How do some woman manage to look like they're really wealthy?

(273 Posts)
Whatisthepointoffriendships Sun 07-Apr-13 14:24:05

When they're not? I'm fascinated.

My friend is like it; they don't have much money and she wears very simple outfits and doesn't buy many clothes but she always looks amazing.

Anyone else know anyone like it?

awkwardsis Sun 07-Apr-13 14:28:52

It's all in the fit. That and making sure its ironed and just the right accessories. Clothes that don't fit make you look sloppy, regardless of how much they cost. I have a friend whi looks amazing on a very teeny budget and I think accessories are what sets her apart. She has lots of great scarves and jewellery and a handbag to match each outfit. Her hair is also regularly cut <eyes own split ends> It also helps that she's gorgeous and would look good in a bin bag...

beeny Sun 07-Apr-13 14:30:42

Marks place am fascinated by this topic

Whatisthepointoffriendships Sun 07-Apr-13 14:39:32

The friend I know wears very basic things; vest tops with jeans usually. She shops in primark and topshop. Hair is usually up in a big messy bun but it really suits her.

MrsCampbellBlack Sun 07-Apr-13 14:44:16

If you've got a good figure and are pretty then its very easy to look amazing in a pair of topshop jeans and a primark vest top.

For the rest of us its a bit harder.

But yes I agree that being groomed and your clothes being clean/ironed/fitting well really helps.

And yes to accessories too.

Whatisthepointoffriendships Sun 07-Apr-13 14:57:30

I wouldn't say she's particularly slim or pretty tbh; size 14 ish, and averagely pretty but very attractive.

MerylStrop Sun 07-Apr-13 14:58:02

Knowing what suits you
Groomed eyebrows
Tidy nails
Accessories yy - but using the coco chanel rule - put it all on and take the last thing off again

chanie44 Sun 07-Apr-13 15:07:41

I agree.

Good quality accessories, like a leather handbag.

Well fitting clothes made of cotton, silk etc

Nothing scruffy looking eg shoes polished, uggs look brand new (yes I'm aware of the contradiction, but you know what I mean).

dashoflime Sun 07-Apr-13 15:09:40

Some people have a good eye for things and can pick stuff out from Jumble Sales and Charity shops.

I can't. No clue me.

MarshaBrady Sun 07-Apr-13 15:13:34

Good hair, nice face, knowing what suits you.

Some people really suit vintage look for example, which can be a fairly cheap way to shop

racheael76 Sun 07-Apr-13 15:18:30

not designer but quality clothes m and s.no fake tan can look chavvy.natural well kept nails eyebrows.
a nice simple watch.
a good quality coat from m and s and a smile !

santamarianovella Sun 07-Apr-13 15:30:18

a good scarf or a good statement necklace can make a huge difference to whatever your wearing.
and yes having a good figure and hair is essential too.

Naoko Sun 07-Apr-13 15:33:43

It is absolutely the fit. A £4 t-shirt from h&m that fits you correctly (not just the right size but also the right cut for your body shape) will look far, far better than a £££ one from somewhere fancy that doesn't. Doesn't matter if you're tall, skinny and a supermodel or short, heavier than you'd like to be and ordinary looking - everyone looks better in well fitting clothes.

LadyMountbatten Sun 07-Apr-13 15:36:50

Good skin I think.

Viviennemary Sun 07-Apr-13 15:40:24

Me too. I'm sure I wouldn't look rich even if I won Euromillions.

Dilidali Sun 07-Apr-13 15:43:32

I think those women are called.... French? Lol
The rules as I noticed them: no frills, no mad colours, block colours ( read navy) properly fitting clothes and the secret is in a good haircut, discreet make up, very good shoes and nice handbag. Basically, they have about 16 pieces of garment that they combine and what makes the outfit are the accessories. If you have few, you don't feel guilty to renew every 2 years.

Have a look at PIA jewelery website. 'Tis gorgeous and not stupidly priced.

This is a really weird thing, cos just this morning I was viewing a few fashion blogs run by rather wealthy women, and I was astounded by how 'un wealthy' they looked. I think so much of it is down to personal attitude and taste - all the cash in the world can't bestow that upon you.

I've seen young women wearing £200 teeshirts and they look sloppy and awful.

On an amusing note, I once turned out to meet an old friend who I hadn't seen for years. I wore a long Zara wool coat, Primark skinnies and an H&M tee. When I arrived she said "Wow, you must be doing wel for yourself, you look very 'Chanel'!"

Then again, she might have been joking ;)

Never understood the French thing either. Surely all French women don't dress like the Vogue/Alt crew?

Longdistance Sun 07-Apr-13 15:49:45

A jumper with a shirt underneath, wearing a pearl necklace = Sloane.

<unhelpful>

Allthingspretty Sun 07-Apr-13 15:52:03

I think its also the confidence and 'owning' your style and wearimg your clotjes and not them wearing you iyswim

MarshaBrady Sun 07-Apr-13 15:54:51

They do look good the E Alt crew, even if the same. Sure the rest is just as varied.

Environment helps. Nice places etc

TomDudgeon Sun 07-Apr-13 15:55:08

Depends what you mean by wealthy
A lot of people can't afford to have their hair cut regularly or spend money on accessories

coffeeinbed Sun 07-Apr-13 15:56:05

Good skin, good hair.
Nothing too obvious.
Good fit, not too many accessories.

Justonemorecardi Sun 07-Apr-13 15:58:19

marking my place - I'm fascinated by this too. Dilidali - can you give me an idea what these 16 pieces should consist of? (off to grab notebook & pen...)

Allthingspretty Sun 07-Apr-13 16:06:50

Good underwear!

noviceoftheday Sun 07-Apr-13 16:07:02

I buy at all price points and i can get as many compliments for an outfit that cost me £100 to put together as one that cost £1000 to put together. There is a girl in my office who looks amazing every single day and whenever I ask her where she got an outfit from it is always high street and no more expensive than Oasis. I think it's a combination of 1) putting outfits together well (knowing what colours suit you is important and also which different pieces of clothing in your wardrobe go together well), 2) the right accessories are essential and 3) looking after your clothes well (I am a fan of following the washing instructions!). Also the fit of the clothes is essential and finally recognising what suits your height, size, body shape and whether you are long or short waisted. There are many clothes/looks that I am happy to admire from afar knowing I would look like a right tit if I was to wear them!grin

MrsCampbellBlack Sun 07-Apr-13 16:08:05

Yes I guess what it means by looking wealthy.

If you're a fairly classic dresser its easier I think to look wealthy perhaps but then I know a lot of people don't aspire to look 'wealthy'.

And yes some people can be dressed in very expensive clothes but look as though they're head to toe in primark.

I do agree dressing for your shape is very important and avoiding the ever present polyester.

noviceoftheday Sun 07-Apr-13 16:09:54

Oh yes I agree good underwear! The difference that the right fitting bra can make to a look is astonishing. M&S deserve being hung drawn and quartered for convincing most women in the uk to wear a bra size that's 2 sizes too big.angry

MrsCampbellBlack Sun 07-Apr-13 16:10:02

Yeap novice - I reckon the key to looking wealthy is to iron your clothes - but I know that's a very unpopular viewpoint on here wink

MrsCampbellBlack Sun 07-Apr-13 16:10:53

Mind you was in Selfridges yesterday and the thing that made some women look wealthy was their bags.

Is that because you recognised the bags though MrsCB (Mulberry etc etc)? Or was it because the bags looked lovely quality?

Allthingspretty Sun 07-Apr-13 16:16:50

Not having damglinh hems etc
Keeping it simple
Knowing what to splurge on and save on

noviceoftheday Sun 07-Apr-13 16:17:32

Sshhh MrsCBgrin if you ever look at the vogue thread you will see I am a bagaholicgrin. I totally agree on ironed clothes. I know it's not a popular view but the crumpled look is functional but not stylish. <hides>.

having said all of that, I aspire to look stylish as opposed to wealthy as the two are not always the same thing.

MrsCampbellBlack Sun 07-Apr-13 16:19:35

Oh I definitely recognised the bags MissBee wink

Novice - I came to the sad realisation that I'm no longer a customer for the luxury bag dept - I've been relegated to spirit and the Marc by Marc Jacobs section sad wink

SofaCanary Sun 07-Apr-13 16:22:46

That smooth, plump, olive skin tone helps I think.

grin

See I wouldn't recognise a Birkin from er... well something else expensive (not a bag person) but I would assume that if I wanted to stroke the leather it would be expensive.

I also agree on the ironing - I know its not popular but the only things that don't get ironed here is underwear.

noviceoftheday Sun 07-Apr-13 16:48:02

MrsCB Marc by Marc Jacobs are having a good season, I had to edge away from it 2 weeks ago! Did I read somewhere on here that you have a blog? I would love to see it if you don't mind?

Not sure about a capsule wardrobe, or 'rules', but this is what works for me:

I work from home so don't require office clothes, etc. But I do like to dress up now and again. I also don't have a riveting social life!
I find that casual is what I tend to wear most, so when I do buy a dressy thing, or a special bag, I will put some thought into it, hoping it will last.

Pants
3 pairs jeans: indigo, black and mid blue. One of them was expensive.
2 pairs of patterned jeans, both inexpensive but a great fit.
1 pair wool pants and 1 pair of leggings for cold days.

Skirts
1 cord skirt, above knee (H&M).
1 navy cotton mini (APC).
1 knee length indigo denim a-line (Oasis).
1 shortish wool above knee (APC).

Tops
1 peach silk shirt (aubin&Wills).
2 patterned cotton blouses (Isabel Marant/Vanessa Bruno).
2 silk vests (Aubin&Wills).
2 check shirts (Abercrombie/APC)
3 tshirts (APC/Whistles/Oasis)
1 breton (Aubin&Wills).

Dresses
1 smart lace dress above knee (Topshop).
1 check shirt dress, above knee, cotton (APC).
1 Silk dress (APC).

Knitwear
2 long cardi's (Massimo Dutti/Zara).
1 cashmere round neck jumper (LaRedoute).
1 grey slouchy merino (Boden).
1 beige cable jumper (Oysho).
1 navy merino jumper (Uniqlo, shit quality!)

