If you are a short, fat, skint apple, where do you buy clothes?

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I have a payment due in two weeks for a piece of work grin

I want to spend a bit on clothes but not a fortune. I will have about £150 to spend. I'm still losing weight but need some clothes to do for now

I am short (5ft1) a size 12 on top and a 14 on the bottom, and boy do I have a bottom, massive arse and huge thighs. I'd like a whole new wardrobe, but realistically a couple of decent pair of jeans and some tops will have to do.

And I hate clothes shopping. It stresses me and makes me anxious and feel bad about myself.

I don't need bags or shoes or scarves. Those don't make me feel like a weeble so I have loads of those.

Snootymum Mon 25-Feb-13 10:52:47

For affordable jeans I'd recommend good old Topshop! I wear Baxter jeans, they are £40 a pair and are 'relaxed fit skinny', so basically more flattering than conventional skinnies. I have them in a few colours, and they do a shorter leg length. I usually wear them with H&M vest tops (£3.99 each!!), a cardi or a blazer, and then a nice necklace from Primark or H&m.

What sort of tops are you looking for? Casual? Blouses? Jumpers?

Thank you!

I haven't been in topshop in 20 years blush

Looking for casual - have blouses and jumpers, I just want NICE tops

Noren Mon 25-Feb-13 10:58:30

If you're near a Levis outlet store (York and Cheshire oaks do) check in case they have a sale on - they will shorten the jeans for free and they have clever sizing to fit ones shape.

I've had some success with New Look - it sounds wrong, but tight-fitting and short is often very a very successful look on those of us who are short and fat - baggy just accentuates the issue.

That's my issue Noren, and what I need to sort - I have been so unhappy with my shape I've been living in baggy. And I'd like to change that

VivaLeBeaver Mon 25-Feb-13 11:04:51

Gap jeans are worth their weight in gold, see if you can find an outlet.

practicality Mon 25-Feb-13 11:11:01

Okay. Firstly stop with the downer on yourself. You sound like you are a pear shape rather than an apple. First of all do you have a waist? Are you short legged or long? I know at 5"1 that sounds strange but have a look at your proportions. I am an apple, size 12-14, height 5"3 but I have 29" legs so they are long considering my height IYSWIM. Are you busty? Do you have great arms? Long neck? What are all the positives? They need identifying first and then you can think about what clothes will work for you.

Snootymum Mon 25-Feb-13 11:29:12

For nice tops, check out George at Asda, and Matalan. I've got quite a few tops from both of those in the past few months and they've all been dirt cheap (Less than a tenner per top), and good quality. Primark often have lots of nice tops but the problem is the buttons fall off and loose threads appear pretty quickly.

There's a gap outlet half an hour away. I have never been in the door blush

I am high waisted, with a muffin top (thanks kids), 34D in the boobs, arms aren't flabby (no bingo wings yet), my legs are a 29"

I have nice calves, but v chunky thighs

practicality Mon 25-Feb-13 12:38:52

Right high waist skinny jeans are the way to go. Haul in the muffin and emphasise your long legs. I like the ones from Next. I would try a 12 and a 14. Get the ones you can shoehorn yourself into because they do give. They have elastine in as well so are comfy. I have worn mine for a good few months and there is no muffin in evidence. Check out the clearance thing to see if they have it in there half price. Do that in the morning befor the stock goes. Buy dark ones.

Once the jeans are sorted you can wear a pretty fitted top to show off the rack. Layer up with a longer vest underneath to smooth out any ripples and break the lines up a bit. I'm taking over hip length. Prim ark were doing these and they wash and wear great. Go for wide scoop tops/jumpers. They emphasise the rack and minimise the thigh hip area. Team with long casual boots to avoid the parsnip. A long fitted (not empire line) tunic/jumper/sweat works well too. Keep it fitted but in a stretchy material for comfort.

