Can I wear maxi dresses if I aM short and fat ?

(151 Posts)

Am 5"5 and size 20 with massive bust but fairly shapely everywhere else

Planning on wearing with small cardi or denim jacket and high wedges

Stylish ready for summer big girl or sack of potatoes in a tent ?

juneybean Sun 27-May-12 10:52:31

Oo no idea but watching with interest!

ninjanurse Sun 27-May-12 10:54:21

I am 5"3 and on the curvaceous side (size 16), I have got a maxi dress on today and I think it looks ok. OH says it looks nice as well so thats good enough for me. I have got a cotton one though so it skims the curves, a lot of maxi dresses are like jersey material and I dont think they would be so forgiving.

Oooh no way would I brave the jersey ones

Mine are good quality cotton and they are lined too so do hang nicely

MrsTrellisOfSouthWales Sun 27-May-12 10:58:11

I've been looking to to buy one online but where the description has a height, it'll say 150cm hem to shoulder. That's over the top of my head shock

And so many are bandeau tops. I need thick straps!

yellowraincoat Sun 27-May-12 10:58:14

I don't think maxi dresses are that flattering on anyone.

Why not get a long skirt and top instead? I think that tends to look a lot nicer.

Jersey ones, no way.

Really yellow ?
I think they look fab if styled correctly

I would feel too frumpy in long skirt and top

ToryLovell Sun 27-May-12 11:05:13

I can see what yellow is saying. A lot of maxis are empire line which is good as its floaty and cool but not so good when it makes your lower body look wider than it is.

A top and maxi skirt doesn't do that as it gives you a waist.

Wide belt might do the same with the dress though.

TheFoosa Sun 27-May-12 11:16:04

5'5" is NOT short imo

I would go for unfussy patterns, no big flowers

I think as long as it is a good cut and a nice fabric eg silk it would look fab on you.

You can look like shite as a size 8 if your clothes are poorly cut.

Your the same height as me btw!.

Great ! Thanks for replies.

yellowraincoat Sun 27-May-12 12:00:28

Frumpy? I mean, if it's a frumpy top and skirt, yes, maybe.

GobblersKnob Sun 27-May-12 12:02:00

I also agree that maxi skirts are way nicer, I love the idea of the one that are just elasticated round your tits then just hang like a bag, that has to be the closest you can be to nakedgrin

However I am 5'10" anda size 10-12 but look way better in a maxi skirt and vest, it just breaks, you up. I don't think it looks frumpy at all, I think dresses are more so, plus the world and his wife are wearing them they are just so boring.

So in answer to your question, wear what you like grin But I think you would look better in a skirt.

upahill Sun 27-May-12 12:04:29

I would say unlikely tbh.

I am quite short with huge bust, there is one dress that I bought last year from Boden which is jersey but has a band that pulls in under the chest.

It is incredibly flattering, I don't know if they are doing a similar one this year?

ZZZenAgain Sun 27-May-12 12:09:33

not sure but then back in the old days, all women wore maxi dresses whatever their shape and size because that is all there was. Just take your wedges along and try some on, see what the total effect is. If you want to wear a maxi, you need to wear it with confidence as with anything to look good in it.

jaquelinehyde Sun 27-May-12 12:12:13

Yes you can, I have a few and I always gets comments about how nice I am looking when I wear them.

yellowraincoat Sun 27-May-12 12:55:43

ZzzenAgain, they were very fitted back in the old days though. Not like the looser style we have now.

sparkle12mar08 Sun 27-May-12 13:00:30

Sorry but I think they make anyone under about 5'10 look like the back of a bus. They're just not designed for us mere mortals I reckon!

<<<<feeling a bit wobbly now about donning the dresses. Might take some pics

whackamole Sun 27-May-12 13:19:53

I like them. I think so long as they fit, and are not too busty (and I say this as one with 34GG) then they can look lovely. Maxi skirt and top also looks nice, but really only on the flat stomached among us!

I disagree about jersey - so long as it isn't too tight I think jersey is very forgiving, as it is heavy it drapes really nicely.

whackamole Sun 27-May-12 13:21:52

This I think is lovely, and would look good on pretty much anyone, although you might need to hem it up a bit!

(PS - 5 ft 5 isn't short! 5 ft 4.5 is the UK average)

upahill Sun 27-May-12 13:51:43

Looking good and maxi dress is a contridiction of terms for most people.
Unless you are uber tall and slim and have small boobs most people (including me) look like they are wearing a roll of fabric.

I'm a size 12 to 14 and I am 5ft 5. I look mad in a maxi.
My friend is 5ft 8 and size 20 and she doesn't look good in one either.

bunnybabylon Sun 27-May-12 14:03:07

i am sick of the site of them, really awful imo and everywhere! wouldn't be so bad is they weren't right to the floor. like stepford wives, equally lovely teamed with tattoos as is the norm here. chavvy

OneLastSoul Sun 27-May-12 14:39:51

I'm 5.4, a 14-16 but huge bust also and I avoid them like the plague, lots of fabric just makes me look like a ship in full sail.

get0rfm0iland Sun 27-May-12 14:45:00

Why are these things still in fashion? It must be the 4th summer in a row.

