Mid-30s women - where do you buy your clothes??

(50 Posts)
IWillOnlyEatBeans Thu 19-Jul-12 12:07:41

I am 34 - 35 in November - and find myself at a bit of a loss as to where to buy clothes.

I am a SAHM so only really need casual things, and as we only have one income I can't splash out too much - I'd happily spend £40 on a new pair of jeans but not £70.

I am normally a size 8 (pregnant at the minute though!) so theoretically it should be quite easy to find stuff to wear, but I feel too old for most shops and too young for the rest!

This is going to be my last baby and when I can go back to dressing normally I need some inspiration about where to go...

squoosh Thu 19-Jul-12 12:16:20

You see women of all ages shopping in the usual high street chains, Topshop, Warehouse etc.

High street shops are the best for on trend fashion items. I'll never be too old to shop in Topshop.

New Look is more of a teenagey shop to me (crap quality too)

Well I'm 41 but I like shops like River Island, Top Shop, H & M, Jane Norman, New Look, Peacocks so a massive range really.

OhThisIsJustGrape Thu 19-Jul-12 12:30:52

I'm almost 34 and my clothes mostly come from Topshop (I live in their Baxter jeans!), H&M, Zara, River Island. All high street stuff, we're ok financially but I can't bring myself to spend £££s on everyday wear (shoes, boots, handbags and coats are an exception though ;)). I'm a SAHM and tend to wear the 'uniform' of skinnies and a top most days.

I also trawl eBay daily regularly and have had some real bargains from there this summer, I've boosted my wardrobe considerably for a fraction of what it would cost me brand new and it's all excellent condition stuff.

NarcolepsyQueen Thu 19-Jul-12 12:33:39

I shop in the same places as when I was 20! Topshop etc. I just buy suitable styles from within there, and don't pretend to be a gorgeous 19 year old art student in my style! I plan to shop there until old age grin

GetOrfMoiiLand Thu 19-Jul-12 12:39:16

French Connection, Top Shop (some of it) and Reiss when flush, Tesco, Asda and Sainsburys for random bollocks and tights.

GetOrfMoiiLand Thu 19-Jul-12 12:39:45

Oh and it all depends on if I am thin.

If I feel fat I stay away from French Connection and Reiss.

MegBusset Thu 19-Jul-12 12:40:05

H&M for basics (vests, hoodies, tops for layering)
Topshop for jeans (Baxters)
White Stuff for tops
Fat Face for knitwear
Esprit do some nice stuff
Recently discovered Phase Eight too
New Look used to be good but quality has plummeted sad

Whistles, Gap, Zara, and Topshop.

Am 35.

dinkystinky Thu 19-Jul-12 12:55:53

My wardrobe
Sometimes Topshop
Matches for special occasions

wonderwooman Thu 19-Jul-12 12:58:37

Am fast-approaching 37

I mostly wear

Top Shop
White Stuff for tops/cardies
Jigsaw (sale bargains)
Toast (sale bargains)

daisydoodoo Thu 19-Jul-12 13:00:56

i'm 36 and shop in French Connection, Topshop, Gap, H&M. The odd bit from Joules or Crew. Work Clothing usually from House of Fraser or John Lewis.

Im a 12 and rarely wear trousers or jeans. I much prefer wearing dresses, I do wear skirts occassionally though. Dresses with good shoes/boots depending on weather and a few accessories, bracelets, necklaces etc and good to go. Skirts or Trousers i have to plan too much, which skirt with which top etc too much fuss for me. wink

LexieSinclair Thu 19-Jul-12 13:05:37

Dorothy Perkins
Top Shop
Great Plains

JodieHarsh Thu 19-Jul-12 13:12:28

I am too fat and plain to get away with cheap clothes (that's not a snide remark - trust me, if I could make Primark look like Marni, I would, but it's not an option!)

But also, I have very little money.

Nightmare, let me tell you.

I therefore wear lots of vintage (from ASOS Marketplace, Etsy, lots of online vintage markets, and vinatage shops)

New clothes tend to be

Jaeger (Outlet, of course) for cashmere or silk-blend knitwear
Kurt Geiger (only ever in the sales) for shoes
East blush blush if I get like a 70% off voucher, because I like their unusual bits and bobs
Occasionally Religion and All Saints, when it's in the sales

I do get some bits from ASOS sometimes but it tends to fall apart as soon as look at it.

Oh and I bought my first Boden dress the other day, which IMO constituted my first step to middle age grin

trixymalixy Thu 19-Jul-12 13:20:58

I'm (just) 36.

I shop in Zara, FC, great plains, h&m, warehouse, Dorothy Perkins and Primark mostly.

kickingKcurlyC Thu 19-Jul-12 13:29:48

I'm 32 and I feel too old in TopShop already!

BedHog Thu 19-Jul-12 13:40:24

Ebay mostly - much easier to shop in the comfort of your own home, and much cheaper too. If I'm in town then I like Primark, Select, New Look. It's easy to style 'young' fashion in a more mature way without looking like mutton, just pick pieces carefully and use layering, leggings under skirts etc. And avoid anything too 'trendy'.

grin at Getorfmoiland buying random bollocks at the supermarket - that would be in the 'value' sausages then!!

