My Hub has 2 girls from ex. We have a ds 4 yrs old. Recently eldest (14) is always texting and sending msn messages asking for money.
"Dad can you drop me some money off tom" or "When can I have some money". It really annoys me as there is never a please or thank you at all. The last few years he has never even had a birthday or FD card and not last year but year before they "forgot" to buy him a christmas present.
Money is tight with us as I only work 2 days plus redundancy is looming at my DH's work. Plus my DH is terrible with money.
Yesterday another text on DH mob came whilst I was upstairs - mob was upstairs aswel - "Can you drop me some money off tom" - I was so annoyed I text on his phone - "No and dont ask again". (We dont have a problem with checking each others mob by the way etc)
When he found out he was furious at me saying the kids will think it was him texting and they will hate him. He doesnt want them to hate him, so I said so you will carry on being taken advantage of just so that you dont upset your kids. We had a huge row and I told him I just wasnt having them taking advantage anymore.
The argument got very nasty and we both said things that Im sure we didnt mena. We havent spoken since. He sulks for days and makes me feel like crap. In hindsight I should not have sent the text but I was so angry - he is so soft with them and is so frightened of upsetting them.
He pays maintenance and always has but recently behind my back has started to give the girls pocket money - but only when he has some spare. Ive seen many of my friends push the kids to bed for money from their exs (Im not saying that his ex is behind this Im sure she isnt) but where will it stop?
We are suppose to be going away this weekend on our own and its looking like it will be cancelled.
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Ilovecurry · 11/01/2009 21:56
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