At 50, what am I supposed to wear?

(90 Posts)
Eliza22 Sun 10-Feb-13 19:09:47

I was 50 last year and I'm a good stone overweight so, need to tackle that, I know.

I've no idea what to wear. I feel old fashioned and don't feel good in jeans (I have some but rarely wear). Any 50+ ladies who can advise. I feel like crawling into a wolf fleece and retiring from public view.

usualsuspect Sun 10-Feb-13 19:11:29

I'm 53 and live in jeans. So I'm no help grin

Eliza22 Sun 10-Feb-13 19:18:11

Perhaps the answer is to lose the weight then! That way, ill be more comfy in jeans...

nellyjelly Sun 10-Feb-13 19:19:45

Leggings or wooly tights and tunic tops? Longish tops/ dresses wore over trousers looks nice too.

sue52 Sun 10-Feb-13 19:24:33

If you want a new wardrode get down to a department store that has a personal shopper and have her/him bring you a selection of clothes to try. It's always good to have outside professional advice.

faustina Sun 10-Feb-13 20:01:26

what kind of things do you wear now?

niminypiminy Sun 10-Feb-13 20:02:54

Second the personal shopper. Whether you need to lose a stone or not, you can look and feel better now. Don't put off having nice clothes till some time in the future! Personal shoppers are great, because they don't have any of your baggage about what does and doesn't suit you. And their job is to have you walking out of the shop looking fantastic.

motherinferior Sun 10-Feb-13 20:05:51

I will be 50 in June. I wear much the same as I always have, though my skirts are not quite so short these days.

dobby2001 Sun 10-Feb-13 20:05:55

Whatever you feel happiest in surely? I am closer to 50 than 40 nowadays and am still contempleting whether my first purchase of DMs will be pink,purple,flowery or plain old black - am only holding back as bloody new look have got cheap fakes for teens and that would be just too much grin

Although most of the time I live in jeans and t shirt type top as have messy job. Even if I was wearing office stuff I still think you should be able to wear things you feel comfortable in?

GeorginaWorsley Sun 10-Feb-13 20:11:27

I'm 46,size 12.
Would like to lose half a stone but doesn't seem to be happening!
I do wear jeans,but am coming to realise that I suit straight legged or slightly flared better than skinnies.
I have bought 2 pairs of Booden's Bistro crop trousers for spring.
I like dresses from Phase Eight,Oasis,French Connection,some plain Boden.
Tops/knits come from Mint Velvet,Phase Eight,Autograph,Sandwich,French Connection.
I always wear jewellery,make up and usually a scarf,frpm Primark.Marks,Ebay,River Island.
I think I have pared down my style a bit,tend to stick to navy,taupe,grey,cream,white,teals.
I like to look quite 'groomed' I suppose,although in a very casual way!

Missbopeep Sun 10-Feb-13 21:23:53

You can wear pretty much anything as long as it's not CC, Alexon or most of M&S!

Do you like The White Company? They do nice straight leg trousers which you can wear with tops, or dresses with leggings and chunky boots- ankle preferably or biker-ish.

Other good places to look for the same kind of look are Mint Velvet, Jigsaw, Boden for skinny tapered trousers but forgo the prints.

If you need work wear rather than casual, look at LK Bennett for structured dresses, or Hobbs, or even Reiss and Frech Connection.

Going to somewhere like John Lewis for a persoanl shopper might help.

orangeandlemons Sun 10-Feb-13 21:30:25

I'm 49. I find shopping on the high street very difficult. There seems to be no mid market anymore. Either H and M or Whistles/jigsaw

I wear a lot of Cos and Uniqlo. Some plain Boden and bits of H and M. M and S is just dire. Went in today and ran out. Polyester nightmare. Mint Velvet is good and some bits from Phase 8....but only some....

carbondated Sun 10-Feb-13 21:30:56

I'm 52 and love Espirit jeggings, Sweaters from Zara (bum covering ones) with long vest top underneath and mid calf length boots which balance my shape out a bit. Also snoody scarves. I am 5'1" and about a stone overweight (mid diet at mo) but feel OK with this sort of look. As long as you accept that you will need XL in Zara (ridiculous sizes), you can find really fashionable but tasteful and age-appropriate things.

happybubblebrain Sun 10-Feb-13 21:34:06

Wear whatever you like. Wear what suits you and what you feel comfortable in. Choose beautiful colours, design and fabric. Have your own style. I don't think age or weight have anything to do with looking great.

