Pale Cream Dress to Wedding?

(94 Posts)
KT1366 Wed 15-May-13 16:34:45

Hi i have a wedding to go to soon and have spent ages searching for a dress. Tried loads on that are too short/too bridesmaidy/unflattering/frumpy/too expensive/too casual etc and finally came across a beautiful pale cream dress in Oasis. It is a simple sleevless shift style with a high neck and silver 'necklace' beading detail around the neckline, low dropped waist with two ruffles (slightly 20s style i think). And most importantly in my budget! I was planning to wear with black shoes/wrap/stole and fascinator for a bit of colour contrast.

Showed my mum and a couple of friends who said it was fine but then one friend mentioned i shouldnt wear cream to a wedding...(i only thought this rule meant long bridal style gowns). I am now having second thoughts!

However the bride wore a cream short dress herself last year to another of our friends' wedding so i'm thinking she doesnt perhapes know/care about the rule either??

I really like her and it is in no way about upstaging/wishing it was my wedding etc. neither am i family so will not be in family photos. however would never wish to offend! what do people think?

Absolutely no way.
Even if the bride doesn't care, you will not make friends with the other guests.

Songbird Wed 15-May-13 16:51:18

What? I don't see the problem. ...not make friends with other guests - why on earth not? Are they going to think she's the bride?

lissieloo Wed 15-May-13 16:51:34

nope, sorry, thats a hard and fast rule. whats your price range? maybe we can help.

Songbird Wed 15-May-13 16:52:04

But with black accessories? Really?

lissieloo Wed 15-May-13 16:53:48

even with black accessories, imo anyway. It is just too bridal.

DiscoDonkey Wed 15-May-13 16:54:15

There was a similar thread recently, huge majority said it was a big no no. Even if you aren't trying to steal the brides thunder there will be those who think you are and will declare you pathetic, try hard and needy.

Not worth the bother I say!!

CoolStoryBro Wed 15-May-13 16:58:12

If it isn't bridal and you like it, wear it. Just don't carry flowers and insist on 'Hear comes the Bride" as you enter church wink

lissieloo Wed 15-May-13 16:58:47

disco, yep. It's like wearing black. Even if the bride doesn't mind (although when it's her, I'm sure she'd feel different) the bridesmaids, the groom, their families... it does come across as trying to upstage the bride. I've been looking for something for a friends wedding, and have come across some great dresses though, what are you looking for?

Songbird Wed 15-May-13 17:02:11

OK, I bow to the greater knowledge of mumsnet! I love green and really would have loved my bridesmaids in a soft sagey colour but didn't even bother looking as my mum has a buge 'green at weddings is bad luck' superstition.

Songbird Wed 15-May-13 17:02:57

I tried to find the dress on the Oasis website thinking there must be something similar somewhere in a different colour but can't find it.

lissieloo Wed 15-May-13 17:04:43

I wanted black for my bridesmaids, I saw them in simple black, long satin dresses, but my mum threw a hissy fit over it. Its a minefield, black and white is fine, but not separately.

lissieloo Wed 15-May-13 17:06:33

grin great minds, I did too. Found some lovely stuff though this is gorgeous

lissieloo Wed 15-May-13 17:07:12
Songbird Wed 15-May-13 17:08:40

Lovely lissie, especially the second one but good god they're short!

lissieloo Wed 15-May-13 17:16:53

they are shorter than I thought blush

MarianForrester Wed 15-May-13 17:19:57

Miss Selfridge has some really nice dresses this year. I am a lot older than their target market, but got a gorgeous twenties-ish blush one in February. Not too short at all and I am tall.

Some lovely looking ones on website.

KT1366 Wed 15-May-13 17:27:27

It has surprised me how against this people are. I honestly hadnt even heard of the rule until my friend told me...! Maybe that just shows my ignorance/naivety of wedding ettiquette! I am only just starting to get to the age where friends are getting married so maybe i'll learn as i go along!

My trouble is i dont like form fitting dresses, i feel too body concious. and the same goes for anything short or tight around the legs. floaty is more forgiving on me. im also short though so midi dresses swamp me a bit and look a bit frumpy! and long dresses with heels (a must for me!) look very bridesmaidy! I am early twenties so want something respectable but that wont age me.

my budget is around £50 - the cream dress was £70 but i got 20% student discount smile

The dress i have isnt on the website i checked to try and give a link. must be new in?

thanks for the help

smile

lissieloo Wed 15-May-13 17:28:20

ok, what about 50's style dresses?

lissieloo Wed 15-May-13 17:29:38

what size are you? any preference on colour?

<flexes googling fingers>

sunshinenanny Wed 15-May-13 17:31:11

Songbird, Green is only considered unlucky because it's the faries colour and it was said if a bride wore green the fairies would spirit her away to fairylandgrin

I think it depends on the outfit and what you wear with it. you should have posted a photo.

KT1366 Wed 15-May-13 17:35:06

i had a little google and apparently cant wear white, cream, black, red, nude, pale pink, gold, silver,lemon or green! absolute minefield!

what happened to celebrating a couples love with friends and family all looking and feeling happy and relaxed with a good day had by all....

I appreciate it's the couples day and a honour to be asked to attend but we've spent about £1000k on attending this wedding (stag, hen, wedding suit, dress, accessories present, taxis, hotel, money for day)...surely it should all be a little more relaxed bearing in mind the people they have invited are nearest and dearest and have made the effort to attend?

dont get me worng i will follow advice and try to find something different but i will try to make a concious effort if it ever is my turn to take some of the pressure off my guests!

thats my theory anyway!

KT1366 Wed 15-May-13 17:36:18

i am a 10...but 5ft 2 and with awful legs that have succummed to the cellulite waggon much before my age!

lissieloo Wed 15-May-13 17:38:56
zzzzz Wed 15-May-13 17:39:54

Dye it?

Really really don't wear it.

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