging you

Mamafratelli Fri 17-May-13 20:32:54

Right I can see your pics and you look lovely on both. I think you have more makeup on the first photo and your fringe is different but you don't have lots of lines. Stop worrying and buy a new foundation grin

Booyhoo Fri 17-May-13 20:33:20

ok have photos up. the short hair is 5 years ago. the other two are today and a few months ago.

Booyhoo Fri 17-May-13 20:35:02


i've just put more of that dark brown in my hair last night!

namechangea Fri 17-May-13 20:35:57

It's not often I say this but loved your hair shorter and with the fringe.

If I wasn't so lazy (and damn time pressed) I'd cut mine. I have long hair and wear it tied back all the time which I think can be ageing.

You're still gorgeous you moo. You seem to be wearing more make up in the old one. It makes your nose look different.

Oh and yes to the bob and fringe! The people that would love to be able to pull that off... envy

Gosh you're pretty. In all the photos.

Booyhoo Fri 17-May-13 20:41:25

oh namechange dont encourage me! i've been toying with the idea of going short again based on that photo! hmm. have an appointment for cut and blow dry tomorrow! could be dangerous.

ok so you dont think i look haggard now? i can see a change but cant pinpoint it. bags under eyes maybe?

any remedies for that?

Booyhoo Fri 17-May-13 20:42:36

oh freddie! i already know you fancy me wink

Helpyourself Fri 17-May-13 20:42:40

Silly bint! You're lovely in all the photos! The lighting is better, 'kinder' in the short hair photo, and you don't look smoke and drink pickled in any of them.

The short hair is lovely, but... I got my hair cut into a bob after having it to my bra strap and I hate it probably because I'm old but it is a pain. I have to wash it and straighten it and BBH it every day because otherwise it looks crap. At least with it longer I could put it up.

<snogs Booyhoo>

LemonPeculiarJones Fri 17-May-13 20:46:24

Hmm ok, in the earlier picture you have a light sun tan, which suits you.

Also, your hair is shorter and more of a style, which again takes years off. It has more shine (possibly due to the flash) and seems a little lighter. It suits you around the jawline, your jaw is a lovely feature smile

The earlier pic has more colour - warm skin, pinkish lips - whereas the recent pics look like you live in monochrome!

So I would say:

Hair cut shorter to frame your jawline, more height on crown

Lighten the colour, shine conditioning treatments

A bit of that lightly-tanning moisturiser to build up a gradual tan

Mild glycolic treatments to enliven skin maybe? Your skin looks good but might help

Wear brighter colours, introduce a bit of subtle colour to your lips/cheeks, something fresh and pinkish rather than glam

Avoid wearing too much eyeliner under the eyes, can drag the face down (definitely watch Lisa Eldridge's videos on her website, they're fab, inspiring & v soothing)

You don't have much work to do! Sleep and fun will have the biggest effect. You look more relaxed in the earlier pic, wide-eyed, energised. That counts for a lot.

mewkins Fri 17-May-13 20:49:00

You don't look haggard at all! Natural ageing means your brows and jowls start to drop but that's totally normal and there's only a slight nod to that (and only if you compare the pics v. Closely, not if you just looked at the recent pics). I think the side parting suits your face in the old pic, I like the short bob too.
Agree with the person up there who said you look more 'done' in the old one so it's not really a fair comparison.
Nothing to worry about at all!

ProphetOfDoom Fri 17-May-13 20:51:18

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Booyhoo Fri 17-May-13 20:51:49

i do live in monochrome! it's safe you see. navy, black and grey everyday.

the last 4 years have been so stressful and i finally feel ready to get back to the me i was before which is why i'm asking for help. so yes i probably do look more energised in the earlier one. and yes to needing more sleep.

ok.lisa eldritch. pink and fresh make-up. brighter clothes. shorter, lighter hair (can sort the short tomorrow if i'm brave enough! shock) no heavy eye make up. light tan.

Booyhoo Fri 17-May-13 20:53:59

thank you all!! you have really helped.

you might see me around s&b a bit more often til i get this sorted.

Helpyourself Fri 17-May-13 20:58:50

mermaid it's a theory. Certainly Mormons age very well and there is a certain puffiness associated with drinking more than the odd glass regularly.

LemonPeculiarJones Fri 17-May-13 20:59:33

Aw sorry you've had a tough four years Booyhoo

Grand that you're ready to get back to you - a bit of a make-over, some pampering, frivolity and colour therapy can really help lift the spirits smile

I've got primrose yellow nails this week. Cheers me right up.

I think a lot of it is down to better lighting in the earlier photo

SundaySimmons Fri 17-May-13 21:01:43

None of us look the same as we did five years ago! Well maybe Madonna!

Your hair is dragging your face down. Either softer layers around the face or shorter and a soft fringe.

You have very good features and bone structure. A bit of warmth to your face with a tinted moisturiser or a foundation, blusher and a soft colour on your lips like a tinted balm. Definately not a heavy lipstick. You have lovely eyes and a bit of mascara and eyeliner for definition if you really feel you must.

