Is my hair too long? With pics!

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My Mother (whose opinion I shouldn't care about but do) is on the verge of making a hair appt for me when I go home at Christmas as she hates my long hair and has used the word 'witch' about it in the past hmm

I haven't been to a hairdresser in well over a year. I love my hair long and hate hairdressers thanks to a history of unwanted dos and a deep fear of layered Mum cuts and sensible bobs. In my defence it is very thick and shiny.

I'm 32. Tell me MN, is my hair too long and do I look like a witch??

EwanHoHoHozami Mon 10-Dec-12 09:10:30

You really suit the heavy fringe and it's a great colour and length. Maybe a tidy-up but nowt more! envy

SledsImOn Mon 10-Dec-12 09:10:44

Oh my goodness, your hair is GREAT smile

I wish mine would grow that long and that thick.

And no, you don't look remotely like a witch.

SantasRooftopFanjangHoHo Mon 10-Dec-12 09:11:07

You have lovely hair, really full. Don't cut it if you like it long, no matter whayt others think.
I'm 40 in march and have long hair, some are white these days.
Oh, and some of my best mates are witches grin

SledsImOn Mon 10-Dec-12 09:11:29

Is your mother normally this rude btw?

CheungFun Mon 10-Dec-12 09:12:16

Nope, not witchey at all! I think maybe have a trim so it grows longer and wind up your mum ;)

FrancesFarmer Mon 10-Dec-12 09:12:49

You look great and your hair is lovely.

FancyPuffin Mon 10-Dec-12 09:13:29

You and your hair are gorgeous.

Don't change a thing <stern>

In a word Sleds, yes!

She made me have a bowl short hair till I was old enough to say no (while my sister had long hmm). I'm definitely overcompensating by having it as long as possible but it definitely annoys her.

A Psychoanalyst would have a field day.

It does need a tidy up. I cut it myself so it's definitely not perfect blush. It's just a big part of my identity and I don't want to come out with a regulation Mum cut.

Thanks all.

DoesntTurkeyNSproutSoupDragOn Mon 10-Dec-12 09:15:34

Personally, I'd lose about 4 inches but [shrug] it's not my hair.

MrsBucketxx Mon 10-Dec-12 09:17:18

your hair looks lovely,nshort hair can be just as aging as long. it totally depends on the style.

SledsImOn Mon 10-Dec-12 09:18:03

It looks beautiful and tbh, stuff your mother - she clearly has issues and they're not your problem.

DoesntTurkeyNSproutSoupDragOn Mon 10-Dec-12 09:19:46

(meant to add that I don't think it looks witchy)

LadyMargolotta Mon 10-Dec-12 09:20:03

You look great with long hair. So does your dd smile

Nothing wrong with looking like a witch anyway (although you don't. Witches don't have fringes).

Cheers Sleds.

New record for number of 'definitely's in one post there too. Ho hum. At least I got the spelling right wink

grin @ "Witches don't have fringes."

QuietNinjaChristmasSpecial Mon 10-Dec-12 09:22:57

Your hair's fine! And your dd baby photos are soooo cute.

GlaikitFizzogTheChristmasElf Mon 10-Dec-12 09:26:08

I'm envy I would kill for hair like yours! But I don't have the patience! My hair is the longest I've had it since school now, and my hairdresser is under strict instruction not to cut it short no matter how much I beg.

Maybe humour your mum by going for a trim, if its been a year since yr last cut the ends might need a wee snip.