GeorginaWorsley Sun 10-Feb-13 21:37:48

OOH agree re White Company,prob because I love the colours.
Just bought 2 tees from Cos and am very impressed.Can only do online though as no shops in frozen north.
Occasionally I look at Zara,mainly because magazines and bloggers rave about it.I rarely buy however.
Did also buy 2 tops from Toast,seriously reduced in sale.lovely quality.
Have some coated skinnies from Dorothy Perkins which I have worn loads this winter also.

Eliza22 Mon 11-Feb-13 09:26:52

Thanks so much for the suggestions, all!

At the moment am in knee/slightly above knee skirts, thick tights and boots. Have a couple of Boden skirts. Also wear jersey dresses and cardis. Have some Phase 8 knit dresses that I wear again, with tights and boots but, the boots are knee high (actually over the knee cap, not under) so maybe, I HAVE some of the right clothes but look frumpy as I am carrying extra weight and I go from skirt straight to boot, IYKWIM. Same with my jersey/wooly dresses. Would I look daft in the tights and an ankle boot? Have always avoided calf boots as I'm a pear shape and was told years ago, that they make your rear look bigger.

Personal shopper's a good idea. I always think of them for a special occasion not for every day.

I went in Zara and felt bloody ancient. Looked at asos but again, just feel too ancient for their casual stuff.

Need to think....

practicality Mon 11-Feb-13 10:07:29

It all very much depends on your body shape and where you carry your weight.

Then you needto identify your skintone to work out what colours suit

I am apple shaped so I avoid anything waisted/belted. I tend to wear long straight cut maxi dresses with cropped cashmere cardigans or maxi skirts with a fitted cami and a shorter jumper. I like skinnyjeans but buy the high waisted ones to hold me in a bit and I wear longline fitted jumpers/tops and over the knee boots. I like to wear statement necklaces and scarfs to draw attention awayfrom my middle.

GeorginaWorsley Mon 11-Feb-13 10:19:25

I know what you mean Eliza re bit of extra weight.
Have a Phase Eight knee length red jersey dress on today with black thermal Autograph top underneath,thick black tights and knee boots.
Feel a bit frumpy though,don't know why....
Dress flattering but maybe a tiny bit longer than usually wear,lower knee rather than may be that.
Little things can tip an outfit into frumpy territory imo,just as can work the other way too.

higgle Mon 11-Feb-13 10:25:17

For work I end to go for a modified "sexy secretary " look - tweed skirt, bt wither a bit short with boots or a defined pencil. Most of my knitwear is cashmere as it lasts forever and I have been collecting for ages. I work for a charity so need to look not too formal but as if I know what I'm doing. For lunches out, evenings at theatre etc usually a tightish jersey dress, Isabella Oliver or Whistles. My casual wardrobe is only for dog walking, dossing and maybe farmers market so not so good - mainly skinny jeans, sweatshirts ( but fitted) and old rackie bottoms. My feet have got to the age they are no;t as keen on heels as I am, so Duo shoe are great, the higher ones in wide fitting are really comfortable, and I wear shoe or ankle boots with heels that are more comfortable than shoes for the office.

Favourite shops - Whistles, Toast, Brora, Shoon and Duo. I keep out of Kaliko, CC and Next.

frostfrond Mon 11-Feb-13 10:56:35

What GeorginaWorsley said in her 1st post though I am older being 50 in June .Can`t believe it

Pagwatch Mon 11-Feb-13 11:02:40

I am 51
I wear dresses and skirts - almost never wear jeans.
Whistles have one great dresses - I got 4 in their sale a few weeks ago.
I avoid anything really short, try and get shapes that suit my figure and, if in doubt, keep it simple.

Missbopeep Mon 11-Feb-13 11:08:39

I don't think it's an age issue- it's more to do with your size and shape and how you see yourself.

Weight is a serious issue- sorry- because it instantly ages. TBH in your situation I'd hold off buying anything new until you have lost weight- a stone could be shifted slowly in 2 months- then have a make over with hair and perhaps make up if you fancy that, and get a personal shopper.

You'll have so much more choice if you are the size you'd like to be and feel more confident.

As a basic "uniform" I tend to wear neat trousers- narrow ankle- with neat cardis or leggings with a longer tunic style top ( think White Company not White Stuff) and wool jersey style dresses which on me are just above the knee, with biker style or riding boots. I've given up on skirts because they pose the problem of finding a suitable top, so prefer dresses but very casual knitted ones.

You sound as if you are on the right track anyway!

