Wedding guest dress - OMG it's a 'bridesmaids dress'!

(32 Posts)
Fatsia Fri 06-Sep-13 05:48:53

I don't 'do' fashion and never wear dresses but have a big family wedding coming up v soon in London. I'm fat and fifty and never dress up.

Raced out to buy something suitable to wear, yesterday - literally the last day I'll get to shop. Bought an 'acceptable' oyster coloured dress at Monsoon and last night discovered, online, that it's one of their bridesmaid collection.

Am I going to look ridiculous? It's the Beatrice bridesmaid dress - without sleeves, in their collection (don't know how to do a link for this). I've also got a sheer short ivory shrug to go over it.

Tried it on and thought it looked OK for someone of my age and size but if it's going to be obviously a bridesmaid's dress, will this stick out a mile? I've no idea what the real bridesmaids are wearing (all young twenty somethings).

What do you stylish, fashion conscious MN people think?

Trills Fri 06-Sep-13 10:18:25

It's a very nice dress btw!

Trills Fri 06-Sep-13 10:18:01

There is no strict line between "bridesmaid dress" and "wedding guest dress".

This obvious becomes a problem if you dress your bridesmaids in this season's Monsoon or Coast dresses (and that's why I get my wedding guest dresses from ebay!).

bunchoffives Fri 06-Sep-13 10:13:58

What a great site that Monsoon one is.

I too think that dress is entirely appropriate for a guest Fatsia. But agree with matching it with navy as more suitable for your age (and mine smile).

Anyway thanks for the thread, I've just picked up 2 dresses badly needed for work. Very chuffed!

SPBisResisting Fri 06-Sep-13 09:54:11

Thats a lovely dress and definitely doesnt look bridesmaidy. As someone else said, check what colour the bridesmaids are wearing - assuming theyre wearing a strong colour im sure it will be fine

Paintyourbox Fri 06-Sep-13 09:51:16

Gorgeous dress!

Do you have any brightly coloured shoes? The dress is a colour that will go with pretty much anything to you could make it less bridesmaid by teaming bright shoes with it.

Maybe add a bright pashmina if you have one at home.

I wouldn't bother with a fascinator- they're overdone these days anyway.

TobyLerone Fri 06-Sep-13 09:48:25

Thought black as OP has said that was her last chance to get to the shops before the wedding!!

Exactly what I thought.

Navy will be lovely with it. Navy bag, too. And leave the jacket on until the reception. When you get rid of it depends on how similar it is to the bridesmaids' dresses and how drunk everyone is grin

No hat/fascinator. You'll look great!

LittleBearPad Fri 06-Sep-13 09:38:37

It's lovely. You'll look great. Don't stress too much about headgear if it isn't you. It's not compulsory in quite the way it used to be.

Don't bother with a hat/fascinator. Most people seem not to.

GerardButlersSecretLover Fri 06-Sep-13 09:30:45

None of the links worked for me but I found it by putting Beatrice in the search box. I think it is lovely and not like a bridesmaids dress at all!

spanishring Fri 06-Sep-13 09:30:20

Fatsia forget about a fascinator they're so passé. wink
Lovely dress - have fun

It's gorgeous! I'd wear that as a going out dress, I'm sure you'll look great! smile

Fatsia Fri 06-Sep-13 09:21:45

Thank you very much everyone. I've already got the shoes which match the dress but thought I might wear a silky/satiny looking blue-navy Monsoon jacket that's a few years old but still looks good - over the dress and the chiffony type shrug and then take the jacket off at the reception later. Sound like the navy addition might be a good idea then but if/when I take it off, will I look too 'oyster/ivory'? Also, it's a full length jacket not a short cropped one.

I haven't yet got a hat or fascinator - again, I never ever wear headgear!!! However, I did look at fascinators and was shocked that the starting prices were £85 in the shops. However, I found similar ones on Amazon for less than £10 but really don't know how to 'wear' a fascinator or a hat.

My hair style looks terrible once anything squashes it down. So I'd feel obliged to wear the fascinator or hat the entire lenght of the wedding. However, I also don't have the sort of hair that easily 'holds' a fascinator - either a band or a comb version. My hair's very fine and only ever looks good if I blow dry it and use hairspray to bring it up from the roots and give it volume.

A hat or fascinator will serious ruin this but I've heard that everyone at this wedding is sort of expected to wear a hat or fascinator so feel I ought to do something along those lines.

...And then there's the clutch bag too! Will have to order this online too but not sure what to get.

Karbea Fri 06-Sep-13 08:55:45

I thought navy might look nice, black too harsh.

SundaySimmons Fri 06-Sep-13 08:47:47

Coral would be preferable to black accessories. I just think black wouldn't do the dress any favours.

LoreleisSecret Fri 06-Sep-13 08:23:08

Thought black as OP has said that was her last chance to get to the shops before the wedding!!
I do not own mink shoes. Maybe i need to invest smile

SundaySimmons Fri 06-Sep-13 08:05:03

It's beautiful, not even remotely bridesmaid-y!

I would not team it with black myself, I would team it with mink. Mink colour not min the animal! Ha

LoreleisSecret Fri 06-Sep-13 07:47:40

It's beautiful.
Team it with some black heels and bag, i dont think its too bridesmaidy at all !

PTA Fri 06-Sep-13 07:06:47

Not at all bridesmaidy. Before I clicked on the link I was expecting some sort of floaty full length nummber.

However, as other posters say maybe a coloured shrug or even just a pashmina/wrap. Are you wearing a hat/facinator? Can you match a wrap to your headpiece?

buttercrumble Fri 06-Sep-13 07:03:24

It's beautiful , don't worry you will look fabulous . I wouldn't have known it was a bridesmaid dress if you hadn't said smile

GertBySea Fri 06-Sep-13 07:00:27

I agree not bridesmaidy but would avoid an ivory shrug.

Damnautocorrect Fri 06-Sep-13 06:57:36

Beautiful dress, wear it

auntpetunia Fri 06-Sep-13 06:43:45

I think its lovely maybe a shrug in a colour would be better though. Most bridesmaids I've seen recently have pink, red, blue green or even black dresses!

cantreachmytoes Fri 06-Sep-13 06:06:19

I was about to say don't but it looks so unlike a bridesmaidy dress, I don't think there's a problem in the dress itself. Because it's from the bridesmaids range, it might be an idea to just check what colour any bridesmaids will be wearing, without saying you know your dress is from the bridesmaid range.

Agree with above poster about the white shrug though, black would be better, or navy?

Chances are the bridesmaids won't be wearing that one, and it's a beautiful dress, so you'll look lovely!

Lizzabadger Fri 06-Sep-13 06:05:12

I think it's very pretty. Have fun!

CozyOtter Fri 06-Sep-13 06:01:01

Join the discussion

Join the discussion

Registering is free, easy, and means you can join in the discussion, get discounts, win prizes and lots more.

Register now