DSD - Silent moody treatment- Spoilt Madam

(118 Posts)
mrssnodge Mon 24-Mar-14 16:07:55

MY DSd 14 nearly 15, is so moody and does not speak to me- She stays evey weekend, from fri eve to sun eve, speaks to DP like shit then wraps him aound her finger , is so spoiled- DP constantly buys her things he cant afford- He sometimes works on Saturdays and leaves me with her, she does not move out of her( recently decorated by me) bedroom until he comes in at 2pm and says 'im starving'- he asks could u not have made her something to eat? err -of course if she came and asked me I would!! but Im not doing room service--my own 3 dc have all left home- - didnt do it for them),
In her room, she has sky tv, lap top, i pod, etc, but insists on sitting on top of us all the time- fine if she had a conversation- but she speaks to DP only & not me, eben though its nearly always me running in nd out with food, nibbles etc I never get a thanks-
DP says she is just shy- she wont speak to my DM or Dc if they visit, and goes upstairs then- I feel awful bitching about her but its getting so bad- this is 7 years on and I dont think I can put up with this much longer, when will she stop coming every weekend!????
She also has a friend to stay too everything other weekend, I prefer her bloody mate- shes lovely and chatty,!!!

elliebellys Mon 24-Mar-14 16:52:22

Why on earth are you fetchings things for her?.she is capable of getting what she wants herself.stop enabling that behaviour.

AutumnBlue Mon 24-Mar-14 17:34:33

Why should you be making her food? At 14 she should be more than capable of helping out making a family meal or a snack if she is hungry.

As Ellie says, I'd stop running around after her - leave her do her own running round if she wants something. If she knows she can get away with you doing the running around she's going to carry on.

If you stop, she'll soon learn that she has no choice but to get it herself if she's hungry.

theredchicken Mon 24-Mar-14 20:48:38

I feel your pain, my dsd aged 18 does all that you describe. My dp would not expect me to provide room service though!

She literally will sit with us and follow us around but only answers with one word answers and doesn't initiate conversation or even eye contact if someone walks in the room. She can literally be like this all weekend. hmm She hasn't had a friend over for about 4 years. She does gave a boyfriend though so she must at least talk to him! It just creates an atmosphere and she's just like a shadow following us around.

I have really tried to engage and include her in things but I have given up now. She's an adult who, for whatever reason chooses to behave as she does. We do have times where she will chat but mostly she's as you describe.

I try to accept how she is and remember that she could be so much worse. Dp gets frustrated with her and does a lot more coaxing than I would ever do.

Try and take the positive. She's not screaming obscenities at you. I'd get on with my life and let her sulk.

Russianfudge Tue 25-Mar-14 07:50:10

Every weekend? When do you and DH get time alone? What would he say if you said you wanted to go away for a Saturday night? If the friend comes to you on alternate weekends surely she could go to the friend sometimes? In any relationship 14/15 is around the age when mum and dad get some time back for themselves.

You need to take back the control. YOU are the woman of the house. Stop running around immediately. We don't run around getting things for people who are rude to us! And on the Saturday, go out! Leave a note in the kitchen saying, "I've gone out for the day, help yourself to x, y, z. Have a lovely day" if she doesn't get out if bed then tough shit if she's hungry. She's not a baby.

Sorry, this really angers me!

Morgause Tue 25-Mar-14 07:53:11

To start with I'd tell DH that access is for him, not you. If he isn't there then neither is his daughter, as she can't be civil to you.

If he's working then he'll have to make other arrangements for her with her DM or another relative.

You shouldn't have to put up with such rude behaviour. And stop running round after her.

mrssnodge Tue 25-Mar-14 09:31:55

oh thanks for your replies! yr right I will stop the running around, making meals - this all started from trying to make her feel comfy and looked after and all the nice food she wanted to eat,-ok when she was 7/ now its expected and Im sick of it
We never go away for the weekend,do have the odd meal out if her friend is there, and leave them for a couple of hrs- she never stays at the friends house- no its too bloody comfortable in ours!
My Dc have all left home, and I feel its time I had a life now,Im only 46! but no we have to have her EW- from the time i come in from work on fri, to sun eve she is there!
I really thought at about 13/14 she would want to go to town shopping with mates, sleepovers and not want to spend so much time with her dad, - my DC were so independent and i hardly seen them unless for food!

We only get time for ourselves on a weekday after work, and although I understand DP needs to see her, spend time with her, its now at the point im working overtime on a saturday too, to get out of my own house!

This week she has work experience and Dp - of course had to buy her 3 outfits as her clothes are so unsuitable- ( leggings and crop tops always and dont get me started on the arse hanging out denim shorts she insists on wearing in the summer!

Rant over- I will stop the running around, cleaning, cooking and go shopping and drink more wine and let it go over my head and spend my weekends with my two gorgeous grandbabies 7mo and 4 mo!!!

brdgrl Tue 25-Mar-14 09:57:41

I can relate to this, my DSD was similar at 14-15-16 (but she was at home ALL the time!). There were a few things that worked very well for us...

If your DSD's birthday is coming up, maybe you could use that as an opportunity for a conversation about increased responsibility and maturity. Does she get pocket money from DH?

One thing that worked for us was we increased DSD's pocket money, and also gave her assigned chores. Half the pocket money was "automatic", and the other half was linked to doing her chores properly and without excessive prompting or complaining. She then became responsible for paying for her own 'non-essential' items. So we would have bought the outfits for work experience, but not make-up, clothes she didn't truly need, cinema tickets, and so on. Before this, DH would basically have bought her anything she wanted and she had a very entitled and wasteful attitude.

She should have chores at your house. If she is there three evenings, get her to cook and wash up for one meal - start with something simple and move on - if it is totally foreign to her, then you or DH can do it with her the first few times, but maybe fix upon a dish which will be her 'specialty' and she can fix every weekend. Maybe one other chore over the course of the weekend - hoovering, perhaps?

When you did up her room for her, did you include a laundry basket and a bin? Does she use them? Do you do her laundry or does it go back with her?

At 15, too, she can be responsible for her own breakfasts and lunches. Talk to her about what she'd like you to have in - I get the DSC the cereal they prefer and reasonably healthy lunch and snack food, and they sort themselves out; I might do brunch on a Sunday if everyone is around, but I do it when I feel like it, not as an expectation.

And yes! Stop running in with nibbles and so on. Start asking her to go fetch things for you guys, or to put a pot of tea on, once in a while.

mrssnodge Tue 25-Mar-14 10:13:14

she cant even make a cup of tea! I recently stood over her and made her/showed her how to do it- with Dp at her side, laughing and saying she doesnt even drink tea, so why should she do it -
Her new bedroom was my sons old room, the biggest in the house- DP bought most of the new things, and she does at least keep this clean- she also takes her washing home.
Never washes up or lefts a finger, apart from the day we swapped rooms for her, I made her help clean before decorating and I think she actually enjoyed it- but since then nothing .
I agree with the pocket money/allowance thing- he gives her too much and that makes her entitled, - I also know she does nothing at home-( but her Dm is a lazy person too! lol!)
DP has just text my to say he has an early finish so is going to pick her up after work experience today- ah bless she cant manage a 10 min walk home either-its a 40 min drive, there and back!
I know im coming across bitter etc, and he is equally to blame, I just hope she discovers boys and mates soon, I know she will drop Dp like a brick when that happens! Not sure if Dp will be relieved or hurt but I wil be a lot happier without her EW!!!!!!

mrssnodge Tue 25-Mar-14 10:13:19

she cant even make a cup of tea! I recently stood over her and made her/showed her how to do it- with Dp at her side, laughing and saying she doesnt even drink tea, so why should she do it -
Her new bedroom was my sons old room, the biggest in the house- DP bought most of the new things, and she does at least keep this clean- she also takes her washing home.
Never washes up or lefts a finger, apart from the day we swapped rooms for her, I made her help clean before decorating and I think she actually enjoyed it- but since then nothing .
I agree with the pocket money/allowance thing- he gives her too much and that makes her entitled, - I also know she does nothing at home-( but her Dm is a lazy person too! lol!)
DP has just text my to say he has an early finish so is going to pick her up after work experience today- ah bless she cant manage a 10 min walk home either-its a 40 min drive, there and back!
I know im coming across bitter etc, and he is equally to blame, I just hope she discovers boys and mates soon, I know she will drop Dp like a brick when that happens! Not sure if Dp will be relieved or hurt but I wil be a lot happier without her EW!!!!!!

mrssnodge Tue 25-Mar-14 10:13:19

she cant even make a cup of tea! I recently stood over her and made her/showed her how to do it- with Dp at her side, laughing and saying she doesnt even drink tea, so why should she do it -
Her new bedroom was my sons old room, the biggest in the house- DP bought most of the new things, and she does at least keep this clean- she also takes her washing home.
Never washes up or lefts a finger, apart from the day we swapped rooms for her, I made her help clean before decorating and I think she actually enjoyed it- but since then nothing .
I agree with the pocket money/allowance thing- he gives her too much and that makes her entitled, - I also know she does nothing at home-( but her Dm is a lazy person too! lol!)
DP has just text my to say he has an early finish so is going to pick her up after work experience today- ah bless she cant manage a 10 min walk home either-its a 40 min drive, there and back!
I know im coming across bitter etc, and he is equally to blame, I just hope she discovers boys and mates soon, I know she will drop Dp like a brick when that happens! Not sure if Dp will be relieved or hurt but I wil be a lot happier without her EW!!!!!!

mrssnodge Tue 25-Mar-14 10:13:19

she cant even make a cup of tea! I recently stood over her and made her/showed her how to do it- with Dp at her side, laughing and saying she doesnt even drink tea, so why should she do it -
Her new bedroom was my sons old room, the biggest in the house- DP bought most of the new things, and she does at least keep this clean- she also takes her washing home.
Never washes up or lefts a finger, apart from the day we swapped rooms for her, I made her help clean before decorating and I think she actually enjoyed it- but since then nothing .
I agree with the pocket money/allowance thing- he gives her too much and that makes her entitled, - I also know she does nothing at home-( but her Dm is a lazy person too! lol!)
DP has just text my to say he has an early finish so is going to pick her up after work experience today- ah bless she cant manage a 10 min walk home either-its a 40 min drive, there and back!
I know im coming across bitter etc, and he is equally to blame, I just hope she discovers boys and mates soon, I know she will drop Dp like a brick when that happens! Not sure if Dp will be relieved or hurt but I wil be a lot happier without her EW!!!!!!

mrssnodge Tue 25-Mar-14 10:13:24

she cant even make a cup of tea! I recently stood over her and made her/showed her how to do it- with Dp at her side, laughing and saying she doesnt even drink tea, so why should she do it -
Her new bedroom was my sons old room, the biggest in the house- DP bought most of the new things, and she does at least keep this clean- she also takes her washing home.
Never washes up or lefts a finger, apart from the day we swapped rooms for her, I made her help clean before decorating and I think she actually enjoyed it- but since then nothing .
I agree with the pocket money/allowance thing- he gives her too much and that makes her entitled, - I also know she does nothing at home-( but her Dm is a lazy person too! lol!)
DP has just text my to say he has an early finish so is going to pick her up after work experience today- ah bless she cant manage a 10 min walk home either-its a 40 min drive, there and back!
I know im coming across bitter etc, and he is equally to blame, I just hope she discovers boys and mates soon, I know she will drop Dp like a brick when that happens! Not sure if Dp will be relieved or hurt but I wil be a lot happier without her EW!!!!!!

