Advise needed to accesorise my red satin wedding dress.

(59 Posts)
Spuddybean Wed 05-Dec-12 18:04:45

Hi All

I have purchased this wedding dress to wear at my Jan wedding. I am thinking a satin bolero or faux fur bolero with pearls and maybe these shoes I'd rather red i think but can't find any - would leopard print be too much for a wedding? Shoes, must be under 3 inches and be comfortable - the thicker the heel the better.

So, any advice?

Spuddybean Wed 05-Dec-12 18:11:04

oh god, have i spelled advice wrong? i fucking well have! no one answer me - i don't deserve help.

Thistledew Wed 05-Dec-12 18:38:39

Hi Spuddy

I think your dress looks great. I am wearing a non-white dress for my wedding in March and have noticed that people's interest drops of markedly when I say I am not wearing white. It is quite bizarre.

I think both boleros are great. The first is definitely more classic, and more 'bridal' but the second works very well for a winter wedding. I am wearing a dark gold/bronze dress with a white/cream train that falls from my shoulders as a nod to the bridal traditions. I would choose the first if you want a similar effect and the second if you want to be less traditional.

I can't open the link to your shoes on my phone but would say that if you go for red, you should get some in a decidedly darker shade than your dress rather than trying to match it exactly. White shoes would work well with the first bolero but not so well with the second. Maybe a metallic colour?

MrsSnow Wed 05-Dec-12 18:40:29

I'd be worried with the red and the white it might look a bit too Father Christmas-esque.

I think with a red bolero you could wear the leopard print.

MrsSnow Wed 05-Dec-12 18:41:19

Btw I think the dress is beautiful.

Spuddybean Wed 05-Dec-12 18:47:34

hhhmm i was thinking that about xmas. i was originally looking at a browny fur stole. i would want something i could wear tho rather than carry around me. Also i need to be warm inside but not hot. i also need something to wear outside, over the dress.

i've been married before and mine an dp's 15wk old will be there with us so i thought white would be a bit much - why not be the scarlet woman that i am!

MrsSnow Wed 05-Dec-12 18:50:00

What about a shawl instead? Something which would bring out the red? Something like this, not ideal it's America but am sure you could find similar if not better here.

Spuddybean Wed 05-Dec-12 18:52:28

a bit too summery i think. also i'd like a more vintage look i think. thanks tho smile

MrsSnow Wed 05-Dec-12 18:52:57

Just saw your message about wanting to wear something. Could you get something like an organza 'coat' made a bit like Camilla wore to her wedding to give you the coverage outdoors/ceremony and then take it off for reception.


Thistledew Wed 05-Dec-12 18:58:00

I don't think that people will look at the red and white and think 'Father Christmas' unless you are particularly short and "jolly" with a white beard

The satin is very elegant and is further away from any Christmas connotations. I would also go with a fitted top rather than a shawl that will need you to hold it in place as well as carrying your bouquet, glass of champagne etc.

Spuddybean Wed 05-Dec-12 19:04:53

oh and DP will be wearing his military mess dress so he has a sort of forest green short waiters jacket and a stone coloured waistcoat with brass buttons and black trousers with green stripes down the outside seam of the leg.

HassledHasASledge Wed 05-Dec-12 19:09:54

I'm crap at accessorising and am only here to say I also had a red satin wedding dress. Best Wedding Dress Ever grin I had a pearly/beaded bolero thing and struggled to find decent red shoes (surprisingly hard to find).

Thistledew Wed 05-Dec-12 19:12:09

Red and white will look great with what your DP is wearing- red being a military colour will remove any Christmas connotations. I would suggest shoes in a bronze colour to pick up the colour from his buttons, but I have been looking for and failing to find some to go with my own outfit so maybe that is not a good suggestion!

bishboschone Wed 05-Dec-12 19:17:47

My friend bought that bolero for her wedding from eBay. She is slim size 10 but it was snug .

Spuddybean Wed 05-Dec-12 19:19:14

His Corps colours are Red, Green and Stone so i was thinking of trying to match if possible. Perhaps some grey satin shoes to match his waistcoat.

Any ideas on bouquet flowers?

bishboschone Wed 05-Dec-12 19:19:29

Fluffy bolero is a good idea but not with arms , that one in the-link looks a bit teddy beary .. Lovely dress btw

WizardofOs Wed 05-Dec-12 19:20:37

I would wear red shoes. If you can't find any you could get white ones dyed.

