Would you wear a black dress like this to a wedding?

(52 Posts)
Plathism Wed 01-May-13 14:58:02

One like This one or this one?

Although they're black I think the lace and full skirt makes them less severe...but I could be wrong. It's not a very formal, traditional wedding, but I don't want to look funereal.

(I'd cover up the back of the low back one until it's party time!)

I'd have no problem wearing either of them to a wedding. I do prefer the dress in the second link though.

Plathism Wed 01-May-13 15:02:02

Ah, I like them both equally I think, it will depend which fits best smile The first one is better purely because I wouldn't have to worry about having a freezing back...

PenelopePipPop Wed 01-May-13 15:02:05

Honest answer - no. I'd never wear black to a wedding unless specifically asked to (I did go to a goth wedding once with a black and purple dress code!).

They are nice dresses and I doubt anyone under 35/40 would mind but the older generation would be black affronted.

Plathism Wed 01-May-13 15:04:51

Goth wedding sounds brilliant Penelope! That's my feeling too - that my friends and the bride and groom won't think anything of it, but there's obviously going to be older family there too.

scaevola Wed 01-May-13 15:05:28

No, I wouldn't wear black to a wedding.

If you really want to own it, do you have any other events coming up?

MrsBucketxx Wed 01-May-13 15:07:37

no to short for me, too much leg for a wedding.

they are nice though.

Plathism Wed 01-May-13 15:09:09

No other formal events planned scaevola, just a bazillion weddings, but yes I might keep one anyway just because I like it, and wear something less risky for the wedding. Finding formal dresses I like a is a PITA!

MrsBucketxx Wed 01-May-13 15:11:38

maybe something body con with a peplum, sexy but not so much flesh on show.

Plathism Wed 01-May-13 15:12:29

MrsBucket I have worn dresses that length to many weddings (with opaque black tights). I'm quite short and don't look 'leggy' in them.

Tbf I haven't tried them on yet, they may be shorter than I think.

Plathism Wed 01-May-13 15:14:24

See, to me MrsBucket wearing a bodycon or tight-over-the-bum dress feels too sexy for a wedding. I've tried lots on and I just feel all tarty and 'look at me'.

Plathism Wed 01-May-13 15:15:41

I should have said in my OP - I'm thinking of wearing them with silver ballet flats, not high heels. Heels cripple me and I prefer the look of ballet flats with short dresses.

BlueSkySunnyDay Wed 01-May-13 15:34:51

Im a bit older I wouldnt have a problem with you wearing black at all. If you are petite then the length should be ok - the rule is you dont want to be too hoochy and sexy at a wedding it is after all the bride's day so it could look attention seeking.

Personally I think the second one is more appropriate out of the 2 as its not strapless.

If you wore a darkish green or a dark blue it would probably look black on the photos anyway.

Plathism Wed 01-May-13 15:47:25

Neither are strapless BlueSky - I think the 2nd one's sexier as it's got the sheer lace and low back. Agree - I don't want to look sexy or attention seeking - I'm petite and not at all curvy so don't tend to look 'sexy' ever!

I know my own family all the way up to my 90 yr old gran wouldn't be offended by black, but I don't know the bride or grooms family very well.

MrsBucketxx Wed 01-May-13 16:32:15

I have worn black lots of times to weddings, as long as its not white your ok.

Plathism Wed 01-May-13 16:36:26

That's good to know MrsBucket, thanks smile I'm a bit of a wedding newbie, all my friends are starting to get married and it's a clothing nightmare when you have lots of weddings to go to with lots of crossovers between guests. I'm running out of dresses and sick of spending £150 on formal dresses I don't even really like.

Moominsarehippos Wed 01-May-13 16:37:00

I wouldn't because my boobs would fall out of the strapless one and would be slopping around in the other backless one.

I'm one for comfort! Black is ok for a wedding (ESP if you have bright accessories) unless you've been asked not to. A black veil might be a touch OTT. White to a wedding is a no-no.

Plathism Wed 01-May-13 16:39:06

Moomins the first one isn't strapless, it's high necked, like a shift dress. Bright accessories is a good plan, I hadn't thought about that.

BerylStreep Wed 01-May-13 16:41:09

I have worn black to several weddings, but have accessorised with colour. I didn't even think that anyone would disapprove.

They look quite short though.

Moominsarehippos Wed 01-May-13 16:41:38

Oh I only looked at the first pic. That does change the length of it then! I like that shape, yes, wear that one then!

Plathism Wed 01-May-13 16:42:46

I'm hoping they'll be below my mid thigh and won't look like mini dresses.

miffybun73 Wed 01-May-13 16:43:19

Both lovely dresses, but I just wouldn't wear black to a wedding.

BalloonSlayer Wed 01-May-13 16:45:12

"I don't want to look sexy or attention seeking"

I was just going to post that they are both too sexy and attention-seeking for a wedding. Part of the attention-seeking-ness of them is that they are black. People will be thinking "ooh, why's she in black?"

cocolepew Wed 01-May-13 16:45:29

Yes I would.
The first one is lovely.

CinnabarRed Wed 01-May-13 16:48:23

No issue with black per se, but personally I think both are much too short for a wedding, even on a petite frame. They'd be lovely for plenty of other occasions though.