mrssnodge Tue 25-Mar-14 10:13:24

she cant even make a cup of tea! I recently stood over her and made her/showed her how to do it- with Dp at her side, laughing and saying she doesnt even drink tea, so why should she do it -
Her new bedroom was my sons old room, the biggest in the house- DP bought most of the new things, and she does at least keep this clean- she also takes her washing home.
Never washes up or lefts a finger, apart from the day we swapped rooms for her, I made her help clean before decorating and I think she actually enjoyed it- but since then nothing .
I agree with the pocket money/allowance thing- he gives her too much and that makes her entitled, - I also know she does nothing at home-( but her Dm is a lazy person too! lol!)
DP has just text my to say he has an early finish so is going to pick her up after work experience today- ah bless she cant manage a 10 min walk home either-its a 40 min drive, there and back!
I know im coming across bitter etc, and he is equally to blame, I just hope she discovers boys and mates soon, I know she will drop Dp like a brick when that happens! Not sure if Dp will be relieved or hurt but I wil be a lot happier without her EW!!!!!!

mrssnodge Tue 25-Mar-14 10:13:25

she cant even make a cup of tea! I recently stood over her and made her/showed her how to do it- with Dp at her side, laughing and saying she doesnt even drink tea, so why should she do it -
Her new bedroom was my sons old room, the biggest in the house- DP bought most of the new things, and she does at least keep this clean- she also takes her washing home.
Never washes up or lefts a finger, apart from the day we swapped rooms for her, I made her help clean before decorating and I think she actually enjoyed it- but since then nothing .
I agree with the pocket money/allowance thing- he gives her too much and that makes her entitled, - I also know she does nothing at home-( but her Dm is a lazy person too! lol!)
DP has just text my to say he has an early finish so is going to pick her up after work experience today- ah bless she cant manage a 10 min walk home either-its a 40 min drive, there and back!
I know im coming across bitter etc, and he is equally to blame, I just hope she discovers boys and mates soon, I know she will drop Dp like a brick when that happens! Not sure if Dp will be relieved or hurt but I wil be a lot happier without her EW!!!!!!

mrssnodge Tue 25-Mar-14 10:13:30

she cant even make a cup of tea! I recently stood over her and made her/showed her how to do it- with Dp at her side, laughing and saying she doesnt even drink tea, so why should she do it -
Her new bedroom was my sons old room, the biggest in the house- DP bought most of the new things, and she does at least keep this clean- she also takes her washing home.
Never washes up or lefts a finger, apart from the day we swapped rooms for her, I made her help clean before decorating and I think she actually enjoyed it- but since then nothing .
I agree with the pocket money/allowance thing- he gives her too much and that makes her entitled, - I also know she does nothing at home-( but her Dm is a lazy person too! lol!)
DP has just text my to say he has an early finish so is going to pick her up after work experience today- ah bless she cant manage a 10 min walk home either-its a 40 min drive, there and back!
I know im coming across bitter etc, and he is equally to blame, I just hope she discovers boys and mates soon, I know she will drop Dp like a brick when that happens! Not sure if Dp will be relieved or hurt but I wil be a lot happier without her EW!!!!!!

mrssnodge Tue 25-Mar-14 10:13:30

she cant even make a cup of tea! I recently stood over her and made her/showed her how to do it- with Dp at her side, laughing and saying she doesnt even drink tea, so why should she do it -
Her new bedroom was my sons old room, the biggest in the house- DP bought most of the new things, and she does at least keep this clean- she also takes her washing home.
Never washes up or lefts a finger, apart from the day we swapped rooms for her, I made her help clean before decorating and I think she actually enjoyed it- but since then nothing .
I agree with the pocket money/allowance thing- he gives her too much and that makes her entitled, - I also know she does nothing at home-( but her Dm is a lazy person too! lol!)
DP has just text my to say he has an early finish so is going to pick her up after work experience today- ah bless she cant manage a 10 min walk home either-its a 40 min drive, there and back!
I know im coming across bitter etc, and he is equally to blame, I just hope she discovers boys and mates soon, I know she will drop Dp like a brick when that happens! Not sure if Dp will be relieved or hurt but I wil be a lot happier without her EW!!!!!!

mrssnodge Tue 25-Mar-14 10:13:30

she cant even make a cup of tea! I recently stood over her and made her/showed her how to do it- with Dp at her side, laughing and saying she doesnt even drink tea, so why should she do it -
Her new bedroom was my sons old room, the biggest in the house- DP bought most of the new things, and she does at least keep this clean- she also takes her washing home.
Never washes up or lefts a finger, apart from the day we swapped rooms for her, I made her help clean before decorating and I think she actually enjoyed it- but since then nothing .
I agree with the pocket money/allowance thing- he gives her too much and that makes her entitled, - I also know she does nothing at home-( but her Dm is a lazy person too! lol!)
DP has just text my to say he has an early finish so is going to pick her up after work experience today- ah bless she cant manage a 10 min walk home either-its a 40 min drive, there and back!
I know im coming across bitter etc, and he is equally to blame, I just hope she discovers boys and mates soon, I know she will drop Dp like a brick when that happens! Not sure if Dp will be relieved or hurt but I wil be a lot happier without her EW!!!!!!

mrssnodge Tue 25-Mar-14 10:13:30

she cant even make a cup of tea! I recently stood over her and made her/showed her how to do it- with Dp at her side, laughing and saying she doesnt even drink tea, so why should she do it -
Her new bedroom was my sons old room, the biggest in the house- DP bought most of the new things, and she does at least keep this clean- she also takes her washing home.
Never washes up or lefts a finger, apart from the day we swapped rooms for her, I made her help clean before decorating and I think she actually enjoyed it- but since then nothing .
I agree with the pocket money/allowance thing- he gives her too much and that makes her entitled, - I also know she does nothing at home-( but her Dm is a lazy person too! lol!)
DP has just text my to say he has an early finish so is going to pick her up after work experience today- ah bless she cant manage a 10 min walk home either-its a 40 min drive, there and back!
I know im coming across bitter etc, and he is equally to blame, I just hope she discovers boys and mates soon, I know she will drop Dp like a brick when that happens! Not sure if Dp will be relieved or hurt but I wil be a lot happier without her EW!!!!!!

mrssnodge Tue 25-Mar-14 10:13:31

she cant even make a cup of tea! I recently stood over her and made her/showed her how to do it- with Dp at her side, laughing and saying she doesnt even drink tea, so why should she do it -
Her new bedroom was my sons old room, the biggest in the house- DP bought most of the new things, and she does at least keep this clean- she also takes her washing home.
Never washes up or lefts a finger, apart from the day we swapped rooms for her, I made her help clean before decorating and I think she actually enjoyed it- but since then nothing .
I agree with the pocket money/allowance thing- he gives her too much and that makes her entitled, - I also know she does nothing at home-( but her Dm is a lazy person too! lol!)
DP has just text my to say he has an early finish so is going to pick her up after work experience today- ah bless she cant manage a 10 min walk home either-its a 40 min drive, there and back!
I know im coming across bitter etc, and he is equally to blame, I just hope she discovers boys and mates soon, I know she will drop Dp like a brick when that happens! Not sure if Dp will be relieved or hurt but I wil be a lot happier without her EW!!!!!!

mrssnodge Tue 25-Mar-14 10:13:31

she cant even make a cup of tea! I recently stood over her and made her/showed her how to do it- with Dp at her side, laughing and saying she doesnt even drink tea, so why should she do it -
Her new bedroom was my sons old room, the biggest in the house- DP bought most of the new things, and she does at least keep this clean- she also takes her washing home.
Never washes up or lefts a finger, apart from the day we swapped rooms for her, I made her help clean before decorating and I think she actually enjoyed it- but since then nothing .
I agree with the pocket money/allowance thing- he gives her too much and that makes her entitled, - I also know she does nothing at home-( but her Dm is a lazy person too! lol!)
DP has just text my to say he has an early finish so is going to pick her up after work experience today- ah bless she cant manage a 10 min walk home either-its a 40 min drive, there and back!
I know im coming across bitter etc, and he is equally to blame, I just hope she discovers boys and mates soon, I know she will drop Dp like a brick when that happens! Not sure if Dp will be relieved or hurt but I wil be a lot happier without her EW!!!!!!

mrssnodge Tue 25-Mar-14 10:13:32

she cant even make a cup of tea! I recently stood over her and made her/showed her how to do it- with Dp at her side, laughing and saying she doesnt even drink tea, so why should she do it -
Her new bedroom was my sons old room, the biggest in the house- DP bought most of the new things, and she does at least keep this clean- she also takes her washing home.
Never washes up or lefts a finger, apart from the day we swapped rooms for her, I made her help clean before decorating and I think she actually enjoyed it- but since then nothing .
I agree with the pocket money/allowance thing- he gives her too much and that makes her entitled, - I also know she does nothing at home-( but her Dm is a lazy person too! lol!)
DP has just text my to say he has an early finish so is going to pick her up after work experience today- ah bless she cant manage a 10 min walk home either-its a 40 min drive, there and back!
I know im coming across bitter etc, and he is equally to blame, I just hope she discovers boys and mates soon, I know she will drop Dp like a brick when that happens! Not sure if Dp will be relieved or hurt but I wil be a lot happier without her EW!!!!!!

mrssnodge Tue 25-Mar-14 10:13:32

she cant even make a cup of tea! I recently stood over her and made her/showed her how to do it- with Dp at her side, laughing and saying she doesnt even drink tea, so why should she do it -
Her new bedroom was my sons old room, the biggest in the house- DP bought most of the new things, and she does at least keep this clean- she also takes her washing home.
Never washes up or lefts a finger, apart from the day we swapped rooms for her, I made her help clean before decorating and I think she actually enjoyed it- but since then nothing .
I agree with the pocket money/allowance thing- he gives her too much and that makes her entitled, - I also know she does nothing at home-( but her Dm is a lazy person too! lol!)
DP has just text my to say he has an early finish so is going to pick her up after work experience today- ah bless she cant manage a 10 min walk home either-its a 40 min drive, there and back!
I know im coming across bitter etc, and he is equally to blame, I just hope she discovers boys and mates soon, I know she will drop Dp like a brick when that happens! Not sure if Dp will be relieved or hurt but I wil be a lot happier without her EW!!!!!!

mrssnodge Tue 25-Mar-14 10:13:32

she cant even make a cup of tea! I recently stood over her and made her/showed her how to do it- with Dp at her side, laughing and saying she doesnt even drink tea, so why should she do it -
Her new bedroom was my sons old room, the biggest in the house- DP bought most of the new things, and she does at least keep this clean- she also takes her washing home.
Never washes up or lefts a finger, apart from the day we swapped rooms for her, I made her help clean before decorating and I think she actually enjoyed it- but since then nothing .
I agree with the pocket money/allowance thing- he gives her too much and that makes her entitled, - I also know she does nothing at home-( but her Dm is a lazy person too! lol!)
DP has just text my to say he has an early finish so is going to pick her up after work experience today- ah bless she cant manage a 10 min walk home either-its a 40 min drive, there and back!
I know im coming across bitter etc, and he is equally to blame, I just hope she discovers boys and mates soon, I know she will drop Dp like a brick when that happens! Not sure if Dp will be relieved or hurt but I wil be a lot happier without her EW!!!!!!

mrssnodge Tue 25-Mar-14 10:13:32

she cant even make a cup of tea! I recently stood over her and made her/showed her how to do it- with Dp at her side, laughing and saying she doesnt even drink tea, so why should she do it -
Her new bedroom was my sons old room, the biggest in the house- DP bought most of the new things, and she does at least keep this clean- she also takes her washing home.
Never washes up or lefts a finger, apart from the day we swapped rooms for her, I made her help clean before decorating and I think she actually enjoyed it- but since then nothing .
I agree with the pocket money/allowance thing- he gives her too much and that makes her entitled, - I also know she does nothing at home-( but her Dm is a lazy person too! lol!)
DP has just text my to say he has an early finish so is going to pick her up after work experience today- ah bless she cant manage a 10 min walk home either-its a 40 min drive, there and back!
I know im coming across bitter etc, and he is equally to blame, I just hope she discovers boys and mates soon, I know she will drop Dp like a brick when that happens! Not sure if Dp will be relieved or hurt but I wil be a lot happier without her EW!!!!!!