MissVerinder Mon 10-Dec-12 09:26:38

It's lovely. You look like Kelle Hampton, (which is a good thing) and how gorgeous is your DD?

headfairy Mon 10-Dec-12 09:27:25

Bunny keep your long hair.... I too was subjected to years of crap short hair cuts (I have very very fine hair, my mother lied told me having it short would make it thicker) and I now have long(ish) locks and won't have them cut short for anyone, despite my mothers comments that I'm too old to have rats tails (her description). Yes I'm 42, but it's shiny, a decent colour (I think - no grey at all) and in good condition so yah boo sucks to you mum! I also have have a pic on profile but I can't rotate it for some reason

DD is a cutie grin

Funny my Mum has tried to get me to cut DD's too but DD wants "hair like Rapunzel" grin

Too weird MissVerinder - Kelle's blog is where I go for fringe inspiration! And just general inspiration. She's crazy cool.

headfairy Mon 10-Dec-12 09:28:36

ps. is that you with the 1950s look? It's fab!

Your hair is gorgeous (as are your kids) headfairy. I love that middle part style. My cowlicks make it impossible!

T'is me grin

Another great thing about long hair - makes all the vintage styles I love much easier!

It's beautiful.

You look how I want to look.

Was it you who just lost 2 stone? Apologies if not. Was trying to find the thread as need to do the same!

That's me too Mistletoe grin

ChasedByBees Mon 10-Dec-12 09:32:18

Not witchy, v pretty and glamorous!

FellatioNelson Mon 10-Dec-12 09:32:54

It is beautiful hair but personally I think it would look more balanced if it were about 4-6 inches shorter.

However, I am not concerned about your hair. I am more concerned that you should stop bathing that poor baby using Fairy Liquid.

KrisMoose Mon 10-Dec-12 09:33:56

Your hair is gorgeous - I wonder if your Mum has hair ishoooooooooos as she made you keep it short as a kid? <amateur psychologist>

And you look really slim envy

<mutters> grin

headfairy Mon 10-Dec-12 09:34:33

Oh yes, the styling opportunities with long hair are infinite! grin

I also have cowlicks but ones that make a flat fringe impossible! We should get our cowlicks together, maybe they'd cancel each other out grin

WayneDeer Mon 10-Dec-12 09:35:48


could it be because your mother thinks your hair is too black?
I think if you had a lighter shade she wouldn't feel the same way

i am not indicating that you should lighten your hair
it's your hair

grin Fellatio - At least it was actual Fairy and not the Aldi one!

6 inches??? shock <faints> No chance!

Wayne - That's my natural hair colour! Darkest brown with reddish tones in the sun. Nowhere near black in real life. Wouldn't change it for the world.

QuickLookBusy Mon 10-Dec-12 09:40:58

Your hair is beautiful and I would keep it long.

However, I would cut about 3-4 inches off.

I know this sounds weird but I think it's because it kind off rests on your boobsgrin

I think it needs to rest just above them- I don't normally focus on boobs honestlygrin

GlaikitFizzogTheChristmasElf Mon 10-Dec-12 09:41:35

Ok I'm going to ask about the bruises, since no one else has!

How in gods name did you get those? We're you running away from a hairdresser?? grin

That's ok Quick - I'm a big Alanis fan wink

Glaikit grin. Key words: alcohol, window, stuck, arse out, rescued, firemen, mortification blush

Startail Mon 10-Dec-12 09:44:04


DoesntTurkeyNSproutSoupDragOn Mon 10-Dec-12 09:44:20

You see where it looks like there's a shorter length... finishes just above the writing on your T shirt... that's where I'd chop it to. No idea if this is the 4 inches I mentioned in my first post.

GlaikitFizzogTheChristmasElf Mon 10-Dec-12 09:48:38


hattymattie Mon 10-Dec-12 09:50:40

I like it - keep it - my mum made me have short hair too when I was little - I always wanted hair like yours but as mine is curly - I understand why she did it. Keep yours - but I would get the ends trimmed as above.

rockinaroundthebadtasteflump Mon 10-Dec-12 09:51:37

You have lovely hair - if you like it, leave it!

