I'm Mother of the Bride and I hate Mother of the Bride outfits

(56 Posts)
KristinaM Mon 11-Mar-13 21:35:31

Title says it all really. I've looked at hundreds on line, they are all shiny taffeta, pastel chiffon or floral . Its not my style - I like simple but dramatic shapes in bold colours. On the very odd occasion when I get dressed up.

Wedding is in May, a civil ceremony in a country house hotel. I don't have to match or avoid any colours ( apart from white or black obviously ) . I don't even need to wear a hat or a fascinator grin

I'm a size 10, 5'5". Reasonable budget. It should be easy. Sigh

habbibu Mon 11-Mar-13 21:39:15

my mum wore a bkack dress, with a long orange coat thing, plus black and orange hat. She looked ace.

CitizenOscar Mon 11-Mar-13 21:41:47

My mum wore white linen trousers with silky tunic top from monsoon, plus a hat. It suited her and she looked fab, relaxed but stylish.

CitizenOscar Mon 11-Mar-13 21:42:54

PS I didn't wear white but even if I had, I don't think the trousers would have looked strange next to me as the top was the focus point of her outfit.

bulletproofgerbil Mon 11-Mar-13 21:46:51

Me too kristina Was looking online over the weekend and while there are no shortage of outfits available, they are virtually all vile. So will be watching this thread with interest. I don't need any headwear either thankfully as also civil ceremony.

KristinaM Mon 11-Mar-13 21:46:51

Was her top coloured, citizen?

Ruprekt Mon 11-Mar-13 21:52:32

Phase 8 often have lovely dresses.

Great that you dont really have to BE in a mother of the bride outfit.

cookielove Mon 11-Mar-13 22:00:55

My mother wore a bright orange dress, it was a beautiful cut and she looked amazing smile she was worried that she may stand out to much but it was fine, i was from Reiss

it was very similar to this she wore a black fasinator, shoes and jacket!!

She to, hated all that floral crap style!!

Mum wore black and white and looked chic, not fussy, and great Iin all the photos.

catinboots Mon 11-Mar-13 22:06:46

My mum went to Hobbs both times (me and DSis)

She looked fucking amazing. Appropriate for MOB, stylish, trendy, demure and damn well better then both of the MOGs

catinboots Mon 11-Mar-13 22:08:40

Actually thinking now she had a bit if a theme for both - very flattering swishy knee length expensive looking dress. But with AMAzing shawl/jacket, fascinatior, bag, shoes, jewellery etc

Cremolafoam Mon 11-Mar-13 22:10:21

Have you looked at anglomania by Vivienne Westwood . Lots of beautifully cut clothes which are not flouncy in anyway.

LeChatRouge Mon 11-Mar-13 22:11:48

How about this dress with silver strappy sandals?

My mum wore a dress and jacket from Hobbs and looked beautiful.

X post cat in boots smile

DewDr0p Mon 11-Mar-13 22:13:38

I know I'm starting to sound like an undercover John Lewis personal shopper but my Mum used their service for my brother's wedding and she looked stunning She is quite short and busty and finds it tricky to get dresses and jackets to fit but they made her look amazing and not MOB-ish at all.

DewDr0p Mon 11-Mar-13 22:14:06

Pressed send too soon - she looked v fresh and modern

Maryz Mon 11-Mar-13 22:16:55

oooh, I know nothing about fashion.

But I'm going to vicariously enjoy this wedding so am shamelessly nosying on this thread [excited]

1944girl Mon 11-Mar-13 22:17:04

I hate mother of the bride/groom outfits with a passion.My DS2 has been married twice, first time I wore a lovely emerald green dress with no hat as I hate ''formal'' hats.Facinators are silly looking things.
I cant remember what I wore for his second marriage, I'd been through it all before.
Mother of the bride outfits with lampshade hats make me cringe.

INeverSaidThat Mon 11-Mar-13 22:17:28

I think avoiding overly MO the B dresses is probably a good start. I am not overly keen on hatstand fascinaters either but it depends on the wedding.

Linen always looks lovely especially in plain colours.

I love some of the suggestions so far.

UmBongo Mon 11-Mar-13 22:18:36

I think my mum's outfit was from Jaques Vert. She also declared she hated Mother Of The Bride Outfits. Although we did go into one shop and as soon as we got in the door she was asked "Mother of the bride or mother of the groom?"!!!!!!!!!

