Would you wear a black dress like this to a wedding?

(52 Posts)
Plathism Wed 01-May-13 14:58:02

One like This one or this one?

Although they're black I think the lace and full skirt makes them less severe...but I could be wrong. It's not a very formal, traditional wedding, but I don't want to look funereal.

(I'd cover up the back of the low back one until it's party time!)

I'd have no problem wearing either of them to a wedding. I do prefer the dress in the second link though.

Plathism Wed 01-May-13 15:02:02

Ah, I like them both equally I think, it will depend which fits best smile The first one is better purely because I wouldn't have to worry about having a freezing back...

PenelopePipPop Wed 01-May-13 15:02:05

Honest answer - no. I'd never wear black to a wedding unless specifically asked to (I did go to a goth wedding once with a black and purple dress code!).

They are nice dresses and I doubt anyone under 35/40 would mind but the older generation would be black affronted.

Plathism Wed 01-May-13 15:04:51

Goth wedding sounds brilliant Penelope! That's my feeling too - that my friends and the bride and groom won't think anything of it, but there's obviously going to be older family there too.

scaevola Wed 01-May-13 15:05:28

No, I wouldn't wear black to a wedding.

If you really want to own it, do you have any other events coming up?

MrsBucketxx Wed 01-May-13 15:07:37

no to short for me, too much leg for a wedding.

they are nice though.

Plathism Wed 01-May-13 15:09:09

No other formal events planned scaevola, just a bazillion weddings, but yes I might keep one anyway just because I like it, and wear something less risky for the wedding. Finding formal dresses I like a is a PITA!

MrsBucketxx Wed 01-May-13 15:11:38

maybe something body con with a peplum, sexy but not so much flesh on show.

Plathism Wed 01-May-13 15:12:29

MrsBucket I have worn dresses that length to many weddings (with opaque black tights). I'm quite short and don't look 'leggy' in them.

Tbf I haven't tried them on yet, they may be shorter than I think.

Plathism Wed 01-May-13 15:14:24

See, to me MrsBucket wearing a bodycon or tight-over-the-bum dress feels too sexy for a wedding. I've tried lots on and I just feel all tarty and 'look at me'.

Plathism Wed 01-May-13 15:15:41

I should have said in my OP - I'm thinking of wearing them with silver ballet flats, not high heels. Heels cripple me and I prefer the look of ballet flats with short dresses.

BlueSkySunnyDay Wed 01-May-13 15:34:51

Im a bit older I wouldnt have a problem with you wearing black at all. If you are petite then the length should be ok - the rule is you dont want to be too hoochy and sexy at a wedding it is after all the bride's day so it could look attention seeking.

Personally I think the second one is more appropriate out of the 2 as its not strapless.

If you wore a darkish green or a dark blue it would probably look black on the photos anyway.

Plathism Wed 01-May-13 15:47:25

Neither are strapless BlueSky - I think the 2nd one's sexier as it's got the sheer lace and low back. Agree - I don't want to look sexy or attention seeking - I'm petite and not at all curvy so don't tend to look 'sexy' ever!

I know my own family all the way up to my 90 yr old gran wouldn't be offended by black, but I don't know the bride or grooms family very well.

MrsBucketxx Wed 01-May-13 16:32:15

I have worn black lots of times to weddings, as long as its not white your ok.

Plathism Wed 01-May-13 16:36:26

That's good to know MrsBucket, thanks smile I'm a bit of a wedding newbie, all my friends are starting to get married and it's a clothing nightmare when you have lots of weddings to go to with lots of crossovers between guests. I'm running out of dresses and sick of spending £150 on formal dresses I don't even really like.

Moominsarehippos Wed 01-May-13 16:37:00

I wouldn't because my boobs would fall out of the strapless one and would be slopping around in the other backless one.

I'm one for comfort! Black is ok for a wedding (ESP if you have bright accessories) unless you've been asked not to. A black veil might be a touch OTT. White to a wedding is a no-no.

Plathism Wed 01-May-13 16:39:06

Moomins the first one isn't strapless, it's high necked, like a shift dress. Bright accessories is a good plan, I hadn't thought about that.

BerylStreep Wed 01-May-13 16:41:09

I have worn black to several weddings, but have accessorised with colour. I didn't even think that anyone would disapprove.

They look quite short though.

Moominsarehippos Wed 01-May-13 16:41:38

Oh I only looked at the first pic. That does change the length of it then! I like that shape, yes, wear that one then!

Plathism Wed 01-May-13 16:42:46

I'm hoping they'll be below my mid thigh and won't look like mini dresses.

miffybun73 Wed 01-May-13 16:43:19

Both lovely dresses, but I just wouldn't wear black to a wedding.

BalloonSlayer Wed 01-May-13 16:45:12

"I don't want to look sexy or attention seeking"

I was just going to post that they are both too sexy and attention-seeking for a wedding. Part of the attention-seeking-ness of them is that they are black. People will be thinking "ooh, why's she in black?"

cocolepew Wed 01-May-13 16:45:29

Yes I would.
The first one is lovely.

CinnabarRed Wed 01-May-13 16:48:23

No issue with black per se, but personally I think both are much too short for a wedding, even on a petite frame. They'd be lovely for plenty of other occasions though.

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