Coats
1 long navy wool coat (Zara).
1 navy quilted jacket (Oasis).
1 trench coat (Burberry).
1 cropped boucle jacket (Zara).

Bags
1 burgundy tote (Jaeger sale).
1 smart small bag (Mulberry Lily).
1 tan satchel (Massimo Dutti).

Shoes
2 suede ankle boots (APC/Office)
2 patent heels (K Geiger/ Topshop)
1 Nike Dunks in black.
1 white converse, low.
2 leather summer sandals (APC/ Geiger).

Sorry the list is long. This is all that I own and it feels like too much, but it all gets worn. Not sure if I look like a princess or a pauper tho!

I have probably got x5 the amount of clothes and shoes as you Teacakes but bet I don't look as good. I just can't put things together properly.

LadyMountbatten Sun 07-Apr-13 17:08:21

ah i disagree
WEalth can be hidden by horrible clothes - flashy eurotrash stuff and mutton.

its all in the figure - often teeny tiny and skin.

Plus no piercings or tattoos

scarlet76 Sun 07-Apr-13 17:12:12

Great list Toasted
This year I am aiming to spend less and also scale down the amount of stuff I have.
I shop reasonable quality high street - M&S, Topshop, White Stuff, Boden, French Connection, Hobbs, Next, Clarks.
I think a good coat, shoes and bag are essentials. I am trying to keep the rest of my wardrobe simple and classic.

HappyAsEyeAm Sun 07-Apr-13 17:14:23

Good haircut. Groomed hair, eyebrows and nails. One very nice piece of jewellery, a scarf and a bag. Co ordinated clothes
, shoes and accessories. Ironed clothes. Polished shoes. A smile.

LadyMountbatten Sun 07-Apr-13 17:15:44

and they stand right.
Their clothes arent thin primark white cotton that is washed grey.
Or naffola thin leggings

Charliefox Sun 07-Apr-13 17:17:04

Glossy thick hair in beautiful blonde/ash/caramel colours and gorgeous creamy skin. Then white jeans, polo shirt and boat shoes. With a tan = money.

LadyMountbatten I don't think a tiny body is a necessity though. I mean, how does that explain attitudes in different periods of history where a fuller figure was considered more fitting for fashion? I think that the thin obsession is just another cultural trend, for surely any body shape can look well dressed (and expensive, if need be)? I am 'teeny tiny' and it doesn't stop me looking like crap....when i look like crap grin

LadyMountbatten Sun 07-Apr-13 17:35:32

i know - I agree, but you know those little tiny women with anthea turner hair.

they always look loaded

LadyMountbatten Sun 07-Apr-13 17:35:45

TT you look GORGE from here

anthea turner hair! nearly spat my tea out, haha! is this a thing now? I had completely forgotten she existed.

must admit my hair lets me down though. i try so hard to care for it but fighting natural frizz is a losing gamesad

<off to google anthea>

LadyMountbatten anthea's hair defies gravity and I want to know it's secrets...

LadyMountbatten Sun 07-Apr-13 17:47:54

or kaplunsky

NumTumDeDum Sun 07-Apr-13 17:48:29

Speaking of Anthea, I vaguely remember reading that when she didn't have a large budget that she would buy high street and have it altered to fit her perfectly by the local tailor/alterations place. Always seemed like a great idea to me.

LadyMountbatten Sun 07-Apr-13 17:50:02

yes that presumes there is such a thing
Like mumsnetters going on about " your local italian deli" or " your local fishmonger"

they just often dont exist

racingheart Sun 07-Apr-13 17:52:30

LadyMountbatten, I know exactly what you mean about those women. In fact I was at a charity gig recently, hosted by Anthea Turner and co-hosted by her hair. She was teeny tiny in snow white skinnies and did a lot of turning her back to the audience and bending over ostensibly to do something charitable to small children who shared her stage. What she was really doing was showing how perfectly toned her teeny tiny bum was. I admit, I was impressed. The men in the audience couldn't get their cheque books out fast enough. She did scream wealth.

Chottie Sun 07-Apr-13 17:55:20

I never feel I have 'got it together' either..... Even if I had lots of designer stuff, it would just look boring.....

NumTumDeDum Sun 07-Apr-13 17:57:44

I guess it seemed reasonable to me there was always a lady at the dry cleaners who did alterations and my mum used to do them when we were broke!

Dilidali Sun 07-Apr-13 17:59:38

Justonemorecardi as far as I remember the staples are
White shirt, fitted
Black/ navy trousers
A blouse a la Chloe
White/ black/ navy long sleeved t-shirt
A skirt in a flattering cut
One LBD
One everyday dress( navy)
2 pairs of shoes ( one flat, one heel)
2 coats

marriedinwhiteagain Sun 07-Apr-13 18:00:08

Tips my mum gave me:

Never look at the label
Look at the cut, the fabric and the fit
If the cut is on the bias it will look good whatever
blue and brown = no
black and brown = no
red and pink = no
blue and green = dodgy unless navy and emerald
Avoid patterns
Shoes must be good quality
Bags must be good quality
Shoes and bags must match
You need one good coat
Natural fibres at all costs
Quality, discreet jewellery
Fur should be wild not ranch wink

I'm not terribly into clothes and love things like scarves and pashminas which my mother detests but on the other hand she can make a pair of £4 trousers look classy, but I can tell quality and it doesn't always come with an expensive label and an expensive label doesn't always mean quality.

Also, buy when you see not when you want or need.

CousinRachel Sun 07-Apr-13 18:10:42

I don't agree that variations of blonde hair and a tan make you look wealthy. You see plently of that on Towie etc.

But agree with understated grooming, generally slender, lack of tats.

noddyholder Sun 07-Apr-13 18:14:01

Glossy hair that moves Clear skin Minimal make up and whether we like it or not most things look better if you are slim and your clothes fit/suit you

I just can't get on board with the 'most things look better if you're thin' thing.
I am a 6/8 and my sister is a curvy 12/14 with small waist and a few inches shorter than me. She is also 10 yrs older. When she tries some of my looser fit clothes on she really brings them to life and looks friggin amazing, whereas I look a bit buried and shapeless in them. She practically ran away with my tweed blazer.....filling it with bigger breasts and hips made it look awesome in a way I could never hope to achieve.
I think it really is all relative, and dependent upon fit and how you carry it off, not body size.

My sister also suits jeans better than I do, the curves just bring everything together for me, and I feel like a pencil stood next to her. I guess it's all about the grass is greener, or maybe I just wish I had more T&A grin

Agree about glossy hair though. Mine is the bane of my existence.

marriedinwhiteagain Sun 07-Apr-13 18:26:43

Have you ever had your colours done toasted

scarlet76 Sun 07-Apr-13 18:27:12

I am teeny tiny - 5ft and size 6-8.
I alas do not look wealthy! Groomed at times but not wealthy.

abbyfromoz Sun 07-Apr-13 18:33:04

Quality not quantity. Research rather than impulse buy. Find something good and stick to it. Spend more on investing in staples. Coats, jeans, shoes should be quality. Check the labels. Acrylic, nylon & polyester out. Cotton, linen, wool in.
Some clothes wear better though with a mix (eg. Silk, cotton & nylon)
Read reviews before buying.
Have a 'unform' and know which colours suit you. Create a capsule wardrobe.

A colleague from years ago always had me envious because her clothes looked really really expensive and really really nice.

It took me MONTHS to notice that she only had about 3 outfits....

She used to buy hardly any clothes, but the ones she did buy were classy, gorgeous, not always particularly expensive but they all suited and fitted her perfectly.

As coco chanel said, if a woman is badly dressed, you notice the clothes. If a woman is well dressed, you notice the woman.

MrsCampbellBlack Sun 07-Apr-13 18:43:31

Controversial alert but I think getting your colours done is not always necessary - honestly if you've got an honest friend and spend some time looking at what looks good on you then you can figure it out yourself.

Novice - I'm on the wornout blog - the one who is coveting the too hot to handle hobo at the moment.

I do think most clothes look better on the tall and slim and so does most of the world hence you know models being 5ft10 and a size 6. But that's not to say you can't look fab whatever size you are. However it is harder to look good if you're not tall and skinny and I speak as someone who is neither.

I was in town once and saw a woman who really did exude wealth - took a second look and realised the man she was with (her husband) was Andrew Lloyd Webber. She was attractive but everything about her said money from her hair (good cut and lovely colour) to her skin and her clothes. It wasn't shouty wealth but just understated money if that makes sense.

Married no, but love the sound of it, just not the price! I think I am a light summer, but could be wrong (pale, blue eyes, blonde). I seem to suit pastels, especially lilac and certain shades of pink. But I can also do black, navy and white. Don't tend to suit beige, brown or orange.

CousinRachel Sun 07-Apr-13 18:44:07

You can be slender AND curvy though can't you? The two aren't mutually exclusive.

And yy to shampoo-ad hair (not that I have it) >sulks<

Charliefox Sun 07-Apr-13 18:44:31

Cousinrachel, you misunderstand me. I don't mean the trollopy blonde hair and tan brigade. I mean the sloaney girls you see at polo matches, with natural tans and thicky glossy hair. Whole world of difference.

MrsCampbellBlack Sun 07-Apr-13 18:45:48

You see Flibberty I really do notice the clothes. I love clothes and fashion and so really do notice what people wear. But I get that a lot of people don't.

And always find that quote amusing coming from someone whose business was to sell clothes.

MarshaBrady Sun 07-Apr-13 18:46:48

It's can be more about being streamlined than anything else. So no matter what size you are get rid of the muffin top and that will help.

Also lots of logos/ labels can look cheap rather than expensive.

And yes to preferring style over wealth and keeping it simple.

MarshaBrady Sun 07-Apr-13 18:48:17

The Anthea Turner thing is funny and lol at co-hosted by the hair. I'd go for less styled with the hair as exuding wealth.

MrsCampbellBlack Sun 07-Apr-13 18:50:41

I bet Anthea does look wealthy in the flesh though. That hair doesn't style itself for sure wink

But you know looking wealthy can often be achieved by just being dripping in diamonds - doesn't mean its stylish just rich.