Just wear something you like and feel comfortable and confident in, and enjoy your daughters big day! Congratulations to all.

cityangel Mon 11-Mar-13 22:20:27

I second the option to book a John Lewis personal shopper session (earlier in the morning the better) It will give you an idea of the high street options (they carry most labels) and if you don't find anything at least you'll know you've exhausted some options and they do all the leg work. Don't only let them go out on the shop floor/ half way through the session go out and pick what you like, it will focus you more hmm

The more options the better are you near a Westfields or Bicester?

GemmaTeller Mon 11-Mar-13 22:22:05

Have a look at Coast.

I'm mother of the groom later in the year and can't abide the shiny, ruffly, floaty, big bows, bright splashy outfits with teeny tiny bolero jackets.

I bought a fitted dark blue 'cocktail' type dress and am going to wear cream accessories and a cream and navy hat. I trying to channel my inner Audrey Hepburn!

beginnings Mon 11-Mar-13 22:25:01

My mother wore a black and white dress to my wedding! And MIL wore Jacques Vert. They both looked lovely and neither looked mother of the bride/groomy!

Cremolafoam Mon 11-Mar-13 22:52:02
Womenandchickensfirst Mon 11-Mar-13 23:29:50

Ohh, I was going to start this thread.

Mine's in a church/ country house and I have always wanted Vivienne Westwood. That one up thread looks lovely, and definitely worth a try on. I've booked a personal shopper at House of Fraser in a fortnight, but have also made appointment to go to a (whispers) Brides Mother shop - with youngest DD (aged 20), to stop me if I find myself getting sucked into ruffles and satin! I hoped to be a size 12, but will settle for being a 14 - although still 2 months to go!
Am I so wrong for wanting to wear a big hat?

KristinaM Mon 11-Mar-13 23:33:23

Oh such lovely suggestions here! I don't know where to start

I'm a bit worried about Coast and Hobbs in case I end up wearing the same as one of the guests. What do you think?

But I like the purple dress in the coast link-what will I wear on top though? I would need a jacket /shrug thingie in case it's cold , as I'm not sure my thermal vest will fit under it . Also liking the reiss orange and the net a porter.

i LOVE VW Anglomania ( I have a few of their jersey dresses) but not so keen on the floral one,sorry

Mary-you will be disappointed to hear that the helicopter plan has not worked out but there are still many other tacky elements to the day. Hopefully my outfit wont be one of them . Sigh.

Repeat " smile and nod"

VestaCurry Mon 11-Mar-13 23:48:21

My mum bought a gorgeous Karen Millen slub silk dress with matching coat. Background colour of dress and coat was oatmeal and then the accent colours and pattern were in olive and a kind of burnt soft tangerine. She had always wanted to wear a big hat and we found a gorgeous one in Peter Jones on Oxford Street. Colours weresoft ivory and mink, complemented the outfit beautifully. She was 5ft 1, size 12, and looking back at the pics, she looked sooo elegant but modern. The secret was the beautiful cut of the outfit, no ruffles, but simple elegant lines, showing off the gorgeous material and colours. It meant she could get away with a big hat even though she was quite tiny. I was so proud of my Mum that day. She really was the best dressed woman there, not in a showy way though and she felt really confident.

KristinaM Tue 12-Mar-13 08:04:53

That's a lovely tribute to her, Vesta :-)

Another Phase 8 fan here. Mum wore a lovely outfit from there. She looked gorgeous, stylish, confident and happy. And it was comfy too!

I am wearing black to a wedding at the weekend. I was worried, but now I am not - its set to be freezing and I have long sleeves, a beautiful pashmina in gold and black, gold accessories (less tacky than they sound!), and warm legs as I have a new pair of knee high boots!

KristinaM Tue 12-Mar-13 08:21:54

That's sounds lovely travail, especially at a winter wedding. Hope the snow lasts for their photos

Startail Tue 12-Mar-13 08:45:46

DMums was a matching cotton jacket and skirt, black with all over cream floral, leafy pattern so it was summery. Hat with black crown and cream brim. She made it, she's a large lady with an aversion to tents, she always made her own dresses and skirts.