mrssnodge Tue 25-Mar-14 10:13:38

she cant even make a cup of tea! I recently stood over her and made her/showed her how to do it- with Dp at her side, laughing and saying she doesnt even drink tea, so why should she do it -
Her new bedroom was my sons old room, the biggest in the house- DP bought most of the new things, and she does at least keep this clean- she also takes her washing home.
Never washes up or lefts a finger, apart from the day we swapped rooms for her, I made her help clean before decorating and I think she actually enjoyed it- but since then nothing .
I agree with the pocket money/allowance thing- he gives her too much and that makes her entitled, - I also know she does nothing at home-( but her Dm is a lazy person too! lol!)
DP has just text my to say he has an early finish so is going to pick her up after work experience today- ah bless she cant manage a 10 min walk home either-its a 40 min drive, there and back!
I know im coming across bitter etc, and he is equally to blame, I just hope she discovers boys and mates soon, I know she will drop Dp like a brick when that happens! Not sure if Dp will be relieved or hurt but I wil be a lot happier without her EW!!!!!!

mrssnodge Tue 25-Mar-14 10:13:38

she cant even make a cup of tea! I recently stood over her and made her/showed her how to do it- with Dp at her side, laughing and saying she doesnt even drink tea, so why should she do it -
Her new bedroom was my sons old room, the biggest in the house- DP bought most of the new things, and she does at least keep this clean- she also takes her washing home.
Never washes up or lefts a finger, apart from the day we swapped rooms for her, I made her help clean before decorating and I think she actually enjoyed it- but since then nothing .
I agree with the pocket money/allowance thing- he gives her too much and that makes her entitled, - I also know she does nothing at home-( but her Dm is a lazy person too! lol!)
DP has just text my to say he has an early finish so is going to pick her up after work experience today- ah bless she cant manage a 10 min walk home either-its a 40 min drive, there and back!
I know im coming across bitter etc, and he is equally to blame, I just hope she discovers boys and mates soon, I know she will drop Dp like a brick when that happens! Not sure if Dp will be relieved or hurt but I wil be a lot happier without her EW!!!!!!

mrssnodge Tue 25-Mar-14 10:13:38

she cant even make a cup of tea! I recently stood over her and made her/showed her how to do it- with Dp at her side, laughing and saying she doesnt even drink tea, so why should she do it -
Her new bedroom was my sons old room, the biggest in the house- DP bought most of the new things, and she does at least keep this clean- she also takes her washing home.
Never washes up or lefts a finger, apart from the day we swapped rooms for her, I made her help clean before decorating and I think she actually enjoyed it- but since then nothing .
I agree with the pocket money/allowance thing- he gives her too much and that makes her entitled, - I also know she does nothing at home-( but her Dm is a lazy person too! lol!)
DP has just text my to say he has an early finish so is going to pick her up after work experience today- ah bless she cant manage a 10 min walk home either-its a 40 min drive, there and back!
I know im coming across bitter etc, and he is equally to blame, I just hope she discovers boys and mates soon, I know she will drop Dp like a brick when that happens! Not sure if Dp will be relieved or hurt but I wil be a lot happier without her EW!!!!!!

mrssnodge Tue 25-Mar-14 10:13:38

she cant even make a cup of tea! I recently stood over her and made her/showed her how to do it- with Dp at her side, laughing and saying she doesnt even drink tea, so why should she do it -
Her new bedroom was my sons old room, the biggest in the house- DP bought most of the new things, and she does at least keep this clean- she also takes her washing home.
Never washes up or lefts a finger, apart from the day we swapped rooms for her, I made her help clean before decorating and I think she actually enjoyed it- but since then nothing .
I agree with the pocket money/allowance thing- he gives her too much and that makes her entitled, - I also know she does nothing at home-( but her Dm is a lazy person too! lol!)
DP has just text my to say he has an early finish so is going to pick her up after work experience today- ah bless she cant manage a 10 min walk home either-its a 40 min drive, there and back!
I know im coming across bitter etc, and he is equally to blame, I just hope she discovers boys and mates soon, I know she will drop Dp like a brick when that happens! Not sure if Dp will be relieved or hurt but I wil be a lot happier without her EW!!!!!!

mrssnodge Tue 25-Mar-14 10:13:44

she cant even make a cup of tea! I recently stood over her and made her/showed her how to do it- with Dp at her side, laughing and saying she doesnt even drink tea, so why should she do it -
Her new bedroom was my sons old room, the biggest in the house- DP bought most of the new things, and she does at least keep this clean- she also takes her washing home.
Never washes up or lefts a finger, apart from the day we swapped rooms for her, I made her help clean before decorating and I think she actually enjoyed it- but since then nothing .
I agree with the pocket money/allowance thing- he gives her too much and that makes her entitled, - I also know she does nothing at home-( but her Dm is a lazy person too! lol!)
DP has just text my to say he has an early finish so is going to pick her up after work experience today- ah bless she cant manage a 10 min walk home either-its a 40 min drive, there and back!
I know im coming across bitter etc, and he is equally to blame, I just hope she discovers boys and mates soon, I know she will drop Dp like a brick when that happens! Not sure if Dp will be relieved or hurt but I wil be a lot happier without her EW!!!!!!

mrssnodge Tue 25-Mar-14 10:13:44

she cant even make a cup of tea! I recently stood over her and made her/showed her how to do it- with Dp at her side, laughing and saying she doesnt even drink tea, so why should she do it -
Her new bedroom was my sons old room, the biggest in the house- DP bought most of the new things, and she does at least keep this clean- she also takes her washing home.
Never washes up or lefts a finger, apart from the day we swapped rooms for her, I made her help clean before decorating and I think she actually enjoyed it- but since then nothing .
I agree with the pocket money/allowance thing- he gives her too much and that makes her entitled, - I also know she does nothing at home-( but her Dm is a lazy person too! lol!)
DP has just text my to say he has an early finish so is going to pick her up after work experience today- ah bless she cant manage a 10 min walk home either-its a 40 min drive, there and back!
I know im coming across bitter etc, and he is equally to blame, I just hope she discovers boys and mates soon, I know she will drop Dp like a brick when that happens! Not sure if Dp will be relieved or hurt but I wil be a lot happier without her EW!!!!!!

mrssnodge Tue 25-Mar-14 10:13:44

she cant even make a cup of tea! I recently stood over her and made her/showed her how to do it- with Dp at her side, laughing and saying she doesnt even drink tea, so why should she do it -
Her new bedroom was my sons old room, the biggest in the house- DP bought most of the new things, and she does at least keep this clean- she also takes her washing home.
Never washes up or lefts a finger, apart from the day we swapped rooms for her, I made her help clean before decorating and I think she actually enjoyed it- but since then nothing .
I agree with the pocket money/allowance thing- he gives her too much and that makes her entitled, - I also know she does nothing at home-( but her Dm is a lazy person too! lol!)
DP has just text my to say he has an early finish so is going to pick her up after work experience today- ah bless she cant manage a 10 min walk home either-its a 40 min drive, there and back!
I know im coming across bitter etc, and he is equally to blame, I just hope she discovers boys and mates soon, I know she will drop Dp like a brick when that happens! Not sure if Dp will be relieved or hurt but I wil be a lot happier without her EW!!!!!!

mrssnodge Tue 25-Mar-14 10:13:44

she cant even make a cup of tea! I recently stood over her and made her/showed her how to do it- with Dp at her side, laughing and saying she doesnt even drink tea, so why should she do it -
Her new bedroom was my sons old room, the biggest in the house- DP bought most of the new things, and she does at least keep this clean- she also takes her washing home.
Never washes up or lefts a finger, apart from the day we swapped rooms for her, I made her help clean before decorating and I think she actually enjoyed it- but since then nothing .
I agree with the pocket money/allowance thing- he gives her too much and that makes her entitled, - I also know she does nothing at home-( but her Dm is a lazy person too! lol!)
DP has just text my to say he has an early finish so is going to pick her up after work experience today- ah bless she cant manage a 10 min walk home either-its a 40 min drive, there and back!
I know im coming across bitter etc, and he is equally to blame, I just hope she discovers boys and mates soon, I know she will drop Dp like a brick when that happens! Not sure if Dp will be relieved or hurt but I wil be a lot happier without her EW!!!!!!

mrssnodge Tue 25-Mar-14 10:13:44

she cant even make a cup of tea! I recently stood over her and made her/showed her how to do it- with Dp at her side, laughing and saying she doesnt even drink tea, so why should she do it -
Her new bedroom was my sons old room, the biggest in the house- DP bought most of the new things, and she does at least keep this clean- she also takes her washing home.
Never washes up or lefts a finger, apart from the day we swapped rooms for her, I made her help clean before decorating and I think she actually enjoyed it- but since then nothing .
I agree with the pocket money/allowance thing- he gives her too much and that makes her entitled, - I also know she does nothing at home-( but her Dm is a lazy person too! lol!)
DP has just text my to say he has an early finish so is going to pick her up after work experience today- ah bless she cant manage a 10 min walk home either-its a 40 min drive, there and back!
I know im coming across bitter etc, and he is equally to blame, I just hope she discovers boys and mates soon, I know she will drop Dp like a brick when that happens! Not sure if Dp will be relieved or hurt but I wil be a lot happier without her EW!!!!!!

mrssnodge Tue 25-Mar-14 10:13:45

she cant even make a cup of tea! I recently stood over her and made her/showed her how to do it- with Dp at her side, laughing and saying she doesnt even drink tea, so why should she do it -
Her new bedroom was my sons old room, the biggest in the house- DP bought most of the new things, and she does at least keep this clean- she also takes her washing home.
Never washes up or lefts a finger, apart from the day we swapped rooms for her, I made her help clean before decorating and I think she actually enjoyed it- but since then nothing .
I agree with the pocket money/allowance thing- he gives her too much and that makes her entitled, - I also know she does nothing at home-( but her Dm is a lazy person too! lol!)
DP has just text my to say he has an early finish so is going to pick her up after work experience today- ah bless she cant manage a 10 min walk home either-its a 40 min drive, there and back!
I know im coming across bitter etc, and he is equally to blame, I just hope she discovers boys and mates soon, I know she will drop Dp like a brick when that happens! Not sure if Dp will be relieved or hurt but I wil be a lot happier without her EW!!!!!!

mrssnodge Tue 25-Mar-14 10:13:46

she cant even make a cup of tea! I recently stood over her and made her/showed her how to do it- with Dp at her side, laughing and saying she doesnt even drink tea, so why should she do it -
Her new bedroom was my sons old room, the biggest in the house- DP bought most of the new things, and she does at least keep this clean- she also takes her washing home.
Never washes up or lefts a finger, apart from the day we swapped rooms for her, I made her help clean before decorating and I think she actually enjoyed it- but since then nothing .
I agree with the pocket money/allowance thing- he gives her too much and that makes her entitled, - I also know she does nothing at home-( but her Dm is a lazy person too! lol!)
DP has just text my to say he has an early finish so is going to pick her up after work experience today- ah bless she cant manage a 10 min walk home either-its a 40 min drive, there and back!
I know im coming across bitter etc, and he is equally to blame, I just hope she discovers boys and mates soon, I know she will drop Dp like a brick when that happens! Not sure if Dp will be relieved or hurt but I wil be a lot happier without her EW!!!!!!