I don't think they. Look great on anyone tbh. I am very tall and a size 8 and I look daft. There will always be something more glattering to wear other than a load of billowing cotton around your ankles.

get0rfm0iland Sun 27-May-12 14:45:00

Why are these things still in fashion? It must be the 4th summer in a row.

I don't think they. Look great on anyone tbh. I am very tall and a size 8 and I look daft. There will always be something more glattering to wear other than a load of billowing cotton around your ankles.

I've never seen anyone looking decent in a maxi dress, they just don't suit anyone.

LaAmanda Sun 27-May-12 14:51:34

You are not too short but I think you are too big for a maxi dress. Hope that doesn't come across rude, it's just my opinion.

I'm 5foot 10 and a size ten and I'm too tall for a maxi dress as I look like a long streak of misery in one.

MrsCampbellBlack Sun 27-May-12 14:54:56

Oh god - its the annual everyone but models looks shit in a maxi dress thread - it must be summer wink

There are many styles around and I think most people can find one that suits them.

I'm 5ft by the way and I wear them albeit the clingier jersey type and got lots of compliments on Friday in my navy DP one.

dexter73 Sun 27-May-12 15:02:04

I love maxi dresses and think they are flattering. If you listened to everyone on here about what is nice to wear you would spend your days indoors naked as you will always get people who don't like certain clothes! Look in the mirror and if you think it looks nice then wear it.

Mrbojangles1 Sun 27-May-12 15:12:25

I saw a women today with a strapless maxi dress on and no bra

Oh dear she looked a right state maxi dress can look fab provides

1. You wear flats
2.a good bra is a must regardless how pert your breasts are in your mind
3. You get the right length

Also if your large strapless is never a good look

Back fat occurs and usually brests are to large to stay in the right position

Try a maxi with straps

If you have big boobs I personally would avoid empire line as it Can make you look pregnant! How ever if you have a tiny rib cage ( under bust measurement) it might work.
Don't suppose anyone here can clarify for me the difference between a long evening dress and a maxi dress?

TheFallenMadonna Sun 27-May-12 15:24:16

I am large breasted but tall. I wear fitted or straight and belted jersey maxis in one colour. No pattern, no empire line, not strapless.

musicposy Sun 27-May-12 15:25:19

I'd say no. I think they look a bit rubbish on most people.

I did see someone earlier today who looked nice in one (and that's why I noticed as most people don't), but it was black and she was very young and tanned and eastern-european-model looking. She looked great in it, but I suspect would have looked great in most things.

The other day I saw someone a little older and definitely bigger walking along in one. It was an aztec strapless affair. Her boobs were bulging out of it in all directions and then there were acres of fabric below. She honestly looked like she had wrapped herself in a curtain bought in 1992. DD and I had to try very hard not to stare.

I'm a size 10-12 ish, 5'5" too and <cough> over 40 and I know I would look hideous in one.

sieglinde Sun 27-May-12 15:33:03

But those of us in the elite club of 40plus, 5'5", size 12-14 who also have short legs like an alligator welcome them.

I say no. 90% of maxi dress wearers look shocking. It's harsh but definitely true that only the lithe and tall types can carry them off.

Walking through town today it felt like I was swimming against a tide of garishly upholstered walking sofas.

Shinyshoes1 Sun 27-May-12 15:36:33

I'm 5ft on the nose and a size 22. They look bloody awful on me

5"5' you'd prob look ok

MrsCampbellBlack Sun 27-May-12 15:39:59

Right that's it - unless you're 5ft 10 and a size 6 - you must never wear one. Not sure what you can wear though - perhaps some white linen trousers wink

picnicbasketcase Sun 27-May-12 15:45:16

Sorry OP, I'm 5ft 3 and a size 14/16 and I tried some on - I looked like a large matronly Hattie Jacques in a nightie.

I actually think they can look lovely on all shapes and sizes but you have to choose the right style. I am 5ft5 and a size 10, so I choose the jersey type ones and I get plenty of compliments. I am young and beautiful though obvs.

I think your outfits sound lovely OP, your cardi/jacket will give waist definition and your wedges will add height.

TwllBach Sun 27-May-12 15:51:20

I have a black maxi, but it is not strapless. I keep those for sunbathing. I love it, it's comfortable, cool and I have been told by independent bystanders that I look glamorous.

I don't as a rule, and I can't be completely sure it was a comment in lieu of something else, but it convinced me that it looked ok. I'm 5'7/8 and the dress is a size 14

<runs through thread in maxi, wrapping it's material round everyone's legs and tripping them up>

dexter73 Sun 27-May-12 15:52:36

Maxi dresses aren't magic though. If you are short and large they aren't going to miraculously make you look like a 6' size 8. What clothing would?

rockinhippy Sun 27-May-12 16:08:51

I really depends very much on the style & cut of the dress - yes you could wear it & look great in it, but stay well clear of the ones that come from under the bust, especially if gathered - with a large bust, they will give the impression the rest of you is as big as your bust & you will end up looking like a sack of spuds.

