Plus size dress

(50 Posts)
moomoomar Sun 30-Dec-12 22:48:08

I have a wedding to go to at the end of January and I need something nice to wear. It's a posh wedding and I think I would look odd if I wasn't in a dress. I am huge so I'm going to look horrible anyway so might aswell look like I've made the effort!

I'm 5'9 and a size 22 please help! I mostly wear black, would black be ok for a wedding?

supergreenuk Sun 30-Dec-12 22:51:07

Black is fine. You can accessorise with colour with shoes, bag, shrug and chunky bling.

plantsitter Sun 30-Dec-12 22:53:18

I am also huge but not as tall as you. I have the green dress from here and, quite frankly, with high heels and lipstick I look H.O.T. in it.

So don't wear black. Wear something lovely and sparkle in your enormous gorgeousness.

HappyNewSkyebluesapphire Sun 30-Dec-12 22:55:33

Simply Be have some lovely dresses, or Evans. I wore a maxi dress, black with coral butterflies on for my cousins wedding. £50 from Evans. They also had a gorgeous blue chiffon dress but it was £75 and too long. Littlewoods catalogue worth a look too.

moomoomar Sun 30-Dec-12 22:56:11

Wow those dresses are lovely, I forgot to say I have huge legs so it must be a long dress and I would never ever wear anything short.

moomoomar Sun 30-Dec-12 22:57:12

Will have a look at simply be, I have a Evans and Yours locally so I may venture into town and have a look.

moomoomar Sun 30-Dec-12 23:16:50

dress

What do you think of this?

HappyNewSkyebluesapphire Mon 31-Dec-12 00:18:01

Looks smart. Could jazz it up with red accessories or silver for a bit classier.

lunar1 Mon 31-Dec-12 00:21:56

Have a look at monsoon, they have some lovely long dresses and go up to 22. their sizes seem to be on the large size too.

Im 5ft9 and a size 22.

I find new looks maxi dresses a bit too short.

I wear short dresses with black opaque tights because I cant find maxi dresses long enough.

So fabulous at very.co.uk have a sale on!

tethersjinglebellend Mon 31-Dec-12 00:34:46

Don't like that one, sorry moomoomar- it looks like a paper bag. I think it's the drawstring waist. A better cut will be more flattering.

What's your budget?

How about:

Purple

Green

Red

Red again

Black

Or if you would consider a midi length, this would look great with black opaques.

piprabbit Mon 31-Dec-12 00:41:35

Have a look at the Alexon sale dresses - various maxi dresses in lovely colours and very generously cut.

moomoomar Mon 31-Dec-12 01:19:11

oh shit, i really should have started looking or maybe dieting a while ago!

I love that last black dress teathers but way over my budget. I love the midi lenght one too but I just wouldn't be able to wear it with my legs.

Thanks for the other suggestions and links I will go and have a look.

This may sound silly but do we as a family have to match? I mean would we look odd if we all went in different colours? DD1 age 7 got her dress last week and its a peach colour, it is lovely and has a jacket to match. They had the same colour but different style but dd2 refused to wear it as she thought it was abit babyish. DH will probably just wear a suit.

Can you tell ive never been to a wedding(apart from my own) before.

moomoomar Mon 31-Dec-12 01:29:44

This is dd1's dress

Teeb Mon 31-Dec-12 01:43:52

Aw, your little girls dress is very pretty. I don't think you need to co-ordinate as a family, I think just that you match in terms of effort/style maybe, so if it's a casual small wedding or if its a big formal wedding you all look as if you are at the same event.

1
2
3
Any of these work?

Teeb Mon 31-Dec-12 01:46:39

Oh I just noticed some of those are sold out in your size. I think this is really pretty and it's a bit different from black.

moomoomar Mon 31-Dec-12 01:55:51

I like number 2, I will pop into my local Yours and see if they have any. The last one from simply be is very nice but i don't think it will look right on me though.

It is a very big formal wedding which is why i'm worring so much sad

GlaikitFizzHogmany Mon 31-Dec-12 01:58:15

I have this in a 20 but I'm much shorter than you but opaque tights are your friend with a pair of heels I've yet to see a pair of unsightly legs!

This one come to mid calf

bit different

I don't think you need to match dd. but try not to clash or worse, try to match but be a different tone/shade.

moomoomar Mon 31-Dec-12 02:02:06

They are lovely Glaikit but I can't see myself in any of those. I'm thinking more floaty. I think i will stick to black and get dd2 something similar to dd1then hopefully we wont clash.

