OK. So i have detached the bow and thought that i would go and look in a fabric shop for some suitable colours in a similar fabric to place under the bust. Have found pair of shoes which are cream/orange and brown, so all set.... x

yes, tiara on wedding guest definitely bad form! (have seen it though)

I have an Indian friend who used to wear saris to weddings and posh functions - it was the only time she wore them in the UK - and one of her "friends" was really angry that she wore a lovely sari, because she felt upstaged by it. The sari wasn't even white/cream (funeral colours) but because it had lots of gold thread and was bright and bold, the bride (not Indian) was well pissed off.

So - yes, it matters to some brides and that ought to be taken into considerations, regardless of how you personally felt about it at your own wedding. I agree, I couldn't have given a toss if someone was wearing white/cream at mine, there was no way it was going to out-do my dress - but I'd never wear it to someone else's wedding, just in case.

I agree with the tiara bit OTT imo and the brides wear only...

I agree, wedding outfit shopping is definitely a nightmare! and the weather doesn't help either.

I just automatically rule out any cream/white/ivory dresses when I'm looking so I can't be tempted!

Any other occasion a cream dress is FINE but as you can't know in advance if the bride will be bothered by it or not I would rather err on the side of caution and not put her to the test. Some brides are stressed by little details like that and I wouldn't want to cause even the smallest moment for a bride.

At my wedding I don't remember anyone wearing a cream dress, no it wouldn't have bothered me but I would have noticed and considered it a bit thoughtless.

Plus white/cream is so angelic and fresh, it is always a head turner especially in a pretty dress, even if it's just broderie anglaise rather than satin and silk. So it's still not how wedding-y or sparkly the dress is or not, the colour cream just sort of gatecrashing the bride's arena.

It's the same as wearing a tiara to a wedding IMO. Bride's territory, ie people back off!

IMHO

I wouldn't have been bothered if any guests wore cream to my wedding. In fact I have no idea what the guests wore..

It was my wedding and was all about me and (now) dh sealing our relationship. Whoever came was a bonus and I really didn't have any issues over dress.

Ever wondered: what if the guest could only find a cream dress that suited them or they liked..?

I can find wedding outfit shopping a nighmare as you never know what the weather will be, needs to be something comfortable as worn all day etc...I found the dress I wore in my 1st shopping trip and was amazed. Gave me time to "dress" the outfit up.

Surley the fact I was there as a friends mattered more than what I wore..?

We differ there then shhh because IMO, out of all the colours and patterns you could possibly choose as a wedding guest, why choose the ONE tone ie white which is 99% likely the same colour that the bride will be wearing?

Why not let the bride be the only one in a cream dress?

What if EVERY female guest at a wedding was wearing a cream dress, (which if everyone tacted like you do would be a distinct possibility). Don't you think it might be a bit harder to tell who the bride was then?

What if you friend the bride had chosen a shorter rather than a traditional cream dress (like one of my friends did? ) If I was a bride and most of my female friends turned up wearing cream dresses I would definitely be miffed, and I would be very surprised if your mate the bride wasn't too.

westernbelle,can't see how a guest wearing white/cream can detract from the bride .

As I said before, the wedding I attended saw a few wearing cream, I never felt anyone think "" and in pictures (which we took some..group girls pics etc) its very eay to tell who is the bride..

Its a colour...imo, being miffed at someone wearing cream is like asking guests to wear co'ordinating clothing..ie Black&white etc

would have tried to help but your linked page has gone.

Second the bright colour accessories though, as I suggested above.

Here's how: detach the front bow - it's probably stitched on by a few threads, carefully unpick and you can put it back on afterwards.

Replace with a wide belt or silk scarf tied in a bow at the back. Something bright would look good ie fuschia or lime. Either that or black, plus coordinating accessories.

The advantage of lime/fuschia is that it becomes the focal point of the outfit not the cream dress which is quite bridal particularly in a 60's kind of way, if it were teamed with small white gloves and pillbox hat with veil.

You could style your dress as a guest up with white gloves though, provided sash/handbag/hat/shoes are all punchy enough. Would look tres chic and really different if you can carry it off