Also, don't be afraid of jersey, its a complete myth that is very unforgiving on bigger shapes - again if its cut well & good quality it can actually be very flattering & far more slimming than more rigid lined cottons - do stay well clear of the cheap thin ones though & be careful what prints you choose too

Ephiny Sun 27-May-12 16:18:15

I agree you're not short - 5'5" is above average height, isn't it!

I suspect a maxi might not be the most flattering look for your size/shape though, it could just look tent-like and make you look bigger than you are. Have you tried any on to see how they suit you?

rockinhippy Sun 27-May-12 16:19:39

TheFallenMaddonna version of the maxi would be the type to suit you too - especially a long slightly A-line vest dress, in a strong solid block colour, such as royal blue, rich green or black - if possible go for side slits & DO belt it in - DO wear a bra & avoid anything too small - back fat is down to poor fitting bra/dress, so it's getting something that fits you properly that is the key - & wear it with big chunky jewellery, this has the effect of making you look smaller in contrast to the accessories - IYSWIM

Runoutofideas Sun 27-May-12 17:44:36

I am 5 ft 3 and a size 18 and I have this which I love. I wore it to a wedding recently and had loads of compliments and people asking if i'd lost weight (which I haven't!) I had to get about 2 inches taken off the bottom though....

ToryLovell Sun 27-May-12 18:20:19

Seems like maxi dresses and linen trousers are the marmite of summer - either love or hate.

I cannot think of anyone that I have seen in a maxi that looks bad. The fact that they are wearing a dress always makes the wearer look more elegant than someone wearing a vest and shorts.

planestrainsautomobiles Sun 27-May-12 18:46:44

I'm just over 5ft and looking to get one but would go for a clingier style (don't like to feel swamped by fabric).

What shoes do you wear MrsCB with yours - you seem like a similar height to me. Do you go with flats or a heel?

donnie Sun 27-May-12 18:50:04

I would love to wear a maxi but I am only 5 foot 2! I am slim but pear shaped.

dexter73 Sun 27-May-12 18:53:04

Wear one donnie - I bet you will look great!

donnie Sun 27-May-12 18:54:45

dexter - I'd love to but they are all so long on me I look like a 6 year old dressing up in her mum's clothes!!

Boden are venturing into the petite market so I might check them out....

yellowraincoat Sun 27-May-12 18:58:50

Really ToryLovell? I've seen an abundance of unflattering maxi dresses today alone.

GreenEggsAndNichts Sun 27-May-12 19:51:51

I've just purchased two of them because I've got to wear support stockings this summer (been diagnosed with a DVT) and I thought I would give them a go as a way to cover them up. I'm 5'8 and a size 20.

I don't think they're flattering on me. sad

Does anyone have suggestions for where to look for a maxi skirt? Online?

sarahtigh Sun 27-May-12 19:52:04

dresses especially long floaty ones are actually cooler than vest top and shorts

runoutofideas that is a lovely dress

I am size 16/18 and love dresses skirts find trousers too tight and hot in summer, I do not do strappy or sleeveless usually cap sleeves if bigger shoulder srap needs to be 3-4" wide at least

WannaBeWildCosMyLifesSoTame Sun 27-May-12 19:56:51

So what would be another stylish leg-covering option if maxi dresses are a no no? I walked the length of our local shopping centre yesterday and tried on loads of things but came to the same conclusion as I do every summer - my legs should not see daylight. They are short, stumpy, white and blemished - not my finest feature!

I am size 14ish and about 5'2 with biggish boobs, I do have one maxi dress (Next petite and it looks OK but it's black jersey so quite dressy) but other than that I am a bit stuck when it gets really hot. The rest of the time I wear jeans or chinos but in hot weather it would be lovely to have an alternative that keeps my hideous legs under wraps. I tried these on yesterday and thought they looked OK but DD said I looked like a clown sad .This was quite nice but I wasn't sure. Any better suggestions stylish ladies?

yellowraincoat Sun 27-May-12 20:14:35

Plain long white skirt, vest top. I used to live in that come summer.

PorkyandBess Sun 27-May-12 20:25:39

I think maxis only look good on tall, slim, small busted women and worn with flats. Jersey fabric too.

Other people can look perfectly OK in them, but flattering, they are not.

MrsCampbellBlack Sun 27-May-12 20:28:16

Gap have some maxi skirts and more expensive brands like splendid.

I wear a low wedge sandal with mine- my faves are some gold ones from KG in last year's sale.

So the general consensus is no [grin{
Might try to upload some pics for a brutal honest opinion

dexter73 Sun 27-May-12 21:04:11

No, I would say the general consensus is split between those who like maxis and those who don't. If you like them then wear them!

I am your height and about the same build by the sounds of it and got two maxi dresses last week from a brand called Dash. One is floral cotton and very voluminous, the other is heavy jersey and hands straight. I've had lovely compliments when I've worn both, I have a linen jacket ( fairly short and fitted) and a short cardi that go with both and I thought they were ok.