CousinRachel Sun 07-Apr-13 18:53:17

Fair enough Charliefox.

Charliefox Sun 07-Apr-13 18:54:20

This picture sums it up She's wearing jeans and a black top but she's dripping money. Why? Great body, natural tan, amazing hair, expensive teeth and beautiful creamy skin.

I guess I'm thinking of Asian women, too, how petite and fantastic they look in Chanel, etc, and no worse than a model at 5"10. Extremely tall women are not the average and I can't see how clothes should only really work well on this body shape.
Maybe it depends upon the fashion of the times: certain Victorian or period clothing will work well with more busty, curvy shapes, it all depends. The 20's style worked well with boyish, flat chested shapes. But our current trends are seemingly less tailored and don't seem very boob or hip friendly in my opinion, which is not about clothes suiting thinner people better, but more about the designers favoring a certain type of aesthetic.

So many current trends are skinny fit, semi sheer, cropped, tight fitting and just shoddily designed, and I can see why larger women feel crap about that. I always say a great designer can make clothes to flatter any shape, but that just isn't the trend right now. And I am one of those weirdo's who don't think catwalk models suit the clothes.

(not a rant at you, MrsCB! just a cultural thing).

noddyholder Sun 07-Apr-13 18:55:30

I do agree with MrsCB re getting colours done

hf128219 Sun 07-Apr-13 18:55:43

Someone's face can add £££ to their look. Think of the BBM mob, blonde, blue blooded and minted!

MrsCampbellBlack Sun 07-Apr-13 18:56:32

But Charlie she's a super model of course she looks amazing. God - she bloody should what with having won the genetic lottery and being engaged to a billionaire wink

MrsCampbellBlack Sun 07-Apr-13 18:58:50

Toasted - I'm 5ft nothing. I like to think I look nice but you know me and Giselle - I reckon she's going to win in the who looks best in jeans thing wink

I really do believe everyone can look great and also think fashion should be fun - if you make a mistake, well so what - its just clothes.

Noddy - have you got my back? [has watched way too much Real Housewives whilst ironing clothes] wink

LadyMountbatten Sun 07-Apr-13 18:59:14

Capsule fucking wardrobes.

I don't live in a capsule

MarshaBrady Sun 07-Apr-13 18:59:30

Yes re Anthea I can just imagine the snow white jeans thing, petite and polished (hair aside).

Elle's hair is more the thing. And that look.

MrsCampbellBlack Sun 07-Apr-13 19:01:58

I knew you'd say that LadyM wink

Must say I'm not a fan of a capsule wardrobe either but then I like to buy stuff, wear it and then ebay it. I don't really believe in 'classics' either - it all dates, it really does.

CousinRachel Sun 07-Apr-13 19:04:20

Agree with everything you say CF except that the look requires some sort of tan. I think it's v classy to stay pale: la Rachel Weisz

noddyholder Sun 07-Apr-13 19:05:57

grin I think some things don't date. Not many though. A decent mac and raybans are the only things that have survived my culls over the years.

noddyholder Sun 07-Apr-13 19:06:34

I have hair like hers but everything else sadly not!

MrsCB, I suppose it's down to personal preference, isn't it? I've never gone for the Giselle type figure, yet really love petite and curvy!

Strangely I do seem to have a type when it comes to men - very tall and skinny (don't like em 'built'), so there you go. wink

MrscremeEgg Sun 07-Apr-13 19:08:36

Charliefox, I think the essential things in that photo are her hair, her slimness and possibly her watch. All the rest is just by-the-by, IMO.

MrsCampbellBlack Sun 07-Apr-13 19:09:56

Toasted - I suspect we're pretty similar wink - I've never gone out with a short man either.

MrsCB thank god you're not 6"1 then!

LadyMountbatten Sun 07-Apr-13 19:13:08

Macs date. It all does. I loved Hilary things article on "shut fashion editors come out with" (sic) recently.
One was the mac. Plus the myth of this versatile white shirt.

I can't remember if capsule shitting wardrobes were on there.
How SAD to list your clothes (oh plus rather pretentiously their brand).

You need to get out more and have fun
Eg
"One bag free with Marie Claire Speech marks
One T-shirt h and m stain on Sleeve. Can wear under things.
One skirt, only To be worn when feeling slim and legs tan..

LadyMountbatten Sun 07-Apr-13 19:13:36

Sorry. Using voice thing. Hence speech marks

I also think footwear plays a huge role in how expensively dressed we look. Trainers and casual have to be styled just right, and cheap shoes are bloody dreadful. That's about as far as my clothes snottery goes though. I loathe low quality fabrics but buying better is so difficult for many people in this dire economy.

Too much make-up a huge no-no too.

MarshaBrady Sun 07-Apr-13 19:14:59

Trying to look wealthy can have the opposite effect anyway. All that towie stuff, with the labels.

MrsCampbellBlack Sun 07-Apr-13 19:18:48

Agree Marsha. Without wishing too sound too umm snobby [who am I kidding] its when you see someone in an evening dress with a great big Bayswater.

Yes its an expensive bag but its a day bag and not to be worn with the best of lipsy on a night out.

But that's a certain type of wag style which may indicate some money but its not that understated luxe-wealth thang which I think we're getting at.

I mean the Ecclestone girl is clearly very very rich but its not a look I'd want to emulate. Someone like Olivia Palermo or Gwyneth is much more the look I like - rich but understated.

AvrilPoisson Sun 07-Apr-13 19:22:41

sorry, BBM please?

Tall, skinny men here too, and I'm 5'0"!

NeoMaxiZoomDweebie Sun 07-Apr-13 19:23:13

My friend told me that at the Royal Ballet school she was taught that extremities matter. Head, hands and feet. All well kept.

True, I reckon the more wealth you have the less showy you need be about branding. Can't imagine using Bayswater at night, but if it was all I had, I guess I......would have to pick up a glitzy purse from newlook hehe..

I remember chatting to an excessively wealthy surgeon (woman) about clothes and she said she bought everything from Tesco. A lot of truly moneyed people don't seem to give two shits ;)

<worries about extremities>

Question: if your hair isn't super glossy swingy awesome what do you do? I have longish hair, straighten it, but is dry and frizzy by nature (not damage really) so always feel bad about it. It looks so chic in updo's but I demand to wear it loose!

MrsCampbellBlack Sun 07-Apr-13 19:27:53

Looks at shellac nails and hi-lighted not a million miles from Anthea hair and retreats backwards.

LadyMountbatten Sun 07-Apr-13 19:28:35

Get it cut to get the crap off the ends

marriedinwhiteagain Sun 07-Apr-13 19:30:10

Agree - I have bumped into the richest person I know in Sainsbury's in a Gypsey skirt, black socks (with a hole), Millets type trainer sandals, washed out t shirt and ancient fleece gilet. But look up at her sweet elderly face and clock the earrings and all of a sudden you realise she's worth £50k in what she's standing in grin. Totally and utterly unpretentious and her ancient golf makes a terrible terrible noise.

noddyholder Sun 07-Apr-13 19:33:51

Macs do not date! Not if you wear them with things that are current. Every time I wear my aquascutum and I bought it in 1985! (old emoticon) people comment on how lovely it is and I am so glad I kept it. Looks good with skinnies and frye boots and over a dress with heels. Some people just 'know' what to wear you can spot them but as this thread proves it is hard to define. Less is more how do we feel about that?As I get older it has become my mantra

I think there is an element of DNA in it too. Some people look wealthy by their very bone structure...

I agree with many of the truly wealthy not giving a shit.

Someone I work for is landed gentry, titled with an estate blah blah blah. His clothes are shocking - not just heedeous - think yellow trousers and those awful checked shirts but also are also totally wrecked and covered in dog hair. The whole family are the same grin. I asked him last week if her was wearing the "ancestral sweater" because it was so old.

MarshaBrady Sun 07-Apr-13 19:38:58

I tend to keep stuff, but have just been ruthless and taken a whole load to a charity swap place.

When you get to the stonking great family pile in the country yep I reckon you can do the dog hair blanket tesco diamond thing.

Noddy, as I've got older, this seems to apply to everything, from food, to clothes, to my home, etc. I used to love junk and disorder when I was in my twenties, kind of in a creative, bohemian sense. Now I like more streamlined stuff, higher quality, stuff that will last and won't degrade so easily. Not sure if it is age or just experience of too much tat that does it though.

I hate the feeling of too much, and I wonder if that comes from having more awareness of mass consumption and the damage it causes....I suppose it's awareness at the end of the day. When you are young you are still trying stuff out, going through things like there's no tomorrow, finding your identity. You can still have this kind of fun when older, but with a more discerning eye, maybe!

DoNotDisturb Sun 07-Apr-13 19:39:17

Hi. I've only ever lurked on style and beauty before..

Any suggestions for when you're pregnant and then breast feeding and a stone or so heavier than normal?? I feel like I've been pregnant/breast feeding the best part of 6 years with only about 6 months between losing the weight and getting back to normal and falling pregnant again. Currently pregnant with third baby.

Is it possibly to still be well turned out when your body shape is changing quarterly? I feel like I've given in..

noddyholder Sun 07-Apr-13 19:39:36

Agree amber It is just obvious and I don't think can be copied.

LadyMountbatten Sun 07-Apr-13 19:39:50

Yup. Is a bit nouveau to look smart. Inherited tweeds etc

noddyholder Sun 07-Apr-13 19:40:46

Me too toasted I have streamlined so many areas of my life.

MrsCampbellBlack Sun 07-Apr-13 19:41:00

God I'd rather look nouveau than stink of ancient doggy tweeds.

MarshaBrady Sun 07-Apr-13 19:41:47

haha at this.

And yep to dna, genes, good cheekbones.

My cat looks wealthy I think. His sleek glossy hair and perfect posture sickens me. I feel so slovenly in comparison! You can tell that wealth is in his DNA by the way he leaves fluff all over his cushion without a care. He doesn't have to work, has someone to do the housework for him, and can afford to be overly fussy with is diet. He is also very skinny and young for his age. Has personal chauffeur for trips to vet, etc.