mrssnodge Tue 25-Mar-14 10:13:46

she cant even make a cup of tea! I recently stood over her and made her/showed her how to do it- with Dp at her side, laughing and saying she doesnt even drink tea, so why should she do it -
Her new bedroom was my sons old room, the biggest in the house- DP bought most of the new things, and she does at least keep this clean- she also takes her washing home.
Never washes up or lefts a finger, apart from the day we swapped rooms for her, I made her help clean before decorating and I think she actually enjoyed it- but since then nothing .
I agree with the pocket money/allowance thing- he gives her too much and that makes her entitled, - I also know she does nothing at home-( but her Dm is a lazy person too! lol!)
DP has just text my to say he has an early finish so is going to pick her up after work experience today- ah bless she cant manage a 10 min walk home either-its a 40 min drive, there and back!
I know im coming across bitter etc, and he is equally to blame, I just hope she discovers boys and mates soon, I know she will drop Dp like a brick when that happens! Not sure if Dp will be relieved or hurt but I wil be a lot happier without her EW!!!!!!

mrssnodge Tue 25-Mar-14 10:13:46

she cant even make a cup of tea! I recently stood over her and made her/showed her how to do it- with Dp at her side, laughing and saying she doesnt even drink tea, so why should she do it -
Her new bedroom was my sons old room, the biggest in the house- DP bought most of the new things, and she does at least keep this clean- she also takes her washing home.
Never washes up or lefts a finger, apart from the day we swapped rooms for her, I made her help clean before decorating and I think she actually enjoyed it- but since then nothing .
I agree with the pocket money/allowance thing- he gives her too much and that makes her entitled, - I also know she does nothing at home-( but her Dm is a lazy person too! lol!)
DP has just text my to say he has an early finish so is going to pick her up after work experience today- ah bless she cant manage a 10 min walk home either-its a 40 min drive, there and back!
I know im coming across bitter etc, and he is equally to blame, I just hope she discovers boys and mates soon, I know she will drop Dp like a brick when that happens! Not sure if Dp will be relieved or hurt but I wil be a lot happier without her EW!!!!!!

mrssnodge Tue 25-Mar-14 10:13:47

she cant even make a cup of tea! I recently stood over her and made her/showed her how to do it- with Dp at her side, laughing and saying she doesnt even drink tea, so why should she do it -
Her new bedroom was my sons old room, the biggest in the house- DP bought most of the new things, and she does at least keep this clean- she also takes her washing home.
Never washes up or lefts a finger, apart from the day we swapped rooms for her, I made her help clean before decorating and I think she actually enjoyed it- but since then nothing .
I agree with the pocket money/allowance thing- he gives her too much and that makes her entitled, - I also know she does nothing at home-( but her Dm is a lazy person too! lol!)
DP has just text my to say he has an early finish so is going to pick her up after work experience today- ah bless she cant manage a 10 min walk home either-its a 40 min drive, there and back!
I know im coming across bitter etc, and he is equally to blame, I just hope she discovers boys and mates soon, I know she will drop Dp like a brick when that happens! Not sure if Dp will be relieved or hurt but I wil be a lot happier without her EW!!!!!!

mrssnodge Tue 25-Mar-14 10:13:52

she cant even make a cup of tea! I recently stood over her and made her/showed her how to do it- with Dp at her side, laughing and saying she doesnt even drink tea, so why should she do it -
Her new bedroom was my sons old room, the biggest in the house- DP bought most of the new things, and she does at least keep this clean- she also takes her washing home.
Never washes up or lefts a finger, apart from the day we swapped rooms for her, I made her help clean before decorating and I think she actually enjoyed it- but since then nothing .
I agree with the pocket money/allowance thing- he gives her too much and that makes her entitled, - I also know she does nothing at home-( but her Dm is a lazy person too! lol!)
DP has just text my to say he has an early finish so is going to pick her up after work experience today- ah bless she cant manage a 10 min walk home either-its a 40 min drive, there and back!
I know im coming across bitter etc, and he is equally to blame, I just hope she discovers boys and mates soon, I know she will drop Dp like a brick when that happens! Not sure if Dp will be relieved or hurt but I wil be a lot happier without her EW!!!!!!

mrssnodge Tue 25-Mar-14 10:13:52

she cant even make a cup of tea! I recently stood over her and made her/showed her how to do it- with Dp at her side, laughing and saying she doesnt even drink tea, so why should she do it -
Her new bedroom was my sons old room, the biggest in the house- DP bought most of the new things, and she does at least keep this clean- she also takes her washing home.
Never washes up or lefts a finger, apart from the day we swapped rooms for her, I made her help clean before decorating and I think she actually enjoyed it- but since then nothing .
I agree with the pocket money/allowance thing- he gives her too much and that makes her entitled, - I also know she does nothing at home-( but her Dm is a lazy person too! lol!)
DP has just text my to say he has an early finish so is going to pick her up after work experience today- ah bless she cant manage a 10 min walk home either-its a 40 min drive, there and back!
I know im coming across bitter etc, and he is equally to blame, I just hope she discovers boys and mates soon, I know she will drop Dp like a brick when that happens! Not sure if Dp will be relieved or hurt but I wil be a lot happier without her EW!!!!!!

mrssnodge Tue 25-Mar-14 10:13:53

she cant even make a cup of tea! I recently stood over her and made her/showed her how to do it- with Dp at her side, laughing and saying she doesnt even drink tea, so why should she do it -
Her new bedroom was my sons old room, the biggest in the house- DP bought most of the new things, and she does at least keep this clean- she also takes her washing home.
Never washes up or lefts a finger, apart from the day we swapped rooms for her, I made her help clean before decorating and I think she actually enjoyed it- but since then nothing .
I agree with the pocket money/allowance thing- he gives her too much and that makes her entitled, - I also know she does nothing at home-( but her Dm is a lazy person too! lol!)
DP has just text my to say he has an early finish so is going to pick her up after work experience today- ah bless she cant manage a 10 min walk home either-its a 40 min drive, there and back!
I know im coming across bitter etc, and he is equally to blame, I just hope she discovers boys and mates soon, I know she will drop Dp like a brick when that happens! Not sure if Dp will be relieved or hurt but I wil be a lot happier without her EW!!!!!!

mrssnodge Tue 25-Mar-14 10:13:53

she cant even make a cup of tea! I recently stood over her and made her/showed her how to do it- with Dp at her side, laughing and saying she doesnt even drink tea, so why should she do it -
Her new bedroom was my sons old room, the biggest in the house- DP bought most of the new things, and she does at least keep this clean- she also takes her washing home.
Never washes up or lefts a finger, apart from the day we swapped rooms for her, I made her help clean before decorating and I think she actually enjoyed it- but since then nothing .
I agree with the pocket money/allowance thing- he gives her too much and that makes her entitled, - I also know she does nothing at home-( but her Dm is a lazy person too! lol!)
DP has just text my to say he has an early finish so is going to pick her up after work experience today- ah bless she cant manage a 10 min walk home either-its a 40 min drive, there and back!
I know im coming across bitter etc, and he is equally to blame, I just hope she discovers boys and mates soon, I know she will drop Dp like a brick when that happens! Not sure if Dp will be relieved or hurt but I wil be a lot happier without her EW!!!!!!

mrssnodge Tue 25-Mar-14 10:13:53

she cant even make a cup of tea! I recently stood over her and made her/showed her how to do it- with Dp at her side, laughing and saying she doesnt even drink tea, so why should she do it -
Her new bedroom was my sons old room, the biggest in the house- DP bought most of the new things, and she does at least keep this clean- she also takes her washing home.
Never washes up or lefts a finger, apart from the day we swapped rooms for her, I made her help clean before decorating and I think she actually enjoyed it- but since then nothing .
I agree with the pocket money/allowance thing- he gives her too much and that makes her entitled, - I also know she does nothing at home-( but her Dm is a lazy person too! lol!)
DP has just text my to say he has an early finish so is going to pick her up after work experience today- ah bless she cant manage a 10 min walk home either-its a 40 min drive, there and back!
I know im coming across bitter etc, and he is equally to blame, I just hope she discovers boys and mates soon, I know she will drop Dp like a brick when that happens! Not sure if Dp will be relieved or hurt but I wil be a lot happier without her EW!!!!!!

mrssnodge Tue 25-Mar-14 10:13:54

she cant even make a cup of tea! I recently stood over her and made her/showed her how to do it- with Dp at her side, laughing and saying she doesnt even drink tea, so why should she do it -
Her new bedroom was my sons old room, the biggest in the house- DP bought most of the new things, and she does at least keep this clean- she also takes her washing home.
Never washes up or lefts a finger, apart from the day we swapped rooms for her, I made her help clean before decorating and I think she actually enjoyed it- but since then nothing .
I agree with the pocket money/allowance thing- he gives her too much and that makes her entitled, - I also know she does nothing at home-( but her Dm is a lazy person too! lol!)
DP has just text my to say he has an early finish so is going to pick her up after work experience today- ah bless she cant manage a 10 min walk home either-its a 40 min drive, there and back!
I know im coming across bitter etc, and he is equally to blame, I just hope she discovers boys and mates soon, I know she will drop Dp like a brick when that happens! Not sure if Dp will be relieved or hurt but I wil be a lot happier without her EW!!!!!!

mrssnodge Tue 25-Mar-14 10:13:54

she cant even make a cup of tea! I recently stood over her and made her/showed her how to do it- with Dp at her side, laughing and saying she doesnt even drink tea, so why should she do it -
Her new bedroom was my sons old room, the biggest in the house- DP bought most of the new things, and she does at least keep this clean- she also takes her washing home.
Never washes up or lefts a finger, apart from the day we swapped rooms for her, I made her help clean before decorating and I think she actually enjoyed it- but since then nothing .
I agree with the pocket money/allowance thing- he gives her too much and that makes her entitled, - I also know she does nothing at home-( but her Dm is a lazy person too! lol!)
DP has just text my to say he has an early finish so is going to pick her up after work experience today- ah bless she cant manage a 10 min walk home either-its a 40 min drive, there and back!
I know im coming across bitter etc, and he is equally to blame, I just hope she discovers boys and mates soon, I know she will drop Dp like a brick when that happens! Not sure if Dp will be relieved or hurt but I wil be a lot happier without her EW!!!!!!

mrssnodge Tue 25-Mar-14 10:13:55

she cant even make a cup of tea! I recently stood over her and made her/showed her how to do it- with Dp at her side, laughing and saying she doesnt even drink tea, so why should she do it -
Her new bedroom was my sons old room, the biggest in the house- DP bought most of the new things, and she does at least keep this clean- she also takes her washing home.
Never washes up or lefts a finger, apart from the day we swapped rooms for her, I made her help clean before decorating and I think she actually enjoyed it- but since then nothing .
I agree with the pocket money/allowance thing- he gives her too much and that makes her entitled, - I also know she does nothing at home-( but her Dm is a lazy person too! lol!)
DP has just text my to say he has an early finish so is going to pick her up after work experience today- ah bless she cant manage a 10 min walk home either-its a 40 min drive, there and back!
I know im coming across bitter etc, and he is equally to blame, I just hope she discovers boys and mates soon, I know she will drop Dp like a brick when that happens! Not sure if Dp will be relieved or hurt but I wil be a lot happier without her EW!!!!!!

mrssnodge Tue 25-Mar-14 10:13:55

she cant even make a cup of tea! I recently stood over her and made her/showed her how to do it- with Dp at her side, laughing and saying she doesnt even drink tea, so why should she do it -
Her new bedroom was my sons old room, the biggest in the house- DP bought most of the new things, and she does at least keep this clean- she also takes her washing home.
Never washes up or lefts a finger, apart from the day we swapped rooms for her, I made her help clean before decorating and I think she actually enjoyed it- but since then nothing .
I agree with the pocket money/allowance thing- he gives her too much and that makes her entitled, - I also know she does nothing at home-( but her Dm is a lazy person too! lol!)
DP has just text my to say he has an early finish so is going to pick her up after work experience today- ah bless she cant manage a 10 min walk home either-its a 40 min drive, there and back!
I know im coming across bitter etc, and he is equally to blame, I just hope she discovers boys and mates soon, I know she will drop Dp like a brick when that happens! Not sure if Dp will be relieved or hurt but I wil be a lot happier without her EW!!!!!!

