I think I put my last thread on the wrong page as i took a bit of a bashing from the smug already married people who know nothing about finding a partner later on who hasn't got kids. My question is why do I dred the weekends when my partners kids come round, i have been with him for over a year now and the kids have been staying with us for nearly a year, but leading up to the weekend they stay I get very tense and moreoften than not a little annoyed with my partner, is this normal, will it change, what do I do?
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BabyCM · 10/02/2024 19:50
I know this thread hasn't been commented on in a while but I'm feeling exactly like this at the moment and just feel so lost and desperate for help. As this was a while ago I wondered if you had any tips that helped you over come this?
SKG231 · 16/02/2024 15:41
Try not to feel the pressure to be sooo involved. It is ok to say to your partner that you are making plans with friends etc and leaving him and his child(ren) alone.
be honest with him to an extent and let him know that it is going to make you the happiest healthiest step parent you can be if you are allowed your space. His child is there to see him, so let him do the parenting and childcare.
can you give some more info on the situation. How old is his child, do you live together, how often does the child visit, do you have any children?
BabyCM · 10/02/2024 19:50
I know this thread hasn't been commented on in a while but I'm feeling exactly like this at the moment and just feel so lost and desperate for help. As this was a while ago I wondered if you had any tips that helped you over come this?
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SKG231 · 02/03/2024 05:10
I’m not sure what terms your partner and his ex are on but he needs to have a non confrontational conversation with her about how they need to both remember that they should want what’s best for their son and they should both be encouraging him to be happy whilst with the other parent. she may think she’s just hurting your partner by acting like this but she’s really hurting her son.
but as I previously said, don’t feel this you have to be taking on the parental load of SS when he’s with you. Let your partner get on with it and give it some time. He will get older and more secure and hopefully this rough patch with be a thing of the past. But don’t feel like you have to spend every second together when he’s visiting. It’s ok for you to say you’re going out alone or with the baby etc.
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