I'd take the shoes and go and play

CointreauVersial Sun 27-May-12 21:39:19

Another one recommending the heavy jersey-type dresses - much less "billowy" than the cotton type. Mine is from Mantaray and I like it because it doesn't add any width to me. The larger you are, the more important that is.

I do always feel a bit "overdressed" in a maxi dress, though, as if I'm wearing an evening dress in the middle of the day.

Bunbaker Sun 27-May-12 22:20:28

"I don't think maxi dresses are that flattering on anyone."

I disagree. They can be very flattering if the wearer choses a style and colour that suits them.

i don't get this MN hatred of maxi dresses. I have a couple and love wearing them.

FrameyMcFrame Sun 27-May-12 22:22:12

this one is nice and v flattering... got money off too smile

rockinhippy Sun 27-May-12 22:26:50

Actually, I DO get the hatred of them both on here & amongst some RL people I know - I see way too many people (trust me around here it IS people grin } wearing the wrong type for their size, shape, colouring or whatever & in that instance they too often DO look hideous - BUT chosen well, they can look elegant, stylish & be very comfortable to wear on days like today

So its not about DON"T wear one, but wearing the CORRECT Maxi dress for YOU smile

noviceoftheday Sun 27-May-12 22:27:13

I am also in the no camp! Sorry blush! It's your height. I love maxi dresses and would love to be able to wear one, but I am a lot shorter than you and know it's just not flattering look unless the wearer is tall (which for me is prob 5' 8" or above).

dexter73 Sun 27-May-12 23:04:29

I would have thought that wearing a long,figure-skimming dress would make a short person look taller?

QueenElizaBeatHer Sun 27-May-12 23:13:32

I'm 5foot nothing and a size 18 and have been wearing mine! They are so cool to wear. It's like being nude, which pleases me grin

Born2BRiiiled Sun 27-May-12 23:17:57

I have just one. I am 5'5, and a well proportioned size 16 hourglass. I have a slinky one. No volume, and with a shirt sleeve. All I can tell you is that my husband always jumps me when I wear it! More than any other item of clothing. Make of that what you will!

lunamoon Sun 27-May-12 23:54:33

I imagine they are quite easy to wear but then agin I am a dress lover.
I don't actually own a maxi dress.
I tend to go for shorter dresses in the day. Evening wear more glam than a maxi dress.
I also don't do braless anything.
If you do get one make sure it isn't too long. A young woman I saw today was having to lift hers up as she walked, rather like a wedding dress, it didn't look good at all.

Fozzleyplum Mon 28-May-12 00:01:10

A similarly sized friend of mine wore one last night and looked great. I think the trick is to try on a lot as they vary so much - clingy/non clingy fabric, and how much gathering there is under the bust.

Fozzleyplum Mon 28-May-12 00:02:24

Ought to add that she wore hers with a fitted shrug, which made her arms look good and suited the high waist of the dress.

TheHouseOnTheCorner Mon 28-May-12 00:06:00

I'm 5 6 and a size 14 and I wouldn't wear one...the problem is that there's just too much fabric involved once you go bigger than an 8!

Flapping around in yards of cotton doesn't look good unless you're tiny and enveloped in a cute kind of way.

rockinhippy Mon 28-May-12 00:21:24

I would have thought that wearing a long,figure-skimming dress would make a short person look taller

Thats exactly what it will do dexter - the ones to be avoided if you are small, wide, or both are the fuller, gathered under the bust sort of maxi - sadly, though these seem the most popular, hence why you see a lot that don't look so good - they only suit tall/slim

perhaps I should add - I get paid to know this sort of stuff

PercyFilth Mon 28-May-12 00:31:54

It's a ridiculous generalisation to say that all maxi dresses are hideous or unsuitable. They are no different from medium length or short dresses in that they come in diverse styles, and what suits one person may not suit another. As others have said, try a few on until you find a style that suits your shape.

Hullygully Mon 28-May-12 09:23:16

No nonononononononononononononononononononononononononononononononononononnononononononononononononononononononononononononononononononnononononononononononononononononononono


cocolepew Mon 28-May-12 09:53:19

Stop sitting on the fence hully. Say what you think.

kedge Mon 28-May-12 10:02:26

I think it is like with any other item of clothing - you have to be prepared to try on lots of different styles to find one which suits your figure type - and most importantly - LOOK IN A FULL LENGTH MIRROR FROM ALL ANGLES!! I have often found that it is the one with the least 'hanger appeal' that looks great on, with a pattern or design I wouldnt normally have chosen.

I also find that in my head, I am still the slinky gal I used to be pre-children and sadly the type of clothing that fits my post-children body is not the same. I suspect a lot of people fall into that trap of buying what they would have bought in the days when you had the time and the money to wander around to find exactly the right outfit and try on loads of things without having to cram a buggy with the baby in and 2 other children into a tiny fitting room who give you at best a total of a half-hour before someone wants the toilet, is hungry, fed up etc, etc.............. Not to mention that strapless anything is asking for trouble with small hands pulling at clothing - so practical considerations such as is it washable, childproof come into play.