mrssnodge Tue 25-Mar-14 10:13:55

she cant even make a cup of tea! I recently stood over her and made her/showed her how to do it- with Dp at her side, laughing and saying she doesnt even drink tea, so why should she do it -
Her new bedroom was my sons old room, the biggest in the house- DP bought most of the new things, and she does at least keep this clean- she also takes her washing home.
Never washes up or lefts a finger, apart from the day we swapped rooms for her, I made her help clean before decorating and I think she actually enjoyed it- but since then nothing .
I agree with the pocket money/allowance thing- he gives her too much and that makes her entitled, - I also know she does nothing at home-( but her Dm is a lazy person too! lol!)
DP has just text my to say he has an early finish so is going to pick her up after work experience today- ah bless she cant manage a 10 min walk home either-its a 40 min drive, there and back!
I know im coming across bitter etc, and he is equally to blame, I just hope she discovers boys and mates soon, I know she will drop Dp like a brick when that happens! Not sure if Dp will be relieved or hurt but I wil be a lot happier without her EW!!!!!!

mrssnodge Tue 25-Mar-14 10:13:57

she cant even make a cup of tea! I recently stood over her and made her/showed her how to do it- with Dp at her side, laughing and saying she doesnt even drink tea, so why should she do it -
Her new bedroom was my sons old room, the biggest in the house- DP bought most of the new things, and she does at least keep this clean- she also takes her washing home.
Never washes up or lefts a finger, apart from the day we swapped rooms for her, I made her help clean before decorating and I think she actually enjoyed it- but since then nothing .
I agree with the pocket money/allowance thing- he gives her too much and that makes her entitled, - I also know she does nothing at home-( but her Dm is a lazy person too! lol!)
DP has just text my to say he has an early finish so is going to pick her up after work experience today- ah bless she cant manage a 10 min walk home either-its a 40 min drive, there and back!
I know im coming across bitter etc, and he is equally to blame, I just hope she discovers boys and mates soon, I know she will drop Dp like a brick when that happens! Not sure if Dp will be relieved or hurt but I wil be a lot happier without her EW!!!!!!

mrssnodge Tue 25-Mar-14 10:13:57

she cant even make a cup of tea! I recently stood over her and made her/showed her how to do it- with Dp at her side, laughing and saying she doesnt even drink tea, so why should she do it -
Her new bedroom was my sons old room, the biggest in the house- DP bought most of the new things, and she does at least keep this clean- she also takes her washing home.
Never washes up or lefts a finger, apart from the day we swapped rooms for her, I made her help clean before decorating and I think she actually enjoyed it- but since then nothing .
I agree with the pocket money/allowance thing- he gives her too much and that makes her entitled, - I also know she does nothing at home-( but her Dm is a lazy person too! lol!)
DP has just text my to say he has an early finish so is going to pick her up after work experience today- ah bless she cant manage a 10 min walk home either-its a 40 min drive, there and back!
I know im coming across bitter etc, and he is equally to blame, I just hope she discovers boys and mates soon, I know she will drop Dp like a brick when that happens! Not sure if Dp will be relieved or hurt but I wil be a lot happier without her EW!!!!!!

mrssnodge Tue 25-Mar-14 10:13:57

she cant even make a cup of tea! I recently stood over her and made her/showed her how to do it- with Dp at her side, laughing and saying she doesnt even drink tea, so why should she do it -
Her new bedroom was my sons old room, the biggest in the house- DP bought most of the new things, and she does at least keep this clean- she also takes her washing home.
Never washes up or lefts a finger, apart from the day we swapped rooms for her, I made her help clean before decorating and I think she actually enjoyed it- but since then nothing .
I agree with the pocket money/allowance thing- he gives her too much and that makes her entitled, - I also know she does nothing at home-( but her Dm is a lazy person too! lol!)
DP has just text my to say he has an early finish so is going to pick her up after work experience today- ah bless she cant manage a 10 min walk home either-its a 40 min drive, there and back!
I know im coming across bitter etc, and he is equally to blame, I just hope she discovers boys and mates soon, I know she will drop Dp like a brick when that happens! Not sure if Dp will be relieved or hurt but I wil be a lot happier without her EW!!!!!!

mrssnodge Tue 25-Mar-14 10:13:58

she cant even make a cup of tea! I recently stood over her and made her/showed her how to do it- with Dp at her side, laughing and saying she doesnt even drink tea, so why should she do it -
Her new bedroom was my sons old room, the biggest in the house- DP bought most of the new things, and she does at least keep this clean- she also takes her washing home.
Never washes up or lefts a finger, apart from the day we swapped rooms for her, I made her help clean before decorating and I think she actually enjoyed it- but since then nothing .
I agree with the pocket money/allowance thing- he gives her too much and that makes her entitled, - I also know she does nothing at home-( but her Dm is a lazy person too! lol!)
DP has just text my to say he has an early finish so is going to pick her up after work experience today- ah bless she cant manage a 10 min walk home either-its a 40 min drive, there and back!
I know im coming across bitter etc, and he is equally to blame, I just hope she discovers boys and mates soon, I know she will drop Dp like a brick when that happens! Not sure if Dp will be relieved or hurt but I wil be a lot happier without her EW!!!!!!

mrssnodge Tue 25-Mar-14 10:13:58

she cant even make a cup of tea! I recently stood over her and made her/showed her how to do it- with Dp at her side, laughing and saying she doesnt even drink tea, so why should she do it -
Her new bedroom was my sons old room, the biggest in the house- DP bought most of the new things, and she does at least keep this clean- she also takes her washing home.
Never washes up or lefts a finger, apart from the day we swapped rooms for her, I made her help clean before decorating and I think she actually enjoyed it- but since then nothing .
I agree with the pocket money/allowance thing- he gives her too much and that makes her entitled, - I also know she does nothing at home-( but her Dm is a lazy person too! lol!)
DP has just text my to say he has an early finish so is going to pick her up after work experience today- ah bless she cant manage a 10 min walk home either-its a 40 min drive, there and back!
I know im coming across bitter etc, and he is equally to blame, I just hope she discovers boys and mates soon, I know she will drop Dp like a brick when that happens! Not sure if Dp will be relieved or hurt but I wil be a lot happier without her EW!!!!!!

mrssnodge Tue 25-Mar-14 10:13:58

she cant even make a cup of tea! I recently stood over her and made her/showed her how to do it- with Dp at her side, laughing and saying she doesnt even drink tea, so why should she do it -
Her new bedroom was my sons old room, the biggest in the house- DP bought most of the new things, and she does at least keep this clean- she also takes her washing home.
Never washes up or lefts a finger, apart from the day we swapped rooms for her, I made her help clean before decorating and I think she actually enjoyed it- but since then nothing .
I agree with the pocket money/allowance thing- he gives her too much and that makes her entitled, - I also know she does nothing at home-( but her Dm is a lazy person too! lol!)
DP has just text my to say he has an early finish so is going to pick her up after work experience today- ah bless she cant manage a 10 min walk home either-its a 40 min drive, there and back!
I know im coming across bitter etc, and he is equally to blame, I just hope she discovers boys and mates soon, I know she will drop Dp like a brick when that happens! Not sure if Dp will be relieved or hurt but I wil be a lot happier without her EW!!!!!!

mrssnodge Tue 25-Mar-14 10:13:58

she cant even make a cup of tea! I recently stood over her and made her/showed her how to do it- with Dp at her side, laughing and saying she doesnt even drink tea, so why should she do it -
Her new bedroom was my sons old room, the biggest in the house- DP bought most of the new things, and she does at least keep this clean- she also takes her washing home.
Never washes up or lefts a finger, apart from the day we swapped rooms for her, I made her help clean before decorating and I think she actually enjoyed it- but since then nothing .
I agree with the pocket money/allowance thing- he gives her too much and that makes her entitled, - I also know she does nothing at home-( but her Dm is a lazy person too! lol!)
DP has just text my to say he has an early finish so is going to pick her up after work experience today- ah bless she cant manage a 10 min walk home either-its a 40 min drive, there and back!
I know im coming across bitter etc, and he is equally to blame, I just hope she discovers boys and mates soon, I know she will drop Dp like a brick when that happens! Not sure if Dp will be relieved or hurt but I wil be a lot happier without her EW!!!!!!

mrssnodge Tue 25-Mar-14 10:13:58

she cant even make a cup of tea! I recently stood over her and made her/showed her how to do it- with Dp at her side, laughing and saying she doesnt even drink tea, so why should she do it -
Her new bedroom was my sons old room, the biggest in the house- DP bought most of the new things, and she does at least keep this clean- she also takes her washing home.
Never washes up or lefts a finger, apart from the day we swapped rooms for her, I made her help clean before decorating and I think she actually enjoyed it- but since then nothing .
I agree with the pocket money/allowance thing- he gives her too much and that makes her entitled, - I also know she does nothing at home-( but her Dm is a lazy person too! lol!)
DP has just text my to say he has an early finish so is going to pick her up after work experience today- ah bless she cant manage a 10 min walk home either-its a 40 min drive, there and back!
I know im coming across bitter etc, and he is equally to blame, I just hope she discovers boys and mates soon, I know she will drop Dp like a brick when that happens! Not sure if Dp will be relieved or hurt but I wil be a lot happier without her EW!!!!!!

mrssnodge Tue 25-Mar-14 10:13:58

she cant even make a cup of tea! I recently stood over her and made her/showed her how to do it- with Dp at her side, laughing and saying she doesnt even drink tea, so why should she do it -
Her new bedroom was my sons old room, the biggest in the house- DP bought most of the new things, and she does at least keep this clean- she also takes her washing home.
Never washes up or lefts a finger, apart from the day we swapped rooms for her, I made her help clean before decorating and I think she actually enjoyed it- but since then nothing .
I agree with the pocket money/allowance thing- he gives her too much and that makes her entitled, - I also know she does nothing at home-( but her Dm is a lazy person too! lol!)
DP has just text my to say he has an early finish so is going to pick her up after work experience today- ah bless she cant manage a 10 min walk home either-its a 40 min drive, there and back!
I know im coming across bitter etc, and he is equally to blame, I just hope she discovers boys and mates soon, I know she will drop Dp like a brick when that happens! Not sure if Dp will be relieved or hurt but I wil be a lot happier without her EW!!!!!!

mrssnodge Tue 25-Mar-14 10:13:58

she cant even make a cup of tea! I recently stood over her and made her/showed her how to do it- with Dp at her side, laughing and saying she doesnt even drink tea, so why should she do it -
Her new bedroom was my sons old room, the biggest in the house- DP bought most of the new things, and she does at least keep this clean- she also takes her washing home.
Never washes up or lefts a finger, apart from the day we swapped rooms for her, I made her help clean before decorating and I think she actually enjoyed it- but since then nothing .
I agree with the pocket money/allowance thing- he gives her too much and that makes her entitled, - I also know she does nothing at home-( but her Dm is a lazy person too! lol!)
DP has just text my to say he has an early finish so is going to pick her up after work experience today- ah bless she cant manage a 10 min walk home either-its a 40 min drive, there and back!
I know im coming across bitter etc, and he is equally to blame, I just hope she discovers boys and mates soon, I know she will drop Dp like a brick when that happens! Not sure if Dp will be relieved or hurt but I wil be a lot happier without her EW!!!!!!

