I need footwear help please - am going around in circles.

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I realise this is an age old question but I need help solving it once and for all. I have lived in ankle boots for the last couple of Autumn/Winters/Springs and I have ballet shoes etc. But what I need is something to wear with skinny jeans on days when I am going to be walking a lot so need a bit more cushioning than ballet flats - but when the calendar says it is no longer boot weather, but it is either too wet or not warm enough for sandals. Sorry for the many 'but's in that.

I thought I would get some Converse low tops but dp says they make me look like a child (not a teenager - a child, fgs). I thought they made my feet look big (I am only a size 4 but have skinny ankles). Shall I get some anyway? Or is there something else out there to solve this problem for me. I have already discounted wedge trainers (because they make me look as if I'm trying to be Victoria Beckham) and Superga (because they make me look like a Playschool presenter).

I like Converse on other people; just not sure about on me. Help please!

OrbisNonSufficit Sun 14-Apr-13 14:33:41

I have these and I love them. Also Onitsuka Tigers, good for making your feet look smaller.

AnythingNotEverything Sun 14-Apr-13 14:34:26

Get some converse! If you're worried about your dc's reactions, just go for a sensible colour ie white/black/navy. I saw a lady in her forties in town yesterday with bright green ones ... Not quite sure why it didn't work, but it may be safer to go for a plainer colour.

Thanks. The dds are fine about Converse, but dp not impressed at all and I really wasn't sure myself. I looked about 5.

I tried black and white ones on.

mimiasovitch Sun 14-Apr-13 14:43:56

The slimline converse might be better. They're called lights I think, though I saw others with a different name. Anyway, they're less chunky iyswim, and quite feminine.

MissLurkalot Sun 14-Apr-13 14:48:14

Joules have some nice pumps in...


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MissLurkalot Sun 14-Apr-13 14:48:30

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QueenCadbury Sun 14-Apr-13 15:03:39

I've got these. Have you tried any other trainers such as vans, adidas or puma? They might just not make your feet look so big?

Thank you. Don't like the Joules ones much: tbh I think I'd look even more like a child in those. I'll have a look for the slimline Converse.

Ugh - I HATE shoes.

Thanks QueenC. Vans etc much worse than Converse. I don't think my feet do look big (am only a size 4 as I said) but they just feel as if they look big, because of the skinny ankles. I think I'm just not used to anything like this, but I need something comfortable in my dotage! smile

SlinkyB Sun 14-Apr-13 15:15:23

Watching with interest as I have exactly the same dilemma as you OP.

Had converse low tops last year, but chucked them in the autumn as they were worn out after a couple of years wear.

Had some of the Boden spotty pumps delivered last week, but they're too flimsy for long walks in the countryside. Plus I'm a 5.5 and not many places (inc Boden) do half sizes. Size 5 were too small anyway, and don't think I'd be able to wear socks with them, which is what I prefer.

Good luck with your quest and keep me informed please!

SlinkyB Sun 14-Apr-13 15:16:59

P.s I also worry about trainers looking too young (I'm 32 soon) but not ready for some Hotter shoes just yet wink

MMcanny Sun 14-Apr-13 15:20:18

I wear boots all year round. If it's cold enough to need them for comfort then so be it, regardless of the name of the month. Am I really unhip?

Startail Sun 14-Apr-13 15:22:06

I have sketchers and if I look like ongoing to the gym in my jeans, I don't care they are comfortable and I can wear socks.

marriedinwhiteagain Sun 14-Apr-13 15:22:41

Have a look at some of Josef Siebel half way between a sandal and a shoe jobbie and Jones the other day had some really pretty comfy summer shoes with a strap across and cut outs in the leather. Had them in pale green and cream I think. I liked them anyway - but can't remember the make. About £60 I think.

MistyB Sun 14-Apr-13 15:27:08

I have just bought these and I love them. They are quite sporty looking but do not look too 'beardy'.

TSSDNCOP Sun 14-Apr-13 15:32:34

I wear Converse hi tops on days you describe with my skinny jeans.

SlinkyB Sun 14-Apr-13 15:34:23

MMcanny I find my feet get too hot and sweaty in leather boots in warmer weather.

What about trainer boots? I have these and wear them with skinny jeans.

Oh dear. I am so sorry but I don't like any of them. High tops remind me too much of my indie days, and Robert Smith. Wedge trainers make me look like a wannabe Victoria Beckham, as below. Comfortable coloured shoes with straps remind me of ladies in the Lake District.