Spuddybean Wed 05-Dec-12 19:21:46

i definitely want sleeves of some sort (fleshy upper arms!)

bish how long were the arms on your friend?

Spuddybean Wed 05-Dec-12 19:23:36

I also don't have much time. Wedding on 5th Jan. So with a 12 wk old, not being able to drive or get to shops and xmas approaching, everything needs to be orderable online and soon. Sadly i don't have time for tailoring or dyeing i don't think.

scripsi Wed 05-Dec-12 19:23:42
Spuddybean Wed 05-Dec-12 19:28:35

scripsi - i like the second ones but they aren't available sad

bishboschone Wed 05-Dec-12 19:31:54

Jut past the elbow I think.

Curtsey Wed 05-Dec-12 19:35:02

OP would you consider a sort of browny-gold/grey faux-fur of some kind (stole or bolero) instead of white? Something like this?

Would go with red shoes.
Gorgeous dress.

scripsi Wed 05-Dec-12 19:36:13

hmm it could be that people are playing shopping cart ping pong with them so you could check back to see if any reappear for sale ... drat.


bishboschone Wed 05-Dec-12 19:40:05

280989226796. Can't do link on phone but this eBay number is what I would go for .

MustafaCake Wed 05-Dec-12 19:40:35

Had to pop on and say what a STUNNING wedding dress you have chosen!

I would go for a faux fur bolero or stole for a vintage/glam look. You could get the bolero and shoes in the same colour. I'd go for stone (to match miliatary colours), cream or bronze.

Not a huge fan of pure white I'm afraid!

Spuddybean Wed 05-Dec-12 19:41:05

Curtsey - i originally thought the minky colour fur bolero or rich brown would look good (also better for me to wear again) but then thought white in a bridal way. but i'm not that bothered about looking bridal really. I wouldn't wear black. It would need to be cut away under the arms and at the front to see the detailing of the dress too.

MustafaCake Wed 05-Dec-12 19:42:14

Changed my mind, am loving *scripsi"'s shoes so go with them and a faux fur jacket.


Spuddybean Wed 05-Dec-12 19:46:12

Thanks Mustafa - cream and bronze don't suit me at all. i would need a cold colour. anything warm drains me.

i am quite 40's looking - long dark hair, pale skin and wide apart almond shaped green eyes, a few freckles and a full pouty mouth with a really deep defined bow. so i was thinking a swoosh of black liquid eye liner, false eyelashes and red chanel lipstick. Or is that too cliched?

scripsi Wed 05-Dec-12 19:55:20

I think that would be really pretty.

Needabitofsunshine Wed 05-Dec-12 19:55:38

Gorgeous! Beautiful dress and I love the fur. Why not go for some silver/gold bling sandals, must be plenty around at the moment?

Spuddybean Wed 05-Dec-12 19:59:41

I think gold shoes would match DP's buttons, but i would need a full shoe as it will be cold and hosiery will be essential!

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OliviaPeaceOnMumsnet (MNHQ) Wed 05-Dec-12 20:16:54

If I had my wedding to do over, probably the one main thing I would do differently is to have had my shoes as my "something blue" so I could wear 'em again.
And got some fabulous navy satin numbers to peek out from under my skirt

Dress is fabulous btw - huge congrats and enjoy your day

Spuddybean Wed 05-Dec-12 20:20:22

oh olivia that sounds like a great idea. i would love some bright royal blue satin shoes. don't think they'd go with red.

maybe some ruby slippers a la wizard of oz...

WeAreSix Wed 05-Dec-12 20:35:21

I wouldn't mix the red & white either. It sounds like you have some gorgeous colours to choose from the uniform. Would a local dress maker be an option? A bolero / similar wouldn't cost much to make.

Spuddybean Wed 05-Dec-12 20:43:40

i just dont think we have the time for a local dressmaker. Also i am on a budget so can only really spend £50 on shoes and £50 on bolero/shrug. i could go over if it was something amazing i could use again. i think i should put something in my hair too.

Spuddybean Wed 05-Dec-12 20:50:08

are these too weird? leopard

IveBeenGoodSantaIPromise Wed 05-Dec-12 20:50:48

I love your dress it is beautiful. I think a vintage look with it would be good. The faux fur shrugs on this website I think would go really well

IveBeenGoodSantaIPromise Wed 05-Dec-12 20:52:35

Oh I really like the m and a leopard shoes. I think they would be much better than white shoes

Spuddybean Wed 05-Dec-12 20:58:40

not sure how the leopard shoes would go with faux fur bolero/wrap - i think double animal is a no no.