Shimbo Mon 28-May-12 10:05:16

What is maxi? Any long dress or one of those with reams of material that aren't too flattering for anyone unless very slim and tall? Agree with rockinhippy there.

I have a fairly fitted long jersey dress, the DP one in petite green, that looks ok on me I think and I am only 5ft 2 and a size 8.

I personally hate the maxi plus grecian sandals combo!

Lambzig Mon 28-May-12 11:36:17

I am 5'3" and size 12 and can wear them as long as they are skimming the hips and a-line rather than the very full sort (I look like a tent).

PosieParker Mon 28-May-12 12:03:17

I am 5'3 and an 8/10 and have this and others from the same brand and they look lovely. Perhaps it helps that I have a good waist, but it definitely does not make me look shorter. It's all about confidence and I have that!

PosieParker Mon 28-May-12 12:03:45

Ooops....I am 5'2"

musicmaiden Mon 28-May-12 13:58:21

I am 5'11 and a size 14. I've been buying a couple this year due to an infected skin condition on my shin, which has left all my knee-length dresses and skirts in my wardrobe gathering dust sad

So many maxis are hideously unflattering whatever your shape, with tent-effect cut and dreadful lurid patterns. However if you can find the right one, they are SO lovely and cool in summer and can make you feel great.

I see many more unflattering vest/shorts combos around than maxis tbh.

Nobody should wear maxi dresses - and the strapless/boob tube types ones should be banned.

And just to warn you - whenever I see somebody sauntering past in the above, I am hideously tempted to pull it down, shout 'tits out!' and run grin

Foshizzle Mon 28-May-12 14:05:47

Am 5'7" and a size 10. I found that White Company jersey maxi dresses looked much better on me last year when I had post-baby boobs. Zara ones looked tarty on me. No other jersey maxis though - way too clingy.

This year I have my figure back but smaller boobies again and it's the long flowing Zara (floor-length and lined), Fat Face and other jersey maxis that look fab.

Agree with the posters who say be prepared to try lots on. I find them very useful for staying cool, not having to worry about skirt blowing up, exposing too much thigh / tomorrow's laundry when bending over the pram and providing something for the DC to hold on to when out and about!! Wear them with Birkies, hair up and big slouchy bag.

Have seen lots of maxis on women of all different shapes and some look amazing some don't. Is more to do with the style of maxi and accessories than the shape of the person IMO.

numbertaker Mon 28-May-12 14:11:03

I'm 5'6 but can't wear maxi dresses as I have legs that are short, even with heels. I also have to say I think they are 'done to death'. I cringe every time I see a big broad backed lady with big boobs wearing a strapless maxi with tan lines from the previous strappy top she has been wearing.

They can be nice but its borderline, depending on pattern, bodyshap and how you hold yourself.

gorblimey Mon 28-May-12 14:28:41

I think maxi dresses have had their day, I have a plain black one but the floral ones are horrible IMO.

duchesse Mon 28-May-12 14:46:27

I can't think of any body shape they look good on. Sack of potatoes in a tent for everybody imo.

RidingHood Mon 28-May-12 16:46:50

I think that maxi dresses can look unsightly on anybody that doesn't have the build of a supermodel! Be very careful!

Bunbaker Mon 28-May-12 20:34:30

"I can't think of any body shape they look good on. Sack of potatoes in a tent for everybody imo."

I don't agree at all. Perhaps you only have potato shaped people where you live grin.

I also don't think you need to be a supermodel to wear one. There are maxi dresses in different patterns and styles, just as there are skirts, dresses and trousers in different styles. So there is something for everyone if you can be bothered to look.

lovemygirlivy Mon 28-May-12 20:46:01

NOOO way - it will make you look shorter/heavier like a sausage. For those who are shorter - knee length dresses work well - or a knee length skirt with a top with lengthen you.

Right I wore my maxi today

For the record it has a wrap effect top half and is navy cotton with coral flowers on. It is also straight cut so no billowing

I wore it with tan wedges, a tan satchel bag and a short fitted coral cardi

I looked fucking amazing grin

Seriously I felt fabulous ! And got a lot of compliments

I'm so relieved

dexter73 Mon 28-May-12 21:37:00

Yay!! And boo sucks to all the maxi haters!

littlepie Mon 28-May-12 21:40:44

I love maxis, wedges (and in cooler weather a denim jacket). I am a similar build to you.

Monsoon and Evans do some flattering jersey ones which also have a v neck to allow me easy nork access for bf

Just stay clear of jumpsuits........grin

ZZZenAgain Mon 28-May-12 21:44:53

actually thanks to this thread, I think I might get one (despite all the negative comments!)

Do it zzzz do it !

