Please help me... I'm getting married in a months time and I don't like my dress

(103 Posts)
TheMoistWorldOfSeptimusQuench Mon 08-Apr-13 11:57:43

It's this one

Kind of nice - well, I thought so at the time - but I put it on yesterday and just felt deflated and dowdy. I look like someone's mum (well, I am someone's mum, but you know what I mean).

I also have this jacket and these shoes, both of which I love and definitely want to wear.

I'm thinking sell the dress on Ebay, and find something else? Or am I being a bit daft? DP thinks I look lovely in it, so maybe I should just go with the flow...?

I look good in green, generally I think. Can I get married in green?

Help!

hellocatty Mon 08-Apr-13 12:11:36

I think your dress is lovely. It won't really date I don't think and would look good on anyone.
I do think the jacket might look a bit mumsy though so could you bear to be cold (I don't live in the UK so not sure about the weather at mo)
Shoes look Ok or get something a bit higher??
If you really don't like it though I would get something else as you want to feel good on your wedding day.
Congratulations hope you have a brilliant day!!!

mrssmooth Mon 08-Apr-13 12:14:19

The dress is beautiful! I know it doesn't help, us saying it looks lovely when you don't feel lovely in it, but it is a really lovely dress! The jacket and shoes are gorgeous too. You can get married in any colour you like, it's your wedding! Good luck, hope you have a great day, whatever you decide to wear smile

nipersvest Mon 08-Apr-13 12:18:31

i love that dress, like the dress more than the jacket tbh. if it were me, i'd keep the dress and shoes, but ditch the jacket and go for a shawl type thing to dress the dress up. jacket looks a bit 'day in the office' to me.

TheMoistWorldOfSeptimusQuench Mon 08-Apr-13 12:19:05

Thank you smile

The jacket is the best bit actually - looks great with jeans and heels too. The shoes are on the low side, but my God are they comfortable <I am old>

Ive been looking at this

What do you think?

LulaPalooza Mon 08-Apr-13 12:21:52

First, I agree with hellocatty about the dress and jacket. It's a lovely dress but the jacket is a bit too plain for it. Could you find a pretty shawl, perhaps a vintage one in a pale gold, to cover your shoulders?

I wore one that is pale gold with a dark red/ cerise rose pattern on it to match my wedding dress (which was a dark red).

You can and should wear whatever you want, in whatever colour for your wedding as long as you feel fabulous.

TheMoistWorldOfSeptimusQuench Mon 08-Apr-13 12:22:36

It's a very small registry office do, by the way, followed by afternoon tea and a quick getaway to Paris for the weekend. Not sure if that makes any difference, sartorially - other than I will probably feel even more shit when I arrive in Paris and am surrounded by beautiful, slim, effortlessly chic bitches parisiennes

LulaPalooza Mon 08-Apr-13 12:27:48

The green dress is pretty but, dare I say, much more mumsy than your original dress. Sorry! I lvoe your first dress, it's really pretty.

I would be very happy to lend you my shawl or at least take a picture of it so you can see what I mean. Can't do that until tonight, unfortunately.

I'm thinking of getting married in green! I've bought an Amanda Wakeley dress that is a sort of full length flapper style. I may get a wedding dress as well though and have the green one as a 'reception dress'
That is a lovely dress though!

Birdies Mon 08-Apr-13 12:28:21

I think both are lovely but it depends how you actually look and feel in them. If you don't feel a million dollars in the one you've got then if it were me I would be looking for a different one.

Can you post a photo of you in it?

Birdies Mon 08-Apr-13 12:30:15

Actually I do agree that the second one is more mumsy, nice colour though...

EasterHoliday Mon 08-Apr-13 12:31:57

love the original one. Is it perhaps about how you style it with hair and jewels and make up that will make you feel better? a really fantastic box clutch or similar?

TheMoistWorldOfSeptimusQuench Mon 08-Apr-13 12:32:36

Lula, that's really so kind of you, but I'm just not a shawlly kind of person to be honest. And I really like my jacket grin. But thank you.

Bullet your dress sounds gorgeous. Can you do a linky for me?

SorrelForbes Mon 08-Apr-13 12:32:47

I think the first dress is very nice but... I know from my own fairly recent wedding experience, once the doubts set in, it can be hard to feel really good in that outfit.

I changed my wedding dress three days before my wedding grin

TheMoistWorldOfSeptimusQuench Mon 08-Apr-13 12:34:08

That's a good point, I haven't got a clue what I'm doing with my hair
<weeps>

I have some nice vintage pearls and a lovely old beaded silver clutch though

OatcakeCravings Mon 08-Apr-13 12:37:02

The first dress is lovely, the second one is really not as nice. I have to say that I'm not keen on the jacket with the dress, I'd go for a shawl of some sort if its a cold day.

EasterHoliday Mon 08-Apr-13 12:38:24

the first dress can really be styled up into something glamorous, I don't think you can do that with the empire line one. Also think that the first one is more classic and you'll look at your pix in 20 years' time and still think it looks great! (I say this assuming it FITS properly - have you taken it to get it altered to fit you? a little nip and tuck from someone good can work wonders and give you the lift you're after. NB i mean nip n' tuck the dress, not you.)

Chilliandbanana Mon 08-Apr-13 12:38:34

I much prefer the first dress. Think it's gorgeous. Maybe something in your hair and a fabulous clutch to accessorise?

JumpHerWho Mon 08-Apr-13 12:38:42

I love the dress, it's gorgeous. Also not loving the jacket but if you do, that's what matters. I think a wrap would look much more appropriate, jacket a bit work/casual evening IMO.

lookingforbaubles Mon 08-Apr-13 12:41:19

do you have new posh unmumsy pants/bra to enhance the mood perhaps?

JourneyThroughLife Mon 08-Apr-13 12:42:07

Jacket is fine. I love the shoes. Pearls and beaded clutch bag sound fine too, but these are my type of things. For the wedding you describe these seem OK. I like the first dress better, especially if you're wearing the jacket but the second one would work. If you aren't naturally a shawl person no point in wearing one in my opinion, if jackets are more "you" go for it.

Your first choice is lovely smile

Have a think about the styling details (hair, jewellery) - maybe look at Pinterest? The right styling makes all the difference.

mrssmooth Mon 08-Apr-13 12:44:08

Think the first dress is nicer than the second. Second one more mumsy imho. But go with what makes YOU feel good!

Novemberish Mon 08-Apr-13 12:44:31

I like both but ever so slightly prefer the green. If you don't feel confident though, I would think about changing the dress.

My wedding dress came from Monsoon. I loved the shape, colour and style but didn't like some of the detail such as crystal-effect beading. Thought I could live with it but changed my mind so ended up taking the dress to a local dressmaker who talked through changes that could be made in order to customise the dress - the shiny crystals were replaced with some (subtle) lace and pearl detail and I adored the finished result which was very professional looking. I wonder if it would be worth seeking out a similar service to see if they have any ideas that might be a workable solution to add something to the original dress?

Machli Mon 08-Apr-13 12:45:42

I like the Ariella one in green on the same page as your last link. Reduced to £42.

All of them are lovely though.

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