I'm really beginning to worry about dsd, 11 and am just wondering if anyone has ever had a similar thing and what they did.
Her mother and DP and I really have very different views on how it is best to bring up children and what is safe for them. I suppose it's now beginning to have an effect on her.
On 2 occasions recently, when DSD was supposed to be coming home from school to our house she has been missing for several hours. We have no idea where she was and neither has her mother, who doesn't seem to think it is a problem. When she arrived back DP obviously questioned her and still didn't get to the bottom of it.
The first thing she then does is ring her mother, who sais that DP was wrong to have said anything to her and is being a 'control freak'.
She also wears the most provocative clothing and full make up most of the time which Dp has tried in various ways to encourage her not to do but the same thing happens.
There are also various other things that happen here that don't at the DSC's mothers. Like eating propor meals at a table with a knife and fork, not allowing kids to watch adult programmes, having bed times, all helping tidy the house. Simple things, but now they have all started saying that DP only makes them do these things because he is a control freak.
She was supposed to be staying with us this half term but on Tuesday she was on the phone to her mother complaining that DP had told her to pick up a piece of paper from the floor that wasn't hers. The next thing we know she's decided to get on a bus to her mothers house where she ended up staying.
Just not sure what to do now. If DP talks to her about it then he's being a 'control freak' (which he really isn't, just trying to be a responsible parent) and if he gives in and just lets her do whatever she wants the consequences could be terrible.
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mummynumber2 · 20/02/2008 20:52
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