Breast Milk Jewlerry

(66 Posts)
Emo76 Thu 24-Jan-13 08:34:29
Emo76 Thu 24-Jan-13 08:36:07

Please do not send frozen milk.
grin

DoItToJulia Thu 24-Jan-13 08:44:15

Bit weird? I can't decide?!

dexter73 Thu 24-Jan-13 08:44:22

Do you really need a medal to show that you have breast fed?!

DoItToJulia Thu 24-Jan-13 08:45:45

Oh, I thought it was for you children? Not for you?

DolomitesDonkey Thu 24-Jan-13 08:52:49

Arf. Gross and bonkers.

Fast forward 13 years -

"Mum cannihavea pony?".
"No darling, but mummy loves you, here's a necklace I had made for you from my breastmilk".
"urrrgh, you're such a freak - no wonder dad divorced you. I HATE YOU." <slams door>

notjustamummythankyou Thu 24-Jan-13 11:31:42

Do you make these then, OP?

Dear lord, 'BF defines me as a woman and as a mother'
Does that mean her life is over once her children are weaned?

ShatnersBassoon Thu 24-Jan-13 11:36:08

Yay, a medal for doing something perfectly ordinary!

MarcelineTheVampireQueen Thu 24-Jan-13 11:40:05

Sweet Jesus...

My favourit part is how not only does she take away her own identity in her spiel by saying it defines me, who I am as a mother and a woman but then reminds herself every day with her little keepsake. Does she disappear once her child is weaned?

Emo76 Thu 24-Jan-13 11:44:17

notjustamummy OMG no I certainly do not. Not at all my scene!

notjustamummythankyou Thu 24-Jan-13 11:45:49

That's a relief! smile

Bit odd IMO.

snowballinashoebox Thu 24-Jan-13 12:21:06

Please don't let this be true. whatever next sperm necklaces?

Touchmybum Thu 24-Jan-13 12:22:05

Just Noooooo!

WantAnOrange Thu 24-Jan-13 12:28:14

I think she needs a little perspective. My time spent BF DD is precious. My time spent FF DS was precious. Do I get 2 medals? What about one made of baked beans because I often feed DS beans now....

Lostonthemoors Thu 24-Jan-13 12:29:22

I actually like these smile

I'm feeling a bit sad at the moment as my 18 month old is dropping feeds like mad, so it may just be the hormones talking, but I would probably wear one of the pendants.

It is very ordinary, but I have just loved the closeness of feeding. I think it's sort of ordinary and miraculous at the same time.

SirBoobAlot Thu 24-Jan-13 12:33:04

Think these are lovely. If I had enough milk left after stopping months ago, I would get one. A friend of mine had one made, and its beautiful.

The comparison to sperm etc is ridiculous.

RedPencils Thu 24-Jan-13 12:39:08

My loft already groans under the weight of all the crap precious mementos. I'm ridiculous sentimental about keeping stuff, but this is stupid.
Why would a hideous necklace remind you of the time you bf your children? I finished bf 8 years ago and still remember doing it. I'm n

Lol at Emo making breast milk necklaces. I can confirm that is definitely not how she spends her Friday nights!

polyhymnia Thu 24-Jan-13 12:41:38

Yuk! And how on earth could anyone explain that to anyone who innocently asked what their necklace was made of??!!

And as for my having breast fed in the past defining me as a woman well words fail me !

Think I'll have to visit the Feminism threads to calm down!

I'm interested in starting a thread about her 'bf defines her' comment but don't know where to put it confused not sure if chat, AIBU or maybe feminism is appropriate.

MonaLotte Thu 24-Jan-13 12:52:50

grin Dolomites

Startail Thu 24-Jan-13 12:54:11

Bonkers totally and utterly bonkers and I spend far to long on here going on about extended BFing, but that's potty.

DolomitesDonkey Thu 24-Jan-13 13:18:59

snowball I believe pearl necklaces have been worn for years... wink

OK, I'll put my hand up and say that I'm quite vocal about the fact that 'bf is not the be all and end all' - but it's exactly this "it defines me, without breastmilk I am but a husk of a woman" which pisses me right off!

We're all so quick to scream "no" when a woman defines herself through her acceptability to a man, yet when she defines herself through her ability to breastfeed? Do women no longer exist in their own right?

Btw - if anyone's interested, this is a superb article on the Feminist pov of bf. www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2009/04/the-case-against-breast-feeding/307311/ and as she says in her by-line - "the ultimate badge in parenting".

Anyway, I can't stop around - I'm making pendants for mine - tonight they're having chicken kievs and chips with banana to follow. Anyone know how to varnish a banana? It keeps going brown.

