Hair disaster and I want to cry!

(36 Posts)
cardamomginger Fri 11-Jan-13 13:51:28

Don't think there's any advice anyone can give me - what's done is done and I just have to wait (months sad) for it to grow out. Need some sympathy and virtual hugs though sad.

My usual hairdresser recently left the country, and I decided to treat myself to a re-style in a posh, swanky salon. I know the stylist from years ago when the prices were cheaper and my finances were more robust.

I wanted my hair to look like this:

lovely

This was completely realistic given my hair type and the length I had. She discussed it with me, I showed her the picture and she both said the words 'just touching the shoulders' and indicated this to me with her hands. Great!! Get washed, come back and the first cut she makes at the back of my head takes it to a fraction below the nape of my neck. So what should have been just above shoulder length hair is pretty much chin length and I could cry!

Gets worse, because my hair, especially when shorter, is curly. So when I wash it it will curl up and look even shorter. I'm crap at blow-drying so I was going to GHD it into submission. Except I'm not that good at GHD-ing and need a decent length of hair to work with. I haven't tried it yet, but my fears are that my hair at the back is going to be too short for me to manage. Oh and it cost a sodding fortune.

I know that in the general scheme of things this is trivial, hair grows, blah blah blah. I'm reacting particularly badly to this because next month I am having my third operation to repair serious birth injuries. I know what's coming and that it's not going to be nice. I know I'm going to be in pain and feel like shit. So this haircut was a treat! I thought that even though I'll feel crap, etc, at least I could look in the mirror see a nice hair cut and feel just a little bit glamorous.

As I say, there's nothing to be done. Just got to wait. And wait. And wait. And not go back there again. sad.

Can I have a hug please?

valiumredhead Fri 11-Jan-13 13:57:56

Oh you poor thing! I hate hair disasters!

BUT why would you choose a style that obviousy needs so much up keep if you are useless at blow drying/styling? In that pic she has been blow dried with in an inch of her life!

BIG HUGS thanks because not liking your hair is awful sad

cardamomginger Fri 11-Jan-13 14:02:11

Thanks for the hug smile. If I have a decent length of hair to work with, I am ok with GHD's. I know I was never going to look like the picture when left to my own devices (ha!). But with GHDs and products I could have done an acceptable job. Bugger.

Hetaera Fri 11-Jan-13 14:08:10

More hugs and sympathy and wine!
Are you breastfeeding at the moment? If not, have a go with one of those Amazon Keratin Kits to help keep your hair a bit more manageable. You can still blow dry or roller volume into the hair but it will be smoother and silkier to start with.

cardamomginger Fri 11-Jan-13 14:13:26

Thanks - that's a good idea (not BF any more). And with my hair the length it now is, I'll get 3 applications out of the kit! At least all my dry ends have gone.... [tries to find an upside].....

valiumredhead Fri 11-Jan-13 14:20:55

Did you say anything to the hairdresser or were you concentrating on not crying? Chin length and shoulder length is the difference of about 3 inches!!

Someone cut 7 inches off mine once - was only meant to be a tidy up!

TeaBrick Fri 11-Jan-13 14:24:05

I think you should complain and get your money back, at least it would maybe make you feel a bit better if you hadn't paid for her to give you a completely different cut to the one you asked for!

valiumredhead Fri 11-Jan-13 14:24:54

I agree. DO NOT get talked into a restyle from the same salon <bitter experience>

cardamomginger Fri 11-Jan-13 14:33:41

Didn't say anything. As soon as she made that first cut at the back, there was no turning back. So I just didn't see the point. The haircut had to be finished and the maximum length it could be had just been set. So that was that. Maybe I should have said something. But I don't see how I was ever going to get my money back. And, yes I was pretty much concentrating on not crying! What with all the surgery and tension around that, I'm really not in the mood for confrontation. Never going back there.

7 inches, valium? Yikes sad.

valiumredhead Fri 11-Jan-13 14:40:50

I think you should email the manager at the very least - a good one will want you to walk away happy and not give bad recommendations to friends.

Hope your surgery goes ok x

penguinplease Fri 11-Jan-13 14:40:57

poor you op, can totally empathise. I went into a well known chain of expensive (and shit imo) hairdressers many years back now with hair halfway down my back and halfway through explaining to the person who was going to cut it what I didn't want he pulled it into a ponytail and cut the whole thing off. He had obviously always wanted to do that but it wasn't what I wanted.

I was v v v upset but like you spent my time concentrating on not making a show of myself as I felt young and naive and abit out of my depth. I hated that hairstyle, took me literally years to get it sorted and back to something reasonable. Cost me £60 too which back in 1999 was a bloody ridiculous amount of money for a haircut I hated!! I wish I'd had the balls to complain back then.
The only consolation I can offer you is that after it had grown a little bit it looked lovely and I found a lovely local hairdresser who was much cheaper and did what I wanted, sadly there was no getting that long hair back sad

cardamomginger Fri 11-Jan-13 14:55:37

Thanks everyone smile. Will think about emailing the manager. I think the last thing I want is to get drawn into a whole conversation with them about it (really feeling wimpy and vulnerable!) and any offers of 'oh well, come in, and she'll sort it out for you' I'm not going to want to take up. But, I will think about it.

