Blazer for big breasts?

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lemniscate Wed 25-Apr-12 10:27:35

So I really really want a blazer, have wanted one for about 3 years. But I have 34H breasts and I just find that they sit really badly on me - they either don't fasten properly and gape, or when I have them open they sort of hang off my boobs so from the side I look absolutely enormous as you can't see my waist.

I need a blazer that has a nipped in waist rather than one of the looser styles I think. But I've never found one that suits so I've stopped trying. I'm a size 14 on top usually, with an hourglass figure so size 16 (although almost 14) in trousers.

Anyone with big breasts got any suggestions of where to look? Or should I just avoid the blazer idea completely?

EldonAve Wed 25-Apr-12 10:36:24
ShotgunNotDoingThePans Wed 25-Apr-12 10:40:24

I think of a blazer as a double breasted, shapeless number which I'm sure you know is what you need to avoid. Unfortunately for the hourglass-shaped among us, they seem to be universally available whereas the cute, fitted, nipped-in feminine style of which you speak seems to be like ben's teeth as far as availability in the shops goes.
I'm a 30G so buy a 12, sometimes a 14 if there's gaping. But I find the beauty of that style is that the low v at the front is pretty accommodating, so if there's gaping it usually means the sizing is small. But everyone's different so...

I bought one from Esprit (through Zalandoo) recently.cream with faded red stripes, kind of nautical but not too yo ho ho.
Esprit often have the single-breasted style, I'd say they're about mid_range for price and quality but nothing edgy there, nor especially smart if that's what you need.
Vivianne Westwood is the queen of tailored fitting for boobs, and All Saints sometimes have cheaper VW rip-offs.
You could try registering with Dressipi and see what they come up with, or do a search on Shopstyle.
Unfortunately I think finding a lovely fitted jacket is a bit like finding the right pair of jeans - you just have to try loads on.
Oh, I've seen lovely ones at Jigsaw in past seasons - not looked there lately though.
And Boden stock them, but I've found the stuff from there they claim as 'fitted' rarely is. Have had them from Hobbs and Ted Baker in the past also.

lemniscate Wed 25-Apr-12 10:51:18

Yes, definitely not a double breasted old buffer type thing! I want something that can smarten up jeans or a skirt rather than it being a work thing. I work from home or else am out with the kids so generally just in jeans, and I just sometimes want a quick way to feel a little smarter.

I like some of the ones in Zara but nothing has ever fitted me there so I don't know if I should bother even going in there.

Thanks for the suggestions. Shotgun - I think you're right about it being like jeans, speaking of which... smile I'm just going to have to go a blazer shopping day, aren't I? No getting distracted by dresses or skirts or shoes, just focus on the one item and trawl every shop in Christendom.

ShotgunNotDoingThePans Wed 25-Apr-12 11:42:38

Good luck with that!

Dollydowser Wed 25-Apr-12 12:09:52

lemniscate, we could be twins. I am similar size and have also been looking for a blazer. I've tried all the ones recommended on here, Zara, H&M, Uniqlo. None fitted very well, lots of unfurling collars. I've tried all the M&S ones, some that fit but have got cropped sleeves.
The Pepperberry one fitted beautifully, but was a bit too long. I looked in Espirit in Westfield last week, nothing. I'm at a loss as to where to try next.

Tell me lemniscate, where else have you bought clothes from recently, especially tops/Tshirts? Apart from some Pepperberry dresses, I haven't found anything that fits/looks flattering.

lemniscate Wed 25-Apr-12 12:30:38

I haven't bought many clothes recently as I am exercising lots so changing shape a bit and didn't want to invest too much, but I am getting close to my weight/size goal so thinking about buying again. I find that invariably only one or two shops fit me properly at any one time. I have recently been fitting a size 14 at Hobbs really well so most of my recent stuff is from there - a few scoop neck or cowl neck tops, a lovely silk blouse and two dresses, a great quilted coat. But their blazers are generally a bit too smart for my needs or a bit too short/boxy. I have picked up a few tops from New Look, and the skinny £20 jeans in M&S are the ones that fit perfectly at the moment, and would look great with a blazer. Grr!

Dollydowser Wed 25-Apr-12 13:00:32

I can't do skinny jeans, too much of the carrot look! Yes I like some of Hobbs stuff too. I don't need smart/office clothes but its hard to find casual clothes to suit an hourglass shape.

lemniscate Wed 25-Apr-12 13:39:54

Skinny jeans only work on me with my high heeled shoes or boots, not with my flat Converse sadly (too carroty then!) I find a long thin cardigan usually helps too as it skims over the worst of my hips smile Might be worth a try with the right tops and shoes.

Trousers are my big issue. Skirts are fine as they skim my hips, but I find trousers fit my hips and thighs but then gape at the waist, or are just too tight on the thigh and hips. I cry whenever a pair of jeans dies as I know I will have such a struggle to find some again. For tops I choose v-neck, scoop neck or cowl neck if not too much fabric, and they must sit below my waist rather than on it or that just cuts me in half and looks terrible. I also hate loose tops as I look pregnant because there is a such a big bosom in the way of any streamlining!

