Anyone else lost the art of shopping in real life?

(47 Posts)
MrsCampbellBlack Sat 12-Jan-13 06:26:00

Don't worry I'm still very good online but had a wander round the shops yesterday and it was awful.

In the smaller more expensive shops the assistants were overly attentive which I found off-putting compounded with comptoir not havng a mirror in the fitting room. And really I do not want to be dragging my post christmas podge out into the shop to look in a mirror.

And Banana Republic - where I never buy anything - well their mirrors are so unflattering - are you seeing a theme here?

Anyway I realised that I just much prefer buying online and getting to try on in the comfort of my own home.

So am I the only one who now does 95% of their clothes shopping online?

discorabbit Sat 12-Jan-13 22:08:21

i much prefer to shop in the shop so i can try on, check fabric etc, but am lucky as live near london and have brent cross etc. though saying that i do order alot online but only if they don't have the sizes in store.

the john lewis changing rooms are worse imo, you cannot escape any part of you grin

Changing rooms destroy my shopping experience, but have saved me a few £££.

Bunbaker Sat 12-Jan-13 21:14:47

"So am I the only one who now does 95% of their clothes shopping online?"

I very rarely shop online as I find it so difficult to find clothes that fit properly. I usually have to take at least two sizes of clothes into the fitting room depending on the style and I really can't be bothered to keep traipsing back and forth to the post office to return stuff.

PretzelTime Sat 12-Jan-13 21:14:23

I really do hate it when SAs keep peeking inside the changing room and ask me if I need something. Yes, I need privacy, being seen half naked and half-stuck into various illfitting clothing is not dignified!

CHOOGIRL Sat 12-Jan-13 21:07:33

Am glad it's just not me sick of the High Street. There are a few rl stores I like but these are mainly the branches I've been going to for years and where the SAs know me (and give me discount).

Reiss need to security tag their stuff - then they wouldn't grab it from me to put in the changing room as soon as I've picked it off the rail. Oh and when I'm in the changing rooms (with the curtains that don't quite reach the edge) don't keep asking if I'm OK.

SAs need to familiarise themselves with their own stock so when I ask for an item by name they can tell me if they have it - rather than look at me vacantly.

I can do Canary Wharf (not too busy and knowledgeable staff) and Selfridges. Other than that it's online all the way.

PretzelTime Sat 12-Jan-13 20:57:44

I also enjoy visiting shops that offer something more/a nice environment.
Do y'all think RL shops will change/are changing because of the popularity of online shopping? That they will be forced to improve?

DonaAna Sat 12-Jan-13 20:45:14

Yep Shop I think that's what happened to all of us.
I sometimes left the babies home with DH and scrambled to the stores at 8.30pm to do some frantic sales shopping.
<blows kiss to RED Valentino dress found that way>

But retail is changing too. Online stores have gotten so much better, and the best of them are much more enjoyable than any fitting room experience ever was wink

I still enjoy shops that understand that they need to offer something more. I regularly visit a perfume heaven that looks like an art gallery, and the Zara on Corso is on some of the best real estate in the city (looks and feels like a temple inside). I love and frequent bookstores and record stores that provide armchairs and coffee and play areas for children, and those few specialist shops that have friendly and genuinely knowledgeable staff.

shopafrolic Sat 12-Jan-13 20:20:59

I definitely buy more online since I've had DS. The first time I ever took him over the threshold of a store he started crying (as though his dad had had words with him before we went out!). He is a bit better now but it's still pretty stressful. I go to London once every 6 weeks by myself which is a luxury but everything else is now bought online. The exception is my recent shopping trip to our local Anna store but the staff made some interesting comments about some of their own stock (calling it chavvy!) and every pair of premium jeans I tried on looked "AMAZING" even though I knew that wasn't the case.

ApuskiMcClusky Sat 12-Jan-13 18:41:08

Completely agree about the fantastic manager in Cribbs' Jigsaw, MrsCB - best service I've had in a very long time. One time when it was really quiet the staff were were all practicing putting outfits together and talking each other through what they'd chosen and why.

But I hardly ever go shopping in RL - I generally would have to take one or both ds's, and they have very low shopping tolerance (or else my tolerance for them running round the store hiding in the coat racks is very low!). I suspect I'll have forgotten how when it becomes more feasible again.

PretzelTime Sat 12-Jan-13 18:39:58

The one thing I dislike the most about IRL shops is that there is no order. Online there are always a list of categories - tops, dresses, etc. I don't have the energy to go through the entire stock of all the shops I visit - which is probably more than one while looking for something specific. You could of course ask but not all shops have people around.

MrsCampbellBlack Sat 12-Jan-13 18:26:53

Well you know in terms of discount

MrsCampbellBlack Sat 12-Jan-13 18:26:18

Wow - gorgeous and such a bargain Amber.

shopafrolic Sat 12-Jan-13 18:07:28

LOL at Mumsnet Martin Lewis Amber grin

I suppose it helps that I live in London and very near an excellent shopping area - no parking costs and my annual travel card covers any central London jaunts.

