I used to love bum 40...

(78 Posts)
Karbea Mon 18-Feb-13 22:41:22

But her clothes just don't do it for me anymore sad I thought it was a phase, but it's now ages since I thought "wow! I love that look"... It's all a bit too casual and a tad err messy sad she just seems to have gone off the boil for me...

Has her style changed? or it's it something wrong with me? Should I check into Boden/Per Una???

noddyholder Mon 18-Feb-13 22:44:31

I never look at it now either as it is how most of my friends dress so never anything new not really that inspiring.

ujjayi Mon 18-Feb-13 22:48:13

I quite like her writing and her pursuit of the perfect <insert garment/accessory here>. But the photos of what she is wearing that day are just dull, tbh. It is always the same formula. Her "going out" outfits are a little more interesting but even then are usually "Zara jacket, skinny jeans, cowl front top" combos.

justasecond Mon 18-Feb-13 23:13:45

I love her writing and look forward to her posts but agree her outfits are not as good as they used to be. I think you are right Karbea shes gone a bit casual wheras I used to love her smarter but still casual looks. Its still a great blog though.

bubbakin Mon 18-Feb-13 23:18:10

I have peek every now & then but she does seem to wear same style outfits & seems to be looking for clothes that she already has a closet full of! Also don't know how she manages to go out trying clothes on when she's wearing so many layers! I'd be in a right flap having to strip it all off in changing rooms! But then maybe I'm just jealous of her bottomless bank account!

SofaCanary Mon 18-Feb-13 23:32:28

I've found a lot of her newer stuff downright ugly, probably just means I'm a boring auld cunt.

I went off her when she started wearing those awful baggy trousers.

And I'm v bored of her quest for boyfriend jeans - they all look identical to me.

Can't find any blogs that I actually like now tbh.

It is very difficult for a real life person, as opposed to a Wendy/Atlantic-Pacific/Blonde Salad type, because they are not gifted vast quantities of beautiful clothing, nor do they exist in a world where posing for 42,000 photos a day is their only constraint. So they have to wear the same clothes sometimes and dress practically for their everyday lives, be that working in an office, chasing after toddlers or doing the school run. And everyone has a uniform really, don't they?

I still enjoy reading DMBL40, largely due to the writing style, as we have little in common shape wise! I'm not sure if I had legs that good I'd be hiding them in harems though!

blue2711 Tue 19-Feb-13 07:06:04

Agree with amber about everyone having a uniform and the constraints of a real life blogger. Actually though, I prefer these to the Wendy / AP blogs as there are more looks and items I can actually emulate. I adored Wendy initially and of course she always looks stunning but now I rarely bother because most of her outfits involve sky high heels and are unrealistif for (my) real life. Her writing is rather anodyne too, whereas bum40 is entertainingly self deprecating. I also think that the weather's been so cold lately here that it's hard to look anything other than scruffy and covered in layers.

I enjoy reading DMBL40 because she has a good writing style and there are bits and pieces that I like. However because I work then it's not the type of thing I'd wear 5/7 days anyway. <shakes fist at dearth of work wear blogs>

MrsCampbellBlack Tue 19-Feb-13 07:53:13

I still love her and not just because she has bought the same quilted zara jacket as me - but she is about a foot taller than me so little of what works on her works on me.

But as Amber and Blue have said its hard to blog when one doesn't have a fashion photographer as a best friend, a limitless wardrobe of freebies and can't wear Louboutins the whole time.

QueenCadbury Tue 19-Feb-13 08:04:43

Sometimes I look at the layers she's wearing and just think get a decent coat! But I'm obviously more practical than stylish grin.

bleedingheart Tue 19-Feb-13 08:16:52

The writing style is warmer than most blogs and knowing. I couldn't copy DMBL40 as I am about 5 inches shorter and two stone heavier but I like her commitment to searching out the things she likes. The high-end fashion blogs with gifted clothes leave me cold.

MarshaBrady Tue 19-Feb-13 08:22:45

I like the ones that do high end and other but are not glossy. The hardest one to do I imagine. Wendy is gorgeous but it's a lifestyle glossy thing now.

I like 40 haven't looked for a while will check it out, but hats off to her for not getting blog fatigue.

faustina Tue 19-Feb-13 08:28:59

Another person at least five inches shorter who enjoys reading her. I think it's partly the quality of the writing, which amuses me, but also because she sometimes gets it wrong. She's human. it makes me feel better!

I know lots of people love that other blog - can't remember the name, but she is a beautiful Korean/American who lives in LA and she's too perfect, and too impractical. No-one real could actually dress like her - esp not the six inch louboutins. You couldn't actually have a life, could you? Not dressed like that.