Yorkpud Thu 19-Jul-12 13:47:01

I seem to shop mainly in Asda, Next, Primark, Dorothy Perkins and Oasis(sale only).

IWillOnlyEatBeans Thu 19-Jul-12 14:24:34


I suppose part of the problem is shopping with a toddler in tow so I don't feel like I have time to browse and think about things properly.

I don't really like shopping online as I just end up sending everything back as it doesn't fit (have odd proportions. I was in the gym once when a man felt compelled to come over and tell me that I had a short body. Thanks!!)

I never really go into H&M as I feel like you have to rummage around too much to find anything, but maybe I'll give it another go. I'll also track down my nearest Zara and Warehouse...

QueenCadbury Thu 19-Jul-12 14:25:32

I'm 38 and a SAHM and shop mainly in Gap (their stuff always fitsme really well) and oasis. Then also warehouse, Dorothy perkins for tops, fat face and white stuff. I'm signed up for emails so I tend to try things on in shops and then wait for a discount codes to be emailed and then order on line. Loads of high street shops are always sending discount codes so unless I need something there and then I rarely pay full price for anything.

bleedingheart Thu 19-Jul-12 14:44:13

Zara, Primark, Asos (trousers, tops & tees), monsoon (plain items), uniqlo (knitwear), eBay (Levi's jeans)

If you wear them most days, it's worth spending the biggest chunk of your money on jeans. After years of trying to find jeans that fit (and still fit after washing!), I'm sticking with Levi's ! I have three pairs I bought from eBay, brand new for less than the cost of one pair in the shops!

bleedingheart Thu 19-Jul-12 14:54:58

Zara, H & M, Primark, Asos (trousers, tops & tees), monsoon (plain items), uniqlo (knitwear), eBay (Levi's jeans)

If you wear them most days, it's worth spending the biggest chunk of your money on jeans. After years of trying to find jeans that fit (and still fit after washing!), I'm sticking with Levi's ! I have three pairs I bought from eBay, brand new for less than the cost of one pair in the shops!

Fluffycloudland77 Thu 19-Jul-12 17:33:21

All Saints.

PromQueenWithin Thu 19-Jul-12 17:40:42

I really like Isabella Oliver 365


Good quality simple stuff.

sansucre Thu 19-Jul-12 19:32:29

At the age of 37, I've realised it's better to buy a few nice pieces and wear them constantly rather than lots of cheap things. I look terrible in cheap clothing anyway, it's not cut for my shape and never fits properly anyway. I'm also a fabric snob, but that's more because synthetic fibres give me a rash.

So, the bulk of my wardrobe comes from COS and Whistles with a few bits from Sessun, Comptoir des Cotonniers, Sandro, J Crew and Isabella Oliver.

I also buy a few 'designer' bits and pieces from My-Wardrobe and Liberty too. Shoes come from a variety of places, summer sandals tend to be cheap though, brogues, ballerinas and ankle boots less so as I'm on my feet for a lot of the day and well-made comfortable footwear is expensive! Tights are from Falke as they last for ages and are more cost effective than dozens of pairs from M&S.

I think Zara is good for accessories but i've given up buying skirts and dresses from there as they're always too short. In fact, skirt lengths have made nearly all high street shops out of bounds for me. I have good legs but I don't think mid-thigh is an appropriate length for work!

Aside from the COS clothing, most of the clothing I own have been purchased with a discount voucher, on sale/during a promotion or from eBay. Orla Kiely's summer sale proved to be rather fruitful, I purchased a mac which I've not taken off since I got it - definitely the best summer 2012 buy!

PS. I plan my wardrobe, and shop twice a year with the odd purchase here and there as needed.

I realise and know I'm in a very lucky position here.

ceeveebee Thu 19-Jul-12 19:41:27

I'm 36 and shop in Reiss, Zara, Oasis, Banana Republic, Ted Baker, Coast, Uniqlo or Gap for basics, and the odd thing from M&S Autograph for work. I go to Bicester Village a couple of times a year and buy a lot of last season stuff at huge discount, especially workwear and 'occassion' stuff that doesn't really date.

I am no longer in my thirties but love threads like this!

For casual, I currently live in M&S black or indigo skinnies, Oasis skinnies, Oasis Scarlet bootcuts or a Topshop maxi skirt or White Company jersey dresses, plus either leopard ballet flats (Clarks) or tan heeled ankle boots (Dune) or red ballet flats (Clarks) and either a cropped trench (M&S Autograph) or a biker jacket (Oasis) or an ancient denim jacket (not with denim though). I like t-shirts and vests from Hobbs or The White Company and silk tops and some t-shirts from Warehouse.

I also like H&M for cheap cotton blazers, Hobbs sales for good quality blazers and Vivienne Westwood sales for general gorgeousness!

hippermiddleton Thu 19-Jul-12 20:34:32

I seem to live in Gap or Joe's jeans and scoop neck tops, brightened up with interesting necklaces/scarves (I work from home, so no need for office wear); I spend a bit more in the sales for classic bits of Vivienne Westwood for formal occasions. Phase Eight isn't bad, although it can be a bit frumpy, and there are still one or two classic buys in the Marble Arch M&S each season. I also like to pick up vintage accessories/jackets where I can; they're great for disguising a black dress in high rotation!