Dresses might work well. Look for the skater style-that is fitted on top but flaring into a short A-line. Wear a cropped cardi or cropped denim jacket so there isn't too much material around the hips/top of the legs. Go for something plain in a stretchy material. This can then be made casual by wearing with leggings and converse/ballet pumps or dressed up a bit with long boots. Dorothy Perkins was doing a good line of these. If you get a short sleeve one you can wear without a Cardigan in the summer or layer up a tight fitting long sleeve top underneath so it can work like a tunic or a dress. Go for a mid thigh jobbie.

eBay is worth a shot for a lot of this stuff. Prim ark can be great for basics.
Also try a casual a-line skirt. Wear fitted on top. Side zip one. Pick the right one and you can wear with a vest and fit flops in the summer and warm it up with tights and boots in the autumn/spring.

teta Mon 25-Feb-13 13:04:04

I am a size 14,5ft 3 apple.I wear M&S pull on jeggings[the elastic waistband ensures that they do not fall down-which is my biggest bug bear] in indigo and black denim tucked into boots.Always a long vest top[bottom covering from Matalan] underneath either a silk shirt or t shirt [again from Matalan].Matalan have some pretty good summer t shirts in a washed finish in a multitude of different colours[shown in the susy so so blog] .Alternatively there are some plain crew necks or modal long sleeve tops online.As i'm vertically challenged i tend to wear low necked tops to make me look taller-Henleys work really well as do low scoop necks and vest tops/boyfriend cardigans.A denim mini with lace tights would really suit you with your slim legs.

You lot are fab

OK Monday is TheDay.

Today is be depressed about my shape day. I did a silly thing. I went clothes shopping with DD and her friends. Which was not a very good idea. I did go to New Look and try on the high waisted skinnies but I looked all fat thighed and lumpy. I suit boot cut better because they balance the fat thighs. But I don't want to look like Granny from M&S.

I have hunted in my wardrobe. And tried on everything with wine and made DD and her friend be honest.

The conclusion is I suit wide legged trousers, or bootcuts, longer tops and I really really suit dresses.

So do I ditch the jeans hunt and just go for dresses then?

<really doesn't want to go shopping for clothes but needs them>

And the budget is up to £300

StepAwayFromTheEcclesCakes Sat 09-Mar-13 10:51:46

I would ditch the jeans, buy a well fitting pair of black wide leg trousers as you can wear these with anything. then go with the skirt idea up thread and yes dresses if they suit you, get a plain one that fits well and dress it up with cardigans / jackets / scarves and jewellry in bold styles and colours, match it up with your shoes and you have several different looks. casual with a denim jacket or cropped cardi, posher with nice boots and a fitted jacket.

Bunbaker Sat 09-Mar-13 10:55:54

What about straight leg trousers? I don't suit skinnies as my thighs are too chunky and I don't want to always wear a tunic top/long jumper. If bootcut are so unfashionable why are the shops full of them?

Straight legs might work and yes to black wide legs.

Does this mean I'm going to have to go back the shops and try more stuff on?

Would I be better going to a posh shop and buying 3 or 4 really good quality things or sticking with cheapies?

with that budjet, i'd aim to get two outfits, you really like.

I could push the budget a bit more but not much.

Am also planning a shoes cull. There are some that are desperately uncomfortable and/or do nothing for me birkies and I am getting rid.

sounds like you need a good clear out, you could try and sell anything on ebay you don't likelike the birkies, even if you dont get much it could help

I have charity shopped some stuff but I need to be more ruthless I think.

And accept that I'm not a size 10 and live with the size I am. Which means getting over how fat I look when I see myself.

Need a haircut too. And probably a make up refresh.

having a clearout helps, because it also helps you to see what you do have

my biggest issue is in my head- I'm not a size 10 nor will I ever be again. And I don't know how to dress my shape at all.

Would it be worth booking a style person in john lewis or house of frazer ?

xigris Sat 09-Mar-13 17:21:33

Freddie I could have written your OP. It's hard isn't it? Two suggestions, one is Gap for jeans. In a fit of despair and feeling somewhat masochistic, I went in there to look at jeans. I thought it was just the domain of skinny girls but I was sooo impressed. A really nice, really young girl spent ages helping me find a pair of jeans that suited my lardy curvaceous figure. I'd really given up all hope of finding a flattering pair of jeans. I've just had DS3 and I've joined Slimming World as really need to lose a good 3 stone. I've asked DH and my family for Debenhams vouchers for my birthday / Mother's Day etc. My plan is that when I've lost the weight I'm going to try one of those personal shoppers at Debenhams. Hopefully this will be an incentive to eating carrot sticks rather than a packet of one or two custard creams grin

