Wearing 2nd hand clothes- do you?(91 Posts)
Often lots of suggestions on here to buy from Ebay etc and I'm just wondering...
do you feel comfortable in second hand clothes ( assuming they are of course laundered.)
I'm afraid I don't. I've bought a few things- an unworn cardi, a mac and a lightly used dress and I didn't feel 'right' in the dress.
I'd be fine with a coat that could be cleaned and is not next to my skin but I don't feel right wearing someone else's dresses, tops and certainly not trousers.
I've even stopped watching and bidding for 'new without tags' because I am never sure if they are genuinely unworn.
I've bought quite a bit of stuff on Ebay [wearing a leopard print angora cardi from Monsoon today]. Once I've washed it and worn it myself a bit, it feels like I've always had it.
Amber - I tend to either ebay old stuff or give it to charity. But I don't see how that's strange. Other people can wear my old stuff but I have no desire to wear their old stuff
I like nice stuff but would rather buy in the sales from the outnet than second hand.
I'm "like that" MissBo, if I buy something in a shop.
I bought some sandals before my holiday and they were in the sale but still, quite dear. I went through about 4 pairs till I had a pair of "virgin" totally I worn shoes. I don't like the idea of one of my new shoes being well walked up and down the shop and wedged on and off other's feet before I pay for new shoes. New is new.
But you asked 'do you feel comfortable in second hand clothes?'.
And lots of us have answered 'why yes, we do'.
You didn't ask whether we 'got' your particular 'issue' or not, hence why nobody has responded to it
some posters are imo being a bit well, silly over this- I've already explained upthread how I feel about buying clothes from shops. If you don't 'get' the issue anyway then you can't understand the difference in feeling between buying something which yes, has probably been tried on, but for seconds in a shop- and worn continuously for months or years and has a a 'history'. It's quite easy to throw it in the washer.
Re. shoes, I tend to buy a huge amount of my clothes & shoes online from J Lewis and it appears from the packaging and the state of the shoes especially that they are often completely unworn / not tried on. I do though know people- friends- who ask for a totally new pair of shoes in shops if the ones they are offered are looking a bit battered already.
This is either something you 'get' or you don't.
I love to recycle! I don't buy anything "intimate" ie. undies/nighties/shoes/jewellery. As long as it doesn't look over worn/smell funny then I wash it first and it's good to go. I don't do this for my son (not sure why....could be that he's very economical on clothing, as it is). DH doesn't "second hand" either but men can get away with fewer clothes in their wardrobe, I think.
I have a friend who is a bit of a shopaholic and when we were the same size, she'd often give me stuff shed worn once or not at all (labels still on).
Funny, I am more than happy to wear second hand clothes and even have a couple of second hand bras, however I take my own pillow everywhere, cannot sleep on someone elses.
I should also point out that some of the clothes you buy have been previously tried on in the shop by all sorts of people. Possibly smelly ones who have worked up a sweat whilst out shopping and then walked around the changing room for awhile before deciding not to buy and replacing it on the hanger.
You may then buy it!
What about shoes, countless amounts of people may have tried them on, people with no socks, toenail fungus, athletes foot, unwashed etc ! Do you sterilise everything you buy!
Once it is washed its as if you previously wore it?
Do you bring your own bed sheets and pillow cases with you when you go on holiday or stay in a hotel? How many people have dribbled on your pillowcase prior to you sleeping on it?
It's laughable that you don't think twice about hotel bed linen yet won't wear washed second hand clothes!
A question to all those who are squeamish about other people's stuff. What do you do with your own? Presumably you don't eBay it?
I would love to find a decent pair of second hand jeans. I wouldn't have to worry about shrinkage.
I love clothes - especially well made ones that cost a bomb! I'd far rather buy second hand good stuff than shoddy new. In fact, I consider myself to have failed as a shopper if I've had to buy something new! Realising that I could also wear second hand shoes was a revelation! My friend had made a remark about lending me some shoes. I shuddered and then thought 'hang on...' And before I knew it I had acquired an impressive collection of great shoes! I still draw the line at undies though.
Oh yes, I have lots of second hand things. I love eBay for clothes, and also I am constantly being passed down to, as the youngest in the family. I was saying to DH, there are some things that I don't quite have the concept of buying. Wellies! I have wellies definitely, but have I ever deliberately bought wellies? Not sure. Think they rather emerge on their own somehow.
See also: marmalade.
Almost all my clothes are from charity shops (except underwear). Can't see the problem. I don't particularly like eating with cutlery other people have used though, unless it's been washed very thoroughly.
Blimey, you fussy lot.
It's just fabric; once it's washed there are no traces of the previous wearer.
I buy loads from charity shops and never give it a thought; I just enjoy the fact that I've snagged a bargain and done my bit for recycling.
There's plenty of stuff on ebay and FB selling groups that have only been tried on once or not at all, so technically those are no more "second hand" than stuff that's been returned to a shop or seconds.
I agree that it never even occurred to me to think that there could be a problem.
Anyway, to each their own, without people who only buy new like you OP there wouldn't be enough second-hand stuff around to be sold on to people like me
I happily wear secondhand, especially if it means buying something that I wouldn't otherwise be able to justify. I have a real mix in my wardrobe of ebay/charity shop stuff, high street, designer and bespoke. Saving in some areas allows me to splurge majorly in others. It has literally never occurred to me to feel uncomfortable about it.
I have quite a few second hand/antique/charity shop finds that I love. I wouldn't do nightwear or underwear, and only shoes that are unworn.
How do you manage when trying on clothes in shops? Do you wait until they get a delivery so that the clothes cannot possibly have been tried on by someone before you?
Yes, I do and always have done. I won't wear cheap rubbish, but don't have the budget to buy the things I like new, so Ebay it is! When I was younger and lived in a great city I used to get everything I owned (bar underwear) from charity shops and vintage shops. The charity shops where I live now are a bit crap though, mostly full of the same cheap crap that I won't buy new, so certainly won't buy second-hand
I do buy some things new - if they're reduced in sales or I have a good discount code.
Funny thing is, though, that over the last couple of years I've begun to notice a creeping squeamishness about Other People's Things that I never EVER used to feel I've no idea where it's come from. When I get Ebay parcels now I take the packet through to the washing machine to open and then the item goes straight in, regardless of whether it is clean or not.
Am bidding on a coat at the minute and sort of regretting it, because I know I will have to take it straight to the dry-cleaners even if it looks immaculate. But needs must. I need a good warm coat that is at least 80% wool and ideally 10-20% cashmere. Can get that for £20ish on Ebay, so even with dry-cleaning it works out loads cheaper than a new one.
No, I don't wear anything second hand. Probably for the same reasons as you missbopeep.
God yes, all the time. My best buy of all time has to be my Issa dress (k middy style) - RRP c.£500, mine was £10 from my local car boot sale. Absolutely immaculate. I also found a MBMJ leather bag there for £1.
This week I won a pair of shoes from eBay I had been coveting but had sold out. Brand new, £10. I often used eBay to hunt things I've missed.
We earn well and I don't really have any budget restrictions, I just love the thrill of a good find!
I kind of know where you're coming from, I love eBay and have no qualms about second hand stuff there but I feel funny about charity shops. I always feel so mean if I don't buy anything, and I don't want to wear anything from them because of an irrational fear someone might have died in the clothes!! Obviously the chances of that are exactly the same as eBay stuff but... Irrational!
I worked in a high street clothing store while I was at uni, and one woman used to come in and demand to try on things out of the stockroom, and only if we could "guarantee" they'd not been tried on before her.
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