On penguin - that is dreadful!!

valiumredhead Fri 11-Jan-13 14:58:16

That is something you can say in your email if they offer to redo it "I have no confidence in your salon as you have already ignored what I wanted."

YouCanCallMeBetty Fri 11-Jan-13 15:08:03

Poor you. Hugs thanks.

I know it's no consolation (been there, done that) but it probably doesn't look half as bad as you think.

Hope the operation goes well.

sarahseashell Fri 11-Jan-13 15:34:52

hugs to you wine

was it much longer to start off with? I bet within a few weeks you will be much happier with it - even by time the op's over with. Hope that goes well and go and get yourself a box of chocs or other treat as soon as possible I say flowers

Glitterspy Fri 11-Jan-13 15:46:03

Oh poor you, this is rubbish particularly when it sounds like you'd done it to make yourself feel good as a treat before your op.

If you complain you might find other people have also been unhappy with her work and it becomes an easier conversation to have than you would have expected.

HeadFairy Fri 11-Jan-13 15:50:52

I think you should go back and say after looking at it at home you're not happy. Don't let them restyle it but they could at least refund some of your money so you can spend it on a lovely treat for yourself.

cardamomginger Fri 11-Jan-13 15:52:01

Thanks guys smile. I shall definitely be having wine wine wine tonight once DD is in bed. Good point about the potential cumulative effect of complaints.

It does grow quite quickly (at least judging by the grey that starts showing far too soon after having my colour done!), so hopefully once I get another 1cm or so of length, that might be enough for it to start looking like a shorter version of what I wanted, rather than something completely random.

Thanks as well for the good wishes for my operation. X

LeChatRouge Fri 11-Jan-13 17:43:41

Not liking your hair is so horrid, it makes you feel crappy.

Options are:

Go shorter! How about something like this? You would obvs have to straighten it a lot, but this is so cool! My current favourite style.

Blow dry with a big round brush, will give you a nod to the look you were aiming for this kind of thing. Hold the brush verticly and wave the dryer over each section as you work your way from front to back.

Dry the top half a bit less curly and then let your natural curl dominate the bottom, use some mousse like SJP.

These curls may be looser than yours, but jaw length can be flattering too.

If you have just got back, I would wash it and dry it yourself, maybe try the straighteners to see how that looks.

I am a trained stylist, if you live near me, I can come visit!

StepAwayFromTheEcclesCakes Sat 12-Jan-13 13:26:18

I had my 'trying to grow it' messy hair cut into a sloping bob, it was short and I hated it especially as mine is wavy and unless I GHD'ed it to within an inch of its life I looked ridiculous like someone had put a bowl over my head and chopped it off at chin length. I started taking Biotin tablets to help it grow and in what seems a very short time its grown, and / or I have got used to it and really like it now. Its growing in the same style too so I will eventually reach a below shoulder length which is what I was aiming for. I am sure it will 'grow' on (scuse the pun) and good luck with op. if you can't be bothered with the GHD's what about some cute scarves and headbands?

StepAwayFromTheEcclesCakes Sat 12-Jan-13 13:27:01

le chat where are you?

pictish Sat 12-Jan-13 13:29:48

OP - do you know the difference between a good haircut and a bad one?
About two weeks.

Don't panic. Give it a couple of weeks, and it'll most likely be lovely. xxx

VestaCurry Sat 12-Jan-13 13:39:32

Definitely definitely email them, and without going into too much detail about the op you are facing, explain in it why you concentrated on holding yourself together so not saying anything and getting out of there. Give the link to the pic, discussion with stylist, take pic of your hair etc. You deserve your money back.
To cope with the type of hair you have at a much shorter length than anticipated, I can really really recommend Redken products. Can't do links at the mo cos am on phone, but there is a hair oil (3 types of it depending on your hair) which you can use before styling and it is fabulous stuff. My hair is the opposite of your and I thought it would leave my hair lank and horrid, but no, it becomes wondrous and swishy, and my blow drying skills are rubbish. I use it to keep my hair in good condition, because is can get v dry and crispy v quickly. Then you will need another styling product from the range suitable for your type of hair. I invested in a few, yes they're not cheap, but I have my 'hair sanity back' grin.

cardamomginger Sat 12-Jan-13 18:59:06

LeChat - those are some great ideas - and that's pretty much the length I am now. Thank you! I'm in North London smile.
Vesta - will have a serious think about emailing. And thank you for the Redken recommendation. I have been using Frizz Ease shampoo and conditioner and Moroccan Oil. Products can make all the difference and I will have a look at Redken.
StepAway and pictish - thank you for the sympathy, encouragement and tips smile. I have been experimenting today with slides and clips and feeling slightly better about things.

Everyone's so lovely! Thank you! X

piratecat Sat 12-Jan-13 19:08:21

vesta, can you remember what the hair oil is called?

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