bad brazilian

(52 Posts)
glub Wed 24-Apr-13 21:43:38

so i went for a wax today, i just walked into a few places to see who would have an immediate appointment available...
it was awful. the therapist was really highly strung, she ripped a few of the strips upwards (that's wrong right?) so they ripped at the skin. then she kept telling me the problem was the fact that my hair was too long down there (aren't they supposed to be able to deal with a bush?) she even told me i should shave it a week before getting another wax, and that she was therefore going to leave the lips 'this time'. i mean, who shaves the inner bits anyway? seems a little dangerous! and it was really, really painful, which she kept asking about, and i said it was painful and she said 'well it's hair removal' as in that's what it's like. she also placed my hands to stretch the skin. i was shaking afterwards and felt pretty traumatised sad it was totally wrong right? i've only been once before but that was a while ago. i don't remember it being like this though. do i need to review her/report her?!

EuroShopperEnergyDrink Wed 24-Apr-13 21:51:47

I'd phone up the salon and ask to speak to the manager and complain about it.

That sounds horrible, hope you're okay.

Celticlassie Wed 24-Apr-13 21:54:18

I know that they normally advise you to trim, and that in the past (just for a normal bikini wax, not for a Brazilian) they've always got me to stretch the skin taut.

Wilding Wed 24-Apr-13 21:58:29

I'm sorry you had such a bad experience - painful waxes are the pits.

FWIW, her placing your hands to stretch the skin is not unusual and usually makes it less painful, I've never had a problem with therapists asking me to do this. And it is better to trim your hair beforehand as long hair is difficult to wax and much more painful than if it's been trimmed or hasn't fully grown back. But she sounds like an awful therapist and really unsympathetic and I'm sorry that you had such a nasty time.

LifeIsBetterInFlipFlops Wed 24-Apr-13 22:00:32

Never had one never will after reading this

glub Wed 24-Apr-13 22:07:46

thanks euro, yeah i'm ok. right so the skin stretching is normal, ok...
i guess i need to pluck up the courage to call up and complain. she left wax on me too. stuck to my jeans on the walk home!

NandH Wed 24-Apr-13 22:09:22

I'm a therapist myself and I'd never talk to a client like that, so yes, call the salon and report her poor attitude!

however, most salons advise clients to have a trim before having a wax if by own admission the hair is long (if the hair is too long it can get stuck in the wax and therefore you'll get that ripping/pulling feel) ... on a few occasions I've actually trimmed it for the client (generally only regulars who are comfortable with me) but that said a few that have come in with especially long hair have been fine with me trimming first .

the wax should be applied in the direction of the hair growth and the strip should be pulled off against the direction of the hair growth, so if your hair is growing downwards (most peoples does) Then her removal of the strip shouldn't of been an issue.

asking you to stretch with your hands is good! as we all know fanny flaps get in the way so asking you to pull the skin tort helps the removal of the hair smile

if your unhappy with your treatment, ring the salon smile smile

apply some teatree cream (Australian bodycare do a good one) if your still sore, it will sooth it smile

NandH Wed 24-Apr-13 22:12:07

soothe* .....typing on phone :-P

glub Wed 24-Apr-13 22:15:18

ps it was like up towards the sky not up towards my head

NandH Wed 24-Apr-13 22:21:09

up towards the sky :-/ .... no wonder it was ouch then!!!

was she quite young? perhaps newly qualified? ... I've had to teach so called "qualified" therapists how to pull a strip off properly as a lot of them pull upwards!!

are you bruised at all?

definitely call the salon!

EleanorFarjeon Wed 24-Apr-13 22:33:35

I always trim before I go.

Your experience sounds awful and amateurish. Did they use strips with warm wax as opposed to hot wax on its own? I thought that was a no-no for bikini waxes.

I would def complain.

MyChildDoesntNeedSleep Wed 24-Apr-13 22:38:10

I don't know...from what the others have said, maybe she wasn't so bad and it was your perception of it? Hair removal can be more painful at certain times of the month as well.

I don't have any ideas, just reading objectively.

santamarianovella Wed 24-Apr-13 22:55:19

brazilian wax is very painful,there is no other way to describe it,but sometimes it really depends on the experience of the therapist and the quality of the wax ,some wax brands are awful.
i once left bleeding due to the inexperience of the so called beauty therapist

CarpeVinum Wed 24-Apr-13 23:00:04

Leave the lips THIS TIME?

People put wax on those bits and rip it of the rest of the time ?