GeorginaWorsley Mon 11-Feb-13 12:08:56

Agree Whistles can have some good stuff,but find it a bit boxy for my shape.I tend to browse Whistles,Reiss,The Outnet etc for ideas then attempt to find cheaper elsewhere!
Although I hate cheapy fabrics etc so will pay more for quality.
Having said that,some 'cheaper' end stores can have gems,but need hunting out imo.
Dorothy Perkins and New Look being prime examples.
I tend to find more stuff to my taste in independant boutiques,John Lewis,Mint Velvet etc.

Pagwatch Mon 11-Feb-13 12:24:41

I generally agree but i think they are quite well cut at the moment. I have a small waist so I like a tailored shape.

I have three a bit like this one
And one a bit like this but in a much darker blue

I wear them everyday with cardigans,tights boots etc.

Missbopeep Mon 11-Feb-13 12:27:18

You see Pag, I'd only wear something like No 2 there for a party , once a year! I'd feel grossly overdressed in it. Do you wear for work or social?

Pagwatch Mon 11-Feb-13 12:35:45

Actually I do agree with you about that one being dressy because the colour is so bright and the back has a vent.
The one I have is more like navy so is less so.
I was trying to illustrate the shapes really.

The first one I tend to wear for lunch or going out. But the other two are much plainer prints and I wear them for everyday. I am a sahm so school run, going into town, general shit.

GeorginaWorsley Mon 11-Feb-13 12:37:05

OOh Pag like those!
Its the tops that i struggle with I think.
Were the floral ones sale bargains?
Fantastic if so !

Missbopeep Mon 11-Feb-13 12:40:38

That's why I have given up on tops!

I have invested in nice knitwear from W Company and tend to wear with Bodeny type trousers or jeans and ballet flats or chunky boots.

GeorginaWorsley Mon 11-Feb-13 12:49:57

Am liking some of the stuff in Mango at the moment.
Never usually look in there.
Very reasonably priced too.
Eliza hope we giving some inspiration amongst the chat!

EuphemiaLennox Mon 11-Feb-13 12:51:01

Dresses are the way to go I think.

Jeans can be hard to pull off if you're overweight, and skirts I find a faff as I never know what top to wear with them and they tend to look more lumpy and frumy than a dress IMO.

I think Cos dresses are good for 50ish women. They are understated so quite 'chic' but not 'trendy' and some good shapes and flowiness for not thin people.

You need a thickish fabric which hangs well, thin fabrics will cling and show bumps, and a lining so the dress skims flatteringly rather than clings.

Best length is just above the knee, unless your legs are good and then you can go higher even at 50.

You also need Spanx tights to go under these dresses. The ones which go right up to your bra. The are hideously expensive, but SO worth it. I've worn two pairs constantly all winter. They don't make you thinner but they do smooth out all bumps which show up under dresses. that slight above tights and under bra bulge is gone.

EuphemiaLennox Mon 11-Feb-13 12:54:48

I also love white company dresses. The low necklines tend to suit my ample bosom and I find the fabric drapes beautifully. They are also very simple neutral colours so I feel I can get away with them in the day. They just seem to suit me, and I have about 6 of them! (need spanx tights with these though!)

They may be no good though depending on what necklines suit you.

GeorginaWorsley Mon 11-Feb-13 13:01:00

Cos good I agree,lack of shops in North though so have to rely on internet.
White Company I love,the colours are my favourites,grey,taupe,navy etc.
Tend to prefer their summer stock to winter though,but did buy poncho type jumper this season.
I agree about dresses being good,but I do like jeans and trousers,especially slim leg flares and capri style in summer.

Pagwatch Mon 11-Feb-13 13:06:33

Yy Georgina
I got them in sales or discount special events at House of Fraser.
I didn't pay more than £80 for any of them.

I think I do dresses partly because matching stuff irritates me first thing in the morning and partly because I have to sit by a hot swimming pool for 7 -8 hours a week. They let me be cool enough to cope and then just pull a cardie and coat on to go back outside.

Eliza22 Mon 11-Feb-13 14:29:31

You ladies are great, thanks for the replies. I didn't really expect many as these types of threads are often repeated!

Had a look at Cos and felt very put off by the display. A very slender 6ft model, posing front on, wearing utterly shapeless stuff. I'm shapeless enough, already! I'm sure much of its lovely, but not inspired to try.

The White Company looks lovely. Had a look at Hush too. All very nice, but in view if needing a good few items, I couldn't afford much from there. Maybe though, one or two pieces which will last? Is it good quality? Should be, for the price (45) for a T shirt.