I always said I couldn't wear dresses as didn't have the figure
For it but judging by the amount of admiring glances I got from menfolk today I reckon actually I just might do

AnotherFineMess Mon 28-May-12 21:54:33

Some of these messages are like feminism never happened. Does it really matter how it looks to hung-up outside observers as opposed to how the wearer feels? Some women are tall, some women are short, some are busty, some are not, some are broad-backed, some are petite - all look lovely in things they feel good in. I cannot think of a single cooler, more comfortable thing to wear in this heat than a nice flowy dress with no seams in the middle to get hot and bothered and pinch your tummy and no worries about leg-shaving and fake-tanning and all the other nonsense we are told we hould do to look feminine. I say go for it Korma, I am sure you will look beautiful if you are happy and relaxed and comfortable in your own skin and ignoring all these people who accept the beauty myth.

So there, rarrrrrrrrrr smile

AnotherFineMess Mon 28-May-12 21:55:25

Oops, missed your update - but yeyyyyyy!!

Thank you another.
What a lovely and encouraging thing to say

AnotherFineMess Mon 28-May-12 22:01:27

You're most welcome, glad to hear you felt lovely.

ToryLovell Mon 28-May-12 22:56:21

So you going to put pictures up then Korma?

I think maxi dresses are the least of anybody's worries while jumpsuits are still around...

I had to be forced into one when I was 8yo and really didn't know any better - why the fuck do people wear them now?

Maxi's and jumpsuits are both bad and make your arse look wibbly and fat, even if you are a size 8.

rockinhippy Tue 29-May-12 09:39:20

Really glad you ignore the naysayers & wore one anyway Korma - sounds like you made a good choice & I don't doubt it looked lovely on you smile

Though I've got to agree with AFM they are comfy & cool & very practical in such hot sticky weather, therefore sod anybody who thinks they are nominated as fashion policehmm - do your own thing & wear it anyway grin - though I know most people won't be confident enough to do that, thats just life - so finding the one that flatters YOU makes them a real pleasure to wear smile

Got to admit though, I agree with Jareth as regards jumpsuits - they are just wrong on anyone but teens & DCs & no change in cut etc can help with that - though if you don't give a flying one & enjoy wearing them anyway, good on you - enjoy & consider it charity that you give the nations harpies something to bitch about grin

upahill Tue 29-May-12 09:48:35

Hey rockinchick Never mind all this sod the fashion police! Let's not forget the OP ASKED for our opinions.
We just didn't rock up and tell her she looks shit!!

upahill Tue 29-May-12 09:49:04

rockinhippy not chick

JeanBodel Tue 29-May-12 09:50:34

I think the problem is the term 'maxi dress'.

To some people this has a specific meaning: a strapless, voluminous, printed dress as currently in fashion.

To others, it is simply a description of length eg an ankle length dress.

Ankle length dresses can look good on everyone, depending on the style. Those curtain things, not so much.

rockinhippy Tue 29-May-12 09:57:29

^Hey rockinchick Never mind all this sod the fashion police! Let's not forget the OP ASKED for our opinions.
We just didn't rock up and tell her she looks shit^

I know - I gave my two penneth further up thread too - & I did say not everyone is confident enough to do so - but in an ideal world smile

so if you are fat and stumpy (like me...though I am bang on the average height I've got rather short legs and I'm a size 20 with a big tummy - yuck), what do you wear in the heat? I like the sound of a maxi skirt but I wonder if I'd just look crap. My usual outfit is jeans and a long top/tunic/dress and trainers. I like it. When it's hot I'll change the jeans to longish shorts. But that doesn't look that great.

rockinhippy Tue 29-May-12 11:24:56

@ everybody you can go for a maxi, but in a slimline, thigh skimming cut - NOT a full one -

go for one with an empire line to elongate your bottom half, but avoid the ones with gathers all round under the bust - a little gathering over your stomach will be fine though -

a belt under your bust can also elongate your legs - a deep V or scoop necks draw the eye to your bust & away from hips etc, as do wider necked strappy ones - avoid bandeaux styles as these will make you look wider & shorter

& stick with plain darker strong colours, such as royal blue, jade green, black etc or large scale, but not too busy prints - you know, darker background, large well spaced out flowers


PosieParker Tue 29-May-12 11:26:30

And noone over the age of thirty should wear anything without sleeves...unless they have lovely arms. I have a real hang up about my arms and so project that onto everyone, regardless. No fat arms out please!!!

Bunbaker Tue 29-May-12 12:33:36

"Ankle length dresses can look good on everyone, depending on the style. Those curtain things, not so much."

The voice of common sense JeanBodel

yellowraincoat Tue 29-May-12 13:30:19

"And noone over the age of thirty should wear anything without sleeves...unless they have lovely arms. I have a real hang up about my arms and so project that onto everyone, regardless. No fat arms out please!!!"

Are you actually kidding me?

Tell me it is so.

Over the age of 30, you should never show your arms?

GobblersKnob Tue 29-May-12 13:41:30

No fat arms over thirty shock

29 year old fat arms presumably okay though.

sieglinde Tue 29-May-12 14:13:45

Jeanbodel, exactly. To me a maxi is my black wool dress with a straight neck and elbow sleeves. Those multicoloured things are awful. And as a shortarse, the posts about empire line are wrong if you have a waist. If you have one, SHOW IT. Softly clinging...