I fear I shall remain shoe-less, or have to try and get my head (and dp's) around Converse after all. sad

Fifi782005 Sun 14-Apr-13 16:20:32

These www.hm.com/gb/s/04XRP0 I found myself in the same situation and was also unsure of converse .
I haven't added a link before so not sure if it will have worked on my iPhone but the shoes are a nice nude/gold tone neutral colour that goes with most things

Thanks Fifi. I've got some a bit like that from Clarks, but in pewter leather - they are hideously uncomfortable though, hence wondering about Converse (the fact that everyone and his dog wears them must mean they are comfortable, no?!). I suspect that H&M ones wouldn't be v durable, based on shoes the dds have had from there in the past, so don't mind spending a bit more for something if it will last (I was attracted to Converse too because I know they come out looking reasonable from the washing machine).

Sorry Fifi - forgot to ask: what made you unsure of Converse?

Trumpton Sun 14-Apr-13 16:41:46

I have gold vans ,similar to These
Very comfortable and solid.

I have dunlops

The green flash company they are comfy come in diff colours i got mine are sports direct i on my 2nd pair the first pair lasted nearly 3 yrs and i worn them most days cant link as on phone

Thanks both. Dunlop too trainer-ish for me and Vans a bit too emo. I knew this would be impossible - agh.

Sorry for being so fussy.

Fluffycloudland77 Sun 14-Apr-13 16:48:18


I have these in a dark metallic gold colour, they aren't kiddy looking and are still going strong 6 years later.

Lovely - and v similar (but nicer) to the evil hurty Clarks ones I have. But ouch at the price!

Trumpton Sun 14-Apr-13 16:51:02

Hmm . Vans a bit too emo ? Hmmm <<shuffles off>> ( I am 60 and didn't know that . )Still one of the bright sides of acting my shoe size (7) not my age is that I don't know things like that and no one looks at my feet anyway grin

Fluffycloudland77 Sun 14-Apr-13 16:52:39

I know, I balked at paying £99 6 years ago but they last. They do them in black too.

Sorry Trumpton. Am an idiot, I know. Other people look perfectly fine in all sorts of things, but I just seem to look stupid.

Trumpton Sun 14-Apr-13 16:53:09

Oh I like those KG ones but too pricey for me.

Just found these Too teenage?

Fluffycloudland77 Sun 14-Apr-13 16:56:09


I'm selling everything not nailed down on eBay to buy these.

Fluffy - those are almost identical to my hurty Clarks ones. Nice colour.

AWimbaWay Sun 14-Apr-13 17:04:10

I'm going to get some ankle cowboy boots for in-betweeny weather, figure they wear them in hot countries.

returnvisit Sun 14-Apr-13 17:07:11

I dont like any of these, any one got any ideas of anything less casual looking?

Fluffycloudland77 Sun 14-Apr-13 17:13:17

Before I had my KG ones I had a very similar shoe from Topshop, half the price but I rubbed all the skin off my heels.

ArtexMonkey Sun 14-Apr-13 17:23:59

I like pf flyers, but nowhere in uk seems to have them in stock ATM. Hmm hmm.

SlinkyB Sun 14-Apr-13 18:28:01

Tbh, I never found my Converse low tops particularly comfy as they're quite narrow, and hard/flat soled.

But I guess it depends what you're used to.

What do you like, Slinky? The reason I want something other than balet shoes is that they are too flat to wear all day - basically I want something to wear when out around town for museum visits etc all day, when I might well be walking a LOT but don't want to look like I'm going hiking or to the gym. smile


Agh - you posted earlier, sorry.

Fluffycloudland77 Sun 14-Apr-13 18:41:26

Loafers? I hate them with a passion but each to their own.

SlinkyB Sun 14-Apr-13 18:46:59

That's the problem, I don't really know what I like either! I think I'd like something pretty, feminine, summery, comfy and practical and versatile. Not much then wink

these are the Boden canvas trainers I'm sending back

happyyonisleepyyoni Sun 14-Apr-13 18:56:57

You need plimsolls of some kind. I had the retro Adidas trainers for awhile and then some lookalikes. Tried Vans but they are not really me. About 5 years ago rediscovered Converse. I don't know why your OH thinks they look childish but I'd ignore him personally I know lots of people in their 30s/40s who wear them.


I'm getting a new pair of these. They are good enough for Italian women when I'm over there and certainly not seen as teenage only. I like ballet shoes too, but as the OP says they are far too flat to wear a lot.

Thanks again everybody. I don't like the look of the Superga but do like the look of Converse (well, on other people!). Those spotty Boden ones would make me look about 3, I think.

Dp agrees that lots of older people look fine in Converse, but says I don't! I'm going to try those tan leather ones I linked to earlier, and see if they look a bit more grown up than the ones I tried before (just the black and white low top ones).

Agree, the reason everyone on the planet wears converse is because they are the most inoffensive shoe imaginable. Odd that your DP hates them!

My DH dislikes most of my footwear but I just tell him to bugger off because he has no taste.