If you fancy a change then my professional opinions grin would be to keep your overall length but also have some big chunky layers cut to give it a bit more movement - but I do think it's lovely as it is too - no hint of a witch as far as I can see smile

rockinaroundthebadtasteflump Mon 10-Dec-12 09:52:55

'opinions'? Doh. grin

QuickLookBusy Mon 10-Dec-12 09:55:12

Well Bunny, I understand why you need to keep it that length nowgrin

MonaLotte Mon 10-Dec-12 09:55:40

I was waiting to see ridiculously long hair but it really suits you. I would maybe have a couple of inches off the ends to get rid of any split ends but other than that it's fab!

What exactly do you mean by 'chunky layers' rockin??

Google tells me this which is pretty much my worst nightmare shock

WayneDeer Mon 10-Dec-12 10:00:22


I'm sorry, I thought it was dyed
often when you home dye (or salon) there is a colour build up and you can be unaware of how dark your hair has become as a result
I thought that that was the case t b h

I was unaware that it was natural

I think long hair only looks witchy if it's in shit condition. I would have enough off to tidy it up, maybe a couple of inches if you don't get it cut regularly but your hairdresser will be able to tell you how much for sure.

rockinaroundthebadtasteflump Mon 10-Dec-12 10:02:57

Ooh you minx - you picked the most horrible one!! I agree that one looks like a frufru-ish nightmare!

I was thinking more this

or this

rockinaroundthebadtasteflump Mon 10-Dec-12 10:03:26

PS But longer, I mean...

GreatCongas Mon 10-Dec-12 10:04:33

Gorgeous envy

First one looks ok.

You see those layers right at Rachel Bilson's chin?? They would be up round my ears unless I GHD'd every day which I hate doing.

Should have added, my default style is wavy/sock bun curls. The curls drop out very quickly though as my hair is so thick.

Would layers help with that look?

valiumredhead Mon 10-Dec-12 10:06:30

Imo I would nip 3 inches off the bottom - but DEFINITELY not cut it off, you look fab (and your baby is suer cute too!smile )

Annianni Mon 10-Dec-12 10:07:15

I'd have an inch off but no more.

My hair's very similar to yours.
Mine was at the bottom of my back last year and my dm kept nagging me to get it cut shorter.

She even offered to cut it for me hmm
I can still remember the wonky 70's fringes so there's no way i'd let her near me with a pair of scissors.

I did get it cut to boob length, but by a proper hairdresser and it was my decision.

rockinaroundthebadtasteflump Mon 10-Dec-12 10:10:40

I did say 'ps but longer..' grin

Yes I think layers would help if you like waves - when hair is really long the weight pulls curls out - so cutting a bit off will help it spring up a bit overall. Am frantically trying to find pics of layered hair as long as yours now...


Am not trying to persuade you though, if you're happy as it is, leave it smile

Oh my. That is gorgeous envy

Love the pink tips too.

I'm not completely opposed to a wee cut. I do need to trim a few inches off. I had a stab at the MN haircut earlier this year and I still have a few wonky bits hmm. Never again!

Will research layers and decide. Thank you for your expert advice smile

CashmereHoodlum Mon 10-Dec-12 10:18:16

Don't cut it! It is beautiful! I am another one who had to have a bowl haircut as a child and am now compensating by having long hair. Everyone likes it except for my parents who probably want me to go back to the bowl haircut again.

Spuddybean Mon 10-Dec-12 10:19:05

I have almost exactly the same 'do' - colour too - so i think it's lovely wink . I have recently had it about 3 inches shorter than yours and i also have long layers cut from shoulder length down. the layers don't show when it's all one colour and dried straight, but just make it quicker and easier to wash, dry and style. And when i curl it they ad texture and movement. I also have some ombre highlights in the length so it doesn't look like a block of solid helmet hair.

