A dress to wear to court

(78 Posts)
ProtectiveMother Thu 10-Oct-13 07:41:10

A long sleeved, knee length dress please ladies to go with navy low heeled court shoes. I am quite tall so if you know of specific tall brands, even better!

Not too expensive. I'd like to spend £50 or under. Floral pattern ok or... plain... what colours look good with navy shoes?

I don't think it should be too fashionable as I need to look responsible iyswim. It's a family court case and I am the person who is telling the truth so it should look honourable and smart. Not too mumsy though as I hate that look and want to wear it again.

A shirt dress possibly?

Thanks!!!!!! I want to feel comfortable and look my best as my future is going to be decided for me :-(

RadioSilence Sat 12-Oct-13 11:19:08

This one has short sleeves so is not exactly what you were after but is really flattering and very cheap.

www.matalan.co.uk/womens/shop-by-category/dresses/s2531435/fit-and-flare-dress

ProtectiveMother Thu 17-Oct-13 18:26:12

Hello All!

Well an update here really and I'm hoping some of you have some more suggestions for me as the date is upcoming! I still have time to do online orders so please suggest!

The good news is that I now have a pair of suitable black court shoes that fit! Yay! Nice dressy kitten heel.

I have been down some dress cul de sacs though. Bought a pink one from South Tall and realised I def didnt want a pink one. Bought a Phase Eight one on eBay thinking it looked the right length. No. It's really short on me! Just arrived today and am in a panic because I'm unwell and don't want to go around any more shops!

So please if anyone of you knows of a nice dress for me... Light as a Breeze you're right that with Tall stores, the only way is online and so far your Boden suggestion is the best and I may order this. Do you know if their sizes come up big or small in the Taller ranges? I am between a 10 and a 12 at the minute so not sure if I need to order a 10 or a 12. Thank you.

ProtectiveMother Thu 17-Oct-13 18:34:00

Also... Especially to the barristers amongst you... ;-) What colours are acceptable for court? Is it only black, navy and grey or is cobalt blue or plum an option (with black of course.)

I REALLY appreciate all of your help. Makes me realise how few clothes I have that fit me properly!

So to recap: I would simply like a modest and sensible dress. I am prepared to pay around £70 or even more to get one I like that might be suitable for someone tall. It should be on or below the knee. A pencil dress would be ok perhaps, a plain shift dress maybe but then I need to find something to wear with it. Yes plain shift dress ok as I've seen some smart cardigans. Grey prob best for a shift dress. A 3/4 or long sleeved shirt or structured dress is a great idea once it's smart and long enough. Prob navy or berry colour.

Black is totally fine as well. As are charcoal and even dark brown.

Pretty please with sugar on top find me some tall options! :-)

babybarrister Thu 17-Oct-13 19:08:41

It is only the barristers who have to wear black or grey

LightasaBreeze Thu 17-Oct-13 19:25:44

Boden is probably similar to M&S and Next sizes. I usually order a couple of sizes as I am in between 12 and 14. I would see if there's a voucher code for free delivery and returns and hopefully money off and order both sizes if you haven't got much time. Also worth reading all the reviews to get an idea. Also it has the quite useful garment measurements.

I am 5' 10 and find their long just right so depends how tall you are.

Code A499 looks like it give a discount depending on how many items you get and free delivery but not free returns

Laska42 Thu 17-Oct-13 19:36:29

this is too expensive but if its really, really vital you look utterly smart and together , it may be worth the extra ££s

Laska42 Thu 17-Oct-13 19:45:47

a navy jacket so cheap
or
navy dress
matching jacket
Debenhams code for an extra 10% is VF34 ends this weekend

Laska42 Thu 17-Oct-13 20:03:46

phase eight with that blue jacket above from Debenhams?

ProtectiveMother Thu 17-Oct-13 20:56:13

I'm 5'11 and a half ;-)

I think an M&S size 12 is ok on me except obv too short. Tried on a jumper dress in Next and needed a 14!