GlaikitFizzHogmany Mon 31-Dec-12 02:05:18

Ok, long shot smile

GlaikitFizzHogmany Mon 31-Dec-12 02:06:23

Sorry, that's only up to a 20, but maybe with some serious sucky in underwear, might be ok!

GlaikitFizzHogmany Mon 31-Dec-12 02:11:50

I can't sleep, and this is like shopping but I don't have to buy anything!

navy

DolomitesDonkey Mon 31-Dec-12 05:00:07

moomoo You need to give yourself a bloody good talking to because you are being horrible to yourself! You are not a diet-failing hippo who can only be seen in black as though you're a whale moving silently through the oceans. A size 22 is not even worthy of a front row seat on a Richard Simmons cruise! I bet if I were to see you in Tesco you'd not even raise an eyebrow!

If you're not going to show your legs, how about a little cleavage?

Get yourself some bloody colour, a pair of nice heels and get your face on.

How dare you talk to yourself like that? What sort of a message are you sending to your girls?

Igigi do some amazing stuff - my wedding dress was from there - I'm only 5'4" and had to wear 6" heels so at 5'9" you'd find them plenty long enough! I know Igigi is probably over your budget but I hope it can inspire you as to just how beautiful clothes can be in such a size.

There are also plenty of "plus size" blogs out there written by larger women who have bags of style and look fabulous. There are plenty of slimmer women out there who look like a bag of washing - style is not dependent upon size!

DolomitesDonkey Mon 31-Dec-12 05:01:30

PS Repeat after me "I will not shop in Evans or ASOS Curve because I do not wear Fugly clothes designed to cover postboxes".

I agree with Dolomites.

I am the same size as you and while I realise I could do with losing a few pounds I have certainly never thought of myself as "huge."

Thing is, you could live your life unhappy, hating your size, or you could learn how to dress for your shape and work it.

Dresses which create a waist and skim or hide the hips (and in my case the tummy) are your friend. Something like this is maybe a bit out there for your tastes but is so flattering on us larger girls.

Some of the dresses Glaikit suggested are gorgeous and that Igigi dress is stunning!
Try to experiment with different styles in changing rooms, where only you can see, whats the harm? Then atleast you can get used to different styles first and figure out what you like. If you want to stick to black then ok, but introduce colour with your accessories.

I read some of the blogs Dolomites mentioned, I will try and get some links for you!

polyhymnia Mon 31-Dec-12 09:55:48

I'm the same size and height as you and i wouldn't dream of wearing anything by Simply Be or Evans or Asos Curve to a wedding - tend to avoid 'specialist' plus retailers like the plague because IMO their stuff is tacky and poor quality.

Nor would I wear black at a wedding. In fact, I agree with the sentiments of Dolomites. You can look fabulous, and those of us who are tall as well as large are so lucky - much easier to find flattering clothes. If you don't like your legs, there are so many fabulous opaques now.

I'd go for a 'mainstream' retailer who goes up to 22, eg Monsoon, or some of the others mentioned above. You can find good things from such places - just have to look harder than people of a smaller size. But I enjoy the challenge.

One 'mainstream' retailer I get quite a lot from is Boden (NOT in 'fun' patterns, but there are plenty of things which aren't).

I also get some of my 'occasion' stuff from Marina Rinaldi, but they are not online, and are ££, sadly. Igigi look as if they have good stuff too.

GlaikitFizzHogmany Mon 31-Dec-12 11:30:42

I have recently discovered fit and flare dresses! Cinch at my slimmest part just under my bust. And skim my hips. I'm big busted and big hipped, is that a cello shape?? 50s style dresses with petticoats hide multitudes of sins too.

Have a rethink about the full length floaty number?

Think you mean an empire line Glaikit! Very flattering as it skims the hips and draws the eye up away from the waist!

moomoomar Mon 31-Dec-12 12:28:20

Oh Dolo thank you so much, that really is what I need to hear. Although I disagree with the bit about my girls. I think im very positive about body image around them. Dd1 is very slim but eats like a horse, she tries to get away with eating dd2's leftovers and I've told her how unhealthy it is to eat for the sake of it. Dd2 has a large bum and she worries about her chubby cheeks. I have told her its because she is little and as she grows her shape will change. I tell them the truth, if they eat crap then they will feel crap and put on weight. My DM and DMIL think its ok to offer them so much shit that they eat until they feel sick. I don't think I can do much more apart from advise them and explain why eating to much of the wrong things are bad for them. I don't want it to be a massive issue in our house as i really don't want them to have weight issues when they are older.

