Ok I've fecked up- refused to be bridesmaid for sister now can't find an outfit. Any fashionistas fancy a challenge?

(58 Posts)
WineGless Tue 11-Dec-12 20:25:39

Dd is a flower girl nd DS is pageboy. For many reasons I decided not to be bridesmaid and now regretting it as can't get my head round what to wear.

I am 40, size 14, 5'11 but not much of a waist, small boobs, column shape really and have blonde hair, pale skin

Bridesmaids are wearing claret which doesn't suit me.

I have beans searching the web but would love some help if anyone is up for it.

HyvaPaiva Tue 11-Dec-12 21:55:44

Would this Coast dress suit you? It's quite good at nipping it at the waist, the neckline is better suited to a small chest, and the colour would look great next to the claret bridal party. If you enter promo code 'apology20' it costs £108

MerryMarigold Tue 11-Dec-12 22:04:51

Phase Eight Could be flattering...but you need to try it on

Amblin Tue 11-Dec-12 22:06:43

go to john lewis or somewhere.

dont reject more glittery evening type numbers for a winter wedding

MerryMarigold Tue 11-Dec-12 22:07:19
WineGless Tue 11-Dec-12 22:13:22

I like the green Coast dress.

Amblin - I was trying to find something weddingy, do you think glittery evening is ok?

MerryMarigold Tue 11-Dec-12 22:14:19
Amblin Tue 11-Dec-12 22:15:07

i think - when and where is it?

MerryMarigold Tue 11-Dec-12 22:16:10

I would also highly recommend a corset for giving you a waist. I had twins and still don't have much waist (4 years on). It really works miracles. Buy it and then go dress trying-on.

Amblin Tue 11-Dec-12 22:17:15

i like the green coast one a lot too -a nd SLEEVES

Amblin Tue 11-Dec-12 22:18:27

I don't get it. Are you a guest at the wedding, as opposed to having a "role"? You decided not to be a bridesmaid but you want to wear the same colour as them...I am lost

WineGless Tue 11-Dec-12 22:22:28

Thanks MM and all suggestions Will purchase a corset and take myself off to JL for trying on session.

I bought this last week but length was wrong in me

Amblin wedding in January- church and hotel

Amblin Tue 11-Dec-12 22:24:33

its a nice style though.
I would think carefully about what coat you get as that is key for the ceremony.

then something eveningy afterwards - if its late on in the day

WineGless Tue 11-Dec-12 22:31:42

Yes I am a guest at the wedding.
I don't want to wear the same colour as the bridesmaids as I chose not to join in. She was fine with this btw- no issues about that.

I just can't find a dress I like for a winter wedding as all very glitzy at the moment and felt too Christmassy

Amblin Tue 11-Dec-12 22:33:30

think smart coat. then you could always hav LBD for the dinner.

phase eight have some smart coatsin reduced

Wishfulmakeupping Tue 11-Dec-12 22:45:39

Love the green coast dress

WineGless Tue 11-Dec-12 22:51:55

You reckon red shoes with it? I thought red and green should not be seen......

I about to order coast dress just in case I can't find it to try on in shops

polyhymnia Tue 11-Dec-12 22:56:28

The coast dress looks lovely.

notMarlene Tue 11-Dec-12 22:57:39

This will give you a waist.
fab dress with sleeves, lovely vintage feel with these, this and this. Or, not vintagey at all this, these and this.

WineGless Tue 11-Dec-12 23:02:59

Notmarlene- that's genius, you are a genius.
I haven't seen that make before but will try on tomorrow. Am totally inspired now, thanks all for the fab ideas.

notMarlene Tue 11-Dec-12 23:08:40

Play to your your boyish figure? similar too short?

Very comfortable, you'd actually be able to eat. Isn't so much fun in a corset.

notMarlene Tue 11-Dec-12 23:08:58

x posts!


CatchingMockingbirds Tue 11-Dec-12 23:14:31

Why didn't you want to be a bridesmaid?

Amblin Wed 12-Dec-12 07:27:26

Because bridesmaids always look shit ?

Amblin Wed 12-Dec-12 07:27:59

Like the blue but I think on a 14 might look a bit tenty

notMarlene Wed 12-Dec-12 07:54:24

It might be tenty but then the OP is very tall - I suspect the size she is at a 14 could well be proportionally like a 10 would be on shortarsed old me.

Do theoretically prefer the dress I got all carried away about though.

CatchingMockingbirds Wed 12-Dec-12 09:46:53

Good job she's not the one getting married then...

MerryMarigold Wed 12-Dec-12 09:47:52

Love notmarlene's one with the modern accessories. Those Martin Clay shoes are gorgeous (if pricey!).