ProtectiveMother Thu 17-Oct-13 21:02:22

Laska thanks but the Phase 8 dress is too light & summery and the Jaegar dress is impressive but a bit too bowy and most importantly, it won't fit me in the arms.

ProtectiveMother Thu 17-Oct-13 21:03:21

I'm only actually considering Tall clothing online now so Debenhams is maybe out.

LightasaBreeze Thu 17-Oct-13 23:10:12

Longtallsally have a few dresses

Black shift

Berry dress

Dark red dress

It looks like returns are free now according to website, always useful if you order a couple or so to try on

ProtectiveMother Thu 17-Oct-13 23:51:05

Thanks so much Breeze. I'd consider the berry one but (and I'm going to sound really fussy here) it's 60 or so quid for a polyester dress. I find polyester looks cheap...

There's one on Boden I like that's COMPLETELY sold out...

I've been looking all night now but so far no joy!

ProtectiveMother Thu 17-Oct-13 23:55:04

Re: the shift dress, I was looking on the LTS website alright but the zips on the front I wouldn't be able to take unfortunately...

There's a lovely purple one on the Boden site... Its kind of more of an 'evening' dress because its quite fitted you know? i wonder if I could wear it with a blazer though...?

PervCat Fri 18-Oct-13 02:12:49

You know it makes no difference what you wear, don't you ?

ProtectiveMother Fri 18-Oct-13 10:41:39

Hi Perv cat. It makes a huge difference to me what I'm wearing. Because of my height, it's hard to find something that's a good fit and I want to be wearing something that's a good fit and looks smart and respectable. I think the court system is really sexist and I'm bottom of the social heap at the moment despite my excellent education because of a long, abusive relationship. If I come across as professional in my demeanour and in my dress, that will help the judge to respect me and take what I say seriously. This means probably a more favourable outcome for me and my children so kind of disagree with ya! :-)

SuperiorCat Fri 18-Oct-13 12:38:12

OP I can completely see why you want to dress, and I disagree PervCat - how you dress does affect how others perceive you.

Good luck OP hope all goes well.

babybarrister Fri 18-Oct-13 14:32:42

I agree what you wear influences others and also your own feelings in relation to self confidence. I do not agree the court system is sexist.there are loads of female family judges for a start ....

ProtectiveMother Fri 18-Oct-13 14:52:29

Well I live in a more sexist part of the UK than most! (Prefer not to say where!)

ProtectiveMother Fri 18-Oct-13 14:56:41

Anyway just because there are a few minority female judges doesn't mean the system isn't sexist. But I won't dwell on this as 1. It's infuriating and 2. It's for another thread

ProtectiveMother Fri 18-Oct-13 14:57:53

Thanks by the way superior cat. There are a lot of cats about! ;-)

LightasaBreeze Fri 18-Oct-13 16:28:15

I also think over £60 is a lot for polyester. The thing is when you're tall its so hard to get a dress that sits just right. Some of the Boden ones are lovely, usually the more expensive ones. All the good stuff on Boden seems to sell out really quickly though as people used the discount codes and buy them then.

Likewise there are some on Next Tall but I think anything nice is probably snapped up by now.

Might be easier to look for a skirt and a nice top rather than buying a dress which you might not wear again if you're not really loving it.

I'm not really sure what I would wear to Court, probably something like office wear or if I had an interview.

babybarrister Fri 18-Oct-13 20:47:49

www.judiciary.gov.uk/Resources/JCO/Documents/Stats/courts-diversity-stats-2012-13.xls

In family cases in County Courts there are about one third women !

ProtectiveMother Sat 19-Oct-13 11:22:38

Don't you agree though Babybarrister that the courts are all about the rights of the father at the moment? Despite the fact that in most cases it is the mother who is the responsible one with the children's best interests at heart?

babybarrister Sat 19-Oct-13 14:11:46

No i don't actually!

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