It is very early days in a new relationship, I have 2 children (12 & 8) DP has 1 (6). DP and I have been spending time together on alternate weekends, when the children are not around, but are now ready to start including them in our get togethers. DP has begun having meals with me and mine, about once a week, which was a bit fraught to start but it is all settling down now.
This weekend DP and his son are invited for Sunday lunch & dvd's, nothing fancy, but last night he said he (the 6 yr old) didn't want to come. So DP said he's not sure they're coming now.
I don't want to force this but...it doesn't feel very good. MY DC's were annoyed, mildly, when DP started coming round, but I made it clear that he was an important friend and I am allowed to have friends, just like they are. It calmed down quickly. I think they were just trying it on.
I understand it might be difficult for DP's son, but how much leeway do you allow a child in this sort of situation? If DP allows son to dictate now, does that bode badly for the future, or is it ok and should I relax?
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DP's DS doesn't want to spend time with me and my DC
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LJWinN10 · 21/11/2008 09:54
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