ComradeJing Wed 25-Apr-12 14:04:10

You aren't going to like this answer I suspect but I've always found the blazers at Ralph Lauren are the very best for fitting a narrow waist and big boobs.

Admittedly I was a 32D or DD when my size 8 (UK) jackets fitted where as now I'm a G and haven't lost baby weight so they don't fit at all now and I don't know what the fit would be like in a bigger size but back in my thin with boobs days they fit perfectly.

scotsgirl23 Wed 25-Apr-12 14:25:25

Pepperberry is worth keeping an eye on there's are great when they get the style right. I would keep an eye on ebay too - I have two lovely blazers (bravissimo branded from before they switched over) that are perfect with jeans, one in a cherry red and the other in a stone colour, single button and short enough that slightly bigger hips don't cause a problem. I am a similar shape to you by the sounds of it and they are very flattering. I've seen a few come up on ebay, sometimes brand new.

Dollydowser Wed 25-Apr-12 14:28:06

I am 5'3" so that could also be part of the problem! Also I did skinnies the first time round grin I can't do boyfriend cardies as I lose my waist, I don't wear converse either, only wedges/platforms.
I have a pair of Wallis jeans but I don't wear them often, but I have heard good things about PZI jeans. I have a 10" difference between my waist and hips and like you I don't suit any top with gathers or extra fabric. I prefer a sweetheart or deep scoop neckline to a v (unless its a really deep V) and yes end below my waist (but not long either). Add on to that list a preference for certain colours that I know suit me = virtually impossible!!

I have been shopping with a personal stylist (40th birthday present) and got great tips ( and came home with masses of shopping bags) but when it comes down to actually trying to find clothes that tick all the boxes its very hard. My last shopping trip saw me return empty handed and money in my purse!

lemniscate Wed 25-Apr-12 15:34:46

I think I'm about a 10 inch difference too in waist and hips too! I'm 5'6 so slightly taller, but still not tall enough smile I'm seriously considering a shopping trip with a personal stylist - how did you find yours? I am very particular about what I will and won't wear in terms of design and pattern, and then add in all of your requirements too (you are so me dolly!) and it's no wonder that I never have anything to wear. I have just looked in my wardrobe and I have 7 tops that I think suit me, 3 pairs of jeans and one skirt. I have a very basic black suit which is fine for when I need to be smart for meetings. I have more success with finding lovely dresses and love wearing them, but I find I need heels with most dresses as I have quite fat calves so flats look bad, but I find walking in heels quite hard so can only really wear them for short bursts so don't tend to see dresses as useful day wear and hence don't buy them that often!!! I've been working really hard on losing baby weight and toning over the last year or so and my figure is looking great now, but I just need the clothes to go with it.

TBH, I would spend money in somewhere like Ralph Lauren if I felt it was the perfect fit. I find so few clothes that suit that I'm happy to spend a bit more when I do find something as I know the cost per wear will be small!!!

This is turning into a rant about how hard it is to find anything that suits me, rather than just trying to find a blazer, isn't it? I feel the need for an hourglass, size 14, big boobed support thread smile

Lottapianos Wed 25-Apr-12 15:38:18

'I feel the need for an hourglass, size 14, big boobed support thread'

I'll be your second member! grin

Dollydowser Wed 25-Apr-12 16:24:37

I'll be your third! I have the big calves too, love my Duo boots and can wear platform wedges no problem so now wear skirts all the time. I can't find any day dresses to fit though (apart form the new summer ones I've bought from Pepperberry) where do you find dresses to fit?

I have been trying to lose the baby weight too (although not as hard as you, not exercising) but probably nearer to a high street 16 (14 Pepperberry). I don't mind spending on clothes if the fit is right and I will get a lot of wear out of them.

I found my stylist online, Anna Moore,and we went to Westfield at Shepherds Bush (she does Bluewater too). My youngest was 18 months, I felt really fat and ugly, and had 2 parties and a wedding to get outfits for. Anna was lovely, and it was a bit of a counselling session thrown in! I came away feeling fantastic! It made me a bit sad to think of all the weddings I've been to over the years and had expensive outfits for but still looked/felt rubbish. I would do it again at the drop of a hat. Well worth the cost (not cheap) but I had great fun and also get some invaluable advice and style tips.

ShotgunNotDoingThePans Wed 25-Apr-12 17:18:29

A good starting point in finding your own style is House of Colour. You first have your colouring analysed to find the palette that suits you and the proportions in which you'd look best wearing them. Then you can have an image consultation which covers the style 'personality' you fit into, and also looks at your shape etc. i think you can do them both in the one session now - takes a few hours.
It's well worth it, but be warned, you still have empty-handed shopping trips occasionally - but at least everything in your wardrobe suits you, and you don't have to buy things to 'go with ' each other any more!
I've also seen a personal stylist, who trained with HoC originally, but is now independent. She took me shopping and gave me lots more tips - and made me less worried about age-appropriateness.

scotsgirl23 Wed 25-Apr-12 17:25:15

Would also like to sign up for the "big boobed size 14 but with a waist" club. I have at least a 12 inch waist-bust difference and it's a nightmare. However I've just given up on jeans entirely and surrendered to the dresses!