So that's why I prefer the bum woman. I agree about the layers though!

casabevron Tue 19-Feb-13 08:30:28

I like bum40, and I must admit to having impulse-bought a few items having seen them on there (although she's not the only culprit <looks at Zara studded-sleeve coat that I didn't need> thankyou All Worn Out ladies...)

Like others, I also like her writing style, but I do wish she'd stop doing that 'Oh God I'm so tall and my bum is so non-existent, it's so terrible for me' type thing. I'm a good two inches taller than her, and I never seem to have the trouble finding clothes that are long enough that she claims to experience. Nor do I feel like a Gulliver amongst a sea of little people. I know it's meant to be tongue-in-cheek, but I just find it a bit grating. Now, if she had my arse, then she'd really have something to moan about... grin

faustina Tue 19-Feb-13 08:33:17

the womensroom blog is good. Not quite the same single focus on what they wore, but IMO all the better for that

casabevron Tue 19-Feb-13 08:34:03

Oh, MissBeehiving, don't know if you look at it already, but the All Worn Out blog has started to feature workwear quite regularly now.

Magicmayhem Tue 19-Feb-13 08:35:19

OK... it took me a while to work out who your talking about...
I read her blog, and love her outfits, she is the same shape as me and makes layering look really easy... in fact I'm looking at wristwarmers now on ebay smile agree about the harlem trousers though.

what other fashion blogs do you all follow

MarshaBrady Tue 19-Feb-13 08:37:20

Faustina that's Wendy.

I like WiT she does that real life warmth well, but is out of action for a while. And Amber for doing high/mix.

Otherwise it's pinterest really.

faustina Tue 19-Feb-13 08:42:36

Thank you Marsha smile. I also liked WIT, and I am enjoying the twentymumthing blog too.

I think I must be missing the point of pinterest - it lacks the humanity of a real person wearing something for me. That's what interests me about blogs - how things look when real people wear them

MarshaBrady Tue 19-Feb-13 08:47:27

I do get lots of real people too on pin, a mix I'd say - see if I can entice you grin. It's kind of soothing to have so many nice things flash by. Choose who to follow and it's completely tailored to your taste.

I used to love The Sartorialist but used to be so much prettier. Think it's more him now than a fashion blog. Although he's done very well.

MarshaBrady Tue 19-Feb-13 09:05:16

Actually I do like it when they are there, a nice smiling face, you do get used to it. eg WiT

faustina Tue 19-Feb-13 09:41:26

... but they are just empty clothes (shoes scarves etc), right? You see something you like on a website, and you pin the photo from there. that's it isn't it? Or photos of a celeb etc. Both with the photoshopping and airbrushing which makes it really hard to see what it would look like in real life, how it would hang on a normal person's body

MarshaBrady Tue 19-Feb-13 09:46:11

I don't know where they come from originally but I get a lot like this

on street


As well as high end fashion and clothes. But I get very few celebs. Admittedly they are good looking with good clothes, but really like the second one, would like to get some stuff like that.

MarshaBrady Tue 19-Feb-13 09:49:05

Also there are quite a few s&bers on there and it's nice to see their taste and what they would like to get.

I think the trick is to only follow people who post what you like, so check out their boards first.

carrie74 Tue 19-Feb-13 09:55:00

I still really like 40YO BUM (and twentymumthing and allwornout). I like the reality of it - seeing someone's interpretation of a trend on a real woman, who still has to cook the children's tea and fit in the school run (and in the case of TMT and AWO, also go to work - so a bit like me). I like to get ideas on clothes I can actually afford to buy and how to wear them, and admit to getting a little thrill when I see something I've bought on a blogger.

But seriously, bloggers, what's with the Zara quilted jacket? How do you all know at the same time?!?

AuldAlliance Tue 19-Feb-13 09:57:47

I look at the 40bum lady from time to time, and although I think she looks a bit peely wally, her style is fairly distinctive and has a nice self-deprecating note, as if she were aware of the superficialness of it all, though couldn't help doing it anyway.

However, I am a professional pedant and my teeth itch every time she writes beyond.

Three times in one single day's post:
the changing rooms in Gap in Tunbridge Wells are beyond revolting.
Stunning soft easy to wear denim, beautiful shade of washed, vintage looking fabric, beyond comfortable and an excellent length.
Beyond impressed and so so reasonable.

I know, I know - this means I am a certifiable old fart. But now it's got to me I can't get over it. Maybe I should do some therapeutic clothes shopping to get it out of my system?

LeChatRouge Tue 19-Feb-13 09:57:48

marsha thanks for linking those pins, it has led me to Olive My Love blog, one I haven't seen before, but really like.