MrsCB - your hair is not in the least Anthea. Tis blond and swingy smile and looks expensive, so there.

Beware the ancient doggy tweeds!

He leaves dog hairs on the chairs in my office shock and on one occasion manure on the floor. From his wellies I hasten to add, not manure produced directly onto my floor grin

MaybeOrnot Sun 07-Apr-13 19:57:30

Make sure that you keep your hair and teeth in order. Invest in accessories that look exceptional. Anything that you buy in the way of white cotton(t-shirts),buy cheap. Throw them away when they lose their newness.

LadyMountbatten Sun 07-Apr-13 19:59:02

Teacakes. You are hilarious

<worries about teeth now as well as extremities>

LadyMountbatten your screen name sounds expensive! smile

bunnymother Sun 07-Apr-13 20:12:45

If Lady Mountbatten is Edwina Mountbatten, then she is extremely wealthy, being the granddaughter of Ernest Cassel, Edward VII's "banker": en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ernest_Cassel

Your jewellery collection is wondrous, Lady Mountbatten, lucky you.

BassDownLow Sun 07-Apr-13 20:34:54

Good, flattering hair cut with good colour.
Accessories - sunglasses, bags, simple statement jewellery, nice leather gloves etc - dont have to be designer, but if chosen well will finish outfits properly.
Good shoes.

Sanctimumious Sun 07-Apr-13 20:44:46

I saw Anthea in real life once, on Godalming high street, she was carrying a painting along. Quite a big one. She had white jeans on. She looked fabulous, gotta hand it to her.

racingheart Sun 07-Apr-13 23:31:27

Oh yes, Mrs CB - being an Anthea lookalike is no bad thing. Please, feel no shame! I wonder if she always wears white jeans.

Please would someone explain to me what good shoes are and where to get them? I've been told a thousand times that people look at your shoes to see whether you are wealthy or not but have no idea what this means. How do they tell? Unless you are wearing Louboutins with scarlet soles which are trying very hard to explain to the world how very expensive they are.

I tend to buy shoes that don't hurt. That means Clarks for boots and S&B pariah-status Next for heels. Posh shoes intrigue me. Where do they come from?

DeafLeopard Sun 07-Apr-13 23:45:32

I thought white jeans were a no-no? I've seen lots of threads about Liz Hurley / white jeans on S&B.

santamarianovella Mon 08-Apr-13 00:10:46

racingheart sergio rossi,zanotti,lanvin,are very posh and discreet unlike louboutins which are sadly associated now days with the TOWIE bunch.
people can tell you are wearing good shoes because the design,finishing ,materials used are of a better quality ,except jimmy choo,the worst quality ever.
tods and ferragamo are considered the epitome of posh/preppy chic and can be identified right away.

* racingheart *, if you are buying shoes that don't hurt you, you are already doing it right!

I'm remembering the agony of my last pair of shoes from NewLook.

I love Ferrragamo shoes, especially the Vara's and Varina's, but the sizing puts me off. Would have to travel to try a pair on!

IntheFrame Mon 08-Apr-13 00:27:37

Bollocks. People with money look like people with money and the rest of those that look good know what suit them.

Noway can you do a list. Kate Moss was pictured in a totally dreadful outfit but it was her "'I'm a model with a weekly wage a bigger number than my hips" .

I think I look great and I'm poor as fuck grin

awkwardsis Mon 08-Apr-13 00:47:13

I think looking wealthy rather than just well turned out also means that you probably have an unharried look about you. A general air of confidence that is difficult to achieve in even the nicest clothes if you're worrying how you're going to pay the gas bill.

scarlet76 Mon 08-Apr-13 07:30:39

Haha another 5ft nothing here that goes for tall skinny men. DH being 6ft 3!!!

Gingerodgers Mon 08-Apr-13 08:09:11

Yes, a look of quiet confidence, never bitter, maybe that's it. I totally know what you mean, also, great eyebrows!

racheael76 Mon 08-Apr-13 08:09:37

dress the same as posh -victoria beckham she looks amazing.. in magazines i have seen stars (THIS IS A GUESS !£60000000000000000 pounds )outfits bought for similar on the high street

marriedinwhiteagain Mon 08-Apr-13 08:11:27

Shoes: LK Bennett, Ferragamo (as above), Jones do some nice ones too. My Grandad used to say the upper on a good shoe had no seam except for the back of the heel. Bruno Magli used to make them like that but they don't seem to be around anymore and I think Ferragamo do too.

Personally I don't think the Laboutin's etc do look classy. It's something about simplicity and how it enhances the ankle.

BikeRunSki Mon 08-Apr-13 08:29:30

Last Winter I bought a long, classic cut navy/purple cashmere-wool mix coat in the Austin Reed sale (£150 reduced from £400), and some decent, plain black leather, flat but slightly chunky knee boots in the Duo sale (£60 from £200 ish). I can look awful underneath, but on top I look fab!

I am oldish (42) and clumpy, I find classic cuts in decent natural fabrics and muted colours work best for me. I tend to shop mostly in sales of "high end high street" places, although have a cycle of cheap jeans and Ts for home-with-small-children days (I work pt).

pickledsiblings Mon 08-Apr-13 09:01:02

DoNotDisturb, by the time I got to my third, I was so fed up with how I looked that I bought myself some nice 'interim' clothes that I knew hoped I'd soon be too slim for. As it was it took about 18 months to get back to normal and then there's the dreaded blip when you stop breast feeding. My advice is to buy a few pairs of jeans that fit you now (can be used for 'fat days' in the future) from TopShop or the like, some great shoes/boots and a coat/jacket that just fits your shoulders, don't worry if it doesn't do up. You can't go wrong with some on trend accessories (a neony stoned necklace from Zara?) and a nice scarf (animal print if you like it). Good luck with it smile.

Elizabeth22 Mon 08-Apr-13 14:27:08

A friend of mine always looks wealthy and people make (wrong) assumptions about her background. She always wear pearl earrings, washes her hair everyday, wears quite conservative clothes accessorised well with expensive scaves/sunglasses/bags.

propertyNIGHTmareBEFOREXMAS Mon 08-Apr-13 14:56:43

The key factor is having a good figure. You can look fabulous in George from Asda if you are all and slim.

Allthingspretty Mon 08-Apr-13 15:29:39

But even the slimmest people can be decked out in expensive or inexpensive stuff and for some reason it still doesnt work

MrsMangelFanciedPaulRobinson Mon 08-Apr-13 15:32:11

I think some people just have a bit of an exotic, wealthy look about them no matter what they do/wear.

I know someone like that; she is fairly pretty but not stunning, figure is ok but not amazing (quite pear shaped), she doesn't have much money but she just always looks 'rich'. I really can't pinpoint why she looks that way. She has highlighted hair like many others, dresses fairly conservatively, and I can't remember the last time I saw her wearing any accessories.

But even the slimmest people can be decked out in expensive or inexpensive stuff and for some reason it still doesnt work

This is probably me grin

<worries now about extremities, teeth AND eyebrows>

Allthingspretty Mon 08-Apr-13 16:30:02

I am sure you look very wealthy teacakes

propertyNIGHTmareBEFOREXMAS Mon 08-Apr-13 16:33:50

True, Allthingspretty. Some tall, thin people do really struggle. Others can look a million dollars in a £12 black sundress from George, £5 flip flops teamed with black Bal City grin

propertyNIGHTmareBEFOREXMAS Mon 08-Apr-13 16:35:44

Polished make up and hair always help a lot too.

propertyNIGHTmareBEFOREXMAS Mon 08-Apr-13 16:36:29

An orange fake tan ALWAYS says less wealth more bad taste.

Allthingspretty Mon 08-Apr-13 16:39:09

Ha ha property i love bals.

I also think that one persons version of wealth is another persons version of pauper.

I have seen people decked in the latest casual labels of the moment which while not to my tastes are pretty expensive and to others they might appear wealthy.

propertyNIGHTmareBEFOREXMAS Mon 08-Apr-13 16:42:35

Yes, try as I might I can't view Juicy Couture favourably.

Allthingspretty Mon 08-Apr-13 16:48:43

I would not spend over fifty pounds on trainers never mind over a hundred but then some people would not spend the amount of money i do on bags and accessories and view them as boring or old fashioned.

I don't think anyone would describe Juicy Couture as au courant. As I said before I think it is innate; if you've got it, you've got it. If not, well, no amount of highlights and pearl earrings will do it for you...

racingheart Mon 08-Apr-13 19:00:52

Thanks for the list of shoemakers. Going to look some up.
I really want BikeSkiRun's coa from the sound of it.
Agree that expensive excessories can make people look really chic, but what intrigued the OP was how come some people look wealthy in cheap clothes.

I know a woman who can do this. She's not slim or especially stunning but she looks so wealthy. She never wears patterns, always wears neutral layers and her hair is glossy all the time. Her accessories are very discreet too. Nothing costumey. She looks great but whenever I ask where she got something, it's Tu at Sainsburys. She just has a good eye for classic cuts and colours.

marriedinwhiteagain Mon 08-Apr-13 19:08:39

The other shoes I really like - was on way to work this morning and remember on the way - are a make called Peter Kaizer which are stocked by Peter Jones - they are a slightly cheaper version (IMO) of Stuart Weizman as stocked by Russell & Bromley. smile. And they fit me well but so do Van Dal and Gabor sad

marriedinwhiteagain Mon 08-Apr-13 19:14:40

And for good measure - dd is snurgling about in black skinnies (H&M), her brothers A&F ancient green polo and bright pink Vans and with long blonde hair looks every inch a refained young lady with less than zero effort.

justasecond Mon 08-Apr-13 19:14:41

When I see someone who I think looks "wealthy" they always have healthy looking skin, manicures and pedicures, glossy hair and flattering make up. The clothes are not the first thing I notice, which I suppose comes back to the coco chanel thing.