DMIL had a wine background, purple bright blue and gold Indian floaty skirt and blouse and definitely no hat. But my DMIL was 16 years older than my mum and the best advert for late motherhood you could ever meet, she was quite a character.

Both OP wore what they felt comfortable in and that's the important thing.

member Tue 12-Mar-13 08:56:30

My mum wore an indigoey purple plain shift dress with matching fitted jacket. No bows, ruffles,pastels or florals. The cut, colour and the fact that it was made of silk (not shiny,shiny)made it look elegant.

GemmaTeller Tue 12-Mar-13 09:23:45
Cremolafoam Tue 12-Mar-13 10:06:14


Some really beautiful separates here. Particularly like the pale green shift in broderie anglaise. There is a matching jacket

I think the traditional MOB 'look' doesn't suit anybody under the age of about 70!

When I was getting married my mum and I were horrified by all the peach taffeta everywhere! We gave up on 'bridal' shops completely and ended up getting her a lovely dress from Monsoon - who do actually have a bridal section anyway (which is better than most of them are).

What about this?

Floral but not granny floral IMO!

Or this?

If florals aren't your thing..

My Mum got a beautiful plum coloured dress from Karen Millen.

Yes, no need to bother with bridal shops, the outfits are mostly vile.

Lots of lovely dresses here

EuroShaggleton Tue 12-Mar-13 11:00:07

My mum wore Jacques Vert to my wedding. It can MOTB central, but her outfit was lovely with not a pastel in sight - a cream edge to edge jacket over a black skirt and black top, with shoes to match the jacket. Basically a very smart and glam suit. She looked fab. She sounds similar to you in that she suits dark or bright colours, in simple, unfussy shapes, and never wears pastels.

KristinaM Tue 12-Mar-13 12:11:03

Thanks for all the links

The black and orange monsoon dress is lovely, but it would wear me I think as the pattern is very bold.

And I forgot that I need to avoid navy as that's what the bridesmaids are wearing. All five of them. In different navy dresses , different fabrics, styles and lengths. And they are not having flowers so will look just like guests.IM not every HO. Ho hum

Amyway, back to the importamt sibject of MY OUTFIT. I've always avoided Karen Millan as I thought it was a bit Tarty. But there are some lovely dresses there too. Ill have to reexamine my prejudices grin

grin know what you mean about tarty, but Mum and I were pleasantly surprised. The dresses she tried on came up a tiny bit small, so keep in mind if you order from the website.

AWimbaWay Tue 12-Mar-13 12:21:11

How about jaeger or fenn wright manson?

My Mum wore a gorgeous floaty soft velvet trouser suit from fwm to my wedding, looked lovely.

AWimbaWay Tue 12-Mar-13 12:33:09
AWimbaWay Tue 12-Mar-13 12:54:03

Have just seen this dress linked on another dress, watch the video, looks lovely.

AWimbaWay Tue 12-Mar-13 12:54:44

*linked on another dress thread that should read!

My Mum, and a my SIL's mum and a few of my friend's mums all went to Jacques Vert. Some of the stuff is hideous and granny but some of it is very stylish and elegant. My Mum wore a black dress with a cream trim and a cream and black bolero and she looked stunning, I was so proud of her.

this is what my Mum wore, it is quite fitted and then flares out and was just gorgeous.

Obv I am biased ;)

I would avoid Monsoon and Coast for fear of wearing the same as other guests.

CitizenOscar Tue 12-Mar-13 13:19:47

Sorry for late reply - yes DM's tunic top from monsoon was coloured - olive & pink which suited my dress.

It was the result of a personal shopper type service at monsoon.

Inertia Tue 12-Mar-13 13:36:58

Hobbs have got lots of bold colours for their dresses, and their dresses are lovely. Can you get your daughter to gently spread the word that the BM will be in navy, you will be in an xx colour dress from yy shop, and MoG will be in zz so that people have a clue what to avoid? Guests often do ask.

GemmaTeller Tue 12-Mar-13 14:00:52
GemmaTeller Tue 12-Mar-13 14:03:40

.... in fact I like it more than the dress I've bought for the wedding...dammit!

Still18atheart Tue 12-Mar-13 14:05:49

Have you looked in House of Fraser. And I second phase 8

EuroShaggleton Tue 12-Mar-13 14:26:56

fluffy that's pretty similar to what my mum went for (but she had a jacket rather than bolero, but the same colour combo).

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