OneMoreGo Sat 09-Mar-13 17:33:50

I am a similar shape and was full of dispair recently while jeans shopping, until I found Next Vintage Slim Fit jeans. They are more roomy and straight leg than skinnies, but still look fashionable. I have massive calves which are the bane of my life but these look alright, wheras skinny jeans look fucking horrendous on me.
Link here. I got the mid blue ones on the left in a 12 short and they are really lovely. Worth a try on just to see.

xigris Sat 09-Mar-13 17:44:45

Ooo! They're nice One. I may have to have a look at those!

I love those jeans!

I have put on a pair of grey size 12 bootcuts from per una sorry and they have stretch and they aren't high rise but they fit so well I don't look lardy thighed I look in proportion and I have a nice top on and I feel NICE nice shoes too that I'd forgotten I had.

Sigh. More effort in general required.

And it feels WEIRD to be in HEELS

DCIlouisemonroe Sat 09-Mar-13 18:12:24

I am also thinking steer away from jeans and treat yourself to some dresses,Just wearing a dress makes you carry yourself differently.If you feel too overdone try a dress with thick tights and biker boots,
You are not 'fat'
Like all off us you have bits you like and bits you don't.
Think of a friend or celeb whose style you like it doesn't matter if her shape is different to you.You then need to unpick their style and decide which bits you like and why.Or even cut some mags up and do a 'style' board
Then go shopping try all those shops you wouldn't normally try .
Midweek is good for shopping quieter and new stock often just arrived
Agree make up and hair go a long way to helping the overall feeling.
Even little things like clear nail polish a little scarf or some pretty earrings(I picked up some great earrings in Tesco yesterday).
Sometimes we just need to be braver...we all get stuck in a rut fashionwise.

I don't have biker boots blush or any thick tights really. Well one pair of black wooly ones.

And. To be totally honest. The problem is I HATE shopping. So I just give up and either buy the first thing I see that vaguely fits or give up and come home and eat cake to console myself.

And another thing. When I make the effort with make up I think it looks nice. But I rarely make the effort. And my nails are a disgrace I bite them and pick the skin at the sides.

But my old Levi 501s fit grin

DorisIsWaiting Sat 09-Mar-13 18:23:15

Have you been on the bra intervention threads? and had your bra size checked as you may want to add a new bra to the shopping list!

DCIlouisemonroe Sat 09-Mar-13 18:23:38

Opaques velvet finish Tesco £4 nice sheen to them and make your legs look brill.

If you don't have biker boots maybe a chunky wedge? or a Mary Jane style shoe?

Have you a TKMaxx nearby? Often have shoes bargains or try Amazon.

I did go to Debenhams because my boyfriend made me and got fitted and I was wearing totally the wrong size of bra so I have 3 bras that fit one black, one white and one beige. The rest I am still wearing but they don't fit

I could be persuaded to buy biker boots if I'm not too old for them and they wouldn't look daft.

I've also realised I have a load of shoes that are just a teeny bit tight at the toes and there's a great wee cobbler round the corner from work so I'll drop them all in there as part of my re-vamp and then I might actually wear them

And I realised I have some GREAT shoes and some GREAT bags

I have 4 pairs of Irregular Choice shoes/ankle boots I have never worn blush

I was thinking even if I wore my Levis with a white shirt and some chunky statement jewellery and the Irregular Choice shoes I'd look so much better than I usually do? And if the rest of the outfit was plain, the shoes would be OK?

In my defence, I was keeping the shoes good.

CeeceeBloomingdale Sat 09-Mar-13 19:05:56

Debenhams super skinny jeans are v flattering on my 12-14 apple frame. Theu do a short length which is longer than normal shorts (I'm 5'2" with longisg legs proportionately)

Today's supposed to be the day but it's snowy and cold and I don't want to go because I hate shopping

If I go to House of Fraser vs Matalan for eg will I notice a quality difference? I really don't shop. Ever.

StepAwayFromTheEcclesCakes Mon 11-Mar-13 10:17:39

I buy cheap so I can have loads of choice grin i would get bored with just a few expensive items.