Fortunately, or unfortunately, my chunky thighs have ruled out a lot of Fashion lately (so no skinnies, mini skirts, etc) so I've been forced into buying classic shapes that suit me rather than what's fashionable - in the long run, that's probably not a bad thing.

IWillOnlyEatBeans Thu 19-Jul-12 20:51:49

I am smiling at the image of me browsing Vivienne Westwood for formal wear smile

Thanks everyone. There are loads of good suggestions here. I shall broaden my shopping horizons and maybe even give eBay a whirl...

HappyGirlNow Thu 19-Jul-12 21:00:14

Zara mainly with some Topshop, Primark and Tesco....

hippermiddleton Thu 19-Jul-12 21:09:43

Hee! When I say 'formal occasions' I mean anything that I don't have to wear wellies/dog walking coat for. Sadly, they consist of about 3 hours of my usual year. VW does some nice skirts that are classically cut so they don't really date, and are often 70% off in the Question-Air sale. I find looking at Net-a-Porter/Question-Air websites keeps me reasonably abreast of what's meant to go with what, then I go and find it somewhere cheaper else.

BigBandwitch Thu 19-Jul-12 21:15:36

good question. all the shops listed here, like zara or H&m, I don't like them any more, and otehr shops like Isabella Oliver would be too expensive for me.

Orla Kiely's clothes look all cool and retro on the website but I bet I would look like a librarian in them. Not a real librarian, a parody of a librarian.

DerbyNottsLeicsNightNanny Thu 19-Jul-12 21:28:42

I'm 33 (and a half!) and due to having a toddler my shopping is almost all done online. I buy from Oasis, Warehouse(occasionally), White Stuff, The White Company, Fat Face, Debenhams, M&S, Monsoon. Also occasionally buy vest tops and other bits from supermarkets. I have bought a couple of things from Dorothy Perkins this year but have found them to look really shabby really quickly.

I rather enjoy dressing like a parady of a librarian at times! smile

parody even

FunnyLittleFrog Fri 20-Jul-12 22:55:09

Just looked at the Orla Kiely stuff online and, my lord, it's expensive! I wouldn't pay that much (anything!) to look like my old primary school head-teacher.

VivaLeBeaver Fri 20-Jul-12 22:59:53

White stuff
John Lewis

msrantsalot Fri 20-Jul-12 23:05:18

asda/tesco its all i can afford, but LOVE monsoon

stressheaderic Fri 20-Jul-12 23:07:49

I am 32.
Fave shops are Zara, Dorothy Perkins and Next.

MirandaWest Fri 20-Jul-12 23:11:51

Am 36. I shop in H&M, Tesco, Sainsburys and Asda mostly. Bought a dress in Animal recently and did wibble a bit about how much it cost but have been wearing it a lot so is OK. I do have issues with spending much on clothes so end up with not many clothes that don't cost much grin. Although I do have nice bras.

stayfree Fri 20-Jul-12 23:16:37

I'm 32 and still shop in new Look< Primark, H and M, Topshop etc, find the 'older' shops too frumpy (sorry).

AlpinePony Sat 21-Jul-12 07:03:11

Finally at the age of 38 I'm becoming a little more discerning.

Designers at debenhams
Anna scholz
Planet/Hobbs (workwear)

"silk" scarves 99p from Hong Kong. Yes Hobbs, I love your scarves, but really? 55 quid for something I'm going to lose in the wind/rip/find in the toybox?

And am this close to anglomania and Michael kors because the sale prices are very attractive.

DonaAna Sat 21-Jul-12 07:33:26

39, have almost given up on high street. Believe in buying quality items.
Shop at Matches, NAP, Outnet, Yoox (online).
Independent boutiques, outlets, charity shops.
Department stores at -60% sales twice a year.

Have an odd Hobbs, Topshop, Benetton and Zara piece.
Have accummulated a wardrobe that I really enjoy - lots of designer items that really flatter and feel good, but never bought at full price.

ifancyashandy Sat 21-Jul-12 07:46:47

42 & shop all over:

Zara (lots)
Asos (lots)
French Connection
Whistles (lots)
Top Shop
Jaeger (recently lots)
Joseph (recent love affair)
Occassionally H&M but usually crap quality.
Some Warehouse

AlpinePony Sat 21-Jul-12 10:51:59

I forgot also:


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PirateShit Mon 01-Apr-13 19:41:18

I'm 32 this year, and mainly shop in topshop, gap, marks and spencer, zara, h and m, next. I never shopped in m and s before I had kids, but now I see more and more that I like in there. I like to think it's because their collections are getting better, but my dh says it's because I'm getting old!

spicelette Tue 02-Apr-13 16:43:11

I get a lot of things from Joe Brown's. some of their stuff us horrifically frilly and over embellished but they also do some lovely more simple styles. their sales are good.

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