MrsCampbellBlack Tue 19-Feb-13 09:58:31

We're all telephathic wink

Or rather Belinda on AWO saw it on Susie SoSo and told me about it and I then rushed to purchase as still mourn the fact I didn't buy the Kate Moss for topshop version a few years back

GeorginaWorsley Tue 19-Feb-13 10:03:49

I love Bum 40,still my favourite blog,eagerly await her new posts!
she does seem recently to have been wearing very samey outfits,but given weather and time of year,that's normal surely.
I do wish she would wear dresses more,with boots ,and agree a decent coat would be my choice rather than all those layers.
Am not keen on the harem trousers either.
Like her new Zara quilted jacket though.

MarshaBrady Tue 19-Feb-13 10:07:30

Le Chat smile A good way to find new stuff, loads out there.

Just looked at 40 finally, she looks good, didn't read it will later.

GeorginaWorsley Tue 19-Feb-13 10:13:45

Forgot to add she shops in accessible shops in the main too,rather than designer
Used to like 'The online stylist ' but she seems to have moved to very expensive brands in main and always has a brand to plug now.
DMBl40 may be doing that surreptitiously but it all flows better and I like her more extensive writing.

scarlet76 Tue 19-Feb-13 10:24:20

I have tried many a fashion blog and seem to fall in and out of love with them all over time.
I do love bum 40 lady though. However, I'm a skinny 5ft nothing lady so what works on her is not always for me. However, she did lead me to the tartan over size H&M scarf which was a snip at £12 and has kept me toasty all winter. I enjoy her writing and her tweets.
Allwornout is another good one. The writing I find less interesting but they do have some nice clobber between them!
Each to their own but the more glossy ones leave me cold.
Anybody know if WIT will be making a come back?

thatlldonicely Tue 19-Feb-13 10:30:48

i've been following half a dozen of these blogs for six months or so and was beginning to think they were all morphing into one - all wearing skinny jeans, ankle boots & biker jackets in various budgets- schoolgatestyles photo at recent blog gathering confirmed this. This last post has made me laugh with 3 of them all in the same jacket. I guess this just shows how bored we all are of wearing the same thing day in/day out and the first snifter of anything slightly different is jumped on by those who like clothes and have fairly regular shopping outings. Reminds me of the days when on holiday with parents and spotting all the mums in the same M&S dresses!

freddiefrog Tue 19-Feb-13 10:36:15

I quite liked bum40 to start with it the writing style grates on me now, I find it a bit false and wittery.

Also, all the layers she's wearing at the moment does nothing for me, I liked spring/summer/autumn, but I don't like the million layers look and scarves

ClaudiaCutie Tue 19-Feb-13 10:39:29

Huge thanks to the MN person who highlighted the "Forever Amber" blog. I've always admired Atlantic Pac & Wendy's Look book but the clothes are incredibly expensive and often only available in USA. Instead, Amber takes Dotty Perkins dresses and cheap stuff off the net, and manages to make things look incredibly pricey and glamorous. And she's pleasingly honest about having a coat tucked just out of shot on a cold day. Her ideas really pushes me into thinking harder about using cheaper things and styling them well.

snoworneahva Tue 19-Feb-13 10:42:50

Bum40 is still my favourite blog. I'm not keen on some of her stuff - like the ash wedge trainers and the longer than knee length cardigans but she is entertaining, light hearted about fashion - a bit of fun like fashion should be. Some of these blogs take fashion a bit too seriously - it's not healthy! smile

ujjayi Tue 19-Feb-13 10:48:27

I don't think Kat's look is remotely distinctive. She dresses the same as most of the mothers I know of similar age. Just doesn't inspire me at all.

I want to read blogs that function more along the lines of Vogue - ie the clothes may be out of budget/too quirky/not entirely suited to lifestyle but that inspires you to produce your own take on it rather than cloning.

I agree most of us have a uniform or specific look but hopefully that's related to individual style & confidence rather than following the latest mum trends/what looks good at the school gates etc. I also think that when you've not worn anything but jeans for a while anything else seems absurdly dressy and a bit "try hard".

Another blogger called Amber? The outrage! and she's prettier than me, grrr

Surprised so many people like Bum Lady's writing style tbh. She seems a lovely person but I think she goes on too much and it's all a bit gushy for my liking. And I get really irritated by all the stories of her husband being 'persuded' she 'needed' that expensive necklace / rose gold watch etc.


nipersvest Tue 19-Feb-13 11:16:11

i like bum 40. the outfits have become very samey of late but i think that's more down to the crap weather we've had, so can be forgiven. at least most of her ideas are high street.