PorkyandBess Tue 29-May-12 14:28:37

I too have a complex about my arms; I never get them out and they are not fat in the slightest.

hodgypodgy Tue 29-May-12 16:23:55

If you wanna wear one-wear one. If you think you look good-wear it. Stuff what everybody else thinks. Life's too short to spoil your life because of what others think. smile

yellowraincoat Tue 29-May-12 18:31:26

You know, I totally agree with you hodgypodgy. I feel like I've been a bit unfair saying that maxis look bad on certain people.

If you like it, wear it. I saw a woman today wearing skintight leggings, skintight top, must have been a size 18 or 20 and she looked great.

We don't all look the same.

chickydoo Tue 29-May-12 18:58:16

I like maxis, but only ever in the evening. Find the length too restricting during the day. I have 4 maxis. one is yellow and white from warehouse, got it 4 years ago. qute fitted but with straps. A black whistles bias cut one, which is vair vair slinky, with a little chain belt. a silk colurful one that I got to go to an evening do 2 years ago, but have worn it to other events in the summer. my newest is a boden plain brown jersey one, very simple slim ish, looks great with a belt, gladiators and a denim jacket.
Have 2 maxi skirts, one pink silk that I got 10 years ago and still adore.... (worn 100's of times) very hippy looking. and and slim brown and white one.
The above make up my holiday evening wardrobe.
Am 5ft 7 and size 8. I think they can look great on anyone, as long as you find the right fit for you.

I bought a nice silky flowy one today - with straps. I am 5foot4 and I refuse to wear heels but am going to take it to dry cleaners and get it taken up an inch and a half.

mumofjust1 Tue 29-May-12 20:28:29

I'm 5ft, size 20 and I brought one from new looks Inspire range. Its leopard print, has sleeves and an elastic bit under the bust.

I have big hips and boobs but a small waist and I'm happy in it, I think it looks good and I have had a couple of compliments smile

MrsCampbellBlack Tue 29-May-12 20:30:21

Oh goodee - sleeveless after 30 - another one to add to the mn forbidden list wink Unless one is Jennifer Aniston presumably.

I think 2 types of figure look good in maxi dresses, either the very tall and skinny brigade who have nothing to fill it or the fat brigade who have tons to fill it. Everyone else it looks dire on.

For example I am 5'10 size 14 and have no breasts and look like a whale in one, even tho I am not. My sister is 5'9, huge breasts and size 20 (at least) and looks fabulous in one.

However I do agree (to a certain extent) with what hodgypodgy said, if you like them and think you look good in them then wear them, do you really care a stuff about what I think?

SarahJessicaFarter Tue 29-May-12 21:57:09

Can I stick my opinion in? If you are short no matter what size, get it tailored. Nothing worse than maxi dresses manually hitched up all the time! They do look pretty, but if you are trying to look smart, then 50s style looks better imo. Fitted top and flared skirt, think Kirsty Alsop's style. She's not small but makes the most of her waist and lower legs. Fitted top - show off the boobs, flared skirt - waist and knee length - legs. Or go for Gok Wan's frocks. Sainsbury's are selling them half price in our local store, they go up to size 20. smile

PeaTarty Tue 29-May-12 22:06:47

Would this one look good on a size 18 5ft6? Trying to find one that would suit as I need something cool in this heat!

maxi dress

Would rather it covered my shoulders but I think that is empire line and flattering for a lumpy tummy?

SarahJessicaFarter Tue 29-May-12 22:35:23

I like the defined top part. But yes I think that would look nice :-)

AngryFeet Wed 30-May-12 00:10:59

I saw a girl a couple of days ago wearing this dress. She was tanned and dark haired and was a good size 14-16. She looked blinking gorgeous. I think a slimmer girl would not suit this type of maxi though. There is definitely a maxi dress for everyone you just need to look. I think being a bit shorter helps as they tend to fall just above ankle height on taller girls which looks a bit mumsy smile

AngryFeet Wed 30-May-12 00:14:51
Boardiegirl Wed 30-May-12 08:13:39

im 5foot and a maxi dress swamps me, makes me look fatter and shorter unfortunately. If you're wearing a crop cardi as you say, you need a slim tum cos where the cardi stops is where the eye is drawn.
That said, i rly think its how you feel in it. If you feel great you will radiate fabulousness!!
5.5 is def not short! I would feel sooooo better with an extra 5inches height. I also should rly wear heels to look taller, but hate havin uncomfortable footwear! My DD is 5.10 and loves heels but doesn't wear them often as she says she feels like a giant! Guess not many of us are happy with our bodies eh!

bronze Wed 30-May-12 08:26:25

May I ask which dresses you've bought as I am 5 11 and a size 12-14 too

blackcatsdancing Wed 30-May-12 09:58:08

i was going to say they look awful on everyone other than those who would look good in a literal sack but yesterday in town (large busy town centre) i saw 3 women who pulled it off. All the dresses had some structure to the top- none were that rouched style. 2 women were black and looked amazing. The other was a very young pregnant white woman, petite with neat bump and huge boobs being showed off fairly tastefully- though thinking about it she was in the look good in sack camp.