(wonders if we should have an additional sub group for the thunder of thigh?! )

lemniscate Wed 25-Apr-12 17:33:44

Hobbs again, dolly! Once I find a place that has clothes that fit, I stick with it grin Designers at Debenhams are worth a look too - a couple of J by Jasper Conran have suited me well when tried on although I've only ever bought one (because of the shoe issue!)

I have a couple of fabulous Tesco (believe it or not!) dresses too that I'm just fitting into again (a chocolate brown broderie anglaise 50s style nipped in waist, puff sleeves and big skirt is a favourite that I just finally fit into again after 2 children!), and a great M&S wrap dress that I've had for about 6 years. I find wrap dresses work well for me because they can give a bit depending on weight gain or loss. I'm not so comfortable yet with trusting myself to maintain my figure so I like clothes that are a little bit forgiving at the moment.

I need to investigate boots and wedges a bit more I think, as I love dresses, they make me feel smarter than jeans and are generally just lovely and swishy!

Thanks for the stylist suggestions. Will take a look. I'm near Brighton but can come up to London easily enough.

lemniscate Wed 25-Apr-12 17:34:08

I'll join the thunder of thigh club grin

Dollydowser Wed 25-Apr-12 18:32:05

Shotgun, its not help with finding our style we need, its help finding the clothes to fit that we know are our style. Its not easy finding tops or jackets that are nipped in at the waist. Often it means going up a size or even 2 sizes to fit the bust, then things are massive on the waist.

lemniscate, I love Hobbs shrugs. Hobbs was one of the shops Anna introduced me to. I used to love their shoes, but not so much lately. I've just ordered a blazer from Debenhams in my fav colour free delivery, free returns. We'll see how that fits! Thanks for reminding me about Debenhams smile

scotsgirl23 Wed 25-Apr-12 19:22:23

Dolly, I bought that two days ago! It's quite good for curves, colour is slightly more mulberry than it looks in the picture but still very nice!

Mombojombo Wed 25-Apr-12 19:35:57

Can I join? Can I? I'm a 5'3" size 12-1 with 32HH bosoms. The only blazer I've ever found that looks good on me was from jolly old primark. It's kinda like a tux jacket but more nipped at the waist. Bought it yeeeears ago though.

The main beef I have with clothes is tops & dresses gaping at the armpit and showing off a goodly portion of fetid grey nursing bra because I've had to go up a size or two to accommodate the chestage.

Dollydowser Wed 25-Apr-12 21:04:29

Ooh, have we started a quiche? I've always wanted to be in one of those!

Welcome mombojombo, more the merrier. No one ever stands a chance of glimpsing my armpit as I keep my bingo wings covered at all times. Plus I'm always freezing, and never without a thermal vest and a cardigan grin

scotsgirl what good taste you have!! Its good to hear that it stands a chance of fitting when it arrives, you never know with internet shopping.

I have emailed Anna to ask if she can point me in the right direction for a suitable casual blue blazer, I'll let you all know if I get a reply.

ShotgunNotDoingThePans Wed 25-Apr-12 23:04:12

Dolly, the reason I mentioned the style thing was that Lemniscate had asked how to go about finding a stylist.
I know it's difficult to find things that go in at the waist and fit the boobs - 's why I answered the OP!

Hope that clarifies things.

Dollydowser Thu 26-Apr-12 19:32:19

Sorry Shotgun, thanks for clarifying. How did you get on with the shopper, did you make any good finds, shops that were boob/waist friendly?

The only dress I have bought this year not from Pepperberry is this Next bird print Tea dress and I have to say it fits me even better than the Pepperberry Tea dress. I prefer the fluted sleeves and slight flare to the Next one. Its very flattering.

scotsgirl23 Thu 26-Apr-12 19:49:58

I would have to say that is one of my complaints with pepperberry, they often seem to make their dresses very straight through the hip - I have big boobs but I'm not top heavy, I have the ass to match! It's just the bit in the middle that is a couple of sizes smaller really.

I do like their shirts though. Although I came across somewhere else that does shirts for big norks so will be giving them a try soon too as they had more exciting colours
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Dollydowser Thu 26-Apr-12 19:57:06

Would that be Biubiu scotsgirl? I have been looking at some of the photos on FB, lots of the girls on Pepperberry say good things about them. I don't have nay need for a shirt unfortunately but would love some casual dresses for the daytime WITH SLEEVES!

scotsgirl23 Thu 26-Apr-12 20:26:31

yup that was the one, I generally live in dresses just because they are easier and a belt solves most fit issues but I have a couple of lovely suits and skirts that I would like to wear more often. I have a purple brav/pepper shirt that is really flattering

I love this colour

Dollydowser Thu 26-Apr-12 20:41:56

That shirt is gorgeous. We obviously have the same taste in colour! Have you worked out what size to buy?