If you feel you look crap you will look crap as stress and unhappiness shows on how face no matter who much we try and hide our feelings. You are good looking, so hold your head up high and smile often.

Booyhoo Fri 17-May-13 21:02:03

it was better lighting in that photo but i do know myself that my skin and face seems to have changed and not for the better in teh last few years. i notice it when doing my make-up and not feeling happy with the result because i notice puffier bits and eye bags that never used to be there.

happybubblebrain Fri 17-May-13 21:02:53

I think you look better now, not that different from 5 years ago, but you look more intelligent and sophisticated now. I prefer your hair longer.

I agree with the others that a slightly lighter hair colour and a slight suntan would make you look even better, but you look great so don't worry, you really don't need to change anything.

Booyhoo Fri 17-May-13 21:03:41

i think i'm going to go for the chop tomorrow. i might as well, since it's already booked.

NomDeOrdinateur Fri 17-May-13 21:18:09

You look nice in all of the photos, but I have a few suggestions that could help you to look your best:

1) Hair: your parting is too far to the side in the most recent photo - it draws attention away from your nicest features. Also, you really suited the shorter hair and the fringe - I agree with other posters that a similar style would be more flattering than your current one. Finally, maybe lighten your hair a tad if it's darker - I can't tell if it's just the lighting, as digital cameras do give everything very stark colouring.

2) Make-up: eyeliner is too thick and too dark. Try a steely grey or an aubergine (Avon Supershock Pencil in Blackberry would probably look lovely on you, and is about £2 on ebay) - apply thinly with a sharp pencil, then smudge slightly with a lip brush. The pinky blusher and lipstick in the first photo really suit you - maybe try a Bourjois pink blusher and a pink Revlon Lip Butter? Blusher makes a big difference, IME. I also agree with the others that you suit a sun-kissed look, so maybe consider gradual tanner/BB cream/"warm" toned foundation. A brush for foundation makes a huge difference to the finish - I recommend the Real Techniques Expert Face Brush, it makes my skin look airbrushed even with cheap, low-ish coverage foundation.

3) If possible, increase your water intake, make-up free time, and get the best sleep that you can. Exercise that raises your heart rate is also great for your skin's appearance - maybe try 30 Day Shred on DVD? It's also worth making sure that your cleansing products are as gentle as possible - I use grapeseed oil to remove make-up and honey (cheap, squeezy bottle) to cleanse my face, and it's improved the evenness and texture of my skin a lot. The Glycolic Night Treatment from Bravura London is also great if it suits your skin, but you do need sunscreen every day if you're using it.

Hope that helps!

NomDeOrdinateur Fri 17-May-13 21:20:37

Also, caffeine and sleeping on your front can make your face look puffy - do either of those apply? (Not that your face looks puffy to me, but you mentioned it.)

And a blob of this in MY my foundation makes a big difference to how healthy my skin looks - might be worth a shot?

NomDeOrdinateur Fri 17-May-13 21:22:17

(Oooh-er, "MY my foundation"...? Don't know what happened there!)

Nagoo Fri 17-May-13 21:26:17

Your eyebrows were more groomed in the 'before' picture.

defineme Fri 17-May-13 21:26:33

I have photo from last August -I look 10 years younger, but that's the tan, the fact I put leave in conditioner on every day when I'm in the sun, and I was very happy as on holiday!
You're just knackered and comparing yourself to a very flattering photo. You're also beautiful-really lovely-right now.

I find a tinted moisturiser and very fine few highlights help.

(I also think your old hair was a little dated-sorry-I appear to be in the minority so feel free to ignore)

Booyhoo Fri 17-May-13 21:34:26

yes i drink too much tea and i always sleep on my front- how do i get round that one? confused i've heard rumblings about silk pillowcases but is that a gimmick?

thanks you all for more tips.

i wont ignore you defineme do you think there is anything i could do with my hair that isn't as dated?

Booyhoo Fri 17-May-13 21:36:28

i meant silk pillowcases to stop my face creasing- not to get me to turn over onto my back! although that might be helpful too grin

Nehru Fri 17-May-13 21:44:37

I look at loads if women and think they need Botox.

I know.

Nehru Fri 17-May-13 21:46:22

Your hair needs whoofing up a bit.long hair too draggy. That fringe- no.
It's too close to your head

Nehru Fri 17-May-13 21:46:55

Agree short nice. But you're all tanned too. That MOGHT be why

peachypips Fri 17-May-13 21:51:38

I agree- you are lovely! I think you need a warmer brown in your hair- slightly lighter with more caramel tones, but not very much lighter. A blunt fringe suits you better than the side fringe I think.
But you don't look much older at all!

NomDeOrdinateur Fri 17-May-13 21:53:47

Have you tried switching to caffeine free alternatives to tea? Rooibos is nice, and so is peppermint. Green tea is also very good for skin, but not in large quantities as it's also high in caffeine AFAIK. White tea with lemon is nice too, and apparently very good for you.

