Need some objective hair advice: please could you have a look at this pic and tell me what I should do with it

(53 Posts)
hairdilemmaday Thu 28-Mar-13 09:38:02

(Temporary namechange so as not to out myself in RL)

Stuck in that eternal cycle of growing my hair, deciding I don't like it, cutting it, then changing my mind and having to wait an age for it to grow again. V long now but I think it's starting to make me look a big haggard (and I vaguely remember stern warnings from my mother about not growing hair long beyond a 'certain' age, just not sure now what that age is, whether I've hit it confused and whether that is in fact outdated nonsense).

Anyway, tempted to get bob of some description but then it might all start again. I've done that horrible thing where you turn the iphone on yourself, and taken the 'hair dilemma' pic that is now posted on my profile. It's tied back because that is how I almost always have it. Can the mumsnet S&B ladies give me some honest opinions?

Pros of long hair for me:
- simple to maintain: wash, brush, tie back
- It stays out of my face when tied back
- shorter styles seem to need more maintenance, blow-drys etc, which i'm rubbish at and having it long means it can be put up in interesting ways, not that i really do that

Cons:
- it never feels quite 'me' having long hair, especially when it's down (feel a bit like a man in drag)
- i've got quite pointy features, particularly as I'm ageing, and I think maybe long hair accentuates that and makes me look haggard

Thanks v much folks

lowercase Thu 28-Mar-13 21:36:30

It looks good long.

Get a restyle, keep the length.

BrunellaPommelhorse Thu 28-Mar-13 18:55:42

have a fringe

looks lovely as it is though

mummiebummie Thu 28-Mar-13 18:15:00

I have to say I love it long! Looks more casual and youthful on you, I think.

hairdilemmaday Thu 28-Mar-13 15:26:47

thanks cocolepew - v helpful, I wouldn't dare have a go myself, am due a hairdresser trip once I've been paid so will go forth with the words 'caramel blonde' in mind.

Eldritch thanks grin sick children, so got about 4 hours sleep last night hence being a bit melodramatic about my hair crisis. That sounds like eminently sensible advice. I think I have a hair plan…

EldritchCleavage Thu 28-Mar-13 15:00:34

My dear, you are emphatically NOT haggard.

Right. Disclaimer: I am not an expert on white people's hair, far from it. But I reckon messy bob (I think the terminology is 'choppy'?) with a long-ish fringe is the way to go. No longer than shoulder length and no shorter than just below the chin.

cocolepew Thu 28-Mar-13 14:49:22

Stay away from anything darker than a medium brown if you home dye, they can be very dark unless you are going to break the colour up with a lighter on. If you go to the hairdresser I would go with the caramel/blonde look. If you have red tones you might get away with a chestnut colour.

hairdilemmaday Thu 28-Mar-13 12:16:34

Gabaccia natural colour is probably quite dark now and a bit red in places (I've definitely got the ginger/freckly gene in there) but when I've tried going that colour I've always looked a bit ill or felt like needed to wear lots of make-up, which I never manage to keep up.

Re the flyaway thing, I should add that my hair in the pic I took earlier is (a) a bit greasy (b) completely unbrushed, I just put it in an elastic first thing then took it out for the photo, so perhaps looking a bit more flyaway than usual.

I'm definitely erring on the side of a thicker fringe. Need to give a bit more thought to the colour issue. Loving all these links

Gabaccia Thu 28-Mar-13 12:07:14

HaveAGoodDay that's a good fringe (maybe not on Nicole Richie, makes her look a bit like a Dulux dog with her tiny short face) but I can see the softness of it working well on the OP's face - maybe better than a really blunt fringe (as Coco said, a blunt fringe could look wrong on sharp features.)

HaveAGoodDay Thu 28-Mar-13 11:59:20

I actually like it long, but i am a fan of long hair! To be honest, in my experience, short hair takes more faffing about with. If you are looking to do something different, how about a choppy longish fringe & some blonder highlights? If you really want to be shorter, maybe a long bob?

www.voglue.com/nicole-richie-hairstyles-has-been-revamped-with-a-blonde-bob/nicole-richie-hairstyle-long-straight-cut/

long bob (side view only!)
pinterest.com/pin/18507048440881441

Gabaccia Thu 28-Mar-13 11:43:20

What's your natural colour OP? I'm paler than you with dark hair and don't look washed out (with a bit of blusher!) It just depends what suits your skin tone, which is v hard to tell from a photo - hairdresser will help with that. Personally I love your colour but that's prob because it's as far from mine as you can get... and the grass is always greener smile

No it doesn't have to make you look washed-out, as long as you don't go any darker than about a level 7, which is a dark blonde really, although it looks more of a brown, and chose a warm shade rather than a cool one (think chestnut, caramel, etc)

hairdilemmaday Thu 28-Mar-13 11:37:36

wow, you gals are amazing. Those links are v helpful indeed

Quite like the idea of going a bit darker colour-wise, but I'm really pale and thought it might make me look a bit washed out. No?

pixiegumboot Thu 28-Mar-13 11:35:45

OMG I think I have a pob!!! Is that bad??

That's the trouble - half the time when I see a haircut I like, I'm ^really& thinking 'I want her face' envy

Gabaccia Thu 28-Mar-13 11:33:44

And the texture of it is just gorgeous.

Gabaccia Thu 28-Mar-13 11:32:42

It IS verging on pob territory isn't it badtaste? I hadn't noticed that - was distracted by her stunning Debbie Harry-esque face I guess!

cocolepew Thu 28-Mar-13 11:30:50

I wouldn't get a blunt cut across fringe if you have 'pointy' features.

Especially the first two links...

Gab I really like all of those apart from your 'shoulder length flyaway blondeness' one, which I don't think would work with the OP's face shape. And I don't like the last one which is vergeing on Pob territory I think.

The rest are all lovely though.

Gabaccia Thu 28-Mar-13 11:22:53

And yes I agree I would go a bit darker - flyaway hair is accentuated (sp?) by being very fair. A warmer darker colour would add texture and more shine.

cocolepew Thu 28-Mar-13 11:18:28

Oh I agree it's not your face, you are very pretty. You hair looks too fly awayish (not a hairdressing term grin)

cocolepew Thu 28-Mar-13 11:16:56

I would go for shoulder length with a sweepy fringe. To be honest I'd maybe go a little darker as well.

Gabaccia Thu 28-Mar-13 11:16:37

I also think you should keep it chin length or below, as it will soften your features. I've seen people with your type of face (high, sharp cheekbones, sharp-ish nose) look a bit harsh with pixie cuts or ear-length bobs.

Gabaccia Thu 28-Mar-13 11:12:56

Well, now I'm not sure, because it does suit your face long. I think it's just a bit flyaway rather than looking heavy and shiny which maybe makes you think it looks haggard/witchy? Because it's definitely not your face that's the problem!

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