Can't remember the last time I bought anything to wear in an actual shop. I like the fact that I have more rights when buying over the net and I like to see pictures of things being worn rather than just hanging on a rail.

And I would rather be cuddling DS whilst he watches a scarey Spider-Man movie and being able to mumsnet than be out in the cold any day.

I always get free delivery too and if its not available I think it's only what I would pay in parking and petrol and a coffee and cake for the kids if we went out.

Hell last time we went shopping spent 7 quid on parking, 22 on coffee and cake for 4 of us and only bought a bloody birthday card.

That's another value point about sizing Toasted, would have probably ordered a 10 in those trousers if I had bought online, when in reality 8 was fine and 6 would possibly have been even better!!

Real life shopping success here sold out online, but snapped up the last 8 in store! Sometimes it pays to go out into the real world!

I'm kind of split about online shopping V high street.

I admit that there's more to choose from online and newer items reach the web much quicker than here in this small town (and the stores here never stock all that much). But sometimes I am appalled at the cut and quality of an item when you see it in real life, especially if it looked lovely and well styled on the online model. It is easier to dupe us with gorgeous online images.

Went to Selfridges yesterday and saw some of my coveted items by Rag and Bone, COS, Acne, etc and they were pretty pitiful to the naked eye - yet had looked awesome on the web models. I think so much of the designer stuff is wholly dependent upon clever styling. I am always in awe of how beautiful things look when accessorized via NetaPorter, La Garconne and Matches. It really tempts you to hit the purchase button and I have had to hold myself back on quite a few occasions, determined to check the stuff in a store first.

So there's the convenience of online shopping, but it has its drawbacks for sure. On the other hand, stores are largely a disaster here, rarely stock anything new or interesting and the SA's are not very helpful.

Online stores really need to get to work perfecting their inventory: we need item measurement for all garments (not shitty standard size charts), model views (ASOS is perfect for this, such a shame I don't get along with much of their stuff) and better descriptions. Zara almos never write any kind of description to their items, which is so damned lazy in my opinion. I am still awaiting an email from Esprit telling me the heel height for a pair of their shoes - and it has been over a week with no reply.

In conclusion, shopping in general for womens clothing is a below par experience, both online and off.

GeorginaWorsley Sat 12-Jan-13 16:37:21

Always buy online,except very occasionally if I find a gem in a little boutique.
Mainstream stuff I always get online.
I do occasionally wander around John Lewis though!

Scarlet76 Sat 12-Jan-13 16:03:20

I was thinking before xmas that I now rarely buy clothes for myself or DC in store anymore. In fact, my main reason for setting foot on the high street these days is to do returns for online purchases!
The high street just seems to irritate me: crowded stores, shabby changing rooms, unflatteting mirrors, availability of stock. Also, as a petite person, there's more choice online.

DerbyNottsLeicsNightNanny Sat 12-Jan-13 14:10:37

I prefer online as you can usually get a discount of some kind, I don't mind shopping in RL but 9 times out of 10, I see something in a shop then go home & order it online anyway with a discount! I do spend way more online though as it doesn't feel as though its real money (until I check bank balance!) blush

MrsCampbellBlack Sat 12-Jan-13 12:24:44

Ah yes - you see if it'd been french it would have been fine Amber.

Cribbs is great for a little wander and doable with child/ren in tow.

I do like a little wander round Harvey Nichols in Bristol where they're not pushy at all but they carry quite old stock as its a 'provincial' store but still sell at full price which is naughty.

Justasecond - you see that's just so silly of that SA as you'll probably return it and won't feel like shopping in there again. Sites like nap are very good for putting the item measurements but yes wish more did and also put what size the model is wearing. Whistles do this but put all the teeny models in size 10's so hard to get an idea of what stuff will look like on a normal person in the right size.

Banana - its rubbish isn't it. Was reading an article about how now people try something on but whilst they're in the fitting room they're googling to find the best price - must confess I've done that myself with jeans as know I can get them a lot cheaper from the US.

I am like the Mumsnet Martin Lewis, MrsCB, buying all the shit so you don't have to. Honestly £145 that thing was and it was pulled and bobbly by the 3rd wear. Maybe it was special American viscose. One of the few times I paid full price for something too. And the sales assistant was pushy - maybe if the clothes were decent they would sell themselves.

justasecond Sat 12-Jan-13 11:50:19

I bought something in Comptoir for the first time yesterday and the SA (french) was very pushy. I felt practically bullied into buying. I would have ordered online but its a ridiculous delivery charge.
One thing that would make online shopping for me better would be if they would put the length of stuff on there. Many a dress and top have been returned because they are too short. Some have started doing this but most don't. It especially annoys me when they say "mid thigh" or "knee length", on who? a 5ft 11 model or the average woman?!

littlemissnormal Sat 12-Jan-13 11:49:02

Ahhhh Cribbs...I used to work in Aztec West and spent many a lunch time sauntering round there! Long before DCs!

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