Sorry, sounding like such a skin flint but we ARE in cash strapped times!

frostfrond Mon 11-Feb-13 15:47:21

Do you shop in charity shops? I get most of my clothes from them all great makesand please do not lose too much weight or your face will age.I`ve been there and done it

Eliza22 Mon 11-Feb-13 16:04:50

Frost, that's so true but also, I'm at the stage where I do the dance of the seven veils when undressing for my benefit. I have to lose some!

Have shopped in charity shops but of late, everything seems worn out. Perhaps people are hanging on to clothes they'd recycle as money's tight. I found a lovely empire line jersey above knee dress in a charity shop a few weeks ago and it still had its labels on. Wore it yesterday to go for lunch and felt lovely. smile

GeorginaWorsley Mon 11-Feb-13 16:11:45

Very often codes for White Company,the glossies often have 20 % off cards or you can find codes on here.
I know what you mean about Cos,you probably need to go instore but as they very London centric that isn't always so easy.
I ordered 2 linen mix tees from there,had to return size small and go for extra small! But a top bought in same order size small was a bit tight...
I never have any look in Charity Shops,despite living in affluent Cheshire grin
All ex Matalan,Primark etc .
Ebay on the other hand can be great.
Have had new Phase Eight tops,Mint Velvet cardigans,etc for around £10 or less.
Secret is to keep checking.

Eliza22 Mon 11-Feb-13 16:44:20

Pagwatch, like the dresses but I need day wear, as it were.

MissBoPeep, I think you're right. I need to start by losing at least 10lbs before buying. I have some nice makes but nothing looks that good because of the weight. When I was 35 and "plumptious" I still felt really good whereas now, at 50, I feel it's ageing me massively and I'm constantly trying to cover up. Whatever I buy in this frame of mind, will be a sad waste of money.

I tried on some Mint Velvet and some wafty, fine knit long line jumpers on Saturday but they did nothing for me. The 'me' of 12 months ago would have felt great in them.

To work then! ....

Freshasa Mon 11-Feb-13 17:18:04

I am about to turn 46, and I feel I have reached a point where I want to cover more things than show (chest, tops of arms, stomach, everything really...). I have recently embraced dresses, which are SO much more flattering than jeans. I think jeans only suit the very tall and slim, and I am definitely not in that category. But I do not agree that you shouldn't buy anything until you have reached a certain weight, (unless of course you have an iron will, and you are definitely going to lose the weight in 2 months time?) I think that is like saying that the body you have now is not worthy of nice clothes.

I am really liking Atterley Road at the moment..they have a small selection of well-chosen clothes from different brands...none of them frumpy. They also do free returns via courier so you can order lots of things and try them on at home. There is still some winter stuff in the outlet section.

A question for all you other dress ladies....what do we do in the summer when we can't wear opaque tights and big controlling pants ???

Pagwatch Mon 11-Feb-13 17:25:17

I just wear my dresses with flats.
Because I buy well cut and lined I can get away without control underwear.
I couldn't cope with control pants in summer. Dear god.

Eliza - kind of is my day wear really. Just more low key prints/colours.

French connection do quite nice dresses too if you look past the sequins and super tight stuff. Plus many of their styles are available on line in longer lengths.

I like Mango as someone mentioned upthread. But, maybe it's just me, they are often a crappy fit.or a good fit but a shitty fabric. I keep looking but it never works.

Missbopeep Mon 11-Feb-13 17:28:06

A question for all you other dress ladies....what do we do in the summer when we can't wear opaque tights and big controlling pants ???

I wouldn't be seen dead or alive in control pants smile
start toning up now and you'll be fine for summer.

Your own muscles are the best control of all.

Freshasa Mon 11-Feb-13 17:38:16

..hhmmm.. well it's more the lack of opaque tights that are the problem. My legs look good in opaques, but without them they look terrible .....muscly white footballers calves are not a good look and I am crap at applying fake tan. But I take your point!

SparkyDudess Mon 11-Feb-13 17:48:16

I'm very similar to Pagwatch - I live in dresses, either shortish with leggings, or wrap around jersey, or heavy jersey maxi dresses in summer.
Always have a cardigan or wrap with me, and flat shoes/boots.

I'm rubbish at putting clothes together, but I don't need a lot of dresses, so I buy good quality and make them last - iwont need anything thissummer as I did well in the East/Whistles sales last year.