TomDudgeon Mon 08-Apr-13 19:15:24

Except George at Asdas stuff is generally too short for tall people

justasecond Mon 08-Apr-13 19:16:51

Not that I see many of this sort round my way, there are raised eyebrows if makeup is worn on the school run.

marriedinwhiteagain Mon 08-Apr-13 19:27:16

Why is ugly ever regarded as classy: Uggs, Crocs, Birkenstocks, etc? Never got that one.

openerofjars Mon 08-Apr-13 20:03:50

Kate Fox in Watching the English says that the clues are in things like natural fibres as opposed to synthetic stuff (the upper classes wear less polyester, apparently: Jaeger vs Jane Norman) and in the amount of leg shown: upper class women only show their legs if they have good legs. Anyone U with chubby ankles keeps them hidden under tweed slacks or jolly sensible boots.

And hair: swingy, glossy highlighted hair is much smarter than obvious dye, styling and product, she says.

Sanctimumious Mon 08-Apr-13 20:15:15

That's so true about only showing your legs if they're good. That is the same in ireland. You'd never see anybody classy/wealthy (not the same but talking about the overlap!) with their legs out if they've got sausages for legs. There's a really strong self-awareness there. Good points played up, modestly. Bad bits glossed over with no self-loathing though. That's mroe crucial than the price tag of the dress i think. Saying that though, I'm talking about the classy socialite see and be seen in the metropolis types here. I do know a few ancestral jumper types too... That's the real deal maybe but it's not the look I'm after!

DoNotDisturb Tue 09-Apr-13 08:15:39

Thanks PickledSiblings grin

So from reading this thread the theme seems to be to concentrate on hair make up and general grooming as the priority...

bunnymother Tue 09-Apr-13 08:29:38

And well fitting clothes in natural fibres...

DoNotDisturb Tue 09-Apr-13 09:39:06

Yes. But at 8 months pregnant I'm sort of ignoring that bit for now wink

Been having a think about this thread and got a bit philosophical. Like why do we actually want to look wealthier, or to be thought of as affluent? I mean, I love good quality clothes and try to look as pulled together as possible, but I kind of don't give a damn whether someone else perceives me as such, so long as they don't think that I resemble Rab C Nesbitt, you know?

I do love those touches of luxury, and I am currently trying to talk myself out of purchasing a Chloe bag, but at the same time I am actually a bit shy of showing off expensive things, and prefer a more understated look.

So I am still puzzled by what might make some women seem 'wealthier' than others, and wonder if that might actually be the wring word to describe it? Maybe it isn't wealth so much as bloody good luck, or a natural tendency to pay attention to details....just thoughts!

*wrong word*

scripsi Tue 09-Apr-13 13:37:20

I am interested in this because I have recently returned to work and the clients I have contact with are very wealthy and dress in an olivia palermo/gwyneth paltrow kind of way. I really like the style, it looks very clean and modern, but can't seem to emulate it. I want to get a handle on this so that I can feel more equal to them and I see that they treat me and co-workers differently (perhaps even without knowing it) according to our style.
I am particularly in the market for a relatively cheap but expensive looking watch and small/medium sized suitcase for when I travel, in case anyone has any ideas.

santamarianovella Tue 09-Apr-13 13:50:53

had to google Rab C.
toasted you are absolutely right,i dont want to resemble a WAG,and i dont want to go out dressed head to toe in chanel(as if i can afford it!)
i too like these little touches of luxury(good shoes,bags,scarves) you can team them with topshop jeans and sweater and still look classy.
i think the word chic or effortless is more like it.

Scripsi, I have a lovely watch by Citizen (was £100 birthday gift) that is very smart and has look of Cartier Tank. This isn't why I chose it, but I have been surprised by how many compliments I get.

here is a pic of me wearing it:

dansedelune.tumblr.com/post/17825892731

scripsi Tue 09-Apr-13 13:54:51

Oh that's a lovely watch ToastedTeacakes I shall try to hunt it down!

Thankssmile It's a Citizen Eco Drive with leather strap. The images of it online are not as lovely as the real thing, definitely have to see it in real life!

Hedget Tue 09-Apr-13 14:40:11

Depends who's looking, doesn't it? And as ever with these things, it seems largely, but not exclusively of course, to boil down to social confidence and not income.

More confident people are more likely to be happy to shop on ebay or in charity shops or the end of the sales, less likely to feel the need for the validation of a brand, more likely to be happy to wear the same thing again and again because it works.

Thick or well groomed hair, shortish nails, not over-plucked brows, and looking unfussy all add to the air. Yes, that Chanel thing about noticing the woman not the clothes. And also, what awkward said about not looking as though you're worried about the gas bill. And teeth. On the whole, if you have, or have grown up with advantages, you will have reasonably good teeth.

Has anyone mentioned scent yet, by the way? Adds to the whole if it's a good one, detracts if it's not.

Oh god why did you have to mention the gas bill!!???

scripsi Tue 09-Apr-13 15:15:34

I think that my fear of the gas bill and (more seriously) definitely my teeth let me down.

Hedget Tue 09-Apr-13 15:44:18

I didn't mention the gas bill - it was awkwardsis! Although my re-mentioning was blithe, I admit. No central heating here, so no gas bill at all - does wonders for my looks grin

I think, scripsi, that it's more that if you happen to have good teeth, they can contribute to the whole, but no one of these things defines it on its own. I don't mean Hollywood teeth, by the way, more cleaned by the dentist every six months no-tea-stains teeth. If you want to emulate your clients, which bits are you finding tricky?

santamarianovella Tue 09-Apr-13 16:36:51

toasted is that your blog?

Allthingspretty Tue 09-Apr-13 16:50:28

Toasted your blog is very stylish

TomDudgeon Tue 09-Apr-13 17:03:22

Good teeth tend to cost money. Getting your teeth cleaned every few months is expensive.
This thread had clearly shown that people's levels of wealthy are completely different.

Hedget Tue 09-Apr-13 17:28:06

TomDudgeon I think you can be a good way from anyone's idea of wealthy and still be able to visit your dentist twice a year. It was thirty pounds for a clean the last time I checked - less than a leg wax. Yes, beyond many, but that isn't really what this thread is about is it?

TomDudgeon Tue 09-Apr-13 18:00:06

Actually I thought the thread was about looking wealthy when you're not. Throw in hair cuts, dental appointments and then clothes, even with cheap clothes on top that's a fair bit in some people's eyes.
Really it's about looking stinking rich when you're just wealthy isn't it.

I'm going to leave the thread as I was hoping for tips but all it is, is spend hundreds instead of thousands.

TomDudgeon Tue 09-Apr-13 18:01:27

But I'm going to make sure my clothes get ironed grin

santamarianovella It is my tumlr blog, yes! Most images are reblogs though, only a few of my own.

Allthingspretty thanks! I used to run a 'proper' blog but never bothered updating it, so tumblr works well for me. It's a great place to find inspiration, kind of like Pinterest!

prettybird Tue 09-Apr-13 18:09:59

Not sure getting your teeth cleaned (rather than bleached) twice a year is going to make that much of a difference. Good basic hygiene (which I would imagine most of us on here do) should mean your teeth don't get stained.

Bleaching makes your teeth whiter than they would be naturally and is something many celebs and especially Americans do. Personally I think it's excessive

The sort of "relaxed confidence" that the OP was observing and would like to emulate doesn't necessarily cost much. Don't have it myself, but when I come close, it's when I've put together simple outfits that I know suit me.

TomDudgeon Tue 09-Apr-13 18:12:34

Sorry my mistake. I read it as every six weeks.
I'm afraid I don't get mine done even six monthly because I can't afford to. Hence looking for tips to make me look and so feel better on no money.

I also think it is a bit difficult to cultivate an expensive look in this climate. Milder temps seem to be more conducive to good dressing.....I am so tired of bundling up beneath a thick parka, sad wind blown scarf and wooly hat. I long for a warm summer breeze, the chance to wear a crisp white cotton skirt and linen tee, not to mention my poor neglected leather sandals.

And when it does warm up a bit, it will likely rain, so the cagoule comes out, the dodgy umbrella, which won't keep me dry anyway because the accompanying winds will of course break the spokes.

The British weather kind of dictates how we dress to a large extent, I think. The word disheveled comes to mind.

TKKW Tue 09-Apr-13 18:32:01

Great thread. Ive started to iron my clothes and i feel a lot smarter.

Hedget Tue 09-Apr-13 19:02:08

prettybird my basic hygiene is quite up to scratch thank you grin I don't like bleaching, but I do drink tea and coffee, and red wine, and it makes a difference to me. Also, it's cheaper than a check up, which I do annually, and I don't imagine my dentist wouldn't tell me if they saw anything wrong.

Tips that cost no money, I don't have - except standing up straight and growing out eyebrows. Tips that cost far less money than they appear to have done, I can do. Like buying the products that would be used for a professional manicure/pedicure - cost of one visit - mastering how to do it well, and then you have years worth. If you can find some peace and quiet to do it, that is. Japanese wash cloths and flannels instead of exfoliants. Not being hung up on leather bags - they're far too heavy anyway and you can't just shove them under a table or plonk them on a bar grin

Hand washing knitwear seems to make it last longer too.

I always shove my leather bags under a table - what am I missing?

Hedget Tue 09-Apr-13 19:51:24

I'm just justifying having one I don't need to worry about scruffing up, amber. But the best of all is it's so light.

hifi Tue 09-Apr-13 20:08:01

slim
good hair cut/blow dry/colour
none yellow teeth
small earring
classy watch
classy bag
great skin/minimal make upreat coat
great coat

marriedinwhiteagain Tue 09-Apr-13 20:22:36

Make TK Max your friend. Surprised no-one has said it earlier. My day to day coat is a good quality German cashsmere mix with a lovely collar and line and cost £69.00. The RRP was £389

Beaverfeaver Tue 09-Apr-13 20:22:50

I think the people who I spot and think they must be wealthy are the women who look atrocious but some how fabulous at the same time in a mixture of garish colours and clothes that were never meant to go together. Stuff that they might have had for years

Jessepinkman Wed 10-Apr-13 02:03:45

I think looking wealthy helps in every day transactions. There is a reason to aspire to looking like it. Toasted your blog is so so pretty, how can it not be for wealthy, or wealthy looking women. Its certainly not for people that have to worry about the gas bill. Unless they spent all the gas money on APC or something. Toasted just for the torture, are you one of the models on your blog? JUst hanging around looking fucking amazing, not caring about whether you look wealthy or not, because you look like a supermodel. Because for the record I don't care if I look rich or not, if I look like a supermodel. La shit, la gas bill sond super.