mrssnodge Tue 25-Mar-14 10:13:59

she cant even make a cup of tea! I recently stood over her and made her/showed her how to do it- with Dp at her side, laughing and saying she doesnt even drink tea, so why should she do it -
Her new bedroom was my sons old room, the biggest in the house- DP bought most of the new things, and she does at least keep this clean- she also takes her washing home.
Never washes up or lefts a finger, apart from the day we swapped rooms for her, I made her help clean before decorating and I think she actually enjoyed it- but since then nothing .
I agree with the pocket money/allowance thing- he gives her too much and that makes her entitled, - I also know she does nothing at home-( but her Dm is a lazy person too! lol!)
DP has just text my to say he has an early finish so is going to pick her up after work experience today- ah bless she cant manage a 10 min walk home either-its a 40 min drive, there and back!
I know im coming across bitter etc, and he is equally to blame, I just hope she discovers boys and mates soon, I know she will drop Dp like a brick when that happens! Not sure if Dp will be relieved or hurt but I wil be a lot happier without her EW!!!!!!

mrssnodge Tue 25-Mar-14 10:13:59

she cant even make a cup of tea! I recently stood over her and made her/showed her how to do it- with Dp at her side, laughing and saying she doesnt even drink tea, so why should she do it -
Her new bedroom was my sons old room, the biggest in the house- DP bought most of the new things, and she does at least keep this clean- she also takes her washing home.
Never washes up or lefts a finger, apart from the day we swapped rooms for her, I made her help clean before decorating and I think she actually enjoyed it- but since then nothing .
I agree with the pocket money/allowance thing- he gives her too much and that makes her entitled, - I also know she does nothing at home-( but her Dm is a lazy person too! lol!)
DP has just text my to say he has an early finish so is going to pick her up after work experience today- ah bless she cant manage a 10 min walk home either-its a 40 min drive, there and back!
I know im coming across bitter etc, and he is equally to blame, I just hope she discovers boys and mates soon, I know she will drop Dp like a brick when that happens! Not sure if Dp will be relieved or hurt but I wil be a lot happier without her EW!!!!!!

mrssnodge Tue 25-Mar-14 10:13:59

she cant even make a cup of tea! I recently stood over her and made her/showed her how to do it- with Dp at her side, laughing and saying she doesnt even drink tea, so why should she do it -
Her new bedroom was my sons old room, the biggest in the house- DP bought most of the new things, and she does at least keep this clean- she also takes her washing home.
Never washes up or lefts a finger, apart from the day we swapped rooms for her, I made her help clean before decorating and I think she actually enjoyed it- but since then nothing .
I agree with the pocket money/allowance thing- he gives her too much and that makes her entitled, - I also know she does nothing at home-( but her Dm is a lazy person too! lol!)
DP has just text my to say he has an early finish so is going to pick her up after work experience today- ah bless she cant manage a 10 min walk home either-its a 40 min drive, there and back!
I know im coming across bitter etc, and he is equally to blame, I just hope she discovers boys and mates soon, I know she will drop Dp like a brick when that happens! Not sure if Dp will be relieved or hurt but I wil be a lot happier without her EW!!!!!!

mrssnodge Tue 25-Mar-14 10:13:59

she cant even make a cup of tea! I recently stood over her and made her/showed her how to do it- with Dp at her side, laughing and saying she doesnt even drink tea, so why should she do it -
Her new bedroom was my sons old room, the biggest in the house- DP bought most of the new things, and she does at least keep this clean- she also takes her washing home.
Never washes up or lefts a finger, apart from the day we swapped rooms for her, I made her help clean before decorating and I think she actually enjoyed it- but since then nothing .
I agree with the pocket money/allowance thing- he gives her too much and that makes her entitled, - I also know she does nothing at home-( but her Dm is a lazy person too! lol!)
DP has just text my to say he has an early finish so is going to pick her up after work experience today- ah bless she cant manage a 10 min walk home either-its a 40 min drive, there and back!
I know im coming across bitter etc, and he is equally to blame, I just hope she discovers boys and mates soon, I know she will drop Dp like a brick when that happens! Not sure if Dp will be relieved or hurt but I wil be a lot happier without her EW!!!!!!

mrssnodge Tue 25-Mar-14 10:13:59

she cant even make a cup of tea! I recently stood over her and made her/showed her how to do it- with Dp at her side, laughing and saying she doesnt even drink tea, so why should she do it -
Her new bedroom was my sons old room, the biggest in the house- DP bought most of the new things, and she does at least keep this clean- she also takes her washing home.
Never washes up or lefts a finger, apart from the day we swapped rooms for her, I made her help clean before decorating and I think she actually enjoyed it- but since then nothing .
I agree with the pocket money/allowance thing- he gives her too much and that makes her entitled, - I also know she does nothing at home-( but her Dm is a lazy person too! lol!)
DP has just text my to say he has an early finish so is going to pick her up after work experience today- ah bless she cant manage a 10 min walk home either-its a 40 min drive, there and back!
I know im coming across bitter etc, and he is equally to blame, I just hope she discovers boys and mates soon, I know she will drop Dp like a brick when that happens! Not sure if Dp will be relieved or hurt but I wil be a lot happier without her EW!!!!!!

mrssnodge Tue 25-Mar-14 10:14:00

she cant even make a cup of tea! I recently stood over her and made her/showed her how to do it- with Dp at her side, laughing and saying she doesnt even drink tea, so why should she do it -
Her new bedroom was my sons old room, the biggest in the house- DP bought most of the new things, and she does at least keep this clean- she also takes her washing home.
Never washes up or lefts a finger, apart from the day we swapped rooms for her, I made her help clean before decorating and I think she actually enjoyed it- but since then nothing .
I agree with the pocket money/allowance thing- he gives her too much and that makes her entitled, - I also know she does nothing at home-( but her Dm is a lazy person too! lol!)
DP has just text my to say he has an early finish so is going to pick her up after work experience today- ah bless she cant manage a 10 min walk home either-its a 40 min drive, there and back!
I know im coming across bitter etc, and he is equally to blame, I just hope she discovers boys and mates soon, I know she will drop Dp like a brick when that happens! Not sure if Dp will be relieved or hurt but I wil be a lot happier without her EW!!!!!!

mrssnodge Tue 25-Mar-14 10:14:00

she cant even make a cup of tea! I recently stood over her and made her/showed her how to do it- with Dp at her side, laughing and saying she doesnt even drink tea, so why should she do it -
Her new bedroom was my sons old room, the biggest in the house- DP bought most of the new things, and she does at least keep this clean- she also takes her washing home.
Never washes up or lefts a finger, apart from the day we swapped rooms for her, I made her help clean before decorating and I think she actually enjoyed it- but since then nothing .
I agree with the pocket money/allowance thing- he gives her too much and that makes her entitled, - I also know she does nothing at home-( but her Dm is a lazy person too! lol!)
DP has just text my to say he has an early finish so is going to pick her up after work experience today- ah bless she cant manage a 10 min walk home either-its a 40 min drive, there and back!
I know im coming across bitter etc, and he is equally to blame, I just hope she discovers boys and mates soon, I know she will drop Dp like a brick when that happens! Not sure if Dp will be relieved or hurt but I wil be a lot happier without her EW!!!!!!

mrssnodge Tue 25-Mar-14 10:14:00

she cant even make a cup of tea! I recently stood over her and made her/showed her how to do it- with Dp at her side, laughing and saying she doesnt even drink tea, so why should she do it -
Her new bedroom was my sons old room, the biggest in the house- DP bought most of the new things, and she does at least keep this clean- she also takes her washing home.
Never washes up or lefts a finger, apart from the day we swapped rooms for her, I made her help clean before decorating and I think she actually enjoyed it- but since then nothing .
I agree with the pocket money/allowance thing- he gives her too much and that makes her entitled, - I also know she does nothing at home-( but her Dm is a lazy person too! lol!)
DP has just text my to say he has an early finish so is going to pick her up after work experience today- ah bless she cant manage a 10 min walk home either-its a 40 min drive, there and back!
I know im coming across bitter etc, and he is equally to blame, I just hope she discovers boys and mates soon, I know she will drop Dp like a brick when that happens! Not sure if Dp will be relieved or hurt but I wil be a lot happier without her EW!!!!!!

mrssnodge Tue 25-Mar-14 10:14:00

she cant even make a cup of tea! I recently stood over her and made her/showed her how to do it- with Dp at her side, laughing and saying she doesnt even drink tea, so why should she do it -
Her new bedroom was my sons old room, the biggest in the house- DP bought most of the new things, and she does at least keep this clean- she also takes her washing home.
Never washes up or lefts a finger, apart from the day we swapped rooms for her, I made her help clean before decorating and I think she actually enjoyed it- but since then nothing .
I agree with the pocket money/allowance thing- he gives her too much and that makes her entitled, - I also know she does nothing at home-( but her Dm is a lazy person too! lol!)
DP has just text my to say he has an early finish so is going to pick her up after work experience today- ah bless she cant manage a 10 min walk home either-its a 40 min drive, there and back!
I know im coming across bitter etc, and he is equally to blame, I just hope she discovers boys and mates soon, I know she will drop Dp like a brick when that happens! Not sure if Dp will be relieved or hurt but I wil be a lot happier without her EW!!!!!!

mrssnodge Tue 25-Mar-14 10:14:00

she cant even make a cup of tea! I recently stood over her and made her/showed her how to do it- with Dp at her side, laughing and saying she doesnt even drink tea, so why should she do it -
Her new bedroom was my sons old room, the biggest in the house- DP bought most of the new things, and she does at least keep this clean- she also takes her washing home.
Never washes up or lefts a finger, apart from the day we swapped rooms for her, I made her help clean before decorating and I think she actually enjoyed it- but since then nothing .
I agree with the pocket money/allowance thing- he gives her too much and that makes her entitled, - I also know she does nothing at home-( but her Dm is a lazy person too! lol!)
DP has just text my to say he has an early finish so is going to pick her up after work experience today- ah bless she cant manage a 10 min walk home either-its a 40 min drive, there and back!
I know im coming across bitter etc, and he is equally to blame, I just hope she discovers boys and mates soon, I know she will drop Dp like a brick when that happens! Not sure if Dp will be relieved or hurt but I wil be a lot happier without her EW!!!!!!

mrssnodge Tue 25-Mar-14 10:14:00

she cant even make a cup of tea! I recently stood over her and made her/showed her how to do it- with Dp at her side, laughing and saying she doesnt even drink tea, so why should she do it -
Her new bedroom was my sons old room, the biggest in the house- DP bought most of the new things, and she does at least keep this clean- she also takes her washing home.
Never washes up or lefts a finger, apart from the day we swapped rooms for her, I made her help clean before decorating and I think she actually enjoyed it- but since then nothing .
I agree with the pocket money/allowance thing- he gives her too much and that makes her entitled, - I also know she does nothing at home-( but her Dm is a lazy person too! lol!)
DP has just text my to say he has an early finish so is going to pick her up after work experience today- ah bless she cant manage a 10 min walk home either-its a 40 min drive, there and back!
I know im coming across bitter etc, and he is equally to blame, I just hope she discovers boys and mates soon, I know she will drop Dp like a brick when that happens! Not sure if Dp will be relieved or hurt but I wil be a lot happier without her EW!!!!!!

mrssnodge Tue 25-Mar-14 10:14:06

she cant even make a cup of tea! I recently stood over her and made her/showed her how to do it- with Dp at her side, laughing and saying she doesnt even drink tea, so why should she do it -
Her new bedroom was my sons old room, the biggest in the house- DP bought most of the new things, and she does at least keep this clean- she also takes her washing home.
Never washes up or lefts a finger, apart from the day we swapped rooms for her, I made her help clean before decorating and I think she actually enjoyed it- but since then nothing .
I agree with the pocket money/allowance thing- he gives her too much and that makes her entitled, - I also know she does nothing at home-( but her Dm is a lazy person too! lol!)
DP has just text my to say he has an early finish so is going to pick her up after work experience today- ah bless she cant manage a 10 min walk home either-its a 40 min drive, there and back!
I know im coming across bitter etc, and he is equally to blame, I just hope she discovers boys and mates soon, I know she will drop Dp like a brick when that happens! Not sure if Dp will be relieved or hurt but I wil be a lot happier without her EW!!!!!!