Pagwatch Mon 11-Feb-13 17:48:53

Sorry Frescha, I just thought 'boots and knickers' rather than white legs

I have to make sure dresses hit me just above or on the knee then I am fine. Above the knee my legs are not good but notto bad otherwise.
I don't do fake tan but we do go away for Easter so I do tend to have brownish legs so I can get away with them. A bit. Iyswim

noddyholder Mon 11-Feb-13 17:57:30

I spend more on looking after myself and hair skin etc I like simple shapes slim trousers etc and love really nice shoes and bags rather than really trendy things. Simple shapes and not too tight! I haven't changed a lot I stillw ear jeans and trainers sometimes. Agree weight makes a difference and less make up rather than more

GeorginaWorsley Mon 11-Feb-13 18:55:15

In spring and summer I use gradual tan applied with a mit,wear my dresses with wedges,ballet flats or sandals.
I had 2 maxi dresses in jersey from Dorothy Perkins last year and wore loads.
Agree with Pagwatch French Connection do some good jersey dresses,as do White Company and Boden,as long as you avoid the fussy prints.

noddyholder Mon 11-Feb-13 19:24:55

I agree georgina a light tan is your friend

GeorginaWorsley Mon 11-Feb-13 19:53:12

I liked dresses with draping/knot front/twist so that any lumps hidden.I tend to size up if it looks like too clingy.

Ilovemyteddy Mon 11-Feb-13 20:07:47

Invest in a good bra - ideally get yourself measured in a proper bra-fitters like Rigby and Peller or Bravissimo. Your clothes will hang better, your norks will be where they are supposed to be, and you will look slimmer. smile

GeorginaWorsley Mon 11-Feb-13 20:15:02

Also dresses with twist/knot detail or draping to front all good for hiding tunnies without looking pregnant.

determinedma Mon 11-Feb-13 20:34:35

Great ideas but far far too expensive for my budget. Any cheaper options for those who can't afford Whistles, Mint Velvet, Toast etc?

GeorginaWorsley Mon 11-Feb-13 20:47:00

Look for similar styles determined
Try Dorothy Perkins,Zara,even Primark for similar shapes,or trawl Ebay.
Phase Eight have good sales,and lots of the magazines run discounts,Good Housekeeping I think has 20% off Phase Eight at the moment.

Stylemeslim Tue 12-Feb-13 04:34:37

Life begins at 50. Don't put your life on hold for any reason, even if you are loosing weight. The key to looking and feeling good is simple. Well maybe not simple but you have to change how you see yourself.
If you see your self as fat and frumpy then that's who you become.

Start by writing down all the good points about yourself. Your figure, your personality , your life. The answers to looking good don't always lie in the shops. The more clothes you buy the less you wear. Spend the time looking at the clothes you have, try them all on with fresh positive eyes not negative " I hate myself " you will start to see outfits or garments that you already have and think " I feel good in this " and items you don't feel good in find out why.

Think about this do you have" I feel and look fat " days and other days " I feel slim and good days" .Yet you weigh the same. WHY it's the clothes you are wearing not you. I have a saying we all need to go on the " clothes diet" that's how powerful clothes can be to how you look and feel about yourself.

Please don't keep going shopping, take a fresh look at your self we positive eyes and watch the changes happen to how you look. I promise.

People talk about personal shoppers all the time being the answer to someone style and I am not saying they are not good BUT they are their to SELL you clothes never forget that. They are not Free, they encourage you to spend money.

Gosh I hope that has helped. Sorry I go on but I am a bit obsessed about this subject and see women like you everyday.

How you are feeling us normal but you can change normal to special, you decide. Good luck. Alicia x

faustina Tue 12-Feb-13 07:14:46

What noddy says is really sensible advice. Also Stylemeslim (kind of). Once you've lost some weight I think you'll be pleasantly surprised about how much better you feel. Been there and done that. I really wish you luck with it!

Pagwatch Tue 12-Feb-13 08:13:09

The other thing if you are on a budget is try stuff on but then wait a bit.

I have tried on and chosen stuff from whistles and ted baker and then waited for a department store special event.
House of Fraser and Debenhams do them regularly and will do 20 or 30% off so rather than buy stuff straight away I will wait and get it on line or in store when it gets reduced. They stock loads of good high street brands like mango,warehouse etc and that can mean getting good stuff for a bargain.

H&M, TK Maxx and Topshop will often throw up great stuff if you can spend time going through a lot of shite.

Eliza22 Tue 12-Feb-13 08:40:43

Stylemeslim that's for the advice. You know, there are days when I feel really good. Yesterday I wore something from the back of my wardrobe with jeans. It's a bright colour and I had a very different response toward me, from people. Not sure whether the bold colour "lifted" my outlook or wether I'm just imagining it, but even the chap at the fish counter in Sainsbury's wanted to engage in a conversation!

