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"You are dressed like a 50 year old" (I'm a young 37)

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MorelloKisses · 23/01/2017 19:55

A little bit of guidance needed I think. Thank you in advance.

I am a young looking 37, 5ft 6, slim, I've just had another little push with clothes and beauty routine, got a pretty great haircut and colour (dark brown, graduated bob). I work in a very corporate environment and like to wear really classic things to work.

Today I had the plum coloured Hobbs Coleta dress on, with some black LK benet Stila shoes and some grey opaque tights. Just one necklace to accessorise and this is probably where it went wrong, I had this looped round 3 times, so not worn long.

In my head I was channeling my inner Diane Lockhart (who admittedly is 50 plus), but this comment this morning had really thrown me off, and I just felt a bit shit.

Can you point me to some accessories that will look impeccable, not granny?

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Pistachiois50pmore · 23/01/2017 20:08

Your outfit looks totally fine and the person was a bit rude! Maybe they thought the necklace looked like a classic pearl necklace worn that short, but really, don't listen to them. If it was a man ESPECIALLY don't listen to them.

MorelloKisses · 23/01/2017 20:09

It was a bit rude...but I know it wasn't meant that way. The comment was from a rather lovely woman, who I fear might have spoken a thought outloud before engaging brain!

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PNGirl · 23/01/2017 20:12

This person was extremely rude. That said that is a lot of upper-body on a dress what with long sleeves and a high neck so I can see that a short necklace and opaque tights might have looked quite stiff.

Accessories wise I'm not sure though. A longer necklace or a bracelet might be enough.

wobblywonderwoman · 23/01/2017 20:14

I think that sounds gorgeous but I see a lot of women at work wearing the large pendants (with a coin or something) that might make it a bit more on trend but honestly, I would love to have the figure to wear that dress Flowers

WeeM · 23/01/2017 20:21

Maybe more of a statement chunky necklace would give it a younger look. It's a lovely dress though!

Bravas · 23/01/2017 20:24

I'm the same age as you and also recently had similar thoughts and comments (thanks mum). I think its a tricky age and have been feeling a little lost.

I did a big shop in Zara and got some gorgeous tops and blouses that I think have brought my suits more up to date. Quality wise they aren't amazing but look nice with good quality suits.

Have a look on Pinterest for ideas too. I think your dress is lovely but perhaps a different necklace. The woman was rude though, I bet she is wishing she engaged brain before mouth.

Studyinghell · 23/01/2017 20:25

I'd say it wasn't the pearls, it was grey tights Blush

MorelloKisses · 23/01/2017 20:27

studying that is interesting because when I first got dressed, I put black on, and then changed, thinking the grey was more 'chic'

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Highalert · 23/01/2017 20:28

You think 50 year olds dress like grannys?

BestIsWest · 23/01/2017 20:29

Bit ageist OP. How does a 50 year old dress? Badly? Frumpily? Well?

Surreyblah · 23/01/2017 20:31

How rude!

MorelloKisses · 23/01/2017 20:32

Ok, I'm sorry for ageist....it wasn't exactly me though, it was someone telling me I was dressed too old for my age, they went in to say that they would expect so,etching a bit more funky

I wasn't trying to be age discriminatory, my style icon was more mature than me, it is just that the comment was not meant as a compliment

Sorry

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MollyHuaCha · 23/01/2017 20:32

Absolutely love that dress!!

SinglePringle · 23/01/2017 20:33

I get you are in a corporate environment but the dress is a tad on the boring side. Diane Lockheart would wear it with a fabulous piece if clearly very expensive jewellery!

I'd go for sheer black tights and a thin heeled high stiletto (also black) to up the 'vamp' factor.

MorelloKisses · 23/01/2017 20:33

Now I feel worse than when I was commented in this mornin...

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Whisky2014 · 23/01/2017 20:34

Grey tights? I think thats the issue

MorelloKisses · 23/01/2017 20:35

Me shoes are very very high stiletto heels

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meringue33 · 23/01/2017 20:35

I don't think there is anything wrong with dressing a bit older for the workplace, equals more age, gravitas and experience, ergo better jobs and pay. Love that dress (and Diane Lockhart).

notMarlene · 23/01/2017 20:37

It was very rude of her, yes. She has probably done you a favour though. Is the new hair cut / new colour a big change from how it was before?

There is a fine line between 'really classic' which can be beautifully chic and 'very conservative' which rarely can. If your hair was somehow softer before the new cut/colour then that might mean you need to tweak some outfits that worked before a bit now. Grey tights and short pearls was probably the culprit here. Either might have been ok. Tights probably the worst offender, although I'd like 'em with coloured shoes.

ButteredToastAndStrawberryJam · 23/01/2017 20:38

FGS, who says something like that. Might be a case of the ye olde green eyed monster.

RogueStar01 · 23/01/2017 20:39

that's a nice outfit, i ummed and ahhed over buying this dress but already have too many similar ones as they are so flexible - i agree i reckon it could only be the necklace that was out, I would wear grey and purple together and think they looked nice. I wouldn't personally worry about it.

ScarletForYa · 23/01/2017 20:41

The necklace is hickey, sorry OP.

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MorelloKisses · 23/01/2017 20:42

Hickey?

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Teaholic · 23/01/2017 20:45

I love Diane Lockhart's outfits on suits. She always looks fantastic. I also like the dress you linked to.

I am in my forties but I think if you're slim then well-fitting classic clothes are very flattering and it's not about being 'daring' necessarily. Daring is linked with dressing young but I was always more motivated to look good.
Of course 'good' is subjective.

Chewbecca · 23/01/2017 20:47

I like grey tights, I reckon they'd look good with that dress.
Not sure at all about the necklace though with such a classic dress. I think a modern pendant would make all the difference.

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