I'm scared of people seeing the new me

(64 Posts)
NordicHousewife Sun 05-Jan-14 22:42:43

Have you reinvented your fashion style and how did people react? After my DC I gained weight and became a little frumpy looking. I have had a big shopping spree over the sales and have bought quite a lot, enough to ditch my frumpy clothes and reinvent my style a bit.
I will be doing the school run for the first time tomorrow and I'm a little terrified of the other mums seeing me in totally new outfits, scared they will think I am making a fool of myself.

RockMummy Mon 06-Jan-14 16:08:57

Well done Nordic. Glad you stuck with it and didn't bottle out. You deserve to look fantastic and people need to deal with their own insecurities rather than project them on to you!

lilaloves Mon 06-Jan-14 16:12:19

Nordic, I Don't know about looking lovely but you certainly sound lovely

rookiemater Mon 06-Jan-14 16:21:04

Goodness I'm bemused by all these people that make comments on what one is wearing on the school run. Usually I'm in my cycling gear, having pelted it from work to make it there in time.

I may have gone so far as "You look nice" or "That jacket looks cosy" and I get the odd comment when I wear my pink coat "Good to see a bright colour in winter" but that's about it - I'd fall over in shock if someone mentioned if I was wearing lipstick or not.

See to me the key thing is that most people don't notice or care what you wear. I'll make a positive remark if I see something I like and do occasionally ask where people got things, but anyone remarking negatively about your clothes and appearances are the ones with the issue - not you.

Anyway glad the school run went well.

Curioustiger Mon 06-Jan-14 16:26:08

I went back to work a stone lighter and with an entirely new wardrobe. I am hugely confident ... Sometimes over confident!... And even I felt conspicuous. You just have to style it out at first. Then it very quickly becomes the norm. Then you won't be able to believe the way you used to dress (eg in my case all in black! Every day!)

tuggle Mon 06-Jan-14 16:32:24

As someone who cares too much about what others think of me, I say do what makes you feel good.

I do not have wardrobes and wardrobes of clothes or dress in up to the minute fashion. However, I make an effort even for the school run. It makes me feel confident when my hair and make up look good.

I am sure you will receive compliments. Do not worry about the mother(s) who choose to say nothing there is always one.

JimmyCorkhill Mon 06-Jan-14 18:13:37

I wore make up to do the pre school run today because of you Nordic and I even reapplied my lipgloss before collecting DD at 3pm grin

NordicHousewife Mon 06-Jan-14 18:32:51

Rock You're right, people do need to deal with their own insecurities rather than project them on to me, I have enough of my own already grin

Curious You've hit the nail on the head there, I felt very conspicuous indeed.

Rookie I do a double pick up and drop off at two places so there is always hanging about to be done at the second one, waiting for the gates to open. Whilst we are all hanging around waiting usually there is nothing more than chit chat and that is when there are comments about a new coat or shoes, I think mostly people are just passing the time.

Jimmy grin I bet you looked fab, good on you!

NordicHousewife Mon 06-Jan-14 18:33:28

And Lila, thanks!

OBehaveMaeve Mon 06-Jan-14 18:40:48

introduce the items one at a time!

But honestly, good for you. I'd just say "it was about time I got some new outfits!"

OBehaveMaeve Mon 06-Jan-14 18:41:42

I don't know how some people pick their friends! I'm always delighted when my friends emerge like little butterflies from baby-induced frumpery! I love it.

NordicHousewife Mon 06-Jan-14 18:46:21

TBH none of them are friends, just school run acquaintances. They don't really know me at all, think my very few friends won't bat an eyelid!

TripTrapTripTrapOverTheBridge Mon 06-Jan-14 19:08:05

Rather than reinventing myself I'm scared of being myself and wearing what I did before life getting shit got to me!

JimmyCorkhill Mon 06-Jan-14 19:48:12

I'm always delighted when my friends emerge like little butterflies from baby-induced frumpery!

I love this image grin

Rubybrazilianwax Mon 06-Jan-14 21:50:34

You walk into that playground, swish your hair and say 'its because I'm worth it'. Well maybe not quite but seriously don't give anyone negative a second thought. I love to see someone in something nice and always compliment people. Its also a good conversation starter.

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