Thanks casabevron - I'll have a look

TBH - I can understand why there aren't more workwear blogs - it's as much as I can do you get children/animals and self organised in the morning without taking a photo but it would be nice to see other people's style. Maybe we can do a "what are you wearing today" with pictures one day. That would be fab - I'd love to see what other posters are wearing.

rubytutu Tue 19-Feb-13 11:56:22

I was just looking at that quilted jacket last night after seeing it on the wornout blog, think will order although just read that the medium is a bit tight, can anyone else comment on its sizing? I like bum40 but agree she needs to post more going out outfits, writing style is ok, used to be more amusing but maybe she is stuck in a rut. Also agree winter weather does not help. I like the blogger who decided to wear a different outfit every day for 50 days, can anyone remember what it is called? I also like Poppy's style as she is more averagely sized around a 14 I would guess and it gives a different perspective due to being in the US.
Beehiving that is a great idea if you can be anonymous ie no face shots! Well for me anyway, wouldn't want to be accosted at the school gates!

Strictly NO Head Shots ruby

rubytutu Tue 19-Feb-13 12:05:21

Ok count me in then!

GeorginaWorsley Tue 19-Feb-13 12:41:27

See I don't want Vogue style clothes or budget,enough glossies around for that.
I want clothes I cam buy myself,maybe from shops I don't usually look in or styled in a new way.
Kat from Dmbl40 my favourite by far.
Think spring will be better, post Xmas so dreary fashion wise!!

QueenCadbury Tue 19-Feb-13 13:02:29

amber I need a link to your blog again (can't be arsed to go through mnv vol4 for it!). Have tried to google you but you don't seem to come up.

CointreauVersial Tue 19-Feb-13 13:25:28

I like Kat; I'm not quite as tall as her, but we have fairly similar build and style but not budget.

I'm another one bored to tears by Atlantic Pacific and her ilk, swanning about in high-end clobber with their noses in the air. Wendy just about gets away with it because her writing is sweet, and she looks little a little dress-up dolly.

Generally I like to see real people, buying stuff I can get on the high street, maybe styling it in an interesting way.

I also wish there was a decent workwear equivalent; that's one area of my wardrobe that really needs shaking up, particularly as I spend more days dressed for work than casual.

QueenC how weird, I should come up on Google! Am not allowed to link, will PM you

foxysocks Tue 19-Feb-13 13:45:54

I like Kat a lot, she seems a genuinely lovely person and has always been helpful when I've tweeted her with any questions. some of her clothes aren't things I would buy or wear but I think she's doing SUCH a brave thing posting like that regularly. good on her - and the other fashion bloggers - I say.

MrsCampbellBlack Tue 19-Feb-13 13:55:59

Ruby - I got the jacket in the small and yes you couldn't wear a jumper underneath comfotably but for me I wanted something to go over a tshirt really.

My arms aren't skinny and I found it fine and to be honest you need slim arms on a quilted jacket to avoid the michelin look I think.

Amber - if you join the mn bloggers network you can link away

catanddog Tue 19-Feb-13 13:56:45

Amber could I cheekily ask you to PM your link to me too?

catanddog of course!

mrsCB I have applied, but my application is still being processed, I think. Does it take a while?

MrsDoomsPatterson Tue 19-Feb-13 14:10:34

40 is ok, quite readable although she doesn't half go on a bit at times. Just bought some nude brogues then saw them featured on her page so I'm obviously down with fashion. Haha

cerealqueen Tue 19-Feb-13 14:10:47

Only just discovered her I really like her, I have been dragging a few things out of storage to wear again, inspired by her. I don't want to look like her, but wish I did just a little bit and I love her house too I just like seeing how outfits are put together and her love of layering is perfect for British weather.

niminypiminy Tue 19-Feb-13 14:12:56

The thing I don't get about DoesMyBumLook40 is what, exactly, is the difference between her look and the Baukjen catalogue.

My favourite fashion blog at the mo is the utterly individual Buttercup's Frocks. I'll never have her chutzpah, or her massive collection of bonkers jewellery, but I love to look at what she wears.

MrsCampbellBlack Tue 19-Feb-13 14:16:25

Amber - it should be very quick - 48 hours or so max

10 days and counting MrsCB...

noddyholder Tue 19-Feb-13 14:23:11

I still like Rebecca amarin as she has some nice non fashion bits too. She is quite 'normal' figure and looks wise too, although I do love the more unrealistic ones smile

MrsCampbellBlack Tue 19-Feb-13 14:26:06

Golly they muct be very busy Amber - I'd chase them a bit . . .