Holy Screaming Labia, Batman!

My lady garden feel a bit faint just thinking about it.

<stokes fluffy bits in calming, soothing, de-traumatising manner>

santamarianovella Wed 24-Apr-13 23:15:25

lol carpe,then we wont tell you what else they wax!

CarpeVinum Wed 24-Apr-13 23:24:48

<runs with fingers in ears in case next poster is less considerate than you>

Fuckitthatlldo Thu 25-Apr-13 10:11:08

grin Carpe - that is going to be my exclamation du jour. "Holy screaming labia kids! I asked you to put your shoes on ten minutes ago!"

OP, I'm sorry you've had such a horrible experience. But intimate waxing is very painful. There's no getting around it - that shit's going to hurt, whoever does it. Having your pubic hair ripped out at the roots is not ever going to be a pleasant, fluffy experience.

CarpeVinum Thu 25-Apr-13 10:21:21

Well it certainly won't be fluffy ater all the poor innocent fluff is tortured into extinction!

OP, have you considered cornrowing instead ?

We can start a new, far less painful, trend, with beads and everything!

Move over WWF, I am founding the WFBMFETOPASL as we speak!

(world fluffy bits movement for ethical treatment of pubes and sceaming labia)

The seeds for this imortant org were first laid in 1986, when I used the first ever epilator (with evil whizzing coil) on the market to do my bikini line and in a moment of distraction the fucking flesh eating coil grabed a free range bit of inner labia and tangled it up in it's demonic steel spiral.

I looked like a nude female spreadegaled version of The Scream

Hours it took to carefully (lubricated with my tears) untangle my butterfly from the metal trap it was being mangled in.

CarpeVinum Thu 25-Apr-13 10:23:23

actually, it may have been 87 or 88.

Whenever the Epilady instrument of torture first hit the Boots near Marble Arch.

iloveweetos Thu 25-Apr-13 10:25:59

I had that waxed twice and just gave up..thought i would get used to it? haha i walked around the house in really baggy harem pants (think they're called) and no knickers, cos it was so sore lol
look into laser hair removal, more expensive but less painful!!
Groupon and wowcher usually have good deals for this....research the company before buying one tho!!
Aloe vera might help to soothe aswel!

MrsCampbellBlack Thu 25-Apr-13 10:40:38

Make sure next time they use lycon wax so they don't put fabric on to pull it off but rather the wax sets and they pull that off - its pretty painless.

Its worth paying more for a good brazilian - if you're in the bath/bristol area I could recommend 2 very good places.

teta Thu 25-Apr-13 10:43:21

Carpevinum i'm shaking with laughter here.Why do people feel the need to do this?It literally sounds like torture to me.But then any waxing is like torture to me [low pain threshold].

TwllBach Thu 25-Apr-13 10:47:19

<dies laughing at naked, spreadeagled The Scream>

I am a resolute trimmer and shaver. I will not subject myself to these horrors.

PiHigh Thu 25-Apr-13 10:57:14

Agree with MrsCampbellBlack the Lycon wax is far better. I don't find a brazilian hurts (I think it hurts more having my legs done) but the Lycon is definitely less painful than the other wax.

All sounds pretty normal to me.

Unless you want to pay 2 therapists you will be asked to stretch skin.

Waxing hurts.

They rip against direction of hair growth so generally upwards.

Waxing is harder and hurts more longer hair is.

Trim beforehand, take pain killers an hour beforehand and expect to get involved.

valiumredhead Fri 26-Apr-13 10:21:40

Sounds normal to me too, what do you think it will feel like ripping the hair off the most delicate part of your body with wax? confused

PiratePanda Fri 26-Apr-13 12:52:38

Owwww! <very squeamish> <runs screaming away from the thread>

I did my bikini line last year before holiday (not a Brazilian though, not that hard-core) shock

I use hot wax and cotton strips, small area at a time, deft whisk and Bob's Your Uncle.

I'd sooner contort and dislocate myself than have someone else do this for me blush

i would second finding a salon that does lycon waxing - nothing like the strips!

you also get much slower regrowth so its better value.

doesnt sound like you had a good wax so i'd complain

amessagetoyouYoni Fri 26-Apr-13 13:40:08

Had a Brazilian once and was utterly traumatised by the whole experience!

i get a hollywood each time! honestly the lycon is so much easier than strips!

BinksToEnlightenment Fri 26-Apr-13 15:15:29

I've just come back from a full Hollywood wax. This is pretty much in line with my experience. It's a brutal, painful process! And yes, I am required to do my bit with the stretching.