WeAreSix Wed 05-Dec-12 21:03:05

The corsets on that website are stunning! (Off topic, sorry!)

A very pale gold for the bolero maybe? Have you looked at Debenhams / House of Fraser bridal wear?

soupmaker Wed 05-Dec-12 21:10:59

What a fab dress. I love the idea of a faux fur stole or bolero. How about long red elbow length gloves. I'm a sucker for Hollywood glamour so I can imagine red lipstick and a fab 40s up do. I think gold or bronze vintage style shoes would look fab.

Spuddybean Wed 05-Dec-12 21:15:48

oh yes, i do have long white satin opera gloves...

hair down and finger waves i think like dita von teese. i had my hair up at my first wedding ;)

soupmaker Wed 05-Dec-12 21:19:43

Oooh. Love Dita style hair. You're going to look amazing.

WeAreSix Wed 05-Dec-12 21:24:58

Fabulous idea soup

Time to browse those vintage shops for inspiration!

Maraki Wed 05-Dec-12 21:25:21

My vote is for a grey fur stole or bolero and silver sandals. I wore sandals at a winter ball and it was snowing, it wasnt bad. Get those open toe tights from M&S if you must.
I really love your dress!!!

Thistledew Wed 05-Dec-12 21:39:45

Gloves are no good for a wedding. What would you do when you exchange rings (assuming you are having a wedding ring)? Would you take one glove off? Both? You couldn't then put it back on as people will want to see your ring (snurkwink).

Spuddybean Wed 05-Dec-12 21:47:40

aaah yes, good thinking. i really don't want to be cold. we have to walk from the register office to the reception, 15 mins thru central london.

soupmaker Wed 05-Dec-12 22:07:16

You take the gloves off before the ceremony and put them back on if you want after. I've seen it done. Looked fab. But it wasn't a traditional do, bride and groom arrived together and mingled with guests before doing the deed. shock

scripsi Wed 05-Dec-12 22:11:13

I was at a winter wedding last year and the bride had a faux fur muff rather than gloves to keep her hands warm.

Spuddybean Wed 05-Dec-12 22:16:07

we will be doing that too soupmaker. we are staying at a hotel near to register office with our baby the night before. we will get ready together and arrive with baby and mingle. we will be staying at the hotel with the baby in the room that night too - mmm romantic!

EvilTwins Wed 05-Dec-12 22:20:43

What about a little cape rather than a bolero? Not black, obv, but was looking quickly... I have a beautiful brown one with a ribbon tie (rather than a fastener like the picture) which I wore for a friend's Christmas wedding a couple of years ago. Did the trick and was totally hands free.

Spuddybean Wed 05-Dec-12 22:25:28

Thanks, but i want the detail on the front of the dress to be visible and i also have cold arms so want them covered. i think a bolero is the way to go but it's just what colour and material. Also what's possible to source and have delivered in the next 2 weeks.

mycatlikestwiglets Thu 06-Dec-12 11:49:34

Gorgeous dress! I think your original choices would work better than anything else suggested on here and look a bit more "bridal" - you're going to look stunning! Here are a couple more options for the cover up which I found, although I really like the satin one you linked to (you just need to make sure that it goes with the satin of your dress):

Monsoon angora shrug or bow back shrug

I also love these red shoes but know you wanted closed toe. Lots of options on the Debenhams website if you decide to go for red shoes.

scripsi Thu 06-Dec-12 14:08:15

not sure if you're still looking but there are these shoes too which have a closed toe and low heel:
they are by Insolia (so apparently they would be super comfy with some kind of gel cushioning).

Spuddybean Thu 06-Dec-12 16:54:34

thanks ladies. I like the bow back shrug, but am unsure whether the material would go with satin. I also like the red shoes Mycat - but i am a size 8 and they seem to be out of stock.

Cheers Scripsi but sadly i can't walk in kitten heels, something to do with my centre of gravity and the height x thin-ness of the heel.

scripsi Thu 06-Dec-12 21:18:02

this is a long shot but these are all available in red:¤cy=GBP&litb_from=paid_adwords_search
I have never used the company but reviews look good.

HoHoBrandyButter Thu 06-Dec-12 22:20:41

Like the cream faux fur bolero - try rainbow club or Pink shoes. As they're bridal they're reeeeally comfy, plus they can be dyed any colour (not sure how long it takes tho).

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