DSD dabbling in drugs now, argh!!!

[scruffymomma]

suppose I'm just after a rant really.

My DSD (18) has got a v.bad attendance record at school, mostly due to the fact that she canes it so hard at weekends she gets ill (I should add though that she's very bright and with min effort can pull through)

This is a big year for her education wise and her mum and my DH have spent a LOT of effort and money getting expensive computers / extra tuition etc to make sure she gets into uni.

She spends less time with us these days as my DH gives her much less freedom than her mum re: all nighters, smoking in the house etc. We also have a DS who adores his big sis (she is great with him) but he does soak up most of the attention.

Anyway, DH has found out after months of promises, angst and general drama relating to a so called commitment to getting into Uni that she's missing more school cause she's too wasted from doing lines of speed!!

She hangs around with an older and quite druggy / drop out group of friends and is very willing to follow the crowd. There are constant arguments about her unwillingness to stick to any deal that she makes with either of her parents regarding social life / wild behaviour / just generally riegning (sp?) things in

Obviously I'm worried about her, her mum has gone nuts (understandably) so she's hiding out at a friends for now - prob sensible in the short term. However, I'm also just really pissed off that it's her parents who are making ALL the effort and she thinks she's untouchable. Short of her mum actually going to Uni on her behalf, I don't know how much more they can do for her / give her.

When did teenagers start getting their hand held so much?

If this was my display of commitment to my passion (as she claims) no way would my parents be spending nearly £3000 on equipment for me!

right, vent over!

[Ronaldinhio]

sounds pretty par for the course at some point between 15-24

not great for you guys but lets hope that like most people it's just a shortish phase

[scruffymomma]

this has been going on since 14, really hope adulthood arrives soon!

[scruffymomma]

meant to add - any advice on how to tackle the drug thing would be great, don't want to go overboard and be hypocritical but feel like something has to be said / done.

the standard response will be "I'm 18 now"