Where else do you buy dresses from? Is this office wear or SRD?

lemniscate Thu 26-Apr-12 20:46:36

I like the tea dresses! I can recommend this dress as a really good fit for big boobs, narrow waists. I have it in a leopard print pattern but this is the current season version. I am a bit tempted, but only if I can find some good boots to go with it! I wear it with a vest underneath for work type situations and then without when I want a bit more va-va-voom!

lemniscate Thu 26-Apr-12 20:49:15

oh i like the dresses on the biubiu website too smile

scotsgirl23 Thu 26-Apr-12 20:56:27

I just live in dresses full stop but have a totally random assortment of brands! I actually have quite a lot of lucky with dorothy perkins, I find they are quite generous in the bust. I also have a few from French Connection and a couple from Hobbs, which can be a bit frumpy for me (I'm 25) but is occasionally lovely. Occasional success in Warehouse especially with skater type dresses and get a fair bit from Debenhams too.

DD is still a little young for SRD, more like softplay dress, but I live in dresses at the weekend too. I got this last week (and then went in to my local and found a black version with white trim which I grabbed too.) Looks unexciting but it is incredibly flattering on.

The bottom of my wardrobe is covered in belts though smile not necessarily big Gok belts, although I do have some, but quite a lot of thin ones that just pull things in a little.

scotsgirl23 Thu 26-Apr-12 20:58:38

oh, and I got this too, not so casual although I will wear it in summer, it's really pretty in reality.

lemniscate Thu 26-Apr-12 21:02:47

Ah, that Debenhams navy wool dress is one that I tried, loved and then didn't buy because I just don't have the right shoes for dresses! It is a lovely dress.

scotsgirl23 Thu 26-Apr-12 21:09:37

one problem I never have is a lack of shoes (eyes up the 5-shelf high, meter wide unit that house my ridiculous shoes collection which are all stored in plastic boxes so I have room.....)

Looks good with tan, purple and grey so far.

ShotgunNotDoingThePans Thu 26-Apr-12 21:44:34

That dress is lovely scotsgirl - looks to be sold out, unsurprisingly.

I've made a conscious effort to get more into dresses the past few years. I seem to find it easier in spring/summer though - haven't quite cracked winter dresses.

I agree Dorothy Perkins can be good. I did quite well at Warehouse last summer as well.

The best thing for me, with the stylist, was that she explained the best shapes for me. Apart from the obvious low necks, I discovered why anything that deliberately marks my waist doesn't suit - ialthough it's good for me to have an indication of a waist, with a thin loose belt, say, I can't do a fifties-style number, or anything a-line that flares from the waist.
I need either straight/pencil style, or something that fits around the abdomen then flares out at about hip level.

Have I bored you enough yet? I could go on...grin

BelleCurve Thu 26-Apr-12 21:49:04

Oh, I like Bibiu - never heard of them before. Actually done quite well for dresses in Tu at Sainsburys. The new-ish Gok range has a fabulous fitted dress in grey - I bought 2 of them!

ShotgunNotDoingThePans Thu 26-Apr-12 21:49:39

I bought this in Jigsaw the other week before the feckin heavens opened.
It's not the most curvacious shape, but I think it'll be good for warm days/holidays with a thin belt. And obviously with a decent pair of boobs filling it out!

BelleCurve Thu 26-Apr-12 21:51:52

But Shotgun, don't you sometime find that something which looks shapeless on the hangar works well as we don't need the dress to provide the shape?

I quite often go for tunic/60s style dresses as I don't want to emphasis too much e.g at work and it seems to work quite well.

ShotgunNotDoingThePans Thu 26-Apr-12 21:54:46

Actually, Jigsaw have quite a few possibles - including some with long sleeves.

scotsgirl23 Thu 26-Apr-12 22:02:19

I think how much shape you need in the "skirt" part maybe depends more on your stomach and where you carry excess weight. I tend to carry my stomach kind of low (even before baby!) so things with a dropped waist or which are very straight tend to cling around the hips and stomach and look ghastly. More fifties or a line shapes hide it without it being obvious - just looks like the dress IYSWIM? But my busty but slightly thicker waisted friend (still has a small waist) looks rubbish in a lot of my dresses even though we are pretty similar sizes overall.

My summer and winter wardrobes (for 80% of the time anyway) as pretty similar, just with the addition of thicker tights, boots, an extra shrug etc. But then I live in Scotland and have an office job, so I tend to invest more in really nice coats!

Dollydowser Thu 26-Apr-12 22:46:34

Lots of suggestion, great, keep em coming! I had looked at the Lady VIntage dresses after seeing a review here.

I am quite short waisted and massive norked so while I like to show I go in at the waist, I really don't want to emphasise my chest. The lower the neckline the better as it does minimise it somewhat. Despite the large boobs I don't really have cleavage.

Its interesting that despite the hourglass label, we all can wear slight variations, depending on height and probably how big a difference we have between waist and hip/bust. I am more Nigella (pre weightloss) and generally look better with no extra fabric anywhere type clothes. Although when I went to Pepperberry back in March when the new stock came out, I tried on all their dresses, and the last one I tried on (just for a laugh) was the only one I bought. bright stripe dress Sweetheart necklines suit me best I've decided.