So today I got

Doublewear which is fab and the first foundation ever properly to match my skin tone. And a primer (WTF is that for??) so I got a wee gifty thingy with other stuff in it.

And two pairs of black trousers - one wide legged, which look fantastic and a tapered pair which are also fab.

Suit jacket to go with the two pairs of trousers. And a lacy jacket thing out of Next which is a bit less formal.

And 5 different tops, all smart, look great.

And a suck me in slip thingy for under my existing dresses - the woman in Debenhams wouldn't sell me any dresses until I bought that and went home and tried on my dresses with the suck me in thingy under them.

And 4 pairs of thick tights. For my existing dresses.

Am knackered. Tried on loads of jeans but didn't like ANY so am giving up on jeans. Until I lose weight. Or something.

MortifiedAdams Mon 11-Mar-13 16:25:31

OP Im your size and shape (but with less boobs), and I wear Primarks super skinnies. They are £11 a pair, and I have two in blue and one in v.dark blue. They are so so comfy and I usually wear loose blouses/tops so although they give a slight muffin top its not too.noticable.

I also buy h&m vests - very long, past the bum, and stretch well (wore mine before during and after preganncy and they sprung back).

H&m tops are great too - and cheap in proce but not.material.

I AM going to Primark tomorrow. I just ran out of steam and couldn't be bothered to put any more clothes on I tried on a million things to get what I got and I was utterly utterly fed up

MortifiedAdams Mon 11-Mar-13 16:27:58

Ooh well if you are going there, look for their spanks. I have the under bust to mid thigh ones in black.and nude and wear them.on nights out (under yet again, the superskinnies).

I got a slimmy thingy in Debenhams for under dresses. It goes from boob to thigh, it's like an old fashioned slip.

Where does the flab go in these things?

MortifiedAdams Mon 11-Mar-13 16:36:49

It stays where it is but smooths it into one line - so, you dont get thin, you get smooth.

FreshLeticia Tue 12-Mar-13 08:19:13

I second the poster up-thread about trying straight slim jeans, skinnies look awful on me too for the same reason as you, OP, but straights are really good.
I have some really nice Fatface ones, they have a waistband which is higher up at the back - so no gaping.
Also the dresses and thick tights - I have massive norks though, so empire line are better for me. And never wear high-necked stuff unless you are flat - chested, it makes you look as if you have a huge ski-slope of bosom.

I am not dressed yet thanks boss for the email at 7.30 but when I do I am planning to wear a dress with the slimmy sucky in thingy and tights and boots. And my new foundation with the wanky primer. Shall have to nick some of DDs moisturiser though because I don't actually possess any of my own blush

Go girl smile

Well blush there was moisturiser in the freebie pack the Estee Lauder lady gave me so it's on and waiting for it to sink in.

I have the slimmy thingy on under my dress and it looks fab really has made me look better and the dress looks smooth not lumpy. BUT I CAN'T MOVE OR BREATHE which is a slight issue.

And my black boots with opaques look good.

Just the face and hair to do now ......

Do people really do this every day???!!!!

Hair is done. Make up is done. And I feel FANTASTIC.

NickECave Tue 12-Mar-13 10:41:24

Yes to wearing dresses with tights and boots. I'm a similar shape to you although a bit shorter with bigger boobs and had a revelation last year when I realized that I don't HAVE to wear jeans. Yes they can look fab on some people, yes they are the daily uniform for a huge swathe of women in this country BUT they don't suit me and rarely feel comfortable and from now on I'm only wearing things that feel good and look good on.

HappyAsEyeAm Tue 12-Mar-13 12:05:09

Yay for looking and feeling fabulous.

After years of trousers, I have embraced skirts and dresses (with opaques or boots) and it is a revelation. I feel so much better, despite having actually gained weight since I had my second DS (its being at home with limitless access to the cakes and bisuits, and the almost daily visits to cafes!).

I am short too, but more pear shaped than you. I buy loads in Boden petite (though I probably return more than I keep as I find it a bit hit and miss), M&S, Phase Eight, Hobbs, Wallis and a bit of Debenhams. And Gap for jeans (curvy).

Skirts and dresses are the way forward. I feel better in them, and I carry myself with more confidence and happiness.

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