Ok I've fecked up- refused to be bridesmaid for sister now can't find an outfit. Any fashionistas fancy a challenge?

[WineGless]

Dd is a flower girl nd DS is pageboy. For many reasons I decided not to be bridesmaid and now regretting it as can't get my head round what to wear.

I am 40, size 14, 5'11 but not much of a waist, small boobs, column shape really and have blonde hair, pale skin

Bridesmaids are wearing claret which doesn't suit me.

I have beans searching the web but would love some help if anyone is up for it.

[HyvaPaiva]

Would this Coast dress suit you? It's quite good at nipping it at the waist, the neckline is better suited to a small chest, and the colour would look great next to the claret bridal party. If you enter promo code 'apology20' it costs £108

[MerryMarigold]

Phase Eight Could be flattering...but you need to try it on

[Amblin]

go to john lewis or somewhere.

dont reject more glittery evening type numbers for a winter wedding

[MerryMarigold]

I wouldn't wear it, but maybe you would!

[WineGless]

I like the green Coast dress.

Amblin - I was trying to find something weddingy, do you think glittery evening is ok?

[MerryMarigold]

I love this...go and try it on

[Amblin]

i think - when and where is it?

[MerryMarigold]

I would also highly recommend a corset for giving you a waist. I had twins and still don't have much waist (4 years on). It really works miracles. Buy it and then go dress trying-on.

[Amblin]

i like the green coast one a lot too -a nd SLEEVES

[Amblin]

with red shoes
www.johnlewis.com/370925/Product.aspx

[tak1ngchances]

I don't get it. Are you a guest at the wedding, as opposed to having a "role"? You decided not to be a bridesmaid but you want to wear the same colour as them...I am lost

[WineGless]

Thanks MM and all suggestions Will purchase a corset and take myself off to JL for trying on session.

I bought this last week but length was wrong in me

Amblin wedding in January- church and hotel

[Amblin]

its a nice style though.
I would think carefully about what coat you get as that is key for the ceremony.

then something eveningy afterwards - if its late on in the day

[WineGless]

Yes I am a guest at the wedding.
I don't want to wear the same colour as the bridesmaids as I chose not to join in. She was fine with this btw- no issues about that.

I just can't find a dress I like for a winter wedding as all very glitzy at the moment and felt too Christmassy

[Amblin]

think smart coat. then you could always hav LBD for the dinner.

phase eight have some smart coatsin reduced

[Wishfulmakeupping]

Love the green coast dress

[WineGless]

You reckon red shoes with it? I thought red and green should not be seen......

I about to order coast dress just in case I can't find it to try on in shops

[polyhymnia]

The coast dress looks lovely.

[notMarlene]

This will give you a waist.
fab dress with sleeves, lovely vintage feel with these, this and this. Or, not vintagey at all this, these and this.

[WineGless]

Notmarlene- that's genius, you are a genius.
I haven't seen that make before but will try on tomorrow. Am totally inspired now, thanks all for the fab ideas.

[notMarlene]

Play to your your boyish figure? similar too short?

Very comfortable, you'd actually be able to eat. Isn't so much fun in a corset.

[notMarlene]

x posts!

[CatchingMockingbirds]

Why didn't you want to be a bridesmaid?

[Amblin]

Because bridesmaids always look shit ?

[Amblin]

Like the blue but I think on a 14 might look a bit tenty