Plus size dress

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moomoomar Sun 30-Dec-12 22:48:08

I have a wedding to go to at the end of January and I need something nice to wear. It's a posh wedding and I think I would look odd if I wasn't in a dress. I am huge so I'm going to look horrible anyway so might aswell look like I've made the effort!

I'm 5'9 and a size 22 please help! I mostly wear black, would black be ok for a wedding?

I agree with Dolomites.

I am the same size as you and while I realise I could do with losing a few pounds I have certainly never thought of myself as "huge."

Thing is, you could live your life unhappy, hating your size, or you could learn how to dress for your shape and work it.

Dresses which create a waist and skim or hide the hips (and in my case the tummy) are your friend. Something like this is maybe a bit out there for your tastes but is so flattering on us larger girls.

Some of the dresses Glaikit suggested are gorgeous and that Igigi dress is stunning!
Try to experiment with different styles in changing rooms, where only you can see, whats the harm? Then atleast you can get used to different styles first and figure out what you like. If you want to stick to black then ok, but introduce colour with your accessories.

I read some of the blogs Dolomites mentioned, I will try and get some links for you!

polyhymnia Mon 31-Dec-12 09:55:48

I'm the same size and height as you and i wouldn't dream of wearing anything by Simply Be or Evans or Asos Curve to a wedding - tend to avoid 'specialist' plus retailers like the plague because IMO their stuff is tacky and poor quality.

Nor would I wear black at a wedding. In fact, I agree with the sentiments of Dolomites. You can look fabulous, and those of us who are tall as well as large are so lucky - much easier to find flattering clothes. If you don't like your legs, there are so many fabulous opaques now.

I'd go for a 'mainstream' retailer who goes up to 22, eg Monsoon, or some of the others mentioned above. You can find good things from such places - just have to look harder than people of a smaller size. But I enjoy the challenge.

One 'mainstream' retailer I get quite a lot from is Boden (NOT in 'fun' patterns, but there are plenty of things which aren't).

I also get some of my 'occasion' stuff from Marina Rinaldi, but they are not online, and are ££, sadly. Igigi look as if they have good stuff too.

GlaikitFizzHogmany Mon 31-Dec-12 11:30:42

I have recently discovered fit and flare dresses! Cinch at my slimmest part just under my bust. And skim my hips. I'm big busted and big hipped, is that a cello shape?? 50s style dresses with petticoats hide multitudes of sins too.

Have a rethink about the full length floaty number?

Think you mean an empire line Glaikit! Very flattering as it skims the hips and draws the eye up away from the waist!

moomoomar Mon 31-Dec-12 12:28:20

Oh Dolo thank you so much, that really is what I need to hear. Although I disagree with the bit about my girls. I think im very positive about body image around them. Dd1 is very slim but eats like a horse, she tries to get away with eating dd2's leftovers and I've told her how unhealthy it is to eat for the sake of it. Dd2 has a large bum and she worries about her chubby cheeks. I have told her its because she is little and as she grows her shape will change. I tell them the truth, if they eat crap then they will feel crap and put on weight. My DM and DMIL think its ok to offer them so much shit that they eat until they feel sick. I don't think I can do much more apart from advise them and explain why eating to much of the wrong things are bad for them. I don't want it to be a massive issue in our house as i really don't want them to have weight issues when they are older.

Anyway back to the dress, thank you for the suggestions I will have a look at them. I will link when I've chosen one.

Thanks again for the help.

HappyNewSkyebluesapphire Mon 31-Dec-12 15:21:41

Evans do some gorgeous dresses at the top end of the scale. I have a lovely blue lace dress, very on trend, £75 down to £50. Every time I wear it, it gets compliments....so not all of Evans stuff is "fugly and designed to cover postboxes..."