True about eating in a corset though. And you can't wear it longer than 8 hours. But it does nip the waist...pros and cons

noddyholder Wed 12-Dec-12 15:49:46
Amblin Wed 12-Dec-12 16:54:41

Love the red

noddyholder Wed 12-Dec-12 17:17:06

Me too it looks very high end for teh price.

polyhymnia Wed 12-Dec-12 17:22:20

Red good if it suits OPs colouring and shes happy to wear long. Still like the Coast dress and notmarlenes first one best. That colour is lovely and rich and easy to wear as well as being on trend.

noddyholder Wed 12-Dec-12 17:40:26

That adriana one looks like middle aged day at the races

WineGless Wed 12-Dec-12 17:52:57

Noddy love the red but it is too much like the bridesmaids dresses unfortunately. I am thinking I might get that for another wedding we have got between Xmas and new year
Which Adriana did you mean - the first or the second?
On my way to JL now so will let you know

44SoStartingOver Wed 12-Dec-12 17:54:13

Never regret refusing to be a bridesmaid when you are 40.

Sound move.
Even if you wore any old dress!

noddyholder Wed 12-Dec-12 18:50:58

That first turquoise one with all the lady gaga bits. terribly mother of the bride at the races grin

notMarlene Wed 12-Dec-12 18:56:45

Yeah, it is rather noddy. No denying it wink

But, the OP is wanting a waist and it would give her one what with the built in corseting and deceptive detailing...

notMarlene Wed 12-Dec-12 19:14:37

Still love the second one though - on a model here. Damned good dress.

noddyholder Wed 12-Dec-12 19:45:37

Yes that is lovely.

WineGless Wed 12-Dec-12 20:56:34

Ok updates:
John Lewis didn't have ANY of the dresses in stock that were linked. I tried a few on but none that inspired me although was in a rush.

Have ordered the coast dress and the nice Adriana dress so will see what they are like when I try them on.

Off to peruse French connection and Mango sites now

notMarlene Thu 13-Dec-12 08:12:57

Urhg, that must have been annoying! Will you keep up posted?

WineGless Thu 13-Dec-12 14:48:33
WineGless Thu 13-Dec-12 21:25:19

Bump for evening crowd to slag off comment on new dresses

MerryMarigold Thu 13-Dec-12 21:33:59

Like the sleeves on no.3 - why annoying?

Don't like K Millen ones - a bit too 'look at me', but that is my personal taste...maybe you like people looking at you wink.

BIWIshYouAMerryChristmas Thu 13-Dec-12 21:38:37

Those are lovely, Wine, but if it's a January wedding, what will you wear over the top of it? Bearing in mind that churches can often be cold, and there's usually a bit of hanging around outside while photos are taken.

notMarlene Thu 13-Dec-12 21:45:31

Well, apart from anything else they all look like a nightmare to accessorize. The only one of hers I like on the HoF site is this but you'd really have to embrace the pear. Actually, [[ this is great]] but cream so no good.

notMarlene Thu 13-Dec-12 21:50:44

Rather like this, the vintage feel appeals. Red shoes, silver bag.


BIWIshYouAMerryChristmas Thu 13-Dec-12 22:04:13
WineGless Thu 13-Dec-12 22:24:03

Good point about what to wear over the top and the accessorising.
BIWI I quite like it but not sure bout the suggested accessories. Black seems. Bit harsh with it.

Notmarlene- not sure about the Eliza. Bit too Kirstie Allsopp for me
Like the pied a terre.

Going to a posh boutique type department store in the morning

Thanks to the help so far
I have two weeks to go and have decided on the coast dress
which I love

I have two pairs of shoes
not very weddingy

coat I got this just for the church service and walking to the reception as its in a village and close together

I this fascinator

Just feel the accessories might flatten the dress needs something to wow it and no idea about jewelry.

Please help as am panicking slightly now

Bump for some advice

tethersend Fri 11-Jan-13 22:54:39

Ok, I like both shoes and the coat could work.

I do not like the fascinator. I would wear this instead.

Then I would get some 60s- style earrings like this and leave it at that.

Have you chosen a bag?

notMarlene Fri 11-Jan-13 23:15:22

I'm not keen on the facinator either TBH, the rest is great though. Prefer tje snake shoes for with the dress, I think. That said the peeptoes and this would be fab.

this in the brown or cream would be good with either shoes. Tethers green pill box is good to but it's a bit of a risk, impossible to know if the two green will match / compliment each other.

Am also interested to hear if you've chosen a bag!

notMarlene Fri 11-Jan-13 23:15:38

oh, and yy to just earrings.

I bought fascinator in a panic in case I couldn't find anything so completely agree. It's going back - no worries on that score. I was even thinking when buying - s&b won't like this!!

I really like tethers pill box hat but worried the green wouldn't match.

I haven't got to a bag yet- what would you go for?
I'm going with the snake shoes I think

Notmarlene- I also bought the Adriana second dress you linked to which I wore to an evening do and got loads of compliments so thank you for the link

Tethers I've ordered the green hat as they take returns so if colour not quite right it can go back

Had a whiz round John lewis but wasn't inspired for bags. Do I match to dress, shoes or hat, depending on which hat I end up with

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