This is only the second time ever that dp has taken a violent dislike to anything I wear/am thinking about wearing. The other thing was a bright coloured trench coat, which I ended up giving to charity because he hated it so much. It's strange too, because usually he couldn't give a fig what I'm wearing.

Iatemyskinnyperson Sun 14-Apr-13 19:31:01

How about these

Clarks Originals Lugger Pump in case link doesn't work. I feel your pain tho. I have a gaping hole in my wardrobe for footwear between boots & ballet flats. I do have some moccasins but they're not much better than ballet pumps really. I did have a pair of leather PF Flyers which were good, but can't find another pair...

Damn you fashion industry!! Give us comfortable flat shoes and dresses with sleeves shakes fist at sky

Iatemyskinnyperson Sun 14-Apr-13 19:32:09

I was attempting italics on that shakes fist at sky bit. Font fail confused

RustyBear Sun 14-Apr-13 19:32:59

If you're going round in circles, you really do need footwear help - have you got two left shoes on?


Someone up thread suggested Josef Seibel - I have a couple of pairs similar to these which I find are great for the in-between boots and sandals seasons (assuming we get one this year). They are very comfortable and I can walk all day in them.

Sorry, Rusty and Skinny - I don't like those.

Nope, don't like either of those either. Sorry.

ChocolateCremeEggBag Sun 14-Apr-13 20:00:16

Gabor not really bally shoes ok they are but more comfortable?

jazzandh Sun 14-Apr-13 20:12:24


anything on here any good

dizzy77 Sun 14-Apr-13 20:12:37

Remus thanks for pointing me over here. I am still lusting after the silver sequinned converse (or metallic silver leather ones) but it does look like we're asking similar questions). I could also do without going too emo (age thing?) and went back to Adidas campus for the first time in 15 years a few years ago and found them annoying and uncomfortable. It sounds like you're looking for not-trainers: I used to work smart casual and wear Fly London and Camper, no specific items to link to but might be worth a look?

I'm definitely after trainers: I was wondering about something like these onitsuka tiger pumps or these other converse.

motherofvikings Sun 14-Apr-13 20:19:09

What about these? rocket dog

They're pretty cushion-y and wider than converse so they make my feet look less long and skinny iyswim.
I quite like the patterns but they might be your dh's idea of too childish. confused

ItsMeAgainYesHowDidYouGuess Sun 14-Apr-13 20:21:29

Does anyone know how wide the superga ones come up? I have converse which I like but my little toes don't as they get rubbed!

EarnestDullard Sun 14-Apr-13 20:28:16
KittieCat Sun 14-Apr-13 20:41:22

Ash do some fab shoes. Some fugly wedge trainers too but ignore, ignore, ignore!

I like these lots:


ArtexMonkey Sun 14-Apr-13 20:45:19

How about these suede Bertie things?

I am tempted myself but I already have all the shoes, cons, brogues, pf flyers, ballet shoes, etc etc etc etc and I need to instigate a one in one out policy or there will be Words Had.

Thanks all. The Ash ones are lovely but way too expensive. Don't like anything from Geoxx or Camper or Rocket Dog (deffo too childish!) or Sketchers.

I will try the tan Converse things, I think (but need to know how they rate on the childish stakes!).

No to the Bertie things, sorry.

KittieCat Sun 14-Apr-13 21:11:59

Oooh, just seen the tan Cons. I like them, too.

WillPenn Sun 14-Apr-13 21:18:09

I would have to second the other poster who said Converse are supremely uncomfortable. My feet were perpetually freezing and sore because the soles are so thin. The Ash trainers are more expensive but more substantial and hence way comfier.

HeyYoniYoni Sun 14-Apr-13 21:35:39

Does it have to be trainery?

What about a moccassin?

I wear these lots with all sorts of outfits

SlinkyB Sun 14-Apr-13 21:40:47

I actually do quite like those moccasins, but you wouldn't be able to wear socks with them, so not too different to ballet pumps?

Think I may just resign myself to the fact that I always choose comfort over style, and go trainer shopping on Tues (quite liked the look of some of those Tiger ones linked above).

Sorry but no, no to those moccasins.

HeyYoniYoni Sun 14-Apr-13 21:47:17

palladiums? They were all the rage when I were young

I have some converse ballet type - not sure what they're called but come low on my foot where ballet pumps would iyswim. I also have skinny ankles/size 4 feet and I feel that these don't make my feet look big. However my daughter(aged12) turned up her nose at these so am guessing they not as trendy as I thought but I love them!

BensonBunny Mon 15-Apr-13 00:21:56

Completely different to converse (I have some but find them cold and uncomfortable as other have said) theses are my go to practical summer shoes. Mine are 4 years old and wearing really well, I clean them by giving them a quick rinse under the tap!