Mombojombo Thu 26-Apr-12 23:05:22

Ooo the Biubiu dresses are lovely. I miss my dresses! Need easily accessible norkage due to boob monster DS so most of my frocks are shoved in a bin bag in the airing cupboard in storage til I'm no longer a dairy heifer!

Vast majority of my dresses (and I've got ruddy scores of 'em) are vintage, from a range of eras. I find with vintage clothes they're often handmade and therefore more...realistic and generous of boob and bum than the high street.

Dollydowser Thu 26-Apr-12 23:15:11

A list of potential boob friendly places
I haven't looked through them all, some are £££, and internet shopping can be a bit hit and miss. Or in my case miss and miss.

ShotgunNotDoingThePans Thu 26-Apr-12 23:21:50

I agree about the shaping Belle - shift-style dresses can be great as long as they're not too boxy or androgynous imo. Especially good for shorter styles where you don't want to over-egg the pudding!
And, yes, there do seem to be variations within the hourglass shape. I also have a slightly thick waist, but dress as an hourglass because my hips and shoulders are balanced and my bust is full. Narrow ribcage as well, so I suppose that adds to the curvy effect.
Too curvy atm though - can't wear my skinnies as I've tipped over the weight where I feel it's acceptable for me. Plus they're so tight they're just not comfortable. Hey ho.

Dollydowser Fri 27-Apr-12 22:03:44

Sorry lemniscate we seemed to have digressed from your original blazer question. I've been looking and still haven't found anything. I have got slightly sidetracked by dresses, and wondered if these might be boob friendly stripe and mauve or teal. I really like the mauve one (that isn't really mauve, more berry) think I might order it grin

BelleCurve Fri 27-Apr-12 22:19:44

I find dresses much more flattering tbh, but does anyone have any suggestions for casual weekend type tops that don't swamp?

I just need something to wear with jeans, running around in the park and I don't always feel like the nipped waist, 50s style!

Dolly, I looked through a few of those sites but the first few seem to have closed down. Surely there must be plenty of demand??

Dollydowser Fri 27-Apr-12 22:34:29

Yes I think the demand is there. Reading the feedback on Pepperberry FB, it seems that it is expensive to provide so many sizes for so few customers, compared to say H&M that can knock out stuff so cheaply. Some people do not want to pay what they consider over the odds for a something that they could get elsewhere for cheaper (though maybe not such a good fit). The stripe dress I bought from there reminded me of my wedding dress ie made to measure.
As for casual tops, sorry I am stumped. I have a Boden scoop neck top on today but it pulls across the bust, not ideal. I have bought a sweetheart neckline T shirt from Kettlewell (in preparation for the summer!) but again it was ££. It was a really good fit though. I have one very old M&S sweetheart neckline jersey top that fits well, but all their tops now seem very wide cut. Anyone else got ideas for where to buy some staple tops that flatter and don't pull?

scotsgirl23 Fri 27-Apr-12 22:45:58

I think Pepperberry sometimes gets a hard rep for being overpriced or using "cheap" fabrics when I can completely see why it would be expensive to produce their clothes - non-standard patterns and sizing, fewer shops, small customer base. They just can't churn things out at New Look or Dorothy Perkins prices.

scotsgirl23 Fri 27-Apr-12 22:47:05

Oh, tops, I have had a fair bit of luck with french connection. I have a few lovely cowl (but quite low) soft jersey tops from there which are very flattering.

ShotgunNotDoingThePans Fri 27-Apr-12 23:59:32

I like the draped tops that are around atm. Had a couple fromlast summer (H&M and Monsoon) and have now bought another from Jigsaw.

I like them because they give a hint of shapeliness without clinging to every curve, which you don't always feel up to/doesn't always seem appropriate.

I also love a fitted vest under a knot-front or cropped cardi. And puffed sleeves are a booby girl's friend.

lemniscate Sat 28-Apr-12 08:03:05

Don't worry about getting sidetracked from blazers - this is all very useful!

I too struggle with tops. As I said, I only have 7 that suit so just about get through a week! Three from Hobbs, two from Monsoon, one from New Look and one from Tesco! I cannot wear anything floaty as I look enormous, so it's all fairly form-fitting cotton lycra here. Tesco is worth a look for a few cheap and cheerful options - most of it hideous but there are one or two gems and they seem to be cut for slightly bigger boobs. As I mentioned earlier I have 2 lovely summer dresses from Tesco.

I agree with Shotgun that puff sleeves are you friend. I don't like too many gathers or floatiness over the boobs (although gentle cowl neck is ok). I find it needs to be quite sleek and fitted, but puff sleeves are a way to add a bit of shape and flounce! Having said that, I only have one puff sleeve top (the Tesco one) because most of the ones I see have high necks in a prim, Victorian kind of style which look appalling on me. The Tesco one is puff sleeves with a big scoop neck - perfect!