This is the dress that I first mentioned, £75 from Evans.

www.evans.co.uk/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/ProductDisplay?beginIndex=1&viewAllFlag=&catalogId=33054&storeId=12553&productId=5651980&langId=-1&sort_field=Relevance&categoryId=209530&parent_categoryId=209427&pageSize=24

That is now only available in a size 14, so no good to you, but I thought that it was beautiful!

polyhymnia Mon 31-Dec-12 16:25:34

I've tried Evans top end (eg Clements Ribeiro) occasionally and they never seem to fit my body properly. But think that may be because I'm tall and long-bodied.

QueenBOObread Mon 31-Dec-12 17:29:41

Very chic from Boden

BillyBollyBrandy Mon 31-Dec-12 22:51:30

link

I am 5ft9 and a size 18/20 and this would suit me.

zandy Mon 31-Dec-12 23:20:32
polyhymnia Mon 31-Dec-12 23:41:19

Hate to disagree because taste is so personal and shapes vary but personally I really don't like the bagginess of Box 2 clothes like those - think it tends to make large people look like ships in full sail. And frumpy.
Think you could do better.

wontwearsocks Tue 01-Jan-13 10:51:39

Definitely not the Box2 outfit linked. Sorry.

I am size 18 but short. I have had some great outfits for wedding from Simply Be. The sale is on so you might grab a bargain. I like these two.

one like the colour of this one

this one

piprabbit Tue 01-Jan-13 14:52:11

My mother likes Box2 and is nearly 70. Nuff said.

tethersjinglebellend Tue 01-Jan-13 17:20:52

This is fab and a great bargain.

tethersjinglebellend Tue 01-Jan-13 17:23:09
tethersjinglebellend Tue 01-Jan-13 17:24:07

Bizarre- search the HoF website for 'Ann Harvey', click dresses and it's in stock in a 20 and 24.

GlaikitFizzHogmany Tue 01-Jan-13 17:33:54

Ach tethers was just about o order that Ann Harvey dress and its out of stock in a 20! Which one f you buggers bought it?? If you don't want it when it comes let me know grin

polyhymnia Tue 01-Jan-13 17:56:06

if it's any comfort, I think that Ann Harvey dress looks matronly - in fact honestly don't like Ann Harvey. IMHO, they are an example of specialist plus size retailers not being such a good bet as 'ordinary' ranges (eg, Monsoon, Boden) who go up to a 22.

GlaikitFizzHogmany Tue 01-Jan-13 18:02:39

Hmm maybe! I just saw a bargain and thought it would do for work really!

polyhymnia Tue 01-Jan-13 18:08:08

I don't really think Ann Harvey is a bargain at any price - just so depressing.

tethersjinglebellend Tue 01-Jan-13 18:18:15

Arf at 'depressing' grin

Not as depressing as bloody Monsoon wink

Glaikit, it's showing at still available in a 20 if you search the website for Ann Harvey and click 'dresses'- I don't know why, perhaps it's a glitch? Sorry- thought they had some left.

GlaikitFizzHogmany Tue 01-Jan-13 18:40:02

Yay but when you try to add it to you basket it comes up as out of stock!

I actually quite like monsoon. I've always found a dress in there for weddings etc.

Dorothy Perkins has been my go to shop recently though. Not in store only online. They don't seen to think fat people walk into the shop round here. They might have a point! Got a few dresses for work. Recent change in dress code meant a whole new wardrobe! It's a hard life!! Someone's got to do it!

polyhymnia Tue 01-Jan-13 21:45:49

As it happens I'm not a great fan of Monsoon - haven't bought anything there for ages - but they do have some OK things and go up to 22.

As for Ann Harvey I really don't think you can have set foot in any of their shops, tethers and seen the acres of polyester and drear colours and shapeless/ill-cut garments or you wouldnt defend them.They truly are the nadir of frump. I think the OP deserves much better.

Have you looked at Castaluna they have some gorgeous dresses, lovely quality, not too expensive but the delivery time can be quite long, so best to order in advance.

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