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Would you wear a black dress like this to a wedding?

51 replies

Plathism · 01/05/2013 14:58

One like This one or this one?

Although they're black I think the lace and full skirt makes them less severe...but I could be wrong. It's not a very formal, traditional wedding, but I don't want to look funereal.

(I'd cover up the back of the low back one until it's party time!)

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OneLittleLady · 01/05/2013 15:00

I'd have no problem wearing either of them to a wedding. I do prefer the dress in the second link though.

Plathism · 01/05/2013 15:02

Ah, I like them both equally I think, it will depend which fits best :) The first one is better purely because I wouldn't have to worry about having a freezing back...

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PenelopePipPop · 01/05/2013 15:02

Honest answer - no. I'd never wear black to a wedding unless specifically asked to (I did go to a goth wedding once with a black and purple dress code!).

They are nice dresses and I doubt anyone under 35/40 would mind but the older generation would be black affronted.

Plathism · 01/05/2013 15:04

Goth wedding sounds brilliant Penelope! That's my feeling too - that my friends and the bride and groom won't think anything of it, but there's obviously going to be older family there too.

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scaevola · 01/05/2013 15:05

No, I wouldn't wear black to a wedding.

If you really want to own it, do you have any other events coming up?

MrsBucketxx · 01/05/2013 15:07

no to short for me, too much leg for a wedding.

they are nice though.

Plathism · 01/05/2013 15:09

No other formal events planned scaevola, just a bazillion weddings, but yes I might keep one anyway just because I like it, and wear something less risky for the wedding. Finding formal dresses I like a is a PITA!

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MrsBucketxx · 01/05/2013 15:11

maybe something body con with a peplum, sexy but not so much flesh on show.

Plathism · 01/05/2013 15:12

MrsBucket I have worn dresses that length to many weddings (with opaque black tights). I'm quite short and don't look 'leggy' in them.

Tbf I haven't tried them on yet, they may be shorter than I think.

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Plathism · 01/05/2013 15:14

See, to me MrsBucket wearing a bodycon or tight-over-the-bum dress feels too sexy for a wedding. I've tried lots on and I just feel all tarty and 'look at me'.

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Plathism · 01/05/2013 15:15

I should have said in my OP - I'm thinking of wearing them with silver ballet flats, not high heels. Heels cripple me and I prefer the look of ballet flats with short dresses.

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BlueSkySunnyDay · 01/05/2013 15:34

Im a bit older I wouldnt have a problem with you wearing black at all. If you are petite then the length should be ok - the rule is you dont want to be too hoochy and sexy at a wedding it is after all the bride's day so it could look attention seeking.

Personally I think the second one is more appropriate out of the 2 as its not strapless.

If you wore a darkish green or a dark blue it would probably look black on the photos anyway.

Plathism · 01/05/2013 15:47

Neither are strapless BlueSky - I think the 2nd one's sexier as it's got the sheer lace and low back. Agree - I don't want to look sexy or attention seeking - I'm petite and not at all curvy so don't tend to look 'sexy' ever!

I know my own family all the way up to my 90 yr old gran wouldn't be offended by black, but I don't know the bride or grooms family very well.

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MrsBucketxx · 01/05/2013 16:32

I have worn black lots of times to weddings, as long as its not white your ok.

Plathism · 01/05/2013 16:36

That's good to know MrsBucket, thanks :) I'm a bit of a wedding newbie, all my friends are starting to get married and it's a clothing nightmare when you have lots of weddings to go to with lots of crossovers between guests. I'm running out of dresses and sick of spending £150 on formal dresses I don't even really like.

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Moominsarehippos · 01/05/2013 16:37

I wouldn't because my boobs would fall out of the strapless one and would be slopping around in the other backless one.

I'm one for comfort! Black is ok for a wedding (ESP if you have bright accessories) unless you've been asked not to. A black veil might be a touch OTT. White to a wedding is a no-no.

Plathism · 01/05/2013 16:39

Moomins the first one isn't strapless, it's high necked, like a shift dress. Bright accessories is a good plan, I hadn't thought about that.

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BerylStreep · 01/05/2013 16:41

I have worn black to several weddings, but have accessorised with colour. I didn't even think that anyone would disapprove.

They look quite short though.

Moominsarehippos · 01/05/2013 16:41

Oh I only looked at the first pic. That does change the length of it then! I like that shape, yes, wear that one then!

Plathism · 01/05/2013 16:42

I'm hoping they'll be below my mid thigh and won't look like mini dresses.

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miffybun73 · 01/05/2013 16:43

Both lovely dresses, but I just wouldn't wear black to a wedding.

BalloonSlayer · 01/05/2013 16:45

"I don't want to look sexy or attention seeking"

I was just going to post that they are both too sexy and attention-seeking for a wedding. Part of the attention-seeking-ness of them is that they are black. People will be thinking "ooh, why's she in black?"

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cocolepew · 01/05/2013 16:45

Yes I would.
The first one is lovely.

CinnabarRed · 01/05/2013 16:48

No issue with black per se, but personally I think both are much too short for a wedding, even on a petite frame. They'd be lovely for plenty of other occasions though.

GetOrfMoiLand · 01/05/2013 16:49

I think they are a bit evening-y for a wedding tbh, and a bit too short. They look like something Coleen Rooney would wear with those hideous great clod hoppers she wears. The probably would look very pretty with flat shoes instead and accessorised nicely, but I still would think it's an evening party dress.

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