Jessepinkman Wed 10-Apr-13 02:05:19

Sorry Toasted that sounded really aggressive. I'm genuinely interested and largely jealous.

Bonsoir Wed 10-Apr-13 07:19:55

Styling (be it of clothing, houses, food or whatever else) is an art. If you master that art it is easier to look good. If you have no eye for what looks good, you can have as much money as you want but you will still look terrible!

AndiMac Wed 10-Apr-13 10:06:14

Adding myself here as I usually look scruffy no matter what I'm wearing, so need to read as many tips as possible.

Just call it deshabille, you'll be right.

santamarianovella Wed 10-Apr-13 12:26:52

we once saw a couple at a beach in south of france,the looked trashy,really trashy.the woman was wearing a gold diamond rolex,and rows and rows of gold chains around her neck,endless diamond bangles and she was holding a hot pink croc birkin as a beach bag,and a fedora hat.the guy was in his late sixties,botoxed to death, gold diamond rolex,awful silk swim shorts and a fedora hat.

id rather die,then ever look this "expensive".

santamarianovella Wed 10-Apr-13 13:51:11

toasted that A.P.C dress is tres francais,it reminded me of a dress catherine deneuve wore in the movie belle de jour.

im getting very interested in this topic too,and i agree that looking good on a budget is doable but its not something that you just acquire overnight.it takes time knowing what suits you,and it takes even longer to build a timeless closet,and yes where we live has a great impact on the way we dress,so investing in a good coat or trench is a must in my opinion.

NoelHeadbands Wed 10-Apr-13 14:22:04

I was in town once and saw a woman who really did exude wealth - took a second look and realised the man she was with (her husband) was Andrew Lloyd Webber

I'd like to look more wealthy but I draw the line at walking around with Andrew Lloyd Webber.

faustina Wed 10-Apr-13 14:23:53

santamaria you are spot on about the wrong kind of expensive looking. I actually find it quite depressing that someone wants to look "wealthy" rather than chic, or good, or groomed or stylish. OP is that really what you aspire to?

Noel that is the funniest thing I've read all day.

NoelHeadbands Wed 10-Apr-13 15:22:05

Ah thank you Amber grin

Allthingspretty Wed 10-Apr-13 20:30:11

Having shoes maintained when neccessary and clothes beimg spruced up bia a dry clean amd change in buttpns etc

practicality Wed 10-Apr-13 21:09:15

I think this comes down to focussing on style rather than fashion. Dressing tonally or in monochrome works well. The less is more approach. Lack of embellishment and clean cuts. Very little jewellery. The best quality materials in your best cuts. Modesty also -playing up one feature.

I think the following help -
Tan shoes- thong sandals, ballet pumps and small heel- all leather.
Tan leather shopper.
Tan/ black/ chestnut strap plain,discrete watch.
Black/Navy ballet pumps.
Riding style black/ brown boots.
Darkest indigo jeans,skinny,straight and narrow bootcut. Whatever combination works.
Cream/White blouse/shirt with a bit of stretch. One fitted, one slouchier.
Wide leg trousers,navy,black,camel or cream.
Breton.
Small silver/ gold hoops.
Black maxi dress. Column style.
Slouchy jumpers in colours like, navy, black and camel. Cashmere if you can stretch to it.
Fitted v- neck or scoop necks in neutral tones.
Fitted Cardigan in merino in your best neutral.
Maxi skirt, plain jersey.
Boat neck tops in White,black and navy. Long or 3/4 sleeve.
Cami vests for layering in similar tones.

Epic list! But hopefully helpful.
Re nails - subtle polish
Natural hair colour (or closest to it)

Jessepinkman One of the models????? Not a model by any stretch, dear god! I am in a few outfit pics in the 'me' section, but not remotely model-esque!
I'm rather small/short with no discernible norks though, and prefer to cut my head off the pics. sad

Thing is, I'm not a big fan of designer labels, and have struggled to get a decent wardrobe together through trial and error - and most of the errors were via brands like APC, Toast, etc. Money down the effing drain in my opinion. Of course the clothes are good quality, but they don't suit my figure, and it is so easy to get swept up in the maelstrom of marketing. Some of my favourite, best fitting items came from Next, Jaeger, Aubin&Wills, Warehouse, etc. And I think that fit is probably the most important element, really, it's at least up there in the top three (along with fabric quality, cut..). I bought quite a few APC items in 2011 and have since sold all but one. You live and learn.

I own very few things really, but strive to spend more on outerwear, shoes and bags because 'cheap' versions of these particular essentials are still quite expensive and have always let me down. However, I always feel that I make lovely things look crap!

Today I went to the city and visited Selfridges for the first time in 6 months. Was intrigued to check out the Isable Marant collection amongst other labels and came away a bit nonplussed. A sort of 'emperors new clothes' moment going on there. Nothing looked as good as it does online, after meticulous styling at places like NAP, Matches, etc. It all just seemed pretty lifeless and........not worth the insane price tags attached. Was particularly miffed by Acne, which seemed only a step up from Topshop, with sloppy knits and shapeless tees. In the end I bought a bottle of Kiehls fragrance and a broderie dress from GAP. And now I have to get the damn thing tailored to fit my non existent chest. Bah.

<ranty, sorry>

Isabel not isable. grin

santamarianovella Thanks. Do you mean the check patterned dress? I got that via Ebay for £20!! Quite happy with it but had to have it altered to fit right. I find most of their dresses utterly bizarre, fit wise. Since gaining a fair bit of popularity their prices have skyrocketed and I no longer consider them affordable, not even for a once per year splurge.
The only 'designer' items that I have truly loved are my Burberry trench and Mulberry Lily. Nobody needs to spend so much on clothing to look well turned out, but I do treasure them - they were the result of losing out on a holiday that I had been saving up for which never materialized, so I don't regret the expense. But would I do that every year? No bloody way. A warm house is now my luxury!

Sanctimumious Thu 11-Apr-13 13:41:10

A lot of those prescribed capsule pieces would look shit on me because I'm short.

It's much harder to look good when you're short imo. YOu can but you have to put a lot more thought and effort in to it. I'm short and I'm poor, so I try not to let my weight creep up. I could just throw in the towel if I put on a few pounds.

Sanctimumious Thu 11-Apr-13 13:45:23

eg, Practicality, that list might work for tall women, but a maxi skirt? flat pumps? nothing slouchy, ever. NO to slouchy.

I must do a list for smaller women. Honestly I would look like I'd rolled round in a charity shop if I wore the clothes on your list.

Talking of charity shops though, I do have a vintage burberry mac.

lightsandshapes Thu 11-Apr-13 13:53:21

Ironing clothes.... Putting out clothes night before so they are thought out in advance, perfume, good haircut....

Alwayscheerful Thu 11-Apr-13 13:59:46

Please can someone link me to toasted's blog?

practicality Thu 11-Apr-13 14:28:09

sanctimonious I disagree.

I am 5"3 and size 14. It is about getting your proportions right. I don't think you understand what I mean by slouchy. I am not talking excessively baggy/oversized but a bit loser for when you are wearing tighter things on your bottom half.

Yes shorter women can wear flats,slouchy clothes and maxi skirts/dress. It's how you put it together.

You were a bit rude with the charity shop comment, frankly.
There is nothing wrong with shopping in charity shops and certainly not something you should band around by way of an insult.

cah

vitaminC Thu 11-Apr-13 15:17:24

I would agree with those who mention grooming, but I would also extend that to taking care of your clothes, and especially shoes. Scuffed shoes look scruffy, no matter how much you paid for them!

I try to buy quality pieces, in natural fabrics, which I then take care of. I'm lucky to have a cheap dry cleaners near me, so I take the more expensive items there fairly regularly. Anything washable gets done at 30° (or by hand) and dried on a hanger (except t-shirts and jeans which go in the drier). I try to iron things asap after washing, before they get too crumpled.

I only buy good quality leather shoes. I generally buy one pair of shoes a year and boots every 2 years. But I spray deodorising spray in them everytime I've worn them, have them rehealed and resoled whenever needed, and polish/clean them (depending on whether leather or suede) as often as needed. I have pairs over 10 years old which still look brand new!

The other thing is I try to wear my better clothes out of the house only. I will usually take off a jacket as soon as I walk through the door and wear a hooded cardigan around the house to protect my top. I also change my shoes and wear slippers whenever I'm at home. Depending on what I'm doing (cooking, cleaning etc) I'll often wear "homewear" and keep my good clothes safely out of the way in the wardrobe smile

Avondale Thu 11-Apr-13 15:21:32

Smart shoes/ boots
Clean ironed clothes
Nothing over fashionable

Sanctimumious Thu 11-Apr-13 15:30:55

I never wear totally flat shoes. Not a regular wearer of high heels either though. I am shorter than you at 5'1".

I'm size 10 and if I wear loose clothes I look overweight and shapeless. So, fitted, fitted, fitted all the way for me. Belted coats a must for me.

If you're slim but not actually thin, fitted and belted is more flattering. Just my opinion of course! You know what works for you. Perhaps those extra two inches in height prevent you from looking dumpy.

A maxi skirt is not an obvious piece to put on list of must haves for the short woman!! But I believe you that it works for you.

Sanctimumious Thu 11-Apr-13 15:33:17

confused that you have taken offence - did I not say that I had got a burberry trench coat in a charity shop! I said I would look terrible in the clothes on your list. And I would. So, I suggested that your list is what works for you, and is not a list of rules for short people.

Are you offended by that?!

