My DP and I recently got together after knowing each other for a long time. He has been seperated for a year and has two children.
He is very much still controlled by his wife and is waiting for her to start divorce proceeding as he hasnt got the money.
She has the final say in everything and is constantly changing when he can have the children to suit her. The latest thing to kick off is the dreaded Christmas arrangements. So far she isnt budging on any access over christmas day and boxing day.
I am sick to the back teeth of her controlling him and ultimely my life and that of my DS. We can not plan anything to do together until we literally have his children as she scuppers any plans. BTW I dont see them loads as we are still working on what is a relatively new relationship for all of us.
My DP is taking a far to passive stance towards this and little has changes since they split up. He winges and sulks about what happens and put me in a black mood yet does nothing about it. I hate this "bury my head in the sand" mentality he has.
I have tonight told him that until he has consulted a solictor to find out exactly what his rights are and how he can sort out access then our relationship can have no future. I am not prepared to be in the same situation amongst the rows in another years time. I did not have a amiciable breakup (at great personal cost) with my DS father to go through this when he will do nothing to sort it.
Any advice or words of wisdom?
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argghh sorry need to vent!
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onadietcokebreak · 11/10/2009 22:25
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