hypothetically, what do 42-year-old brides with two children wear?

(46 Posts)
curryeater Fri 11-Jan-13 15:54:45

If:
they are getting married in church
Are short, have stocky legs, red hair, no tan or any likelihood of same, size 12 below 14 on top

Just wondering...

ProphetOfDoom Mon 14-Jan-13 00:57:26

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LaTrucha Sun 13-Jan-13 22:37:24

Liza - that is such a beautiful dress. It's a pretty lovely offer too.

curryeater Sun 13-Jan-13 22:04:53

Thanks so much, Lizatarbucksauntie!

OK Schmalzting, I reluctantly agree about the trouser suit. That is what I was afraid of. I think those are lovely dresses but they might be a bit too much for me - I think again the lack of height and the stockiness is a problem - I think the beading and decoration is beautiful if you come out like a 20s gazelle but would be a bit lampshade on me. Maybe not - maybe the thing, as everyone is saying, is to try things on!

thanks again everyone for all the encouragement, really appreciate it

curryeater, I loved it, it's the best dress ever. The offer is there, bear it in mind if you decide you want a 'dress'

Mayisout Sun 13-Jan-13 09:06:56

I would go out and try stuff on.
Have just been looking for a dress for a winter wedding and must have tried on 30, most look dire. Out of the 30 one was flattering but a day dress, one was flattering but black, too evening wear rather than wedding, and one (not in the sales needless to say) was flattering. I now need to find a shrug or jacket to match.

mcsquigg Sun 13-Jan-13 08:35:27

No help on the dress front (apart from trying your local charity shop- one near me has gorgeous wedding dresses for very little).

One of the loveliest weddings i've been at in recent years was in the brides church and her friends from church laid on a beautiful afternoon tea in the church hall with homemade scones and shortbread and flowers, confetti etc on the tables with. They were so happy to marry each other and it was a really beautiful, happy relaxed day.

Go for it!

ProphetOfDoom Sat 12-Jan-13 23:29:21

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Schooldidi Sat 12-Jan-13 22:53:43

I've just been invited to a wedding where they are getting married in the church, then the reception is in the church hall (across the car park) with a 'bring and share' buffet rather than food being provided. They don't need gifts because they have lived together for years but want to be married.

The invitations also specified a colour of dress if you fancy being a bridesmaid. I'm really looking forward to it, fancy weddings are not really my thing.

lalalonglegs Sat 12-Jan-13 22:41:40

Something vintage like this would look stunning with a larger bust and red hair (don't let the size put you off, you can have it altered and I suspect it is an "old" which comes up a lot smaller). A really simple posy with it, some pale shoes and red lippy.

curryeater Sat 12-Jan-13 22:31:49

Liza, that is so kind! I really like your dress, the simplicity is so elegant. I won't say yes as I don't have a date, so don't know when I could return it, and would prefer something I could alter if necessary. but thank you so much that is very very kind of you, I do luffs mn xxx

http://www.berketexbride.com/wedding-dresses/deborah

I wore this.

Am very pale and a bit bigger than you.

Do you want a borrow?

Taffeta Sat 12-Jan-13 21:31:05

And you too can be 5ft 6 with those heels! grin

Taffeta Sat 12-Jan-13 21:29:44

My mate is a size 12 with cankles, 5 ft 6.

curryeater Sat 12-Jan-13 21:23:00

Oh you are all so inspiring!
Taffeta, that floppy trousers and heels look is exactly what I had in mind - wider than bootcut, more dressy. I am not sure if this is a good look if you are 5'4" though, it is really really elegant on tall slim women.
I love that cake with the black ribbons.
I bet I could hit up my folks for some booze.

Taffeta Sat 12-Jan-13 21:17:54

My BF got married at 40 with 2 kids and wore a white trouser suit. Bootcur white trousers, white jacket, floppy hat. Kind of like this
She looked FAB.

LaTrucha Sat 12-Jan-13 21:12:50

It's around £25-£30 for church hall hire here. A friend of ours did it and the wedding presents were the food. One couple bought trifle, one bought bread, one bought potato salad. Parents bought drink. It was great. I am never bloody making tortilla de patata for 70 again though grin

Mewsical Sat 12-Jan-13 20:04:44

Hiring a church hall is a minimum £150 around here.

I had a Monsoon dress and only relatives attend a registry office wedding, though looked around for a nice one. Then we went for drinks and then a to a really great restaurant for a long lunch.
No wedding cake, just desserts as I was too late to order an M&S one.

ISeeSmallPeople Sat 12-Jan-13 19:45:00

Church wedding & church hall with guests bringing food would be lovely. Usually church hall hire is £30 max.
If you are into that, go all vintage. Make your own bunting ( pinking shears & stapler! ), have mismatched crockery either your own, from a charity shop or get guests to bring their own. Bring a dish & a bottle each. One teenage cousin can dj & will have his own decks smile

Ps. Can I come? I have my own pinking shears & am pretty handy with a stapler...as artistic as I get!

A simply decorated cake like this would be lovely using the M&S cake. All you would need is some wide ribbon in your chosen colour. The big broochy thing you can get from eBay like here

KatyS36 Sat 12-Jan-13 14:36:36

Just an idea, but if you know what sort of dress you want how about putting a post on your local freecycle asking for one?

I'm suggesting this as I don't want to keep my dress, but I want it to go to a home where its loved, and if I heard of someone like you you could have it! (unfortunatly it is white!)

Definatly suggest going into bridal shops. I went into about eight to try things and they weren't pushy. They know if you are going to buy new you will want to shop around, and they won't know you aren't.

Good luck and enjoy.

Katy

IceNoSlice Sat 12-Jan-13 14:24:29

We went to a wedding recently where guests brought food. The food was delish - far better than some bland hotel wedding food. Because it is a wedding, no-one wants to bring something rubbish so the guests went all out!

The way they arranged it was they designated someone (bride's sister in this case) in charge of food and guests rang her to discuss what they would bring. This way, if someone really wanted to make their special quiche they could, but the sister could co-ordinate so there was enough variety, savoury/sweet etc. A lot of people said 'what would you like me to bring?'

And because it was the sister (and not the bride herself), then the bride didn't need to worry about the food on the actual day.

They did BYO on booze too. No-one minded in the slightest. It was nice to drink exactly what you wanted without having to pay hotel bar prices TBH.

Oh, have a lovely day OP.

curryeater Sat 12-Jan-13 11:56:00

Oh gosh, you are all great, thanks so much.
Feeling better this morning, as you do after a night's sleep, so this has all changed into a fun idea again. Thanks for all the great ideas.
there is some discrepancy between the usual formality of the palaver that surrounds a church wedding, and our budget. But we go to church and should be married in our church so people will just have to deal with whatever cheap and jolly stuff we cobble together around it.
thanks for the positive vibes everyone! really helps.

Levantine Fri 11-Jan-13 21:10:34

There is a posh M&S iced fruitcake that IS wedding cake. I had it at a christening recently.

Murraylover Fri 11-Jan-13 21:03:59

Pg9 Letti for inspiration
issuu.com/monsoon-accessorize/docs/bridal_lookbook_ss13_links?mode=mobile
Most wedding cakes start at £150...

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