ShotgunNotDoingThePans Sat 28-Apr-12 08:28:23

Yes puffed sleeves and scooped neck = tick. The sleeves add balance y making the shoulders look a bit wider, and also distract a bit from the promontories in the way a smooth expanse of jersey can sometimes feel too revealing.
I also like a blouse with said sleeves (short) with a feminine, fitted shape and rounded collar. The top buttons have to be open with a cami under obv!

scotsgirl23 Sat 28-Apr-12 08:31:44

I think tops depend hugely on the state of your stomach to be honest. When I was a bit slimmer then fitted tops looked awesome but at the moment, not so pretty. But it's quite hard to find tops that are not too clingy but also don't add loads of bulk. But when I am wearing tops it tends to be with skirts so more often than not i wear something a little drapey at the front to cover tummy, but tucked in to a skirt (carefully) so you can still see my outline.

(this is why I have a personal training session this morning!)

scotsgirl23 Sat 28-Apr-12 08:32:41

Oh and yes yes yes to the puffed sleeves. Even (shock) shoulder pads in the right top can accentuate the waist.

lemniscate Sat 28-Apr-12 08:40:33

I bought a beautiful jumper in the sale at French Connection - puffed sleeves with shoulder pads too smile It's a little bit high necked for me really though so I do wear it but with a big pendant necklace to break up my boob shelf a bit, but I have an 18 month old who loves fiddling with jewellery so can only wear it when she's in bed!

In fact, I don't know why I'm bothering too much about clothes at the moment - she is at the age where she just smears my clothes in snot within 3 minutes of me getting dressed in the morning hmm

scotsgirl23 Sat 28-Apr-12 08:44:41

I have this top (not sure if this link will work as it's secret sale) in 3 colours. Looks unexciting but really nice on me secretsales.com/details/Fast-Delicious-Top-in-Black-296755/?col=253&gender=women&page=9

Don't own buy might try these too
dress
top

scotsgirl23 Sat 28-Apr-12 08:45:16

*but might try, ffs, wonky typing!

BelleCurve Sat 28-Apr-12 14:06:57

Really? puffed sleeves? I always thought they were the work of the devil, but may have to re-consider!

Any more links to good tops?

BelleCurve Sat 28-Apr-12 14:08:09

I have this www.phase-eight.co.uk/fcp/product/fashion//Carla-Cowl-Neck-Top/300859050 in other colours, but you do have to be careful as it is quite clingy around the middle.

scotsgirl23 Sat 28-Apr-12 14:50:56

I love that, the green is really pretty too.

I quite like this

ShotgunNotDoingThePans Sat 28-Apr-12 15:52:58

This has potential although might be too loose for some.

ShotgunNotDoingThePans Sat 28-Apr-12 15:55:14

And I bought this in pink the other week buy haven't worn it yet due to this feckin weather.

WannaBeWildCosMyLifesSoTame Sat 28-Apr-12 18:25:37

Another member for the size 14/not very tall/big boobs club signing in here smile

I recently got a jersey blazer from Gap that I'm really pleased with. I've never found one that suited me before but I think it's the jersey that's the key - it fits like a cardigan or t-shirt but with the shape and smarter-ness of a jacket. I'm planning to wear it with pushed up sleeves over a Breton top of similar a la stylish ladies on fashion blogs and as it is long enough to cover my bum, with dark skinny jeans or chinos and ballet pumps or Converse.

lemniscate Sat 28-Apr-12 21:17:44

Wannabe - funny you should mention a jersey blazer, because I tried this in New Look today and think I'll go back and get it. Felt more like a cardigan on, but with the smartness of a blazer. Didn't see it in the coral colour, but I prefer the navy because of the piping.

HokeyCokeyPigInaPokey Sat 28-Apr-12 21:44:07

I'm a G cup and a i love a blazer, most of mine are from Boden and got a lovely one in H&M recently - they have lots in at the moment.

Bashfulblue Sat 28-Apr-12 21:57:40

Ooh sorry to crash your thread, but I've been looking for a conversation like this for years. V similar size to the rest of you - 14 on top, edging back towards 14 on the bottom, hourglass waist and horrible thighs. And 5'7". I had a fantastic shopping spree this week at H&M, where they have all sorts of flattering tops and dresses at really good prices. Haven't bought a thing this year so I feel loads better for it. I looked at every blazer/jacket in the shop and came to the same conclusion - shortish with a nipped in waist has got to be the way forward. But I couldn't find one.

Can I join in?

Gingefringe Sat 28-Apr-12 23:05:52

I'm size 14, 34FF and found the Zara jersey blazer in navy (size L) surprisingly flattering and very slimming. Don't normally buy Zara as their stuff is so small but I was very pleased with this one.

scotsgirl23 Sat 28-Apr-12 23:23:43

Might have to check out Zara, it's only round the corner from me. I gave up on it a long time ago as I found everything too straight up and down for me previously!

Dollydowser Sat 28-Apr-12 23:30:25

I bought and returned the Zara blazer as it couldn't cope with my 32Js, the collar kept unfurling.