Some MNers tried the silk pillowcase trick, but I seem to remember that the feedback was pretty divided. Could you try to train yourself into sleeping on your side, at least? I managed to by "hugging" a pillow at night, and my face is definitely less puffy now!

Booyhoo Fri 17-May-13 22:08:13

good idea to hug a pillow! i will try that. i think that will be teh hardest one to change tbh as i really do only fall asleep on my front and always with my face on the same side if that makes sense (so one side probably more puffy than the other)

ive decided i'm definitely getting the hair off tomorrow. i'm bringing that photo with me to show them what i want.

will try some of those tea recomendations too.

the tan in that photo was fake but i cant remember which one. i dont sunbathe or tan at all. factor 50 if the suns out at all.

namechangea Sat 18-May-13 09:49:44

Did you go for the chop?

Royalmailer Sat 18-May-13 13:45:12

There is literally nothing wrong with your face.

I am very jealous of your lovely straight hair but think it looks miles better in pics 2 and 3 (ie with a fringe) than in one.

VenusUprising Sat 18-May-13 15:07:27

Boohoo, I think you look fine.

I also think you need to avoid dark make round your eyes, and you need to wear coloured clothes also.

I think you are a HOC winter, so you should wear strong cool colours. Get a few shocking pink and royal blue scarves.

There's a thread about House Of Colour Winters on here, and it's given me some tips, as I have similar colouring.

I also recommend a slight tan moisturiser, and a few toffee coloured lights in your new shorter hair..

Sorry you've had a few stressful years.

Isn't spring wonderful though, you feel like you're emerging from the dark tunnel smile

Booyhoo Sat 18-May-13 15:11:01

i did go for the chop! pic on profile. you're all right about the too dark hair. i think the fringe is too solid in my new do but it was all she could do with it for teh time being as i hacked it myself the other night so we're going to let it grow out a bit and then she's going to make it a bit less heavy or something confused

thanks for the tip about house of colours trhead!

MrsLettuce Sat 18-May-13 15:24:31

See, I think your new hair is fab with the heavy, blunt fringe. You are very attractive and there's nowt whatsoever wrong with your face.

Also, I think the very dark hair suits you. That with the fringe is preventing mumsy.

Silk pillows are good.

Nehru Sat 18-May-13 16:31:02

i agree it is still too heavy - a bit lego - cut up into it a bit

You look amazing but you did anyway

<snogs Booyhoo>

Booyhoo Sat 18-May-13 16:41:45

<mwah> freddie grin

i dont want to cut into it for fear of messing it up. hair dresser has said to give it a couple of weeks tocome down a bit and then she'll try and make it light and more to the side like the 5 years ago photo.

mrgarybarlow Sat 18-May-13 16:49:41

Very nice. You look like Anna Richardson of secret eaters. She's very pretty. Bit of fake tan and you'll look better than before smile

Booyhoo, stop being such a silly-billy. You always look fab. smile

Love the new hair though. (got mine done today too)

Booyhoo Sat 18-May-13 16:57:49

ooh i love anna richardsons hair!! thanks for that lovely compliment.

arse are you who i think you are? wink

LemonPeculiarJones Sat 18-May-13 17:02:11

Wow, your hair looks great - you honestly look so much younger!

Nehru Sat 18-May-13 17:02:34

i saw her in rl once.
her hair is VERY shiny.
oddly so

Yep, 'tis me. grin

BellaVita Sat 18-May-13 17:12:20

Shorter hair is the answer!

You still look lovely btw.

Booyhoo Sat 18-May-13 17:17:08

grin yep i had a sneaky peek at your photos after i asked that and recognised the kitchen.

thank you all. you are all lovely.

nehru her hair does look very shiny. like a wig. but i think it is real though isn't it?

Nehru Sat 18-May-13 17:18:04

it seemed it. She was the other side of a large hall and it BEAMED

RonaldMcDonald Sun 19-May-13 06:59:18

your new hair is brilliant
blardy hell you look 10 yrs younger like that <now ponders own hair....>

Booyhoo Sun 19-May-13 12:38:46

thank you ronald <preens> i have to say- it's not so neat and sleek today after sleeping on it grin

nehru i would love to know what AR uses on her hair to get it so shiny.

RonaldMcDonald Sun 19-May-13 12:48:27

I have mulled over whether her hair is a wig
shiny doll hair texture

RonaldMcDonald Sun 19-May-13 12:50:24

jealousy speaking of course...'no one could have hair as nice and shiny as that it MUST be a wig...etc' soothes

Booyhoo Sun 19-May-13 12:55:06


maybe she has a lighting team follow her around all the time?

i do like her but i have to say i saw about 10 minutes of her secret eaters programme and had to turn over. she was saying people were being greedy for taking a biscuit out of a biscuit tin on the counter of a hairdressers that was for customers to help themselves . i do think she has food issues that she doesn't even realise (apart from the ones she does realisei mean)

ProphetOfDoom Sun 19-May-13 14:56:55

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