Thats it really - she's incredibly lacking in self confidence as it is, lots of friend issues at school and when I went to her wardrobe today to get her non-uniform for tomorrow she basically has nothing suitable! I could have wept for her!!!
Clearly not only do I need a fashion overhaul....
I've always thought I dress my DDs well and appropriately but this growing up thing has caused a crisis in both our confidences!
River Island boyfriend t-shirt shape might work you can check out the size guide - age 12 is 152 cm with this and skinny jeans might be good - I think boyfriend is a looser style. Even if they don't have clothes to fit your dd they might be good for outfit inspiration.
DD is 10, very tall for her age, solidly built with a bit of a tummy (she's just hitting the puberty growth spurt so I'm hoping she'll grow more upwards and less outwards from now on).
She wears children's clothes age 13+, or women's size 8/10. Recently we've bought most of her clothes either from the top end of the children's range at H&M, or adult ranges at H&M, Primark etc - they start pretty small. Also M&S have recently launched a new teenage range called Angel, which has some nice stuff - DD has a lovely pair of orangey/rusty coloured cords from there. Probably more suitable for her age range than some of the adult clothes.
I have a 9yr old DD with a tummy who is in age 13-14 clothes - have finally worked out what suits her - leggings and a longer tunic type/empire line thing - so nothing tight or fitted over her tummy. But has taken lots of trial and error. Fat Face sometimes have this sort of thing, Boden (via ebay) (?but too babyish), Sainsburys, and - as others have said - adult size 8 tunics work like dresses. Have also found afew things from Gap (also via ebay) that are more flatteringly shaped. But it is difficult - sympathise with you
Wow, I didn't know River Island had girls' clothes, just having a good look through the website.
My dd is 11 and skinny but still struggles. She has gone in today in skinny jeans, and a longer grey tunic short sleeved top and boots. I struggle to find tops she likes and I like - i.e. not too babyish but not with stupid slogans!
She sounds more or less exactly the same size and shape as my DD.
DD is going through a baby goth phase moment which makes buying clothes realtively easy. We buy her trousers from Lands End. They are almost always stretchy with comfortable waistbands. The yoga pants are a particular favourite as they look quite stylish on. For tops we go to uniqulo. At a largish 11 she can now fit into the XS size. They currently have a 2 for 14 quid deal on which we have taken advantage of. DD is particularly fond of their purple and black colours, though she also loves the bright red. We go for the three quarter sleeve length which solves the too long arms problem. She's also very fond of their hoodies, again because they are plain and have good colours.
Finally H&M do great mock leather jackets. DD is currently sporting one we bought 2 weeks ago that I can't find on the website. It is, apparantly, the coolest thing ever.
Can I add Zara into the mix - normally gets mentioned on these threads but hasn't been on this one. The instore selection can be quite pants (not literally!) but good choice available online upto age 13-14. Although adult zara can be very slim fitting I think this is less true of the kids stuff so you might well find something. Free delivery and returns if you spend £50 + so we normally order all possibilities for trying on at home and return the excess.
Oh thanks so much everybody - appreciate all suggestions so much! Glad as well that it appears to be a universal problem and hopefully not one we'll be in for too long....! We managed to hobble together an outfit that she was happy (ish) with and I had a good look round the playground to see what the others were wearing!!!
Have seen some lovely things on all the websites suggested here and things that I think she will like too which is going to be half the battle!!!
She is getting into accessories so I think a couple of scarves will help with her basics...we're armed and prepared!