There's just no nice way of having all your downstair hair ripped out, unfortunately.

GetOrfMoiLand Fri 26-Apr-13 15:20:53

I just had a look at the lycon stuff - there is a local salon near me which does a Brazilian, Californian, Hollywood and Playboy bikini wax. I think I know what Brazilian and Hollywood means, but what the hell is a Californian or a Playboy fgs?

It sounds too painful for me. If you want the bare look why not try just shoving a load of veet on the area (I have done that a couple of times, it works well).

BinksToEnlightenment Fri 26-Apr-13 15:27:13

Playboy leaves a thinner strip than a Brazilian. Never heard of a California!

My salon offers California waxes - think they are just different sizes of strips to Brazilian etc?! Never heard of playboy!

Waxing is never comfortable or pain free and anybody know expects otherwise is mad!

Its never going to be a fun experience, but i agree, the lycon (sp?) waxing with oil is much more 'comfortable' than regular waxing with strips. Definitely.

SantanaLopez Fri 26-Apr-13 17:27:59

Californian is a wider Brazilian.

Sounds bad but not outrageous.

Coffee1Sugar Fri 26-Apr-13 17:53:46

I go for monthly hollywoods and dont trim beforehand coz it never really gets long but I regularly have to stretch the skin taut and always have hot wax rather than regular which makes such a difference.

happyfreeconfused Fri 26-Apr-13 19:46:20

Yes it kills! When I read your post, I too thought that sounds like par for the course.

ygritte Fri 26-Apr-13 19:53:35

Upwards doesn't sound quite right. If the skin is taught, you pull left,right etc. and very close to the skin but not fully upwards grin ....and longer hair is way more difficult to deal with properly. Maybe try doing it yourself at home on less sensitive bits to see the difference.
It's all very hands on though, maybe you should muster up the courage for another in a different place in a few weeks to compare.

It sounds fairly normal to me.

ygritte Fri 26-Apr-13 19:54:19

That was not meant to be a grin but a shock

I have hot wax Brazilian and don't find it painful at all. Your therapist sounds inexperienced and unprofessional.

BiteTheTopsOffIcedGems Fri 26-Apr-13 20:05:12

A bad wax is so painful. I had one once and it caused swelling. I was going to the cinema that night on a date and I thought I would have to book an extra seat just for my minge.

appletarts Fri 26-Apr-13 20:23:06

I can't imagine expecting anyone in the entire universe to pull the pubes off my fanny lips, no matter how much money I paid them. What a vile job for that woman and I don't understand why any woman wants to look like a child, think it creepy actually. I'd feel violated if this had happened to me!!! I think I must be very old fashioned (think 70's triangle).

JeanPaget Fri 26-Apr-13 20:28:57

That all sounds pretty standard to me to be honest. I think 'reporting' your therapist because your Brazillian hurt is going to make you look a bit mental...

CarpeVinum Fri 26-Apr-13 20:39:11

why any woman wants to look like a child

I hate to break it to you, but the chances are a bald fanny is in your future like it or lump it.

It all falls out after a certain age. grin

BinksToEnlightenment Fri 26-Apr-13 20:43:13

So people shave their armpits for that childlike underarm aesthetic?

I know you don't want to hear this but..as a therapist myself I would not go to someone who was free there and then. Good therapists are worth waiting for.

She sounds very inexperienced. The holding skin taut is totally normal.

The hair needs to be trimmed before waxing, but clients normally do this themselves, unless it's a very regular client I wouldn't feel comfortable doing it.

Crunchymunchyhoneycakes Fri 26-Apr-13 20:47:12

I got my bikini area waxed once, it was excruciating in lots of different ways.

MavisSnapdragon Fri 26-Apr-13 21:18:59

Isn't a Playboy where they rip it off the front and stick on the back in a little bunny tail?

TondelayoSchwarzkopf Fri 26-Apr-13 21:44:12

While i agree it sounds par for the course for a Brazilian, you may just have to find another therapist. A waxer, like a pilot, should have panache and confidence and act as a trusted guide on what is a strange and potentially scary journey. grin

Lucylloyd13 Thu 16-May-13 14:59:17

Brazillians are not for everyone, and counter intuitively are best done after a trim has reduced much of the thatch.

Having a therapist pulling their labia around and tearing the hair off is not pleasant.

For me a hand adminsitered razor does the trick.

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