Bashfulblue Sat 28-Apr-12 23:52:40

I do think jersey is the answer to almost everything - much more flattering on the bosom and clings where it should. No one ever seems to realise how hard it is to dress this kind of figure without looking like a giant barrel.

lemniscate Sun 29-Apr-12 06:45:26

That was what was nice about the fabric of the New Look blazer - it was thick enough that it didn't show any bulges but form fitting enough not to gape. I didn't buy it straight away because I was a bit concerned that at £25 it might not last very long, but then at £25 I probably shouldn't care if it doesn't go beyond this summer, should I? smile

Up ludicrously early for some reason today, despite the rest of my family being sound asleep.

I bought this last night, I hope it's good (but free delivery and returns at the moment so worth a punt)

I'm also going to investigate Duo Boots properly smile

Born2BRiiiled Sun 29-Apr-12 07:38:30

Can I be in your gang too? It shouldn't be this hard should it? It's quite a nice figure to have really.
I started trying on shift dresses with sleeves which I would normally avoid, and adding a thin belt, and they work out nicely for work. Will find a link.

Born2BRiiiled Sun 29-Apr-12 07:46:45
Born2BRiiiled Sun 29-Apr-12 07:51:58

I have shoes like this. They look much nicer on, are very comfortable for all day, and add a bit of height.

ShotgunNotDoingThePans Sun 29-Apr-12 09:22:13

Born2B it is a nice figure to have! It's considered an indication of genetic health and fertility, and it's the shape most people are aiming to emulate when they dress themselves. It's also quite rare (8% in America - don't know what the stats are in the UK), which I suppose is why it can be hard to find the right clothes. The shops are busy stocking up for the ubiquitous apples and pears!
I think a major part of the battle is knowing the shapes that suit (which everyone here seems to), and then it's a matter of trai ing your eye to spot things quickly when you're shopping.
This book is pretty good, despite the naff title. It gives a good breakdown of the different shapes and shows clear examples.
Re. shoes; I must admit, I do tend to cop out and go for flats, although some form of heel is much more flattering. I think I've pretty much spent my life wearing them in the day, so feel large and awkward, or 'dressed up' in them now. Must make finding decent ones for day a resolution, though - I do sometimes find myself feeling rather dumpy!

lemniscate Sun 29-Apr-12 09:53:09

I tried this dress yesterday too. It was lovely, although the 14 was actually a bit big on top! I am wearing a 34H at the moment but have actually lost a bit of weight recently incl 5cm off my boobs and think when refitted that I will probably be around a 34FF/G (random guess!). So this dress should look good on a big cup. I think it is also quite generously sized - I am just dropping to 14 from 16 on my bottom half and it fitted me well on the hips so I think it's a big 14 and a 12 might fit some of your true 14s much better. It fitted in all the right places smile

The town nearest to me only has M & Co and New Look and that is it, so my regular choice is very limited! But I am quite close to Brighton so when I can find a spare afternoon I will be able head down to a wide range of good shops smile I might even brave H&M (whenever I do, I find something, but I can rarely bear entering the Brighton shop!)

Can I join please? Am a short arse at 5' 2, a size 12 on the bottom and 12-14 on top.

I find that jersey dresses from The White Company are good for me (although some of them could do with being a bit shorter) and they are v good quality. They are mostly cut to skim across the bust then tighten in at the waist and then flare out over hips. Can be had for about 50 squid in sales and are worth every penny.

If you are rich - try Vivienne Westwood jersey dresses. They look like nothing on the hanger but some of them are very flattering. They can be hit and miss though, so be prepared to try several. I love her skirts for work too and her drapey tops (although I only have one of those).

Tops are really difficult. M&S Limited Collection used to do a basic scoop neck t-shirt in good quality cotton and with different sleeve lengths. They were fantastic for basics - white/black/navy/grey. Unfortunately they no longer do them and I can't find anything else anywhere near as good to replace them.

Hobbs can be okay but their sizing varies enormously - indeed, I bought a jersey cowl neck top there recently and had to buy a large as the medium was so clingy. Have had a couple of scoop neck striped t-shirts from there in the past though in a medium and they are v good - excellent quality. Go for the thicker ones there, as the thin jersey ones are really clingy and unflattering.

The best jacket I possess was from Linea at House of Fraser but again they are v hit and miss. Hobbs sales are also good and they sometimes have nice ones - I have a quite casual navy one that has straps and buttons at the back so that you can nip it in and wear it open but quite tight at the back.

Dollydowser Sun 29-Apr-12 12:21:50

Hi Remus, have read your S&B tips in the past, you are more than welcome. I agree that tops are the hardest to find. I have phoned Pepperberry and had a moan, why are all their tops either tunic style or sleeveless? I would love to try some VW clothes, where to go to try them on?

lemniscate, how low is the neckline of your new dress? It look high in the photo, just the sort of neckline that makes me look v matronly! Well done on the weight loss btw.

Haven't seen that book before shotgun, thanks for drawing it to our attention, its always good to get another perspective. I swear by Trinny and Suzannah Shape Bible, I know not everyone does, but I have yet to meet anyone who can't identify their body shape in it. I think their basic shapes/styles for clothes is spot on (but don't always like their choice of clothes for the people in the book).