I have the fringe choppy and layered too because my face is quite round so it doesn't look too severe.

i went to have a fringe trim in liverpool once - one of those salons where everyone has bleached blonde hair, extensions and orange tans. the stylists kept asking me if i wanted highlights or to use the sunbeds. i kept saying no, but they went on and on. Eventually one got quite cross with me and said 'look love, we're just trying to help you look less witchy' shock i said 'it's ok, where i'm from it's quite normal to hair darker than your face'. you can guess the atmos was quite frosty after that and i didn't get the best haircut!

rockinaroundthebadtasteflump Mon 10-Dec-12 10:20:40

You're welcome smile

I think the pink (or purple) tips would suit you actually - and the fact that you have a fringe doesn't mean you couldn't do that style - any half decent hairdresser could just cut a few extra layers in around your face to bring your fringe into the style rather than it just kind of sitting there separately, IYSWIM...

Hahaha Spuddy That is brilliant grin

Those type of salons put the fear of god in me.

You might be selling me on the low down layers though. My hair is a ballache to wash/dry. Hmmm.

gingerchick Mon 10-Dec-12 10:22:13

Hair is gorgeous and your babies are beautius

Spuddybean Mon 10-Dec-12 10:22:14

oh and i'm nearly 36 and after my wedding in Jan i'm going for lilac tips too smile

SparkyTGD Mon 10-Dec-12 10:24:49

Your hair is fine, I also have long dark hair (bra length) with a fringe but mine is finer so I have layers. I go to the hairdresser about 2-3 times a year for a trim, thats all, and I always go to the same one, she's great, welcomes pics to show what I mean.

I usually take a pic of Charlotte Gainsbourg to hairdresser because that the look I'm going for.

I quite like the wig you posted a pic of blush although its probably a bit Kardashian grin

Spuddybean Mon 10-Dec-12 10:25:45

it knocks 15 mins off drying time for me (precious time with a 12wk old) and because i have loads of hair, it can dry 'haystack' 'pyramid' shaped without the layers. i use way less conditioner too.

Fuckitthatlldo Mon 10-Dec-12 10:28:24

I, too, think your hair is lovely. Really thick and luxurious looking. The heavy fringe really suits you as well.

If you haven't had it cut for over a year it will probably need a good couple of inches trimmed off to get rid of any damaged ends. But those will soon grow back, even with regular trimming, if you want them to.

And gah! Mums eh? I once told mine that I was saving up for a pair of Christian Louboutin heels as a present for myself because I loved the red soles. "And what sort of message do you think that will send out dear?" she said, as if I'd just suggested hanging about on a street corner in thigh high boots and a boob tube for a lark.

MadSleighLady Mon 10-Dec-12 10:30:40

Bunny, you fox envy

Mothers and hair, there should be a book about this. My mum STILL regularly "offers" to cut my hair. She cut it really short at 11 because it was getting thick and curly and she claimed this would make it less bouffy. hmm Which is so, so stupid that, well, not to put too fine a point on it, I think she was lying and had an issue with it.

I have quite similar hair to you but curlier and with long layers and have done a tame, terrified version of the MN haircut with success. It just took the slightly raggedy bottom 2 inches off. So that's another advantage of long hair with layers, you can bodge them about yourself.

Wowserz129 Mon 10-Dec-12 10:31:05

I can't see the pictures? How do you see them?

birdiesinthesnow Mon 10-Dec-12 10:32:06

I agree with rockin i think the style on that pic would be perfect for you. Your hair is of course lovely as it is but it would really be brought to life with those layers. If my hair was like yours that's what i would do anyway smile

louistheseventeenth Mon 10-Dec-12 10:33:43

Your hair and DD are both beautiful

shrimponastick Mon 10-Dec-12 10:39:24

Your hair looks just fine to me.

Am still chuckling at "witches don't have fringes" tho grin

platanos Mon 10-Dec-12 12:36:50

I waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaant your hair. it looks great, don't chop loads off, trim and style if you want but no more.

indeed witches don't have fringes smile, or such healthy looking hair....normally straggly, isn't it? I am aiming for a witch style, as long as it is long I do not care (sick of too many years of short hair...)