How about these?

Take it the more sporty styles are out Remus?

higgle Mon 15-Apr-13 10:40:22

The casual section of the Shoon site have lots of choice, although a few are rather lentil weaving beardy in style, these are nice. They also have Paul Gren high tops and wedge trainers that are more subtle than some other makes.

Deffo no to the more sporty ones, Amber.

Am really sorry, all, but I don't like any of those recent links. I'm going to try the Converse on again and could maybe put an insole in to give a bit of padding??? Am hoping that the tan leather will look less childlike than the black and white ones.

I still hate shoes! Hopefully this thread has given other, less fussy people than me, some ideas. smile

ArtexMonkey Mon 15-Apr-13 17:40:28

Heh heh, this thread reminds me of that bit in Clueless where she says 'you know how i am about shoes, and they only go on my feet'.

There's now wrong with being picky grin

ArtexMonkey Mon 15-Apr-13 17:41:29


nowt wrong with being picky

LOVE Clueless! smile

Ujjayi Mon 15-Apr-13 18:01:24

What about tan brogues? I have a pair from Dune which are way more comfortable than my Converse and they aren't the very masculine ones - they are neat and slender.

Nope - brogues look ridiculous on me, like I'm some sort of aged, crazy aunt, cat-lady.

Cantbelieveitsnotbutter Mon 15-Apr-13 18:24:07

Same dilemma here too.
Loving all the suggestions

mewkins Mon 15-Apr-13 18:25:54

Pf flyers? Think schuh do them.

LaTrucha Mon 15-Apr-13 18:33:04

I think there are some options here. I don't usually like Josef Seibel, but those black patent ones are quite good I think.

LaTrucha Mon 15-Apr-13 18:33:36

I quite like the white keds too.

Bet you'll hate these but Tom's?

They are marginally less hideous than some of the other links on here, Bill - but no good for lots of walking, as too flat and too easily made soggy in the rain!

QOD Mon 15-Apr-13 19:20:41

If you're going round in circles you've probably got two left shoes


auntpetunia Mon 15-Apr-13 19:50:34

Have loved all the links i have opened, am having a similar dilemma am liking the moccasins a lot, maybe not the price though. going to look through all the links now see if you've found me my ideal shoes.

HousewifeFromHeaven Thu 18-Apr-13 22:22:41

Those boots are really nice (and a good price too!) but I don't want boots - I have boots. Love suede too but no good in the rain.

Sonotkylie Sat 20-Apr-13 10:05:34

I have some fitflop leather 'trainers' (I hate trainers, these look more like converse etc low tops). Insanely comfy. I have a muted gold y colour but they are a year old. I don't think they look too sports shoe and they aren't covered in logos. Good for the job without being too offensive.

Chandon Sat 20-Apr-13 10:18:16

I wear the gabor ballet flats, the ones with the sort-of-bow, as my everyday shoe, even can do hours of city walking in them! They offer support and have a cushioned sole, yet do not look too " solid"

A rare find imo.

Rieker does lots of horrid shoes, but occasionally have a gem where comfort meets style.

Converse, I hate, it gives you big flappy duck feet imo, and not even that comfy.

Chandon Sat 20-Apr-13 10:20:58

OP, I am so glad you shared your dilemma on here! I am in exactly the same situation. Will watch this thread with interest in the hope someone comes up with the almost perfect solution!

Thanks for all the new comments. I have some v nice Gabor sandals, but the ballet flats aren't the sort of thing I'm after. My quest continues!

nellyjelly Sat 20-Apr-13 20:03:19

What about some old skool type trainers such as Puma or Adidas? Comfy and as in suede more waterproof than canvas.

Thanks Nelly but I don't like them much - they remind me of being 13 or so!

Housemum Mon 29-Apr-13 19:18:05

Hmm, was going to say Rocket Dogs (slip on not the lace ups) but they are all a bit "pretty" now - I had a fab pair that I wore to the ground, cream with little gold studded bits, little shaped studs (honestly, nicer than that sounds!). Sulking now as was going to buy another pair this summer, now having to watch this thread...

Superga pumps make me think of Jason Mason's mum from Grandpa in my pocket, or do I mean Tommy Zoom? One where the Joules-style mum is only seen from waist down wearing pumps and white socks.

Housemum Mon 29-Apr-13 19:18:49

What about these ?

Zoidberg Mon 29-Apr-13 20:19:55

I have found El Naturalista shoes v comfortable for days of lots of walking, they have excellent inner support, can wear with or without pop sox/trainer liners. They do all sorts of styles, maybe a low lace-up from them, it will not be flat inside like so many other brands. They have lots of colours.

aftermay Mon 29-Apr-13 20:24:33

Going round in circles? Are you sure it's a footwear problem? smile

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