I do love Wendy and Atlantic I must say in the same way I love Vogue

noddyholder Tue 19-Feb-13 14:28:17

Laura Elner's lookbook is good too for ideas although she is in NY I think so can emulate the shapes but not buy the actual clothes

I love the Blonde Salad. Though, she got gifted a Birkin last week. How can any of us compete with that! smile

MarshaBrady Tue 19-Feb-13 14:47:19

Lucky thing.

I like the one who did this look but can't remember which one it is.

joliejolie Tue 19-Feb-13 15:46:38

I really like Kat's blog, though I am thoroughly perplexed by everyone's interest in that TRF floral quilted jacket. Maybe that's because when I tried it on, I looked like someone's gran!!

snoworneahva Tue 19-Feb-13 20:30:28

I preferred this floral jacket

Mrs CB looks sweet in the padded jacket - I'd look like Bertha Rochester at best.

NotMostPeople Tue 19-Feb-13 20:44:50

I agree that Bum has got a bit samey, but I do still like to read it. I've found myself enjoying Pinterest more than going back to the same blogs I was reading three months ago. I still love Wendy et al but its fantasy fashion.

Hopefully Tue 19-Feb-13 20:50:50

I like 40 Bum's writing style, agree her outfits are a bit samey but luckily my style is quite similar so I still pick up some ideas. I like to visit blogs like Wendy and AP occasionally for an inspiration splurge, but don't enjoy them on a daily basis.

I do like Amber's blog (and writing style), but won't link it for fear of wrist slapping wink

MimikosPanda Tue 19-Feb-13 20:54:54

I miss thesuburbanstyle, when she got pregnant she just stopped blogging, no 'bye, I'm taking a break' or anything, I missed her!

Just looked though and after a gap from October through to February she has just started blogging again, on Feb 12th.

rubytutu Tue 19-Feb-13 20:57:41

Mrs CB thanks for the arms tip, have now ordered along with a further 4 items that made their way into my basket! Are you from the worn out blog? If so I am coveting your Zara necklace and fine knitwear!
Can anyone send me a link to Amber's blog?
i like pinterest alot, can spend hours on there.

GeordieVik Wed 20-Feb-13 08:24:03

surely somebody without a vested interest (i.e. not the bloggers themselves) can post links to all these blogs - whenever I Google them, I'm never convinced I've found the right ones... pretty please? wink

knitknack Wed 20-Feb-13 11:22:16

I love 40bum precisely BECAUSE of her writing style - its warms and obviously 'her' and honest and enjoyable. She has a lot more money then I but even so is obviously overjoyed by finding a bargain, and I LOVE that she posts pictures from the shop floor and from changing rooms - it makes me feel like I'm there with her (er, but not in a stalkery way!) and because I don't have time to go out hunting and trying things on its lovely to live vicariously through her! More pics from the shop floor! Oooh, I also like it when she posts pics from the promotional material next to 'real life' pics from the shop floor. In short (ha, as if!) I love the depth of her research and her obvious commitment to each post.

I'm a teacher and this post feels a bit like marking a student's work. Two stars and a wish haha!

Merriboo Sat 19-Jul-14 22:48:58

sorry to resurrect an old thread, but ARGHHH. I want to scream at the awkward, self deprecating, aww shucks, little girl poses!!!DLMB40- stop it!! the hunched, round shoulders/hands on hip or in pockets/sunken chest pose makes you look almost deformed and are driving me potty.

todays extreme version

....and breathe.........

Merriboo why don't you just stop reading the blog? confused

Although I suspect a lot of her poses are ironic. She makes me laugh. Still haven't recovered from her outfit to visit a farm a couple of summers ago, and her summer-long rant at the rain .........a very funny lady.

Merriboo Sun 20-Jul-14 09:57:17

Dry I like her writing style- witty and self deprecating in an engaging way- she makes me laugh too.
It isn't easy for any blogger to engage us and overall she does a good job
Was probably a bit harsh in my previous post and just wanted to vent some frustration, just felt unduly irritated as she has a great figure and the poses (ironic or otherwise) detract from it smile

BecauseIsaidS0 Sun 20-Jul-14 10:52:25

TBH, I have fashion blog exhaustion right now and I'm feeling a bit "have seen it all". I still look into Atlantic-Pacific because it's a bit of a fantasy blog for me (as Amber mentioned, given bazillions of clothes so that she can always find the perfect item to combine with other and the best accessories - meanwhile, I have to choose between my five pairs of jeans and seven t-shirts grin).

I might go back the path of finding a really, really good personal shopper as I used to do in my country of birth. She knew what I liked and more importantly, what suited me so in half an hour I could do a lot of damage to my credit card!

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