You have virtually the same hair as me so I would say it looks fabulous wink

You look gorgeous. Is your mother jealous, perchance?

DolomitesDonkey Mon 10-Dec-12 13:48:38

Watch out - she might find out you're not shopping in Laura Ashley/Per Una and there will be HELL to pay! ;)

HaveAGoodDay Mon 10-Dec-12 20:47:38

No it's not too long it's lovely. I had long hair like yours about 6 years ago & over the years coupled with medication & too many trims & colours, my hair got shorter and is now just past my shoulders. I'm desperate for it to be long & thick again but just won't grow past this length. It thinned a lot because of the medication. Could be my age (nearing 40) too. Keep it long you won't regret it!

AgathaHoHoHo Tue 11-Dec-12 09:27:26

Your hair is amazing!!!!

Don't cut it, just trim it if it needs it. And tell your mum to mind her own.

HorraceTheChristmasOtter Tue 11-Dec-12 09:34:57

Mine is longer than yours, so no, I don't think it looks too long! It needs a trim, but that's it. I usually tell the hairdresser firmly that I do not want it layered or styled, just an inch and a half of the bottom please. It's always gone fine so far grin

myfirstkitchen Tue 11-Dec-12 11:02:11

Your hair is gorgeous.

Get a couple of inches off max to trim it!

People pay shitloads for extensions and clip ins to get hair that looks like that!

Don't know what your mother is on about?!

SparkyTGD Tue 11-Dec-12 11:04:51

Agree myfirst, when I go to the hairdresser all the 'young uns' are like, "wow, your hair is so long!" and they want theirs to be too but have no patience grin

FergusSingsTheBlues Tue 11-Dec-12 11:05:45

I cut mine, it was waist length, my mum also went on about how witchy I looked. Shorter hair is great, but im natural long haired chica, and feel unlike myself....growing it now. Cut it only if you want to.

Right. You lot have convinced me! Screw my mother and her issues! I'm keeping it long!

Have made an appointment. Going to get a few inches off and hopefully a few of those low down layers that rockin suggested.

Not brave enough for the pink tips although I have been toying with the idea of bleaching a section at the front and dying it red/pink/purple. Hmmm.

Amblin Tue 11-Dec-12 15:38:12

Yes. It looks a bit curtains. And dyed too dark so you look washed out.

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Farlalalala Tue 11-Dec-12 15:40:44

Late to the party I know, but IMO it's not too long, you're gorgeous and I love the fringe. Regular trims keep witchiness at bay.

Pink tips would be amazing! I love this girl's hair.

Oh she's gorgeous Far! Hair and everything else envy Love her fringe.

And thank you smile

Amblin Tue 11-Dec-12 15:57:34

Oh no. Cba to read thread.

Thanks though

Eliza22 Tue 11-Dec-12 16:02:46

I can't pick up the pics with fringe but, I'd tell your mum, you're a big girl now and don't need her to make hair appointments for you, unless you ask her.

Of the pics I can see, your hair looks thick and healthy and shiny and ... What the heck is she going on about!?

WayneDeer Tue 11-Dec-12 19:27:03

bunny are you sure that's your natural colour?.....

Yes Wayne. I'm sure.

Why do you ask?

JingleBellaTheGymnast Tue 11-Dec-12 19:34:48

I can't see a photo with a fringe! <wails>

Although I like the 1950s one.

WayneDeer Tue 11-Dec-12 19:34:58

Are you saying that you don't permanently dye your hair?
at all?


notMarlene Tue 11-Dec-12 19:37:44

Nah, Bunny thinks it's her natural colour but actually there's a secret rota of MNers who sneak into her house at night and dye it. Been going on for years and she's never noticed. Shame you had to out the plot.

WayneDeer Tue 11-Dec-12 19:40:33

a ha

I knew it

GlaikitFizzogTheChristmasElf Tue 11-Dec-12 19:42:51

It my turn next week! Your usual bunny?? Going anywhere nice on holiday?

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