Anyway back to the dress, thank you for the suggestions I will have a look at them. I will link when I've chosen one.

Thanks again for the help.

HappyNewSkyebluesapphire Mon 31-Dec-12 15:21:41

Evans do some gorgeous dresses at the top end of the scale. I have a lovely blue lace dress, very on trend, £75 down to £50. Every time I wear it, it gets compliments....so not all of Evans stuff is "fugly and designed to cover postboxes..."

This is the dress that I first mentioned, £75 from Evans.

www.evans.co.uk/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/ProductDisplay?beginIndex=1&viewAllFlag=&catalogId=33054&storeId=12553&productId=5651980&langId=-1&sort_field=Relevance&categoryId=209530&parent_categoryId=209427&pageSize=24

That is now only available in a size 14, so no good to you, but I thought that it was beautiful!

polyhymnia Mon 31-Dec-12 16:25:34

I've tried Evans top end (eg Clements Ribeiro) occasionally and they never seem to fit my body properly. But think that may be because I'm tall and long-bodied.

QueenBOObread Mon 31-Dec-12 17:29:41

Very chic from Boden

BillyBollyBrandy Mon 31-Dec-12 22:51:30

link

I am 5ft9 and a size 18/20 and this would suit me.

zandy Mon 31-Dec-12 23:20:32
polyhymnia Mon 31-Dec-12 23:41:19

Hate to disagree because taste is so personal and shapes vary but personally I really don't like the bagginess of Box 2 clothes like those - think it tends to make large people look like ships in full sail. And frumpy.
Think you could do better.

wontwearsocks Tue 01-Jan-13 10:51:39

Definitely not the Box2 outfit linked. Sorry.

I am size 18 but short. I have had some great outfits for wedding from Simply Be. The sale is on so you might grab a bargain. I like these two.

one like the colour of this one

this one

piprabbit Tue 01-Jan-13 14:52:11

My mother likes Box2 and is nearly 70. Nuff said.

tethersjinglebellend Tue 01-Jan-13 17:20:52

This is fab and a great bargain.

tethersjinglebellend Tue 01-Jan-13 17:23:09
tethersjinglebellend Tue 01-Jan-13 17:24:07

Bizarre- search the HoF website for 'Ann Harvey', click dresses and it's in stock in a 20 and 24.

GlaikitFizzHogmany Tue 01-Jan-13 17:33:54

Ach tethers was just about o order that Ann Harvey dress and its out of stock in a 20! Which one f you buggers bought it?? If you don't want it when it comes let me know grin

polyhymnia Tue 01-Jan-13 17:56:06

if it's any comfort, I think that Ann Harvey dress looks matronly - in fact honestly don't like Ann Harvey. IMHO, they are an example of specialist plus size retailers not being such a good bet as 'ordinary' ranges (eg, Monsoon, Boden) who go up to a 22.

GlaikitFizzHogmany Tue 01-Jan-13 18:02:39

Hmm maybe! I just saw a bargain and thought it would do for work really!

polyhymnia Tue 01-Jan-13 18:08:08

I don't really think Ann Harvey is a bargain at any price - just so depressing.

tethersjinglebellend Tue 01-Jan-13 18:18:15

Arf at 'depressing' grin

Not as depressing as bloody Monsoon wink

Glaikit, it's showing at still available in a 20 if you search the website for Ann Harvey and click 'dresses'- I don't know why, perhaps it's a glitch? Sorry- thought they had some left.

GlaikitFizzHogmany Tue 01-Jan-13 18:40:02

Yay but when you try to add it to you basket it comes up as out of stock!

I actually quite like monsoon. I've always found a dress in there for weddings etc.

Dorothy Perkins has been my go to shop recently though. Not in store only online. They don't seen to think fat people walk into the shop round here. They might have a point! Got a few dresses for work. Recent change in dress code meant a whole new wardrobe! It's a hard life!! Someone's got to do it!

polyhymnia Tue 01-Jan-13 21:45:49

As it happens I'm not a great fan of Monsoon - haven't bought anything there for ages - but they do have some OK things and go up to 22.

As for Ann Harvey I really don't think you can have set foot in any of their shops, tethers and seen the acres of polyester and drear colours and shapeless/ill-cut garments or you wouldnt defend them.They truly are the nadir of frump. I think the OP deserves much better.

Have you looked at Castaluna they have some gorgeous dresses, lovely quality, not too expensive but the delivery time can be quite long, so best to order in advance.

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