mrssnodge Tue 25-Mar-14 10:14:06

she cant even make a cup of tea! I recently stood over her and made her/showed her how to do it- with Dp at her side, laughing and saying she doesnt even drink tea, so why should she do it -
Her new bedroom was my sons old room, the biggest in the house- DP bought most of the new things, and she does at least keep this clean- she also takes her washing home.
Never washes up or lefts a finger, apart from the day we swapped rooms for her, I made her help clean before decorating and I think she actually enjoyed it- but since then nothing .
I agree with the pocket money/allowance thing- he gives her too much and that makes her entitled, - I also know she does nothing at home-( but her Dm is a lazy person too! lol!)
DP has just text my to say he has an early finish so is going to pick her up after work experience today- ah bless she cant manage a 10 min walk home either-its a 40 min drive, there and back!
I know im coming across bitter etc, and he is equally to blame, I just hope she discovers boys and mates soon, I know she will drop Dp like a brick when that happens! Not sure if Dp will be relieved or hurt but I wil be a lot happier without her EW!!!!!!

mrssnodge Tue 25-Mar-14 10:14:07

she cant even make a cup of tea! I recently stood over her and made her/showed her how to do it- with Dp at her side, laughing and saying she doesnt even drink tea, so why should she do it -
Her new bedroom was my sons old room, the biggest in the house- DP bought most of the new things, and she does at least keep this clean- she also takes her washing home.
Never washes up or lefts a finger, apart from the day we swapped rooms for her, I made her help clean before decorating and I think she actually enjoyed it- but since then nothing .
I agree with the pocket money/allowance thing- he gives her too much and that makes her entitled, - I also know she does nothing at home-( but her Dm is a lazy person too! lol!)
DP has just text my to say he has an early finish so is going to pick her up after work experience today- ah bless she cant manage a 10 min walk home either-its a 40 min drive, there and back!
I know im coming across bitter etc, and he is equally to blame, I just hope she discovers boys and mates soon, I know she will drop Dp like a brick when that happens! Not sure if Dp will be relieved or hurt but I wil be a lot happier without her EW!!!!!!

mrssnodge Tue 25-Mar-14 10:14:07

she cant even make a cup of tea! I recently stood over her and made her/showed her how to do it- with Dp at her side, laughing and saying she doesnt even drink tea, so why should she do it -
Her new bedroom was my sons old room, the biggest in the house- DP bought most of the new things, and she does at least keep this clean- she also takes her washing home.
Never washes up or lefts a finger, apart from the day we swapped rooms for her, I made her help clean before decorating and I think she actually enjoyed it- but since then nothing .
I agree with the pocket money/allowance thing- he gives her too much and that makes her entitled, - I also know she does nothing at home-( but her Dm is a lazy person too! lol!)
DP has just text my to say he has an early finish so is going to pick her up after work experience today- ah bless she cant manage a 10 min walk home either-its a 40 min drive, there and back!
I know im coming across bitter etc, and he is equally to blame, I just hope she discovers boys and mates soon, I know she will drop Dp like a brick when that happens! Not sure if Dp will be relieved or hurt but I wil be a lot happier without her EW!!!!!!

mrssnodge Tue 25-Mar-14 10:14:07

she cant even make a cup of tea! I recently stood over her and made her/showed her how to do it- with Dp at her side, laughing and saying she doesnt even drink tea, so why should she do it -
Her new bedroom was my sons old room, the biggest in the house- DP bought most of the new things, and she does at least keep this clean- she also takes her washing home.
Never washes up or lefts a finger, apart from the day we swapped rooms for her, I made her help clean before decorating and I think she actually enjoyed it- but since then nothing .
I agree with the pocket money/allowance thing- he gives her too much and that makes her entitled, - I also know she does nothing at home-( but her Dm is a lazy person too! lol!)
DP has just text my to say he has an early finish so is going to pick her up after work experience today- ah bless she cant manage a 10 min walk home either-its a 40 min drive, there and back!
I know im coming across bitter etc, and he is equally to blame, I just hope she discovers boys and mates soon, I know she will drop Dp like a brick when that happens! Not sure if Dp will be relieved or hurt but I wil be a lot happier without her EW!!!!!!

mrssnodge Tue 25-Mar-14 10:14:07

she cant even make a cup of tea! I recently stood over her and made her/showed her how to do it- with Dp at her side, laughing and saying she doesnt even drink tea, so why should she do it -
Her new bedroom was my sons old room, the biggest in the house- DP bought most of the new things, and she does at least keep this clean- she also takes her washing home.
Never washes up or lefts a finger, apart from the day we swapped rooms for her, I made her help clean before decorating and I think she actually enjoyed it- but since then nothing .
I agree with the pocket money/allowance thing- he gives her too much and that makes her entitled, - I also know she does nothing at home-( but her Dm is a lazy person too! lol!)
DP has just text my to say he has an early finish so is going to pick her up after work experience today- ah bless she cant manage a 10 min walk home either-its a 40 min drive, there and back!
I know im coming across bitter etc, and he is equally to blame, I just hope she discovers boys and mates soon, I know she will drop Dp like a brick when that happens! Not sure if Dp will be relieved or hurt but I wil be a lot happier without her EW!!!!!!

mrssnodge Tue 25-Mar-14 10:14:07

she cant even make a cup of tea! I recently stood over her and made her/showed her how to do it- with Dp at her side, laughing and saying she doesnt even drink tea, so why should she do it -
Her new bedroom was my sons old room, the biggest in the house- DP bought most of the new things, and she does at least keep this clean- she also takes her washing home.
Never washes up or lefts a finger, apart from the day we swapped rooms for her, I made her help clean before decorating and I think she actually enjoyed it- but since then nothing .
I agree with the pocket money/allowance thing- he gives her too much and that makes her entitled, - I also know she does nothing at home-( but her Dm is a lazy person too! lol!)
DP has just text my to say he has an early finish so is going to pick her up after work experience today- ah bless she cant manage a 10 min walk home either-its a 40 min drive, there and back!
I know im coming across bitter etc, and he is equally to blame, I just hope she discovers boys and mates soon, I know she will drop Dp like a brick when that happens! Not sure if Dp will be relieved or hurt but I wil be a lot happier without her EW!!!!!!

mrssnodge Tue 25-Mar-14 10:14:13

she cant even make a cup of tea! I recently stood over her and made her/showed her how to do it- with Dp at her side, laughing and saying she doesnt even drink tea, so why should she do it -
Her new bedroom was my sons old room, the biggest in the house- DP bought most of the new things, and she does at least keep this clean- she also takes her washing home.
Never washes up or lefts a finger, apart from the day we swapped rooms for her, I made her help clean before decorating and I think she actually enjoyed it- but since then nothing .
I agree with the pocket money/allowance thing- he gives her too much and that makes her entitled, - I also know she does nothing at home-( but her Dm is a lazy person too! lol!)
DP has just text my to say he has an early finish so is going to pick her up after work experience today- ah bless she cant manage a 10 min walk home either-its a 40 min drive, there and back!
I know im coming across bitter etc, and he is equally to blame, I just hope she discovers boys and mates soon, I know she will drop Dp like a brick when that happens! Not sure if Dp will be relieved or hurt but I wil be a lot happier without her EW!!!!!!

mrssnodge Tue 25-Mar-14 10:14:13

she cant even make a cup of tea! I recently stood over her and made her/showed her how to do it- with Dp at her side, laughing and saying she doesnt even drink tea, so why should she do it -
Her new bedroom was my sons old room, the biggest in the house- DP bought most of the new things, and she does at least keep this clean- she also takes her washing home.
Never washes up or lefts a finger, apart from the day we swapped rooms for her, I made her help clean before decorating and I think she actually enjoyed it- but since then nothing .
I agree with the pocket money/allowance thing- he gives her too much and that makes her entitled, - I also know she does nothing at home-( but her Dm is a lazy person too! lol!)
DP has just text my to say he has an early finish so is going to pick her up after work experience today- ah bless she cant manage a 10 min walk home either-its a 40 min drive, there and back!
I know im coming across bitter etc, and he is equally to blame, I just hope she discovers boys and mates soon, I know she will drop Dp like a brick when that happens! Not sure if Dp will be relieved or hurt but I wil be a lot happier without her EW!!!!!!

mrssnodge Tue 25-Mar-14 10:14:18

she cant even make a cup of tea! I recently stood over her and made her/showed her how to do it- with Dp at her side, laughing and saying she doesnt even drink tea, so why should she do it -
Her new bedroom was my sons old room, the biggest in the house- DP bought most of the new things, and she does at least keep this clean- she also takes her washing home.
Never washes up or lefts a finger, apart from the day we swapped rooms for her, I made her help clean before decorating and I think she actually enjoyed it- but since then nothing .
I agree with the pocket money/allowance thing- he gives her too much and that makes her entitled, - I also know she does nothing at home-( but her Dm is a lazy person too! lol!)
DP has just text my to say he has an early finish so is going to pick her up after work experience today- ah bless she cant manage a 10 min walk home either-its a 40 min drive, there and back!
I know im coming across bitter etc, and he is equally to blame, I just hope she discovers boys and mates soon, I know she will drop Dp like a brick when that happens! Not sure if Dp will be relieved or hurt but I wil be a lot happier without her EW!!!!!!

mrssnodge Tue 25-Mar-14 10:17:37

ooh soory dont know why that happened!

brdgrl Tue 25-Mar-14 10:21:26

Ah! Your DH is a Disney Dad. That needs sorting!

Russianfudge Tue 25-Mar-14 14:09:06

Arghhhh the lifts that take your husband 40 minutes for the sake of saving her walking ten minutes!! Makes my blood boil.

Russianfudge Tue 25-Mar-14 14:09:55

I think you need to get creative.. would our husband turn down a saucy weekend away just the two of you?

mrssnodge Tue 25-Mar-14 15:40:29

Russian- yeah I think he would turn that down- cant let princes down can we?
A few times i have put my foot down, and said, look she can stay either fri or sat, , but not all weekend and once a month we go out on a sat nite- this happens for a short time then goes back to all weekend again.
I love Dp to bits and we get on fantastic with no other issues- apart from lack of time together on weekend, - I also must say my DD x2 and DS drop by normally once or twice on a weekend, say for an hr or so then go!
He came to live with me when I had all 3 dc at home, and took us all on, but now they have left home I feel im being a bit selfish wanting some time alone- I have done my bit x 3-!!
Will have another chat again, and try to go back to one night only weekend so at least we have 1 day to ourselves!
We took DSD to spain for a week last year- OMG - it was a nightmare-clingy to her dad, would not eat what/when we did, insisted on being bought large meals, which she would then leave, say its disgusting! he spent �800 in a week due to her - I had my own spends and refused to buy her a meal LOL!!!
Hopefully when she grows up a bit she may change- heres hoping- I know my 2 DD were never that bad!

Russianfudge Tue 25-Mar-14 16:46:48

Ah but your children were most likely told "no" on occasion and had family responsibilities. It's very different having children live with you and all being in routine, and having a child who is essentially a guest/ visitor coming every weekend.

It's sad that she only gets to see her Dad at weekend as there's no opportunity to have a "normal" relationship. It's all about fun and relaxing at the weekend. It's not normal life.

BelleateSebastian Tue 25-Mar-14 17:16:58

I don't think she sounds that awful and I think you sound quite catty and resentful, I understand that we cope with our children's foibles far more readily but it's obvious you don't like her.

