Hello everyone!
My first time on here. I joined I wondered if anyone could help - I don't know anyone else in the same situation.
I've found myself the stepmother of an occasionally delightful but mostly spoilt 12-year-old boy - naturally the usual books don't have much to say - I think my situation must be a bit extreme!
He's a bright young chap, doing very well at school, an avid reader - things I'd be really proud of if he were my own. The trouble is, his parents (who separated when he was 4) have indulged him, spoilt him, and never bothered with a routine, discipline or manners. He has no siblings or cousins, and so has had adults running around for him his entire life.
I realise that he could have turned out a lot worse, but I think someone ought to be imposing some discipline, teaching him things like housework, cooking, etc - that all seems to be down to me, and I'm struggling to convince his father that there's a need for change.
Also, I've read in several places that a young teenage boy needs an adult male mentor that's not his father. His Dad rejects this because he's tried the Scouts in the past and hated it - apparently this means he doesn't have to try anything else.
How do I persuade Indulgent Dad that his son is like other kids, and advice on raising them is relevent to his own child?
And how much is it my business when there's no chance of the biological mother following up on the changes I want to make?
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Stepmother to v spoilt 12-year-old - can I step in?
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WeeScone · 22/04/2010 16:49
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