however i will say who cares?? if you feel good in it, if you are comfortable or its what you fell like dragging on then that's all that matters. Sounds like you didn't drag on anything your outfit sounds well planned and nice but i often ruin a perfectly good look by sticking my feet into black trainers and i really couldnt care less. I have comfy feet that will keep me going round town for hours and i can walk into the town centre/ to work without getting blisters/sore soles or resorting to bus fares, i get to exercise more so result all round. Of course i don't wear them to go out to dinner or to a party . Think of those old overweight spanish women in their bikinis on the beach, they couldn't care less either, they are enjoying the sunshine and getting an even tan . and no one else really cares much about what they look like either (too worried about own tummy/thighs)

nappyaddict Wed 30-May-12 10:29:22

What do people think of this one and this one

dexter73 Wed 30-May-12 10:53:48

Those are both very nice nappyaddict. My dd has this one and it is gorgeous. She does wear a bandeau top with it as she is a 32DD and it is quite plunging for a 15 yo!!

blackcatsdancing Wed 30-May-12 11:31:50

ohh dexter73 that is a nice one. I don't have any cleavage so wouldnt work for me but for those who have its a good shape.

blackcatsdancing Wed 30-May-12 15:23:33

korma that is nice. I especially like the top

Bunbaker Wed 30-May-12 15:32:13

I saw a woman in M & S trying on this dress. She was a 14/16 and about 5'5". She looked fabulous.

Iamcalledclaire Wed 30-May-12 15:53:07

I think loads of people of differing sizes look good in maxi dresses.

I think they are lasting as a fashion because:

A) they are lovely and cool in hot weather

B) they cover up your legs meaning all the fake tan/wax/shave angst is seriously reduced.

C)it's a dress-dresses are brilliant, grab and wear, no finding a matching top complexities.

D)in most cases most women look so much more elegant in a long dress than in all the other shorts/crops//t shirts type combos they probably be wearing instead.

E)they do have a 'dress up' feel but many are suitable for daytime too.

F) they come in so many differing styles that every women can find one to fit her needs-just like dresses in general obv. But you do need to know already what you should/shouldn't be wearing for your body shape.

G) women feel good in them. They feel feminine, floaty, dressed up and summery.

Obviously, a cheap cotton ill fitting strapless dress on an overweight large busted women with sunburn, is never going to be a good look.

By there's so much more to maxis than that and I think they'll be around for a while longer, I think they're a GREAT fashion for all women.

Bunbaker Wed 30-May-12 15:58:34

Excellent post claire

mayaswell Wed 30-May-12 16:54:01

Just a word of warning re:pants. Check in the mirror that your lighter-coloured maxis (esp. thin jersey) aren't revealing every detail of your thong. Unless that's what you want.

I love the 'independent bystanders' mentioned by TwllBach, they sound sympathetic and useful.

mayaswell Wed 30-May-12 16:57:14

Bunbaker that M&S dress is very nice, it doesn't have too much fabric in the skirt so it's quite sleek looking. Very good price.

handbagCrab Wed 30-May-12 17:06:16

I love maxi dresses. Bright and colourful. Loads of flowers. Lovely.

I couldn't give a monkeys if some po faced Internet commentator thinks I must look horrible in them as I am not a supermodel. Says more about them than it does about the maxi dress wearers tbh

Op I bet you looked great in your maxi dress. Ignore the haterz smile

Bunbaker Wed 30-May-12 17:21:41

I loved it too, but I already have 2 maxis and 2 nearly maxis. Also I am not busty enough to look good in that dress. The lady trying it on looked fantastic.

SCOTCHandWRY Wed 30-May-12 18:08:48

Korma - I am short (5ft3) and have a huge bust (size16 bottom, 22 on top shock but with a proper waist) - clothes are a real problem as anything structured (non stretchy) which fits by boobs makes me look about 4 stone heavier by swamping my waist.

I wore a great maxi dress to a fancy function a couple of weeks ago - it was £20 from New Look, was stretchy, had a fitted bust and pulled in at the waist - the dress was straight, not billowy. It had straps (I think strapless is a no-no for the large boobed amongst us!).

Lindt70Percent Thu 31-May-12 10:29:16

No. They're not flattering whatever size/shape you are. They make people look like they've gone out in their nighties!

Bunbaker Thu 31-May-12 16:52:48

"No. They're not flattering whatever size/shape you are. They make people look like they've gone out in their nighties!"

Utter nonsense, they don't. You must have only seen people in horrible dresses. There are loads of colours and styles out there to suit every shape. Not all maxis look like nighties or pairs of curtains.

Lindt70Percent Fri 01-Jun-12 09:22:41

It's not utter nonsense, it's a different opinion.

Boardiegirl Sat 09-Jun-12 10:02:51

agree with lindt70percent...the mumsnetter is asking for advice and opinions; all opinions. You have yours and others have theirs. Fact.

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