Russianfudge Tue 25-Mar-14 17:28:23

Yeah you're right BelleateSebastian I totally put up with my own DD speaking only to to her Dad and never me, and not lifting a finger around the house.

mrssnodge Wed 26-Mar-14 16:33:04

Belle,- Yr right in some extent- I dont like her that much, but have tried everything in the book to get to know her/understand from her point of view, took her shopping bought her things/ shown her to cook/ give them space together and still the silent treatment-
I was in the same situatlion myself when my parents divorced at 11, my SM was nice and friendly and I responded to her the same way, with respect! my DSD has non what so ever and after 7 years its not gonna change- She has two elder sisiters, who are not my DP's, and I get on well with them- I get on with her friend who stays EOW too, so its not that Im jealous -Im bloody understanding, but fed up of her being silent and badly behaved and lazy!
I know she could be a lot worse, no shouting or throwing things or causing trouble with DP and her mum etc, its just so hard when she barely acknowledges me!!

FunkyBoldRibena Wed 26-Mar-14 20:31:17

Sorry - why EVERY weekend? Why not every other weekend?

mrssnodge Thu 27-Mar-14 10:40:56

He is entitlted to see her as much as he can- she only lives 40 mins drive away only - her mum does not drive so DP has to do all the driving, collecting, dropping off- I too like to see my grown up DC as much a poss, but with working full time, I only get to see them on weekends, my point is I see them for an or , two at most, she sits here the whole time from fri 4pm, to sun 6pm without speaking to me.
I have no issue with her coming just wish it was not the whole weekend-
At what point will she stop wanting to come? I hoped it would be 13/14, and start to do things with her friends etc, maybe cut it down to fri night only, or sat night then go home, but it seems she hates going home to her DM and older sisters- I think this is due to the fact she is treat normally- no fuss, get on with it attitude, and quite right I think, and no daddy pondering to her every whim!
just wondering if she loves him as mush as her loves her or is taking the piss for what she can get!! Hope not as he would be heartbroken-

brdgrl Thu 27-Mar-14 15:55:43

I'm sure she does love her daddy, mrsnodge, but that doesn't mean she's motivated by love alone! I suspect there is a lot of truth in what you say about her being treated 'normally' at her mum's and given red carpet treatment at dad's.

If it helps at all, you are probably in the worst of it right now. 14-15 has been the nightmare age with both my DSC. Doesn't mean it will go away all on it's own, or that you have to just put up with it in the meantime, of course.

FunkyBoldRibena Thu 27-Mar-14 15:59:17

But why EVERY weekend? Why can't she be at her mum's on alternate weekends? I would have thought her mum would have wanted to have some time with her every other weekend. Doesn't she ever want to go to town or out with her friends?

Cerisier Thu 27-Mar-14 16:17:51

I am amazed DSD doesn't want to go out with friends at the weekend. Hanging round the house for two days must be very dull.

She sounds rather troubled- too clingy, not many friends and a mass of resentment. I think you need to step back for your own sanity and DP should be trying to talk to her about how everything is going in her life and he should be laying down some rules about acceptable behavior.

brdgrl Thu 27-Mar-14 16:23:07

Cerisier, I constantly hear about how teens are supposed to have such a disdain for being with their parents, and only want to be out with friends, and don't want to go on holidays with parents, and would prefer to be drinking with other teens...
In my experience, it just wasn't true. My DSC were/are definitely a bit young for their ages, so maybe that's it, but I think it is actually a bit of a myth about teens. And it clearly isn't only kids in stepfamilies, because my DSD's friends were all the same. They were homebodies, and not at all interested in drinking, partying, or any of the things everyone told me they MUST be.

Weirdos! smile

givemeaclue Thu 27-Mar-14 16:26:56

Just go out on a Saturday, consider it a free day, let her do what she wants

brdgrl Thu 27-Mar-14 16:36:40

giveme, do you mean OP and her DH?

FunkyBoldRibena Thu 27-Mar-14 17:00:00

I have a step daughter and we have been leaving her in the house alone for around 4 years [she is 17 next month]...no way would I stop in just because she was in the house. As I see it she has two houses and if she doesn't like it here then she wouldn't come. I just get on with things that I do at the weekends and half the time her dad goes to the football and she is here alone for the day.

givemeaclue Thu 27-Mar-14 17:26:54

No, the dh is at work. I mean the op.

mrssnodge Thu 27-Mar-14 17:28:44

She very occasionally goes into town on a sat afternoon, - DP, drives her the 40 mins, to her side of town, collects her mate, takes them to ctr of town, and then collects them both at tea time to stay the nite!!
Whats wrong with the bloody bus!???
I think this is mad- fair enough , the day she wants to go to town, she either goes from home and her mate and her can go togetrher, or Dp even drop her off in town to meet her mate, but not for him to collect her mate too!
I dont even mind her mate staying over as hs is nice and polite & chatty- in fact I like it better when she is there!
her Mum works all weekend and goes our drinking. fri/ sat nite- ( thats another story) so when dsd was small it suited her mum for us to have her every weekend, now she is a sullen, entitled teenager its getting worse-
I know things could be a lot worse,- she once said she wants live with us- !! no way!!!!!

mrssnodge Thu 27-Mar-14 17:30:41

DH only occasionally works on a Saturday on overtime &, sometimes so do I, though it may be a bit more often if things continue they way they are now!

TheSherrif Fri 28-Mar-14 02:58:39

Just to say don't get your hopes up. My DSD is 18 & still clinging to Daddy like a koala every weekend. Even her new job is 2 weekday evenings. As for the weekend away - bought & paid for by yours truly, DSD had some major emotional crisis at noon on the day we're leaving, meaning he spent an hour driving to fetch her after work (when we should have been leaving), she had to spend the weekend alone in our house & he spent all weekend on the phone to her, checking she was ok & thoroughly resenting being away. (Nothing had happened by the way, she was just feeling "emotional")

mrssnodge Fri 28-Mar-14 09:16:55

I know how you feel Sherriff- its the same when we go on holiday, he pines for her after 3 days, cant wait to go back to see her and rings her daily. Was worse when we took her with us one year, OMG never again!
I adore my 3 DC and my two GDC but I was never like that, he says its not cos he only sees her on the weekend, when he lived with her its was the same -attached to each other!
My DSd is also 'emotional' a l lot- atention seeking, always making up illness, she has a sneeze, he runs to buy piriton,she has cramp, he buys feminax/ fetches hot water bottle- I dont bliidy get that!!
Never mind, its Friday and she wll be there when I go home tonight- she what this weekend brings eh- oh by the way, Im working overtime all day tomorow, - i wonder why????

brdgrl Fri 28-Mar-14 10:07:59

Let me guess - does she make a massive drama of period pains?

Been there...

superstarheartbreaker Fri 28-Mar-14 21:42:17

Sounds like she's jealous op. Normal but annoying.

trooperlooperdo Fri 04-Apr-14 17:48:53

I'd be tempted to disengage and ignore her, certaiunly not wait on her hand foot and finger.

Treat every stressful situation like a dog, if you can't eat it or play with it, pee on it and walk away

prawnypoos Thu 01-May-14 15:18:06

14? She should have a bloody job an start paying for her own sky tv, laptop and iPod!! She should also be doing her fair share around the house! Can't be doing with spoilt little madams like that. ESP when dear daddy sticks up for his prissy little princess. Uggggghhhhhh makes me mad too!!

AlbertsJoy Thu 01-May-14 22:49:57

This thread is very familiar to me! DP arranged a weekend away a few months ago, us and another middle aged couple (we are in our 50's). When he told me I was elated - till he added "dsd is really looking forward to it"!!!
Fail to see what an 18 yo will get from going on
a romantic weekend with two couples!!

TheSultanofPing Fri 02-May-14 20:04:25

My God. Some nasty posts on here!

brdgrl Fri 02-May-14 22:26:26

AlbertsJoy, that's bonkers. (And yet I am not surprised! Been there!)

catellington Fri 02-May-14 22:50:50

I have been a teen dsd. I did not behave like that however she is losing out on having the totally normal right to spend all weekends with both parents in her own home.

I think it's lovely for her dad to do things for her.

I'm not saying all of what you describe is all ok I'm just saying I've been in something like her shoes and it was awful. Actually reading your posts and some of the replies it makes me feel really sad as I realise my smums probably didn't like me coming to stay either.

brdgrl Fri 02-May-14 23:07:16

I did not behave like that however she is losing out on having the totally normal right to spend all weekends with both parents in her own home.
I'm not sure there is a "right" to this, anyway, surely there are many intact families where its not the case (loads of parents working, sometimes away)....and lots and lots of kids, who are in same boat and don't behave. Children of divorce or bereavement ought to be held to the same standards of behavior as any other child. It's possible to do that and still be sympathetic to their individual circumstances. Sadly, too often they are treated with diminished expectations, and end up crippled by those.

brdgrl Fri 02-May-14 23:08:11

If you weren't a PITA, perhaps your stepmums liked having you around.

thebluehen Sat 03-May-14 07:36:26

I think many children of divorce are so used to giving mum and dad catering for their every whim that the reality of a step parent comes as a bit of a shock.

Some kids are so used to being treated with kid gloves that anything else is genuinely upsetting and difficult for them.

It's time society stopped either a) writing off kids of "broken" families as delinquents. B) stopped pitying the kids.

Let's have high expectations of all out children whatever their circumstances.

doziedoozie Sat 03-May-14 23:51:34

I wouldn't make meals for anyone if I was expected to accept being utterly ignored. Just seems ludicrous. I would go out and meet up with my own pleasant DCs.
Perhaps you are enabling the situation OP.
Because the thing is that DSD isn't going anywhere and nor are you. So something should give so that life is pleasanter for everyone or this will still be the case in 20 years time. Surely DH doesn't like the fact that your are put in a bad mood every weekend? All a bit weird really.

CountryGal13 Sun 04-May-14 12:24:35

I feel your pain op. I have two teenage SC and I often feel like the invisible woman too. I say 'hello' and 'goodbye' but rarely get a response. Every sentence that comes out of their mouths begins with 'dad' so I don't feel like I can or should even bother to join in the conversation. We also have a baby together and they never mentioned thing about my pregnancy to me but as soon as baby arrived they doted on her. Now, the younger of the two will excitedly run up to baby as soon as she arrives but even when I'm holding her she won't acknowledge me or look me in the eye. It makes me feel like s**t to be honest. I've spent many sleepless nights wondering why they dislike me so much or are they just being teenagers and I'm taking it all to personally...We're also years down the line. I've had to detach now as I can't waist anymore energy worrying about it. I'm always polite and make them a meal when they visit and that's as far as our relationship goes. Btw, they also used to stay with me when their dad went to work. The eldest would hang around, usually with a friend, all day without speaking to me and then I'd only know she'd left for the bus when I'd hear the front door close. Not even a 'see ya later'. I spent me day off feeling uncomfortable and awkward in my own home. I think my husband realised that I wasn't happy with the situation started to take them home instead. I know this is only possible if she lives locally but just wanted you to know that I've been there and it sucks x

AlbertsJoy Sun 04-May-14 13:47:38

I agree it sucks CountryGal13! I suppose I'm lucky I only have one dsd to contend with. Maybe it would be better if my dsd had a sibling though, I feel it's worse that she's an only child and has been used to (and will insist on) having dp's undivided attention whenever she demands it. A few weeks ago dp was singing karaoke at his local, I looked at him and he was singing romantic words whilst looking straight into dsd's eyes. I was nearly sick!!!

On the other hand, I was a dsd from the age of 5 (brought up by my nan) and my stepmum and I are still in contact even though my dad passed away some time ago. Don't think I gave her any trouble at all though!

TheMumsRush Sat 10-May-14 09:11:30

Reading this hasn't given me much hope, my dsd is 7 is also koala like and I just put it down to age.

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