Come and talk to me about going grey...

(73 Posts)
NightLark Tue 02-Jul-13 10:22:08

I could do with some insight here on how this is likely to progress, as I am allergic to hair dye and haven't the money or the inclination to go to the hairdressers for complicated colouring.

My very, very dark, thick, straight, chin-length hair is going grey, fast sad.

Seriously lots of grey in every handful kind of grey.

So from a distance I look dark haired, but close up I am clearly getting greyer.

Plus, the grey hairs aren't straight like my 'real' dark hair. They are curly. What's that about??

Help, am I going to end up with a head of grey frizz?

Murraylover Tue 02-Jul-13 22:20:22

Grey gracefully or this, this, could be you

valiumredhead Tue 02-Jul-13 22:23:42

Fiona Bruce?confused

Murraylover Tue 02-Jul-13 22:25:00
Nacster Tue 02-Jul-13 22:30:40

I've just started finding greys around the hairline. Getting a bit of a stripe. I'm liking it so far, but there's no difference in texture (very fine dark blonde hair, undyed.)

Hoping for an end look like this.

I'm not going to dye it. Too many women I see with helmets of solid coloured mahogany or aubergine. I think it's more ageing than the grey.

Nacster Tue 02-Jul-13 22:31:20

I've just started finding greys around the hairline. Getting a bit of a stripe. I'm liking it so far, but there's no difference in texture (very fine dark blonde hair, undyed.)

Hoping for an end look like this.

I'm not going to dye it. Too many women I see with helmets of solid coloured mahogany or aubergine. I think it's more ageing than the grey.

elQuintoConyo Tue 02-Jul-13 22:33:37

I'm also 38 and have grey silver hair, have had them since 18.
I've been dying it my natural colour, mid-brown, for about ten years now and I'm sick of it, every four weeks - then another 2-3 weeks to find the time to dye it, by which time it looks like the largest seagull poo hmm
I'd love, love, love to grow it out. I'm naturally very pale so not sure I'd suit blonde or highlights at all.
I'm petrified that it will age me incredibly. I've had my hairstyle about 15years, the only one I've ever found to suit me: bobbed, short at the back, longer at the front very pre V Beckham , would that look ok grey silver? What colour clothes go with silver?
<too nervous to think>

Murraylover Tue 02-Jul-13 22:36:07
Murraylover Tue 02-Jul-13 23:17:50
AdoraBell Wed 03-Jul-13 04:23:13

MIL wasn't allowed to Go grey, Nothing to do with work it was just the control freak she's married to. I'm pleased to say she finally stopped dying her hair yellow (it really wasn't blonde) in her mid-70's and is completely grey now.

I started noticing grey hairs when I was 23, 45 now, but I still won't dye them because my hair isn't just one shade and I don't want to change it. I once had a hairdresser tell me 'oh, señora, your hair is so beautiful with all these colours, even the grey' and that was good enough for me.

shopafrolic Wed 03-Jul-13 09:44:01

This type of product helps to smooth out my wiry greys
mythic oil
but I do still get mine highlighted. My hairdresser says I should embrace my grey but I've said not until I'm in my fifties, for now it is going gradually lighter so I won't be so shocked when the time comes...

SirRaymondClench Wed 03-Jul-13 09:50:28

I dye my hair myself as I am not ready to be grey and have long dark straight hair naturally so it really shows.
Recently I dyed my hair (3 weeks ago) and noticed that the grey hairs are showing through (ie the dye seems to have worn off them) WTF??
What can/should I do about that? The bastards are fighting back!! confused

peasandlove Wed 03-Jul-13 09:55:29

i had naturally very dark brown hair.. I started going grey in my 20s so covered them with dye, which eventually built up till it was almost black.
2yrs ago I started getting blonde highlights and wish I'd done it years ago. I'm now a blonde, people who didnt know me before dont know it's not my natural colour. (luckily I have pale skin and blue eyes that looks natural blonde).

peasandlove Wed 03-Jul-13 09:56:36

SirRaymond, make sure you're not using a harsh shampoo like the dandruff ones, they literally rinse the dye off. Also grey hairs are more resistant, you have to leave the dye on longer - I'd leave a semi on for about 45mins

valiumredhead Wed 03-Jul-13 09:56:48

Mythic oil of fab so is L'oreal extraordinary hair oil. I use both after a year of using argan oil,I prefer them.

GobblersKnob Wed 03-Jul-13 10:00:35

I started going grey when I was about 19, I would love to grow mine out and am seriously considering it, I just know it is going to look crap growing though and not sure if I can face it.

AgathaF Wed 03-Jul-13 10:51:28

Lush henna - even though you said you don't want to use it. Tis fabulous stuff.

EldritchCleavage Wed 03-Jul-13 11:34:40

grey is a no no, no matter your age

Gosh it's depressing to read that. Why is it a no no? Why is it so terrible to age? Why are we expected to chain ourselves to these money-draining beauty rituals men are never expected to do?

valiumredhead Wed 03-Jul-13 11:36:53

I think older people with dyed hair is a no no, an 80 yr old with dyed hair looks bizarre imo.

valiumredhead Wed 03-Jul-13 11:38:20

Gobblers you need to to it gradually and perhaps go gradually lighter so it's easier to grow out. Have a chat with your hairdresser. I was pleasantly surprised at how easy it was tbh.

AgathaF Wed 03-Jul-13 13:12:38

I think it depends on the 80yrs old really valium. Not sure how old Joan Collins is, and I know she wears wigs, but she looks great with her hair colour.

Wishihadabs Wed 03-Jul-13 13:22:05

I am 37 and have just decided no more highlights. Got DH to cut it into a chin length bob and am allowing my natural colour (with silver highlights) to come through. No way am I spending hundreds of pounds a year on covering up an entirely narural process

Chandon Wed 03-Jul-13 13:25:46

My mum still has brown hair and at 78 gets a bit of grief for being so vain about dying it "constantly" as you " never even have grey roots"

She almost wishes she was grey!

Almost nobody believes her. She has about 12grey hairs .

Sadly, I have more grey already!

valiumredhead Wed 03-Jul-13 13:36:39

Agatha-not imo ! She looks like she's obviously wearing a wig to me.

valiumredhead Wed 03-Jul-13 13:39:40

Chandon- my mum Kelly her natural colour until she was 60 then over the last 5 years has gone the most beautiful silver white.

snoworneahva Wed 03-Jul-13 13:41:27

My mum is over 80 and she still dyes her hair....she wishes she could stop buy can't face growing it out - I will go grey as it happens.

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