Fishandjam Thu 24-Jan-13 13:27:12

Ooh, I want a baked bean necklace!

These are a bit odd though. And the "breastfeeding defines me" thing really grinds my gruttocks.

GirlOutNumbered Thu 24-Jan-13 13:27:26

Why? Why? Why?

Is this for the mums that dry out their placentas and have them made into ornaments?!

GirlOutNumbered Thu 24-Jan-13 13:29:55

Or maybe a Placenta Teddy Bear

Lostonthemoors Thu 24-Jan-13 13:45:55

Sir boob, I'm so glad it's not just me who thinks this is quite cool.

Haven't read the article yet, but I'm very happy to stand up and be counted as a feminist and I have written some academic stuff on gender theory. I would still say bf has been a wonderful part of my life.

polyhymnia Thu 24-Jan-13 13:53:44

That article is excellent donkey.

RedPencils Thu 24-Jan-13 15:03:03

GiloutNumbered - eww eww eww
Why would anyone think that was a good idea?

So if BF defines us as a woman, does the mean if you FF your tits fall off and you grow a cock?

valiumredhead Thu 24-Jan-13 15:36:40

Oh God, something about it appeals to me and I only managed to BF ds twice grin

MarcelineTheVampireQueen Thu 24-Jan-13 15:38:25

Haven't read the article yet, but I'm very happy to stand up and be counted as a feminist and I have written some academic stuff on gender theory. I would still say bf has been a wonderful part of my life

But is it your whole life? Does it define you?

MarcelineTheVampireQueen Thu 24-Jan-13 15:39:18

midnightinmoscow grin

I was wondering what that was down there....

Overreactionoftheweek Thu 24-Jan-13 15:42:34

There's no way I would be able to keep the horrified look off my face if someone told me they were wearing their breast milk in jewellery form shock

It seems way too smug for me - but then I only managed 3 weeks of bf so maybe I'm just bitter!

Roseformeplease Thu 24-Jan-13 15:45:30

And I thought the woman I once heard of who used her breast milk to make scones was weird.....

valiumredhead Thu 24-Jan-13 15:49:24

Just to clarify, I wouldn't wear it or show it to anyone, I would just pop it in ds's baby box smile

MrsBungleBear Thu 24-Jan-13 15:49:56

Doesn't the milk go sour inside that little pendant thing? confused

MrsBungleBear Thu 24-Jan-13 15:52:18

Oh I see, it's preserved. Oh well, each to their own.

Awful. Shades of when Angelina used to wear a vial of BB Thornton's blood around her neck to demonstrate their special relationship.

SirBoobAlot Thu 24-Jan-13 23:29:20

It's resin. I did find a way to do it yourself online, which was also pretty awesome.

For some people, breastfeeding is "just" a way of feeding their baby. And obviously that's fine. For others it means more than that. There are a lot of reasons why breastfeeding was - and continues to be - an important part of my life, and a beautiful thing like this is a lovely way to remember it.

Again, the comparison to other bodily fluids is ridiculous. Show me another bodily fluid that contains HAMLET cells, for example.

TiggerWearsATriteSmile Fri 25-Jan-13 06:54:09

Whatever about being a bit different or whatever being made of milk.

They're cheap and ugly and look like those kids things you see for sale on the street in holiday resorts.

TiggerWearsATriteSmile Fri 25-Jan-13 06:54:41

Made with shells
Is missing from the end of my post above

Bunbaker Fri 25-Jan-13 08:25:57

"but I have just loved the closeness of feeding."

I breastfed because I didn't want to bottle feed. It didn't make me feel any closer to DD, it was just a way to feed DD (and gave me a chance to sit down and watch the repeats of This Life).

I must admit I don't get this smuggery about the "wonderful feeling" that breastfeeding gives you. It didn't make me feel wonderful (especially not at first - it was pretty painful to start with). It is something you get on with to nourish your baby - end of. And I don't feel the need to tell the world that I breastfed, any more than I need to tell the world that I made toad in the hole for tea last night. I think thw whole idea is just ridiculous.

DolomitesDonkey Fri 25-Jan-13 08:54:09

I love the "closeness" of having sex with my husband - I don't however feel the need to advertise the fact by wearing spunky gems!

DolomitesDonkey Fri 25-Jan-13 08:55:19

In response to the "not all bodily fluids" tenuously clutching at straws statement - what would you say if I were to present my boys with signet rings containing my husband's seminal fluid because without his sperm they would never have come in to existence?

spunky gems grin

Agree the bodily fluids issue is not the cringeworthy element of this - it's the "I feel the need to show the world that I am defined by this one relationship/experience".