GeorginaWorsley I love jersey dresses but wouldn't imagine going into a Dotty P's. I'll have a look toward summer.

Pagwatch will do more "browsing" before jumping in with a buy, only to have it hanging unworn, in my wardrobe.

And..... What's coming over, loud and clear is something I know to be true. I have some nice clothes....but it's those extra pounds that are making them look not so good. I'm "on" it smile

BerryBlast Tue 12-Feb-13 09:40:09

determindedma keep an eye on Next for dresses - I've been pleasantly surprised just how good and reasonably priced they can be.

orangeandlemons Wed 13-Feb-13 16:31:15

But Next dresses are all too short and polyesters. I don't think there stuff is suitable for 50 at all.

Natural fibres is the way to go

florascotia Wed 13-Feb-13 18:24:49

Am over 50, tall, but not as thin as once I was, alas. Agree with other Mumsnetters that good bra is essential. Also, I think it's important to find the shoe heel height that you find comfortable with and suits you. Then you can look for the most flattering styles without worry. And not fall over...

I have bright white hair/pale skin/ light (green) eyes and I find that black, navy or dark grey basics plus either subtle (silver grey, bottle green, petrol blue) or bright (emerald green, electric blue) jackets and scarves are my friends. The neutrals are good disguise, while the colourful elements distract from the bits you'd like to hide while you are losing weight.

People with different colourings - from rich and warm to pale and ethereal - will find, I am sure, their own basics and highlights. Think hard about what colours/shades really suit you and don't bother with anything else. Ditto shapes - are you elegantly straight up and down, or hourglass? Dress accordingly.

Don't go overboard for 'statement jewellery', but the odd dramatic piece can be helpful.

Sounds daft after all the above, but I really, really, don't want to sound prescriptive. However, IMO subtle and luxe and discreet are far more flattering than anything too obvious.

notforthefainthearted Wed 13-Feb-13 22:49:07

I'm about the same age and don't really know what to wear or where to shop.

I could do with losing a stone so I'm not really happy with my body but struggle in this cold weather to lose weight. I like tunics and leggings but struggle to find tunics I like that aren't too fussy. I don't like jeggings with tops that don't cover my bum. I like jersey dresses with thick tights and boots too.

orangeandlemons Thu 14-Feb-13 08:07:02

I think we don't know where to shop, as there is no where to shop for our age group

Eliza22 Thu 14-Feb-13 08:34:15

orangeandlemons that's so true. The high street IMO is geared toward young women (and teens). Then it's White Stuff and M &S which are right out now. I did, a few years ago, have some White Stuff stuff and it was nice. But now, it's all overpriced T- shirt material "dresses" which barely cover your backside. Phase 8 is good for me but then there's this massive hike in price to say, White Company (£45 for a t-shirt) and Hush, Mint Velvet etc.

Today, I'm wearing a wool pinafore style dress from Hobbs (had it a while) with a white shirt under, black opaques and black knee high boots. I look Ok today.

Eliza22 Thu 14-Feb-13 08:36:31

notforthefeinthearted I've started my 30 mins exercise every weekday (weekends off!) again after stopping for 3 weeks, having had a really bad cold bug. Years ago, I could just slot back into it and after a 2 days, be back where I was. Not so now, I ache all over and feel like shite this morning confused

GeorginaWorsley Thu 14-Feb-13 08:51:49

I know high street difficult
.My favourite and most worn clothes seem to come from Phase Eight,Mint Velvet,Boden,White Company,French Connection
I always use codes for discount though or buy in sakes or off eBay.
I also like independent boutique places that stock more individual labels like sandwich,Charli,Noa Noa etc,especially at sake time.
The shops aimed at 'older' ladies like Country Casuals,Wallis,Planet etc are too old or dire,although have had 2 , things in East sake which are lovely.
I think its a case of deciding what you like,what suits etc and trawling internet or high street to find.
John. Lewis great for good labels under one roof.
And Eliza well done on exercise front and the Hobbs outfit sounds great!

GeorginaWorsley Thu 14-Feb-13 08:53:38

Excuse multiple 'sake' I meant sales of course
On phone!!!