I can do sleeves that are a little bit puffy (not much) but definitely can't do cowl neck and sleeveless. I agree with someone here (sorry can't find the post now) who said they can't do with any excess fabric.

amillionyears Sun 29-Apr-12 12:37:34

Thanks for all these lovely ideas.I have got big boobs completely out of proportion to the rest of me.I have been ecstatic this year beacause i have found a coat/mac that comfortably fits all over. Not everyones to everyones taste im sure.Bought it in a size bigger that i normally buy for tops, but it fits lovely. New look 1062/2391/703/33

Bashfulblue Sun 29-Apr-12 13:06:58

I'm having serious clothing envy over some of these things - especially some of the dresses, which are gorgeous! I've been wearing jeans most of my life, and have finally reluctantly come round to the fact that I look a million times better in an a-line skirt or wrappy style dress. Does anyone have good jeans tips for days (like today) when I can't bear to get my legs out?

I agree that everyone here seems really clued up on how to dress - if you ever watched Trinny and Susannah you will have seen that's actually pretty rare. It is supposed to be an enviable shape to have, but don't you find other women mostly seem to want either straight up and down figures or a kind of stick with boobs look?

For tops, seriously look in H&M. V flattering scoop neck basic long sleeve tops and lots of fitted ones, all v v affordable.

ShotgunNotDoingThePans Sun 29-Apr-12 13:11:47

I do like that m&co dress - had one v similar from Dotty P's last Christmas and got loads of compliments. Nice length as well - that's another one of my bugbears - the assumption that we all want to hide our legs.
Us hourglasses are lucky enough to have shapely legs and slim ankles, so anything below the knee looks a) frumpy and b) expands the width of the calf.

Agree with VW - I think we have her to thank for that clingy/drapey style that's become popular now - it's finally filtered down. Isabel Oliver does similar, cheaper versions - but they seem to crop up everywhere now.

I've only ever seen VW in the likes of Selfridges/Harvey Nicks, but I live in a pretty rubbish place for shopping. Plus as an SAHM I couldn't justify spending £££, so tend to go for high street.

Kettlewell Colours' tops look to show potential, but I haven't tried them, so can't conment on shape or quality.

Dollydowser Sun 29-Apr-12 15:11:52

I have this wrap cardi from Kettlewell. It works well for me because it gives a flattering deep V, brings me in at the waist and then the dangly ties hide any tummy bulge. It has washed and worn very well, no bobbling. I have just bought this in raspberry which has the perfect neckline for me and the sleeves are perfect for covering my bingo wings. Only complaint is that its a little bit long (a couple of inches) and too expensive for a T shirt but as I am so short of clothes I would rather have one perfect top than half a dozen cheap but not perfect.

Another perfect for me tie cardy is this Boden one which fits beautifully. Boring colours though, I got useful navy.

lemniscate Sun 29-Apr-12 23:08:05

I'm a bit nervous about the neckline on the dress, will report back when it's here!

Remus - I have a Limited Collection navy scoop neck top, and it's wonderful. So flattering and such good quality. I still look in M&S every time I go in there just in case they do them again. It's still in my wardrobe but has a massive olive oil stain on it that I just can't get out sad Anyone got any top tips on removing oil so I can save it? It is one of my favourite tops of all time, which is ridiculous given it is just a plain navy scoop top!

ShotgunNotDoingThePans Sun 29-Apr-12 23:20:11

I've had success with plain ol' Fairy Liquid - apply to the dry garment and wash as normal. Or those little bottles (Beckman's? Dylon?) for individual stains are pretty good - as is Travel Wash from the tube.
I threw out loads of decent clothes over the years before discovering you could actually dissolve the oil stain!

ShotgunNotDoingThePans Sun 29-Apr-12 23:30:27

A couple of bargainous possibles at M&Co: this...

ShotgunNotDoingThePans Sun 29-Apr-12 23:33:13

...and this - has an Abigail's Party look that I find strangely appealing smile.

Dollydowser Mon 30-Apr-12 00:08:56

I like the Abigail's party dress alot Shotgun, its got the narrow band around the ribs like my Next bird dress. Perfect for showing off an hourglass's narrowest bit, yet softly draping on bits I like to disguise- arms and tubby.

lemniscate Tue 01-May-12 17:24:04

Just reporting back on this dress which arrived this morning.

It's lovely! The description lies about it being yellow - it's actually orange and grey. But it fits brilliantly and the neckline is just right. It shows my cleavage but unlike with many wrap dresses I'm not worried about my bra showing. It skims my hips and tummy nicely, finishes right at my knees (I'm 5ft6) and the belt gives my waist definition. Miraculously, it is the perfect fit for me right now! So I'd definitely recommend it as worth a try.

It also has that nice thing of being smart enough for a meal out (am going to wear it on Sat when DH and I are going out, as I have the perfect pair of pale tan patent court shoes with gold heels to go with it!) but simple enough that it would work well during the day. I think a pair of wedges for day time would be perfect so going to try and find some. Saw a simple grey pair in Clarks today that would be ideal but they didn't have my size.

Dollydowser Tue 01-May-12 19:41:03

Glad your dress is a good fit. Mine was awful!

Lemniscate - perhaps we should write them an email demanding to know why they no longer do them!

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