Alwayscheerful It isn't really a blog as such, just a tumblr with most images reblogged from other people (not many of my own!). I don't want to throw another link out for fear of looking like a self promoting pillock, but you can find it linked to a few pages back where I mention a Citizen wristwatch smile

Also, I agree that the mythological capsule wardrobe (or the French Method, or whatever it's variations are) isn't for everybody. And if it was, we'd all look like clones.
Many of those items do not suit me either, and having a narrow frame/shoulders means that man of the masculine styles really swamp me and make me look ridiculous. I love blogs that discuss these items but know that I can't simply emulate the looks to suit my own bodyshape - flat Repetto's ruin my feet and Isabel Marant-style overcoats make me look like a homeless orphan. Nor do I suit brogues, loafers or cigarette pants. My APC phase taught me quite a lot about restraint, I think! So many of the styles I love are simply not for me.
I do well with trenches, small heels and jeans though, and we can all enjoy a beautiful bag - no matter where it came from!

Sanctimumious Have you looked at petite blogs and pinterests? That could be a great source of inspiration, if you were interested. There are tons out there! (forgive me if you already read them). It is difficult to follow specific lists, and hardly any of us can adapt everything on them to suit our shape.....for instance, I would look ridiculous attempting to dress like Emmanuelle Alt, but I occasionally admire from afar. Still, I sometimes wish she'd shake it up a bit, dig out a skirt or something and freak her followers the hell out!

practicality Thu 11-Apr-13 16:38:01

sanctimonious I never said it was a list for any prescribed height, you were the one who raised the height issue.

My list is just a suggestion from reading I have done and things I have observed in others as well as discovered for myself.

It is just a view. It is a adaptable. Maybe you should stop being so harsh on yourself.

Charliefox Thu 11-Apr-13 18:36:07

Someone else said it earlier upthread but, back to the original question of how to look wealthy, it's just a certain 'something' some people have. It's the facial structure, the particular type of hair, it's the intangible x factor and no amount of nice shoes, perfume and freshly ironed clothes is ever going to cut the mustard! It's hard to desrcribe but you just know it when you see it!

I agree that dressing well when you're very short IS difficult, however, it's not impossible. I wear many of the things on that list and I think I look fab most days. I'm very very short at exactly five foot so I even find that many petite ranges are still too long in the leg/body. End of the day though, I don't care what any one else thinks of my clothing choices, I dress for me and me alone and I think I have bags of style.

Beaverfeaver Thu 11-Apr-13 18:47:33

People always comment on my mum looking fabulous and expensive looking.
She is 60, short, and a size 16.
However, she has an amazing beautiful face and hair cut and is always nicely done to leave the house.
She always uses facial oils and good quality natural products.
Her clothes are always dresses. Always body skimming knee length with long sleeves and will always wear a big flowing coat, scarf, nice shoes or boots and always has a wonderful unusual hand bag.

She doesn't buy a lot but when she does she spends £££ to get good stuff that lasts and fits well.

santamarianovella Thu 11-Apr-13 18:55:57

i agree,these capsule items are not for everyone. no matter what height or weight you are, certain items will never suit you .im 5"5 and a size 8 and while everyone my age(late twenties)are doing brogues and nike balance i look like crap in both of them.and those stella mccartney style blazers that have been promoted to a classic staple status? i look so bad in them its actually funny,
toastedyou are right about marant,it looks nice but up close,they are not that special, i find vanessa bruno stuff much nicer and classier in a very modern and understated way.

Viviennemary Thu 11-Apr-13 19:14:07

Your Mum sounds amazing Beaverfeaver. Put her on this thread! Where does she shop mostly.

For any shorter ladies looking for inspiration, I recommend Wendy's lookbook. Now she has definitely got 'it'!

curlyLJ Thu 11-Apr-13 20:39:07

Haven't read the whole thread, so sorry if this has been said already, but I always remember something that a HoC consultant said to me when I had my colours done in the late 90s...

She asked if I had ever wondered why some of the most glamourous models can sometimes look like they are wearing something cheap, when in fact it they are wearing something very expensive. Her reasoning was that the correct colours and in particular your best ones, will look more expensive on you. eg, if you are not a 'winter' then black doesn't necessarily do you any favours, no matter how much you have spent on the outfit.

I always remember her telling me that black is OK for me, but navy and indigo will always look more expensive on - and from past experience and comments i've received, this appears to be true. I guess it is the whole look too though, so the style itself needs to suit you and 'correct' make up and accessories also play a part...

Beaverfeaver Thu 11-Apr-13 20:46:06

Viviennemary -I can't remember the more unusual places, a lot of it is catalogue buys from White Company (really lovely thick grey coat), Celtic & Co for cashmere items,Isabella Oliver for some dresses,Issa dresses, Peruvian connection to name a few examples.

marriedinwhiteagain Thu 11-Apr-13 23:02:16

practicality tan only works if one can wear tan. I can't and neither can other summers.

Yes yes, I think that I am a light summer and I look like a faded cat turd whenever I try to wear tan or beige. Cooler tones are passable, like my tench coat, but that's about it. Lilac suits me best, which is nice....but not incredibly versatile.

cerealqueen Thu 11-Apr-13 23:17:43

I think classics make you look classy, which is different to wealthy, (just look at TOWIE!) a trench, a peacoat, LBD etc. in good colours eg navy, camel.

I also think it is good to know your own style but not slavishly follow fashion.

practicality Thu 11-Apr-13 23:30:05

You can wear a tan bag or shoes no matter what your season is. The other clothes- I suggest finding your neutral. Winters have blacks and navy. Bright springs have black as well s their version of navy. Summers have their navy/taupe too. Autumns can do the camel etc.

Gingerandhibiscus Fri 12-Apr-13 17:52:42

I must check out wendy's look book. is that a blog or a site?

cleangreens Fri 12-Apr-13 18:45:08

I dislike tan intensely not sure why.

Toasted the images on your tumblr/blog are absolutely gorgeous - I could gaze at photos like that all day and just dream of living in that life!

marriedinwhiteagain Fri 12-Apr-13 19:23:33

You can't wear tan whatever colour you are wearing because it quite simply does not "go" with blues, pinks, damsons, teals or the colours that I can wear as a "hotter" summer than *toasted*. I can get away with black if I wear it with a colour underneath but am better in navy, indigo, etc. I can get away with brown but it has to be a pinky brown and the same for beige too - both have to have a pinkish/coral type scarf or top underneath.

My accessories tend to be black/navy/cream/shades of pink and for shoes pewtery shades if I need something neutral. Heathery shades work for me too and plums/purples so darker versions I imagine than Toasted needs.

Best colours for me are emerald, turquoise, heathers, soft blues and dusty pinks although I can do quite deep pink. Have some fab purple pumps from Gabor which have been a staple all winter.

Gingerandhibiscus Fri 12-Apr-13 19:24:57

I could do a tan bag, but not tan shoes. Problem with tan shoes is that unless you have tan trousers as well, and that might be a little too much tan, then you're missig the opportunity to elongate the leg! so I'd stick to navy trousers and navy shoes, or black trousers and black shoes. I prefer navy to tan or beige or ecru or stone or any of those lifeless colours that look good in a magazine, but not on most women.

Viviennemary Fri 12-Apr-13 22:08:31

Thanks Beaverfeaver. I'll have a look at those.

libertychick Fri 12-Apr-13 22:09:05

For me it seems to come down to hair and sleep. When I am well rested and have done my hair I get loads of compliments. My hair is frizz prone so if it's not 'done' it looks terrible and no matter how well dressed I am the frizz just completely ruins the look.

I agree that good teeth help a lot - not bleached, but clean and straight. I would borrow if necessary to make sure my DD had the treatment needed to have straight teeth.

I'm a winter, but I carry any colour bag - I've got to draw the line somewhere. Possess no tan bags though, because as a colour I just find it singularly boring, probably why I never look classy ;)

HappyGirlNow Sat 13-Apr-13 09:04:24

I've never had my colours done but I tend to look good in cream and navy - does anyone know what season I am and what other colours I should stick to?

Fuckitthatlldo Sat 13-Apr-13 09:14:47

For me it's about looking understated and crisp. So...

Quality clothes in natural fabrics that fit you well (don't need to necessarily spend a fortune, just shop wisely).

Everything clean, ironed, and in a good state of repair.

No obvious and unnatural looking hair dye, make-up, fake tan e.t.c.

Just one or two pieces of good jewellery, as opposed to many pieces of bling or costume.

It's about good taste and good grooming I think. Any woman can stick to the guidelines above and look, not necessarily stinking rich, but chic, smart, and "classy" for want of a better word.

I also think personally that you can get away with things such as having less than perfect teeth if you look like you take decent care of yourself and you dress well.

On the other hand we all know of women who have pots of money and majorly lucked out in the genetic lottery but still manage to look dreadful. I don't mean to sound unsisterly but... Tulisa. Awful. Just awful. I honestly don't know how she does it. She could make vintage Chanel look like Primark seconds. I can hardly bear to look at her at times. And she's gorgeous as well!

HollaAtMeBaby Sat 13-Apr-13 09:29:44

I can do the wealthy look if I want to (little silk top, cashmere sweater/cardigan, nice narrow jeans, ballet pumps, sunglasses perched in swishy hair, expensive bag, fake diamond stud earrings), but I feel so boring dressed that way! Maybe I will do it when I'm older.

Good bags and coats are important and given how much I wear a coat, I decided to fork out for Maxmara. Have worn it at east 5 days a week x 20 weeks of year x 4 years so far, bringing cost per wear down to about £2, and it still looks new! Generally, however, I buy very cheap clothes (H&M/Zara sale rail) as long as the fabric is reasonable quality, and get them tailored to fit me. I have an amazing lady called Tam, based in central London: www.twinsdrycleaners.co.uk - usually go straight to her from the shop and try everything on with the tags on, she tells me if she can make it work and if not I trot straight back to the shop for a refund!

Has anyone mentioned smoking? It looks really rough/common IMO and giving up will free up funds for wardrobe upgrades wink

thriftychic Sat 13-Apr-13 10:26:39

toasted i love love love your blog , its everything i adore envy

TheYoniOfYawn Sat 13-Apr-13 11:39:01

Tailoring sale clothes is a fantastic idea. Roughly how much does it cost?