Bunbaker Fri 25-Jan-13 09:59:36

Exactly MissBeehiving

Lostonthemoors Fri 25-Jan-13 10:08:33

Bun it's all just personal experiences, isn't it? I really enjoyed pg, birth and bf. Some people don't and fair enough - that's their personal experience. I met someone this week who said their pg have all been horrific and one of my bf had a third degree tear during birth. I totally accept the validity of their feelings about pg/birth, of course and I think they would accept mine, not that I've actually told them how much I enjoyed my pg or birth experience.

In the same way I know some people don't fall in love with bf and some hate it. Others like me, enjoy it very much.

I think it's partly a hormonal thing, all that oxytocin etc but I did and do often experience a wave of euphoria when feeding DS - partly the cuddling, partly the skin to skin, partly the hormonal things going on.

I think the target market for this stuff is people like me and SirBoob, rather than those who didn't particularly like bf

Lostonthemoors Fri 25-Jan-13 10:10:58

I don't think I'd want people to know it was my milk though!

Bunbaker Fri 25-Jan-13 10:13:06

Do some people really get a wave of euphoria when breastfeeding? Really? Perhaps I don't have enough hormones.

I didn't dislike breastfeeding, except at first when it was painful, but to me it was just a functional thing to do to get milk into DD. Just like making a cup of tea or whatever. It was a means to an end.

Bunbaker Fri 25-Jan-13 10:15:55

Sorry, my last post must have come across as rather rude. I simply didn't realise that breastfeeding gave some women such a sense of euphoria because I certainly never felt like that. smile

Lostonthemoors Fri 25-Jan-13 10:20:03

Hi Bun, I think some people do just feel its not massively exciting. Some people actively dislike it.

The link below from a database of comments about bf suggest it's not just me who gets the joyful feeling:

www.healthtalkonline.org/pregnancychildren/Breastfeeding/Topic/1060/

Lostonthemoors Fri 25-Jan-13 10:21:23

X posted with you! Didn't read it as rude, just surprised!

valiumredhead Fri 25-Jan-13 10:23:08

I only managed to BF ds twice as he was prem and found latching on really hard BUT I do remember a massive rush of something -relief, euphoria, some sort of feeling flooded my body? I can still remember it vividly nearly 12 years on.

Bunbaker Fri 25-Jan-13 10:33:37

That link makes interesting reading. I didn't have any of those feelings except the tingling when it was time to feed DD, but that was before she started feeding, not during. DD never had a strong suck so maybe that was why I didn't get a surge of hormones. It never made me feel emotional either. It was just something I did.

I wonder why it is so different for different women?

polyhymnia Fri 25-Jan-13 10:35:43

Fwiw I feel exactly the same as bunbaker about breastfeeding.

But these experiences are very personal and feelings one way or the other very strong - one reason I never venture on the various threads on here which deal with pregnancy, breastfeeding, working and SAH mums, etc, but just enjoy myself in S and B (and occasionally film and TV threads).

Still think those necklaces are tacky and yuk though!

Well, this is S & B and opinions on whether an item is stylish or beautiful are the lifeblood of this part of the board. Those necklace IMO are neither stylish or beautiful.

Lostonthemoors Fri 25-Jan-13 11:21:52

Actually tbh much as I love bf I've been looking again and while I love the idea, I think I've decided the stuff itself is a bit naff!! I would prefer a little paperweight like the red pendant with bm heart.

Does anyone else think she ditches the breastmilk and just has a selection of translucent beads she uses?

People who used formula could sent in a bag of ready mixed SMA wink

Fishandjam Fri 25-Jan-13 13:22:08

Lost, by your post I'm the target market for this - I love BFing. But I don't like those pendants (ugly and tacky in design) and I also don't feel the need to enshrine some of my milk in plastic to "define myself".

propertyNIGHTmareBEFOREXMAS Fri 25-Jan-13 14:19:46

Lord. I LOVE them. Kooky and kitch. Beautiful.

propertyNIGHTmareBEFOREXMAS Fri 25-Jan-13 14:22:34

In fact, a plain-ish oval pendant with milk blobs (no names) might look quite cool teamed with a YSL arty ring.

MikeOxardInTheSnow Fri 25-Jan-13 14:45:10

Wow, they even do cuff links! So your adult son can wear them presumably? Awesome... If you want him to never have a girlfriend and look like a wierd mummy's boy! Fair enough if this is your thing, get a neclace (/medal) for yourself, but not for the kids, please!!

MrsBungleBear Fri 25-Jan-13 14:52:35

grin at spunky gems!

I liked breast feeding. I have zero desire to save my milk in a pendant though!

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