Eliza22 Thu 14-Feb-13 09:21:48

grin. Should say, I had the Hobbs frock shortened to just above knee as it felt dowdy at mid shin length. It became something I wore often instead of rarely, with one simple "cut"


worn with these

and these?

complete bargain

wear with these

wear this with a navy stretch blazer

another bargain

I really like this

anyway - go for quality rather than quantity. sleeves are your friend. if you find something you really like and it suits you the buy 2 (maybe in different colours).

don't buy things which end mid bum or mid calf as these will accentuate your bad bits. scoop necks are v flattering. ruching in the right place can accentuate good bits and hide bad bits.

don't buy dry clean only, or clothes which are too fussy.

and get measured for a well fitting bra - John lewis are good, but DO NOT get measured at m&sgrin

notforthefainthearted Thu 14-Feb-13 15:29:55

Well done Eliza, I don't really do exercising, just walk the dog. I have bad knees and hip so don't jog. Thought about joining the gym but can't really afford to join and not go and not sure I have time - I don't get everything done as it is!

I hope when the weather improves I might get out and walk more with the dog though. I also think it'll be easier to eat sensibly and healthily when the weather improves. All I crave at the moment is sugar and carbs!!

notforthefainthearted Thu 14-Feb-13 15:31:37

Today I'm wearing wrap dress, kneelength with opague tights and hooded chunky long navy cardigan, knee length flat boots. That's the sort of thing I prefer, along with (long) tunics and leggings with knee length boots, but I struggle to find the dresses. I have just two I like, they are jersey material and so soft.

notforthefainthearted Thu 14-Feb-13 15:48:03

What annoys me is that I have no waist. I never had much of one, as a teenager and in my twenties I was straight up and down, now I'm just fatter and straight up and down!! I'm a size 34E chest and tend to wear deep V necks or scoop necks and the wrap dresses should give me more shape but they don't seem to do so.

Does anyone have shapewear that give you a waist? I have some that flatten my stomach but they still don't seem to give me a waist really.

Eliza22 Thu 14-Feb-13 16:13:42

God, I hate my manic knickers! He se the 'sticking to it this time' running thing. When I wear said hold your gut in undies, I'm really aware that the whole bulk shits. I guess it has to go somewhere but they seem to create saddlebags of quite some magnitude. I've stopped wearing 'em as frankly, I'd rather try to haul my gut in than have bits squelching out the side grin

notforthefeinthearted you sound ok, to me. You've only a 34" back, albeit with an excellent chest. I'm a pear so, have always had a waist but I'm like one of those kids books, the ostrich's head, the giraffe's middle and the elephant's rear.

soaccidentprone really like the Next wedge ankle boot and the final John Lewis blue wrap dress. Thanks for the links!

higgle Thu 14-Feb-13 16:42:17

I always select what I am going to buy from Toast/Brora early on in the season then buy it in the sale. I've just had a Brora tunic dress for £59 ( down from £109) and a top for £29. Quite a lot of the better makes have really genuine sales where they get rid of all the old stock with progressive price cuts.

Eliza22 Thu 14-Feb-13 16:42:52

Oh dear....iPad doing its own thing again.

"I hate my magic knickers"
"Hence, the "sticking to it this time" running thing.
"The whole BULK shifts" of course grin

notforthefainthearted Thu 14-Feb-13 20:30:46


I managed to lose a stone eating no carbs, sugar, caffeine or alcohol but struggling with that now in the winter.

I also struggle with colours, prefer to wear grey or light brown tops, some mid blue but nothing vivid.

goingmadinthecountry Thu 14-Feb-13 21:37:25

I'm 49. For the first time, I feel I kind of have a style that works for me.

I have recently embraced dresses - less to think about! For work (teaching) Boden or phase 8 sale dresses - as plain as possible - with boots, cardigan and necklace or tunic top with (quality) leggings. All because of my job washable and usually jersey.

I normally find loads I like in White Company but nothing at all for me in there yesterday - lots of grey which washes me out, and beige/taupe whatever does too, as much as I wish it made me look elegant and lovely.

Dresses too (lower cut) for going out with good accessories. I tend not to wear high heels because I'm taller than lots of my friends. Have loads in the wardrobe though. I also do wide legged trousers.

Jeans are not my friend (when I lose weight they may be but not great) but lovely coats are.

goingmadinthecountry Thu 14-Feb-13 21:38:38

Eliza22, manic knickers sound like much more fun!

notforthefainthearted Fri 15-Feb-13 09:45:29

Just had a look at Phase Eight website and quite like their dresses, although expensive if not in the sale. Not sure about Boden, haven't looked for a while, will have to have another look.

Manic knickers sound fun!!

Bonsoir Fri 15-Feb-13 10:10:07

Definitely, definitely lose the weight. Extra kilos are far harder to dress than age!

What colour is your hair? Your skin? Do you wear glasses and, if so, do you like them?