HollaAtMeBaby Sat 13-Apr-13 13:56:48

Depends how much work is involved but I usually pay £8-12 per item. Sometimes the tailoring costs more than the garment! But it still works out very cheap smile

Gingerandhibiscus Sat 13-Apr-13 16:35:44

holla, amy tailer is very good..

Gingerandhibiscus Sat 13-Apr-13 16:38:28

i meant say AGREE. having a good tailer is great. ive also occasionally spent more on tailering than on clothing. i dont buy that much in charity shops because i cant decide if i want it hecause its good value or if i need it / actually like it.

SplatPancake Sat 13-Apr-13 17:19:42

I think good posture can really enhance the effect of looking wealthy/chic however you want to describe it. Nobody looks good schlumping along, all round shouldered, no matter what they're wearing

AvrilPoisson Mon 15-Apr-13 00:08:54

I agree with tailoring items to fit perfectly (as someone 5'0"!).
I have bought things for peanuts from the clearance in TKMaxx for example, had them tailored for another £12/15, then they look very expensive, but still cost around £20. (e.g. silk Ralph Lauren jacket).

Curtsey Mon 15-Apr-13 11:44:53

Coming late to this.

Some thoughts/musings.

1. Toasted - envy envy envy is all I can say. You are gorgeous, your apartment is gorgeous, and your style is just spot on. Can I please be you?

2. I don't think anyone should ever want to look 'wealthy'. I think what we mean when we say 'wealthy' is actually just 'groomed' and 'pulled together'. They're different things. Stylish friends of mine never look wealthy. They just look great, whatever their style is - classic or bohemian or minimalist. They've got all the details right (and they have good skin). They care, and think about it, and devote time to it. They make it look effortless but there's loads going on underneath the surface. And some of them are very wealthy, and some have very little money.

3. Another shortie here (about 5'2) with no boobs to speak of. I'm not opposed to buying things from Primark, but I have reached the age and stage (30 next birthday) where I must admit that I look shit in Primark. SHIT. But I don't necessarily look more groomed in expensive brands either. I am very much still working out my style. One thing I have recently realised is that crew necks/boat necks are my friend. The less skin on show at my neckline, the better. I think this is because the more I'm covered up on my top half, the taller and more 'streamlined' I look.

4. I've started to carry a hairbrush with me. I have fine flyaway hair and the second I step outside it goes ratty and tangled. If my hair is regularly brushed, I feel less of a mess and it stops me scraping it back into a studenty knot. Obviously, don't brush your hair in public, though - find a loo somewhere or do it in your car smile

foxysocks Mon 15-Apr-13 11:51:11

I cannot imagine wanting or aiming to look wealthy, it has never crossed my mind. i wear what i love and what I think looks good.

MrsCampbellBlack Mon 15-Apr-13 12:22:35

Toasted your tumblr is gorgeous and I have the same Marant blouse as you and wish I'd bought those Zara sandals too.

I think some of the stuff listed on here is just very very classic and therefore a bit dull. You can still look wealthy but be a bit more adventurous.

And yes looking wealthy is just not something that a lot of people aspire too.

I agree with MrsCB and Foxysocks above.
The question is 'why' would we wish to look wealthier? I do like nice things though, that can't be denied!grin But I am somewhat uncomfortable with the idea of showing off wealth, even if I don't possess it. I am a little bit afraid of looking desperate, I think, because as someone noted earlier in the thread many genuinely wealthy folks tend to not give two shits. And there's no real prescribed uniform, is there? Surely the things we lust after now are still driven by some sort of 'trend', and I definitely think that the 'wealthy' look is a current favourite, esp in the land of tumblr and pinterest, most likely accelerated by the likes of Emmanuelle Alt, etc.

I am surprised by how many very young girls covet Chanel, Celine, etc. In the 90's when I was a teen/early 20's we loathed the posh look and would never have dreamed of trying to emulate a royal! I think that the media, driven by the internet has brought awareness of extremely wealthy well dressed people to the masses unlike never before, and young girls are now bombarded with so much imagery of luxury goods....

MrsCB, I love the blouse! I really like her colour palette this season - the raspberry tones and purples and those swirly, marbled patterns. Not really something I can afford to indulge in generally, but glad I purchased this.

The Zara sandals are still available aren't they? I usually ponder over things until they're sold out....story of my life!

TheYoniOfYawn Mon 15-Apr-13 12:47:50

I think that most of us on this thread don't mean "wealthy" at all, but are using it as a sort of shorthand for "chic and elegant" in a way that most of the wealthy people I know aren't.

scarlet76 Mon 15-Apr-13 12:52:25

Toasted your comment about the genuine wealthy not giving 2 shits reminded me of an old male friend. He's from a very wealthy family, was privately educated etc.. Whenever we went down the pub, the rest of us would make a bit of an effort but he would turn up in faded old jeans, deck shoes, an old stripe shirt and a posh watch. I don't think he possessed a hairbrush. The notion of looking wealthy would not even be on his radar. But he simply is and does look genuinely wealthy.

MostFamousMonkey Mon 15-Apr-13 12:54:15

I'm at an age now where I actually want to look 'chic and elegant'. Never thought it would happen as I've always had a slightly eclectic (or scruffy, in my case) look. But I've now entered my 50's and although some of my contemporaries can still carry off a boho or eclectic look extremely well, it's not working for me.
Making changes to my wardrobe to bring in some classic pieces, but they are actually quite hard to find.
The challenge for me is how to do without looking bland and boring.

MrsCampbellBlack Mon 15-Apr-13 12:55:08

Yes I think you're right yoni.

Toasted - am now obsessively scouring the zara site wink

Agree, if looking expensive is swishing around in camel coats and cream silk shirts then that ain't for me. A. I'd look hideous because those colours really bring out the touch of jaundice in me and B. how boring?!

TheYoniOfYawn Mon 15-Apr-13 13:24:04

I think those things are only boring on the wrong person. I have one friend who has a fantastic hobo style - deep red hair, plenty of bright lipstick, vintage clothes, unusual hats. Put her in a camel trouser suit and natural make up and all her natural sparkle and vibrancy would be gone and she would look dull. I have another friend who has classic English rose colouring with wavy blonde hair and dresses in jeans/wide leg trousers, neutral tops and maybe a scarf. Her way of dressing looks fabulous, drawing attention to her glowing skin, piercing blue-grey eyes, and stunning cheekbones. Dress her in the boho look my other friend wears, and she looks tacky, like someone in fancy dress. It's all about dressing to suit your own face, body and personality.

TheYoniOfYawn Mon 15-Apr-13 13:24:37

Boho, not hobo.

MrsCampbellBlack Mon 15-Apr-13 13:27:32

I am a fairly classic dresser - I can't do many things that I do like, eg, wedge trainers. And hobo/boho wink just doesn't work on me at all.

But yes we all need to dress to suit our own style/body/lifestyle and just have fun with it.

santamarianovella Mon 15-Apr-13 15:36:24

i think what amber mentioned is the most boring degree of wealthy.
camel coats+cream blouses = park avenue princess.
its very discreet but too boring and bland.
im not british,but i really admire and love the way young british women dress,they have a distinctive style.it can be very chic and safe except for a tattered and beaten up pair of boots or leather jacket,or a scarf in a really crazy print.

I look terrible in 'classic' clothes. I look far better just dressing a bit goth/rock chick. It just seems to work for me. Looking 'wealthy' can be very deceptive, some people look a million dollars dressed in Primark head to toe. As long as people like what they are wearing, I don't think it matters what anyone else thinks.

Owllady Mon 15-Apr-13 16:12:08

I think you always have to spend more money on a good coat and shoes

most other stuff I think you can get away with with accessorising and 'dressing' well iykwim

Owllady Mon 15-Apr-13 16:13:27

tbf though, I mean glam/classy rather than well off

lots of well orf ladies here, they live in barbour and quilted stuff with massive handbags and bright red lipstick OR they are wearing dirty muddy jodpurs and stink of horses (more likely)

Exactly santa that park avenue princess look does nothing for me, and actually, I don't find it terribly stylish as look - too predictable.

as a look.

I love my wedge trainers, i don't care if they make me look like a common floozy!

Also, those Charlotte Olympia kitty flats bother the hell out of me. Really not worth the cost for a gimmick, and I can't say they look terribly durable either. I always wonder who would buy this crap just because it's high end. And then i see bloggers traipsing around in them......and weep.

Frostybean Tue 16-Apr-13 00:29:04

This has been said about me, much to my amusement. Ive known people barge past other people at parties in order to speak to me, assuming Im rich, then watching their face fall as they realise Im common, know nobody and grew up in a semi in the midlands grin My old hairdresser said that she assumed I had servants or staff when she first met me confused I dont wear designer clothes so thats not it and Im not thin. I dont wear jewellery or a posh watch either (cheap Fossil jobby) and I have a regional accent.
I find that the proper posh/rich just have a certain deportment that sets them apart from the rest of us. Theyd look good in a hessian blanket. Carolyn Bassette Kennedy springs to mind.

Absy Tue 16-Apr-13 12:55:38

I've been thinking about this (as how to look well put together, rather than "wealthy") and I have some ideas.

I have one colleague who always looks lovely, but she shops almost exclusively in places like H&M, Next (we have jokes about her wearing polyester), Primark etc. She's VERY careful about being coordinated, and very good at it. So if she wears say, a plain black dress with a floral printed scarf, her nails and shoes will match the pink in the scarf etc. etc. She's also very good at picking out stuff which looks more expensive than it is. The other day she was wearing these gorgeous, antique-y filigree earrings, so we asked where they were from "oh, some small shop somewhere. They cost £2". I would NEVER have thought that.
And, she also does the things listed here:
- hair is always neatly done (e.g. today in a high bun)
- make up neat and discrete (just some foundation to even out skin tone, a bit of blush, slick of eyeliner - it's not surprising she's obsessed with Bobby Brown stuff)

Justonemorecardi Thu 18-Apr-13 21:04:28

Toasted, your tumblr is gorgeous - love your Mulberry Lily - do you mind me asking is it the small or medium one?

Filofax Thu 18-Apr-13 23:03:44

Toasted, you have a section devoted to Bretons! I will try not to stalk you just watch with interest. Love your tumblr.

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