GetOrfMoiLand Wed 01-May-13 16:49:14

I think they are a bit evening-y for a wedding tbh, and a bit too short. They look like something Coleen Rooney would wear with those hideous great clod hoppers she wears. The probably would look very pretty with flat shoes instead and accessorised nicely, but I still would think it's an evening party dress.

GetOrfMoiLand Wed 01-May-13 16:49:33

No problem with black to a wedding in general though.

Plathism Wed 01-May-13 16:51:15

Yes am planning on wearing flats GetOrf, am not into clod hoppers grin Thanks for all the opinions!

cafecito Wed 01-May-13 16:51:41


cafecito Wed 01-May-13 16:52:34

as in, not for a wedding - maybe fine if there's an evening reception at the wedding, or a party. but the wedding itself, I just don't think it's appropriate

GetOrfMoiLand Wed 01-May-13 16:53:10

I sound like my great aunt Nancy saying clod hoppers.

i really don't like those horrible great big platform shoes people wear. Roll on when they go out of fashion.

cafecito Wed 01-May-13 16:55:50

something like this would be better imo if you want black, or anything with a floral or lighter print on top. all black is not quite right traditionalist grumpy twentysomething

Top shop don't appear to have a single non-black dress (or at least black and white) for sale at the moment.

Oasis have lots of skater-ish style dresses in more weddingy colours/patterns.

Plathism Wed 01-May-13 16:58:37

It's a good description GetOrf! I hate them. But I can't walk in heels anyway, and can't be arsed to learn.

I'm starting to agree with you and cafe that it's not the black colour per se, more the eveningyness of them that doesn't feel quite right. May just keep one for parties. It's not the sexiness of them that bothers me because I think they'll look reasonably demure on a petite,small chested person in ballet flats.

FreckledLeopard Wed 01-May-13 17:00:55

No - wouldn't wear black to a wedding. Just not right IMO. Also, if you're in any of the photos, and everyone is in colourful clothing, or pale clothing, you'll stand out like a sore thumb (like my ex-SIL did at my wedding).

Plathism Wed 01-May-13 17:01:25

Arbitrary am just looking at Oasis, they have loads of new things in since I last looked and some definite possibilites - cheers smile

Yeah. There's some really nice stuff that would look lovely with ballet flats (and possibly a cardigan).

Plathism Wed 01-May-13 17:11:47

Just ordered two cobalt blue lacy/skater type dresses and two floaty emerald green ones to try grin 20% off today too! Thanks again!

Yes, I'd wear black to a wedding. But the dresses you linked to are the sort of things my teens would wear - unless you are 18 or younger I'd say they are too short.

cleoowen Wed 01-May-13 17:50:27

Wouldn't wear black to a wedding myself but know lots of people who do. IMO it doesn't look very wedding like but the second one is quite nice.

no i would feel rude, its a nice dress though, get it for another time

Wishiwasanheiress Wed 01-May-13 17:57:25

If worried about colour just check on brides preference. Some don't care, some really do!

I like both dresses. I'd do heels and hats. But then they dress up where I live rather than down. It's a wedding, why would u not make an effort? smile

Plathism Wed 01-May-13 23:10:41

Wish I know the bride won't mind black, I'm thinking of the families really. I have some more colourful dresses on the way to try now but I do love the TS ones smile

If the bride doesn't mind then it shouldn't be an issue really.

If you want to try on a few more things though then this dress is really rather fabulous on (even though it looks cheap and nasty on the web-site) and comes in a few colours (although the navy is nicest). Awear are quite 'traditional' on sizing though (i.e. their 8 is really an 8 and not a 10 IYSWIM) if you do want to risk trying one.

Plathism Thu 02-May-13 10:18:22

Moonlight my friend has that dress, it does look gorgeous on! Would you say the measurements they give on their sizing chart are accurate? If it is their 8 should be fine.

Crutchlow35 Thu 02-May-13 10:39:03

Yes wear what you want. I hate all this shite about what you can and can't wear. It is a day out FFS. I couldn't give a toss about what people wore as long as they enjoyed themselves. I care even less about what other people think.

So yes, wear what you like and sod everyone else.

Actually, having looked at the measurements, I'm now very confused as it looks from the chart as though a 10 should have fitted me (have 33/34 in bust and haven't dared measure my waist in quite some time, but actually, the 8 fitted well and the 10 was slightly loose (tried the 6 in hopes, but it was rather, umm, figure-hugging to put it mildly).

Sorry, probably not much help for you, but think I am going to hunt down a chocolate bar! grin

Plathism Thu 02-May-13 13:39:44

Moonlight it looks like they have a different size chart depending whether you're looking at the mobile site or the normal site! The size chart on the normal site has the smaller measurements, like you said, with their 10 corresponding to a modern 8, but the measurements on the mobile site correspond to standard modern sizes. Helpful hmm

How random. Think the 8 should fit though.

IllegalYoniFarm Thu 02-May-13 17:32:31

My MIL wore black to our wedding!

Moominsarehippos Thu 02-May-13 17:46:58

I worked with someone who went to a wedding where the MIL turned up if full funeral attire (black veil etc) and bawled throughout the ceremony. She wasn't too keen on the match apparently.

TheSecondComing Thu 02-May-13 17:51:44

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