Eliza22 Fri 15-Feb-13 10:33:52

bonsoir my hair's a mouse blonde with highlights (pics on profile) and its usually my one dead cert for looking ok as I don't have to dry it, just wash and leave toots own devices. However, had it cut last week and in an effort to save a bit of cash, my lovely hairdresser responded to my "shorter hair's expensive having to cut it every 4 weeks or so..... Can you take a tiny bit extra off this time?" with a frenzied scissor sesh, which has left me with what feels like a 'bovver boy' half inch, over my entire head. I was speechless when I left and couldn't give her eye contact. That's how shock I was!! My son cried when he saw it and my husband was speechless. I look like a bloody convict. Actually, maybe, it's the hair that's triggered this feeling of "frump"!

Only wear reading glasses and occasionally for tv.... When I can find the things. My ds who's an Aspie and loves order, is always moving stuff around it where it should be and I often have to hunt for the specs. My glasses are both fairly new and suit me, I think.

notforthefainthearted Fri 15-Feb-13 10:47:57

Oh no Eliza, a bad haircut is a nightmare! It will grow fairly quickly though, hopefully you will feel happier about it soon.

I wear glasses too all the time and am not happy with them really, they are too square for my face but I can't afford new ones at the moment as I need varifocals and they cost several hundred pounds or more!

I desperately need a haircut but keep putting it off as I'm not sure what I want. It's very long at the moment and needs colouring as the grey is showing through (my hair's dark brown). I'm contemplating having it cut to just above shoulder length but as it's frizzy and curly, the weight has been dragging out the curls a bit, leaving more of a wave and I know if I have it cut it will bounce back up - the problem is it bounces on top and at the front, but the back hangs almost straight and the underneath part too. I dislike myself when it's straightened which is all the hairdresser ever recommends when I ask for a change!

Sonotkylie Fri 15-Feb-13 16:13:45

How about a bit more make up (feminising I tell myself), particularly lipstick, to minimise effect of haircut? Mine can feel a bit shorn when its first done and lippie perks me up. That, and hats (i'm not joking!). Maybe the manic knickers would help?

WildThong Fri 15-Feb-13 16:59:21

I know Planet isn't for everyone, but I love their jersey stuff, treggings and wrap dresses etc, especially for work. On here there are massive discounts and I have had a good few good quality bits. I got a pure silk tunic recently down to £19, lovely with boots and cropped jacket.

poppy283 Fri 15-Feb-13 17:29:09

I see a lot of stylish 50-somethings where I live, the look is usually slim or straight leg jeans or muted-colour twill trousers, converse or similar, hip length mac, neutral layered crew neck tops and a statement necklace.

GeorginaWorsley Fri 15-Feb-13 17:29:15

Agree lipstick and more make up to counter act hairstyle.
I hate it when hairdressers do that.
Had it happen to me about 10 years ago and have had it long ever since then.

Bonsoir Fri 15-Feb-13 17:44:58

Oh gosh, poor you with the wrong haircut sad. I agree with others, though - it will grow out more quickly than you think. If you aren't feeling good about your hair, now is probably not the time to buy new clothes and in any case the SS13 stuff is only just coming into the shops.

I think that women need to wear more colour and more accessories as they age. I have bought several things in Tara Jarmon recently and am very happy with them. I also really like Marni (more expensive) and Sofie d'Hoore.

SirEdmundFrillary Fri 15-Feb-13 17:51:46

I can think of a few more things women need to do as they age and they don't involve colour and accessories. Cross face.

greyvix Fri 15-Feb-13 18:15:51

OP, you look fantastic (I am 50+ and wish I looked as good as you). I think we need to cultivate elegance, which works well with short hair. Dresses are comfortable and flattering, well most of the time.

wordfactory Fri 15-Feb-13 18:33:56

OP, Nigella is 50 and a stone overweight grin.

You need to decide which items really make you confident and buy more of them!

Eliza22 Fri 15-Feb-13 18:49:44

Bonsoir the Tara Jarmon site looks lovely but is beyond my price range even in the sale!
Greyvix thanks, love.... I was on holiday, relaxed and a bit of a tan. Roll in Spring!
wordfactory you're right about Nigella and, by all accounts, she's very high maintenance in the "getting ready" department. Perhaps that's it..... As we age, it's takes more to look good. smile. My DH has a passion for Nigella, too!

Eliza22 Fri 15-Feb-13 18:52:58

And.... Have a bright pink lippy which is a summer wear, for me. Have it on today and a bit more colour generally and the hair looks..... Ok-ish. Not happy with it, but you're all right, it WILL grow!

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