Uncomfortable bra

[indigoteeshirt]

I've spent years uncomfortable wearing bras and now it's verging on phobic. I've been properly fitted at R&B and even had made to measure. The first bra was great but have not been able to repeat the experience. I've modified bras, tried making them. My life is being blighted by having to wear them and I have to wear them - size 36H. It's like having to wear ill-fitting shoes all the time.

Any words of wisdom would be very welcome. I feel either angry or depressed. This has been going for decades and now it is having a serious impact on my life.

[MrsNextDoor]

Could you consider a breast reduction? It sounds terrible! I have a small bust and hate bras...so I can imagine the horror of NEEDING one and it being uncomfortable! I only wear one for special occasions so you have my sympathy/

[marriednotdead]

I'm sorry you've been suffering so much

Please can you tell me what the specific issues are with your bras? Where do they make you uncomfortable?
I suspect that the styles you've had have not suited your body shape, size is only a start point, in the same way it is with the shoes as you have referenced.
Whereabouts are you based, are you able to visit a Bravissimo store?

Sorry about the many questions but I need more info in order to help!

[indigoteeshirt]

Thanks so much for your responses. Mrsnextdoor : have made two appointments but cancelled; it's a huge undertaking. Now I'm about to make another in the event the surgeon can give me some reassurance. It would be private. My health authority does support reductions.

marriednotdead : I've seen your posts and they've been really informative. I'm going to try Bravissimo tomorrow. I've a fibrocystic breast and nerve damage located under my left arm and this complicates matters. So the discomfort is exacerbated by shallow bands and underwires that rest on the exact spot where there is tenderness. However under wires, I've read on the threads, seem to be more foregiving so willing to give them another chance. I've found M&S 'full cup embroidered' meets my criteria and have ordered a smaller back size.

However, I wonder what might be the alternatives. Perhaps making camisole tops instead.

[MrsNextDoor]

Camisoles could work if they were made of stretch fabric....with nice broad straps.

[BeccaMumsnet]

Hi indigoteeshirt - we're just going to pop this over to a more appropriate topic so you can get the best response.

[torwen]

Have a look at breastnest camisoles they are from US but will send to UK , they are very comfortable.

[indigoteeshirt]

I checked them out on Amazon USA -some good alternatives as well as Breastnest. Great link thanks.